My brother and MIL are dead set on giving me a sprinkle. I’m not interested and it feels tacky so I finally agreed to call it a pre-baby brunch. And only family and close friends who live near said family (in ct). I am not asking my local (MA) friends to drive 5 hours in one day to celebrate a second kid. Am I a grump or what?
@HoosOnFirst you’re not a grump! You’re still letting them celebrate! I flatly told my mother, MIL, and all three friends who have asked “no, I do not want that.”
”*crest fallen* ...ok but what about...”
”No. We have everything we need and I don’t want a party.”
*sad eyes*
Also, FFMC, my main objection is I’m too fucking lazy to write a slew of thank you notes.
Okay I don't know where to post this but anyways. If you ladies remember I vented about DH a little while ago about talking to another woman. A coworker. Who just so happened to get fired today!! And honestly, I'm really happy about it because that means there is absolutely no reason for him to have to talk to her again, what so ever, at all! I thought maybe I was being childish about it but I don't care if it is or not.
@mamabearcj It’s not childish! You guys have a lot going on, it’s ok to be happy that a stresser has been removed. I’m so happy for you! How have things been between the two of you?
I appreciate you all so much!!! It feels like a weight has been lifted. @krzyriver we've been really good actually. Much more open with each other and able to talk about what's bothering us or how were feeling. I think house sitting has been helpful to get alone time as well which is always nice for sexy time!!
I guess I’ll be the one to say it and maybe it’s a UO, but don’t think it’s fair to blame the woman on this. I know she’s a cause of stress and I’m glad for you she won't be around anymore, but ultimately she is not a threat unless you partner chooses that she is. While it was awful of her to engage with your partner’s actions, both of them were involved equally and her leaving won’t magically fix your issues with your partner. That being said, it sounds like the two of you are on a good path and I super hopeful it continues, because you deserve it!
I am excited!! DH and I have a true date planned! We do date night's at home and people leave us alone but we are actually getting out and doing dinner and a movie Friday or Saturday!! Now to pick a day and a movie!
Restless Legs syndrome (RLS) anyone else? Any remedies? I normally go to bed around 9 or 10 but I felt wide awake and my joints felt like they were ticklish (not in a good way). I ate a banana, 1 TBS peanut butter and around 2:30 AM finally fell asleep. Please help! I Googled it is an Iron deficiency .
@HoosOnFirst I don’t think any of us blamed the woman. She did something wrong and I do honestly believe in karma, but none of us said it was all her fault and she deserved to get fired. We’re just happy for mamabearcj is all.
@bundleofjoy3iluvu I take a magnesium supplement that helps with anxiety and restless leg. I don’t take it all the time tho because I poop like crazy. I’d call your doctor and ask if a supplement might benefit you or if she suggests something else.
@bundleofjoy3iluvu I have asked my OB and my chiro, both have told me there are no options. Which sucks. I believe there are some recommendations of things like walking and trying to relax before bed (like a bath).
@mamabearcj I'm so happy to hear that you guys are doing better. I agree with @HoosOnFirst though. You guys need to make sure you keep working at the root of the issue, just because this lady is gone doesn't mean the issue is solved.
Has anyone heard from PrincessandtheGator lately? It's been almost a month since she last updated from what I've seen. I know she was having some concerns with baby and Ive been thinking about her...
@HoosOnFirst no you're absolutely right it wouldn't be fair, but I don't blame her fully. I know he had a decision and he made the wrong one in that time. She knew he was married, I've been to her place with him a few times, and she still pursued him as he did her so I hold them both accountable. The biggest difference is she didnt have anyone to lose in a sense and he had a lot to lose. I don't think she deserved to get fired for my sake and of course she didnt, she got fired for her production at work or something along those lines. So I'm going to be happy that she is gone and removed from their equation no matter how that happened, and I'm not going to feel bad about it.
@SweetSweetTooth I highly suggest Jurassic world if you saw the other one! (; I don't even know what else is playing right now tbh
@bundleofjoy3iluvu if you haven't I'd call the dr and hopefully they can give you direction to help.
Ugh goddamit that reminded me I need to do thank you notes from my kid’s bday party. It’s been a month.
I totally do not do thank you notes for birthday parties. Wedding stuff, baby shower and christenings, yes, but birthday parties is where I drew the line!
My boss emailed me asking me to call her. I assumed it was about our remodel and that I would need th schedule in front of me, so I dropped Z off early and started to head to the office. On my way she texted me. She just needed to tell me that someone was coming in later to look at the office to give them another quote. So now I have a ton of time to myself. I feel guilty and want Z, but I just ate lunch by myself in total silence at an Arby’s that I pulled into. I needed a minute to myself I think.
@krzyriver that is exactly why I take magnesium everyday...only thing that makes me poop! (I don't think it's possible for me to take too much, so to speak haha) Chronic constipation is a bitch and pregnancy makes it so much worse.
I just peed myself. A lot. And I was just laying on my couch not doing anything, didn't feel like I had to pee at all. Ugh luckily I'm home alone with no one to witness my shame.
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I have a meeting with my boss in an hour to discuss maternity leave and working from home options. My job is so sketchy about the work from home policy, but it would be a huge game changer for me in 3rd tri and with how much leave I can take. I'm nervous... wish me luck!
@chyvie I keep having dreams where she is kicking me super hard. I'm not convinced it's not actually happening IRL because she is a violent little thing in the evening.
britvahok Thanks! That is such a bummer. Why did they end it?
We technically don't have a policy. The only time it's been allowed is either for a medical condition (hoping a dr note will help me there for 3rd tri) or because of some shady deal that no one is supposed to know about (because then everyone would want to do it). They also let me do it during my first maternity leave, but not my second, but now they are looking at it again. It is kind of the worst.
@lest12 Good luck! My last job let me work from home full time for the two weeks leading up to my due date and it was great since I didn't have to worry about going into labor at work. My new job I think I'll be able to work from home 2 or 3 days a week a few weeks before my due date, judging by how they handled my co-worker who just had a baby.
I know it's a little early to think about it but I'm using up so much PTO with appointments, it would be so much easier if I could make up some time working from home here and there, or on days I don't feel so hot (I can do about 90% of my job from home).
@lest12 some bs about everyone being more productive if we all work in the office and have the ability to collaborate on ideas together. I work for a large international company and a lot of people were extremely pissed. The VP of my division was okay with people working from home but the CEO put the new policy in effect so the VP had no choice but to enforce it.
Same here @chyvie - I've been feeling (and seeing) the blows externally now for a couple weeks and it's freaking me out hardcore. I didn't experience external movement for a while with either kid, so the fact that this one is already visibly doing things is a little horrifying.
This one is currently using my cervix for a punching bag, and it really needs to stop.
@chyvie Same! This kid is so active and the movement is so strong already, I'm wondering how the rest of the time will be. I think it was the u/s tech that said the rumor is that the more active they are inside, the better sleepers they will be on the outside. But I'm pretty sure that's just something people say to make you feel better. Probably lies.
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”*crest fallen* ...ok but what about...”
”No. We have everything we need and I don’t want a party.”
*sad eyes*
Also, FFMC, my main objection is I’m too fucking lazy to write a slew of thank you notes.
@krzyriver we've been really good actually. Much more open with each other and able to talk about what's bothering us or how were feeling. I think house sitting has been helpful to get alone time as well which is always nice for sexy time!!
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@bundleofjoy3iluvu I take a magnesium supplement that helps with anxiety and restless leg. I don’t take it all the time tho because I poop like crazy. I’d call your doctor and ask if a supplement might benefit you or if she suggests something else.
@mamabearcj I'm so happy to hear that you guys are doing better. I agree with @HoosOnFirst though. You guys need to make sure you keep working at the root of the issue, just because this lady is gone doesn't mean the issue is solved.
Has anyone heard from PrincessandtheGator lately? It's been almost a month since she last updated from what I've seen. I know she was having some concerns with baby and Ive been thinking about her...
@SweetSweetTooth I highly suggest Jurassic world if you saw the other one! (; I don't even know what else is playing right now tbh
@bundleofjoy3iluvu if you haven't I'd call the dr and hopefully they can give you direction to help.
Dandelion - October 2018
Angel "Aurora" - July 2020
Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021
Angel "Maxine" - January 2022
Angel "Violet" - March 2022
Baby Dove due March 2023
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
britvahok Thanks! That is such a bummer. Why did they end it?
We technically don't have a policy. The only time it's been allowed is either for a medical condition (hoping a dr note will help me there for 3rd tri) or because of some shady deal that no one is supposed to know about (because then everyone would want to do it). They also let me do it during my first maternity leave, but not my second, but now they are looking at it again. It is kind of the worst.
@kfrob that's awesome!
I know it's a little early to think about it but I'm using up so much PTO with appointments, it would be so much easier if I could make up some time working from home here and there, or on days I don't feel so hot (I can do about 90% of my job from home).
This one is currently using my cervix for a punching bag, and it really needs to stop.