@eireyes It's crazy! I have felt him since 15 weeks and I can see it from the outside for the last two weeks as well. The cervix thing is not cool. It feels so friggin weird.
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
@hannaht8516 I've never heard that one before but it was true with DD. She was SO ACTIVE on the inside it was almost constant toward the end. She ended up being a great sleeper. She started sleeping through the night at 5 or 6 months and now at 17 months has maybe woken up in the middle of the night 3 or 4 times total since then? I'm really hoping this girl will be the same way but I'm not holding my breath.
@bundleofjoy3iluvu I didn’t have RLS, but it came up recently with friends and one of the older ladies swears by eating mustard. I have no idea why, but she said it helps a ton.
Re working from home - our company didn’t have a policy either. I got back to the office after one of my appointments where I talked to my dr about it (she offered to write me out right then, but also said if I wanted to she would be ok with me doing part time at home and part time in the office) and told my boss the situation. They generally didn’t allow working from home, but also didn’t want to lose me immediately, so they agreed to 3 days at home and 2 in the office. I only managed that for maybe 3-4 weeks before we realized I was contracting on the way home and an hour at home only on days I was at work. Dr pulled me out right then. I had a feeling it was coming and told my boss what was going on so they were prepared.
Sometimes when their only other option is that you’ll be pulled from work early, the company suddenly allows you to work from home. Of course, you have to be willing to have them say no and you start your leave early, which usually requires a dr note, so it may not apply, but maybe it can help some of you with no work-from-home policies.
Ughhh, guys I am so sad. I think my H might be one of those men not attracted to pregnant women. My H sex drive has tanked and he says its just weird now that I have a belly and the baby moves and all that. I get it- I can;t change what he is attracted to, and I know its fairly common, but dammit, I am one of those lucky horny AF pregnant women! This sucks.
@SawyerRichardson I hope it ends up being true! How this kid turns out is pretty much a crap shoot. I was VERY easy going, but a picky eater and terrible sleeper, but also never got in trouble. My husband was more whiny, eats everything, falls asleep in 20 seconds, but was a troublemaker. Just praying she gets the best qualities of both!
Oh kiwi! I'm sorry, what about positions where your belly isn't in the way? From behind on your side, doggystyle, multiple other positions I'm drawing a blank on. Hope you have a good vibrator for the time being at least
@kiwi2628 That is SO unfortunate! My heart aches for you.
I don't know if my husband finds me sexier when I'm pregnant versus when I'm not pregnant, he's just a DTF horny guy 100% of the time. It's nice to be on his level for a change!
@kiwi2628 Do you think he's not attracted to pregnant women or is it possible he's scared to hurt the baby. Some men can't get over that no matter how much you tell them sex is safe. My H was terrified in the beginning of my pregnancy with Z. This time he was fine until a week or so ago. Now he's afraid to break my water.
@mamabearcj we have tried most positions and yea...nope. Its so sad. Normally his sex drive is super high but now hes so loving and doting but he is not interested in the sex. And @krzyriver I dont think thats the problem. He knows it wont hurt the baby and he had a pretty high sex drive until I really started showing 3 weeks ago and since then its down dramatically.
He says he is gonna keep trying, but I also dont want to make him have sex when he isn't into it- it feels like coercion at a point and I dont want to do that do him
My chief engineer is a super nice older dude. His wife knits blankets for all the people in the company that he works with when they have kids. I'm actually super excited about it for some reason and one of the very minor reasons I wanted to hurry up and have a kid before he retires. I don't know why I want one of her blankets so bad. Lol but today he told me I'm on the list and now I just can't wait!
@hannaht8516 I hope that’s true! FTM here and I have been shocked at how active this kid is. Some of his kicks hurt already and I’m only 24 wks tomorrow! As much as I love feeling him move, I honestly don’t know how I’ll survive the next 16 or so weeks.
Why wouldn't you look?! That's literally the very first thing I would do. And then I'd do it again. And again until something else is purchased. @mamabearcj
I couldn’t help but look at what was purchased off my registry. Amazon emailed me and then when I went on the app realized it also shows me who purchased it. I feel a little guilty knowing.
@mamabearcj Go look! Lol. BRU used to email you exactly what was purchased. Everyone got mad at me as the shower when I was like "I wondered who bought this/that." "You looked?!" No guys, the dumb store told on you. Not my fault! Lol
I love stalking my registry, though not much is gone. I think my friends are all going to get stuff from work, which is cute and all, but it's not what I need!
People out here shop wayyyyy last minute. We're going to a wedding on July 15th, and almost the entire registry is still available.
Everything you just said makes me cringe. That is literally the exact opposite of my methodology in life. My mom started buying Christmas presents 3 weeks ago. Do you think I come by it honestly? @chopchop25
I know I know it's fun to know what your getting but it's fun being surprised too!! I'm trying to have some will power lol BUUTTT you convinced me and it was the backpack style diaper bag I wanted I'm not looking anymore!!!!
@hannaht8516 Don’t count on it! My 2 were super active and not great sleepers. They finally slept through the night at 18 months old. MH said we paid the price early because once they started sleeping through the night, they were great. So many people that had babies that slept started complaining about their toddlers/preschoolers being up at night.
@kiwi2628 I'm in the same boat. I went through it when I was pregnant with DS but it didn't bother me as much because we had other issues going on at the time. This time around want it all the time and SO is just not into it. Its frustrating for sure!
@kiwi2628 - I apologize if this is too weird- and don’t feel like any reply is necessary, but have you guys talked about physical intimacy that doesn’t include penetrative sex? You guys could use this opportunity to explore each other’s bodies outside of just getting down to business. (I kind of think of this as active cuddling.)
I know that the idea sounds like it might be awkward or more frustrating than worth it, but I know people who have gotten off on nothing more than having their nipples played with, their back scratched in just the right ways, particular growls in their ears, etc. While both partners need to be willing to participate, it doesn’t mean either partner necessarily has to be sexually aroused or satisfied by the activity.
@purplegoldfish2 I have no idea what to expect. But I don't know that I consider myself lucky, so not holding my breath.
My first shower is in 2.5 weeks and my friend still hasn't sent out the invitations. I'm sure it's fine, but stressing me out!
I also obsessively check the registry. But I also doubled up stuff on both registries to give people buying options (old people don't always like amazon, and young people usually online shop, in my experience), so I'm going to try to stay on top of it and just take stuff off as it gets bought. Can always return!
I just went to a shower where she barely had anything on her registry, and she had like a million people at her shower. So I thought it was strange. I like to give people lots of options in lots of price ranges.
I've checked the registry.... because my mom was going to buy me a carseat and went rogue and didn't buy off the registry. So someone else did, right before my mom. So now i have 2, and need to return one, whenever I actually get them. Presumably it was my MIL since DH had just told her about the registry, and I don't know many people who are gonna shell out the $$$ for the uppababy carseat.
Eta: I'm very fortunate I have some loving family members willing to spend money on me, but dang it, this is why I needed to keep the registry private before it was complete!
@hannaht8516 that would totally stress me out that no invited were sent! But my mom sent out invites over a month ago and my shower is the end of August..
@kiwi2628 I had the same problem last time. DH actually is one of those guys that is *thrilled* when I look cutely pregnant, but physically feeling baby move while we are being intimate can get the better of him. It took me awhile to get him to admit it. Unfortunately I have little advice other than use all the affection and attention he gives to your advantage, and sometimes it helps lead into sex. I also agree with positions where he won't be able to feel baby move against him as easily.
+1 to a crazy active baby equalling a crazy active toddler. He moved non stop in utero, and he was so big, my stomach often resembled an alien movie. He was an amazingly calm, lovey baby that cried very little (but still woke to eat every 2-4 hours forever lol) but when he slept, he slept well. Once he could crawl/walk/run/climb things, he just literally never stops moving. He is an insanely high energy kid, and even though he sleeps decent, he even moves a ton in his sleep.
@mytrueloves I think it was you that said you pissed your pants a few pages back. Baby kick your bladder? That has happened to me out of the blue because baby kicking my bladder. Thankfully it wasn't usually my whole bladder so panty liners were my savior for awhile!
@mamabearcj I know! Luckily, this one is really just family and family friends, so I'm sure it's fine. But dang, it's cutting it close. I think she cut it close for my wedding shower too.... She said she can finish them tonight and get them out tomorrow. I hope!
With DD now 4, she was crazy active in utero! I said many times that I felt kicked black and blue inside and my anatomy scan took forever cuz the tech had to chase her all over the place. But, unfortunately, she was a terrible sleeper! Even as a tiny baby she wouldn't go to sleep till 11-12 at night, and by the time the other two were up in the morning, she'd have woken up 4-5 times. She took great naps at least, otherwise I'd have gone crazy! She did finally start to sleep better, after a year I think, but she's still a night-owl! DH says that's my fault because I'm very much a night-owl. It definitely shows with her personality tho. It is amazing how many comments I'll get about her from random strangers up town, in the store, etc. She has very curly hair, (like ringlets) and is a hilarious lil giggle box!
Re @bundleofjoy3iluvu and others with restless legs: Iron is one common cause. Pre-pregnancy iron was always my issues. Frosted mini wheats have a ton of iron. Eating a ton of those everyday kept RLS away. But pregnant with DS, my iron was fine and my mini wheats weren’t cutting it. I asked my doc and she said magnesium. That did the trick.
Wow everyone here is seriously chatty today! 51 new posts since like 10am (pacific time)!
@kiwi2628 ugh sorry about your DH! That sucks big time. I have the opposite problem sometimes, DH gets super turned on by me being pregnant, and sometimes he wants it when I’m just tired! Luckily my drive has been pretty constant so far, but I still get tired a lot!
Had my next regular appt today and they gave me the info about my glucose test. So not excited for that because I hate fasting! I’m one of those people who needs breakfast to function, so I don’t know how I’m going to manage fasting, then drinking the drink and still not eating for another two hours! Also my OB apparently does a 2 hour version for everyone right off the bat, which is not cool. I just had to do the 1 hour version when I was pregnant with DS, so I was expecting that again, but now I have to do a 2 hour version with three blood draws! Ugh!
Per registries: Of course everyone should look! Not only does it give you a sense of what people are buying (and thus, what you may need to buy), but you can write your thank you notes ahead of time so you have less stress/less hand cramping then if you do it all at once. You dont send them till after the shower (and also confirm thats what they got you) but...yea. Ive already written 6 thank you's for my shower in late August. My hand thanks me
@knottieamusements yea, we have been together for 14 years, many of those being our teenage years, so we have/still do experiment and play with everything. But right now...I just wanna get fucked. Like, hard, lol. Like, I dont even need the O as much as getting fucked. Is that weird? Whatever, its what I need, lol. So we are/can do other stuff, its just not as much of what I want
@kiwi2628 - that makes perfect sense. I hope you (and everyone else) are able to get things sorted out with your partners. Because, yeah, not getting some when there is a libido mismatch sucks.
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Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
I'm really hoping this girl will be the same way but I'm not holding my breath.
Re working from home - our company didn’t have a policy either. I got back to the office after one of my appointments where I talked to my dr about it (she offered to write me out right then, but also said if I wanted to she would be ok with me doing part time at home and part time in the office) and told my boss the situation. They generally didn’t allow working from home, but also didn’t want to lose me immediately, so they agreed to 3 days at home and 2 in the office. I only managed that for maybe 3-4 weeks before we realized I was contracting on the way home and an hour at home only on days I was at work. Dr pulled me out right then. I had a feeling it was coming and told my boss what was going on so they were prepared.
Sometimes when their only other option is that you’ll be pulled from work early, the company suddenly allows you to work from home. Of course, you have to be willing to have them say no and you start your leave early, which usually requires a dr note, so it may not apply, but maybe it can help some of you with no work-from-home policies.
I don't know if my husband finds me sexier when I'm pregnant versus when I'm not pregnant, he's just a DTF horny guy 100% of the time. It's nice to be on his level for a change!
He says he is gonna keep trying, but I also dont want to make him have sex when he isn't into it- it feels like coercion at a point and I dont want to do that do him
Trying to look on the bright side, @kiwi2628
People out here shop wayyyyy last minute. We're going to a wedding on July 15th, and almost the entire registry is still available.
I'm not looking anymore!!!!
I know that the idea sounds like it might be awkward or more frustrating than worth it, but I know people who have gotten off on nothing more than having their nipples played with, their back scratched in just the right ways, particular growls in their ears, etc. While both partners need to be willing to participate, it doesn’t mean either partner necessarily has to be sexually aroused or satisfied by the activity.
My first shower is in 2.5 weeks and my friend still hasn't sent out the invitations. I'm sure it's fine, but stressing me out!
I also obsessively check the registry. But I also doubled up stuff on both registries to give people buying options (old people don't always like amazon, and young people usually online shop, in my experience), so I'm going to try to stay on top of it and just take stuff off as it gets bought. Can always return!
I just went to a shower where she barely had anything on her registry, and she had like a million people at her shower. So I thought it was strange. I like to give people lots of options in lots of price ranges.
(I had coffee today, so extra chatty and random)
Eta: I'm very fortunate I have some loving family members willing to spend money on me, but dang it, this is why I needed to keep the registry private before it was complete!
+1 to a crazy active baby equalling a crazy active toddler. He moved non stop in utero, and he was so big, my stomach often resembled an alien movie. He was an amazingly calm, lovey baby that cried very little (but still woke to eat every 2-4 hours forever lol) but when he slept, he slept well. Once he could crawl/walk/run/climb things, he just literally never stops moving. He is an insanely high energy kid, and even though he sleeps decent, he even moves a ton in his sleep.
@mytrueloves I think it was you that said you pissed your pants a few pages back. Baby kick your bladder? That has happened to me out of the blue because baby kicking my bladder. Thankfully it wasn't usually my whole bladder so panty liners were my savior for awhile!
It definitely shows with her personality tho. It is amazing how many comments I'll get about her from random strangers up town, in the store, etc. She has very curly hair, (like ringlets) and is a hilarious lil giggle box!
DD 3/15/12
DD 6/3/14
#4 Due 10/26/18!
@kiwi2628 ugh sorry about your DH! That sucks big time. I have the opposite problem sometimes, DH gets super turned on by me being pregnant, and sometimes he wants it when I’m just tired! Luckily my drive has been pretty constant so far, but I still get tired a lot!
Had my next regular appt today and they gave me the info about my glucose test. So not excited for that because I hate fasting! I’m one of those people who needs breakfast to function, so I don’t know how I’m going to manage fasting, then drinking the drink and still not eating for another two hours! Also my OB apparently does a 2 hour version for everyone right off the bat, which is not cool. I just had to do the 1 hour version when I was pregnant with DS, so I was expecting that again, but now I have to do a 2 hour version with three blood draws! Ugh!
@knottieamusements yea, we have been together for 14 years, many of those being our teenage years, so we have/still do experiment and play with everything. But right now...I just wanna get fucked. Like, hard, lol. Like, I dont even need the O as much as getting fucked. Is that weird? Whatever, its what I need, lol. So we are/can do other stuff, its just not as much of what I want