@julybabybear sorry to hear! Personally, if my LO ends up turning breech even though he is head down now, I will not try the version. It's painful, and if the baby is distressed they send you to the OR right then and there. But there's definitely still time and things to try to stay positive! Get into those low squats, hip happening, pelvis rocks, and inversions!
Ugh @zombiehoohaa that's a tough one but if it was me I would not move. It's not your problem that bil has nowhere to go. I get that sil is concerned but this guy keeps being a burden for everyone for different reasons. It seems that the safety of the baby and your dog may be at risk in this situation. What does your DH think?
@wildtot yes! totally counts, at least in my book!
@kissableviv DH is in the same boat as me. We both see moving to this house as beneficial with the MAJOR but being his brother. We have scheduled our move out for storage, having couches shipped there, movers scheduled, paid for new locks, internet, etc. We feel like we have already invested in this house, along with my sil. Its just the brother...
@SmashJam & @julybabybear I bought these cool speakers that go on the belly to play music to lo. They are pretty damn cool and stick to the belly. Baby girl moves a bunch when I use these compared to just a regular speaker or headphones.
@zombiehoohaa ugh how awful! Glad you are okay though. Honestly I have no idea what you should do but i would be nervous to have a baby around flew infested animals that attack unprovoked
@zombiehoohaa I’m sorry you have to deal with all that crap. I would struggle to move into that situation honestly. Also, I think I would take the puppy to the vet and relinquish it if you aren’t in a position to keep it. It’s too late for the boxer but the puppy can be saved from a life of neglect and abuse. It sounds like the SIL is going to have to kick BIL out at some point to get him to clean up his act. Tough love may be the best thing for him.
@zande2016 I'm definitely struggling...we are in a position to take the puppy, however we don't want to. We want to be able to move in with the intent of having our dog (my fur baby) co-exist with another dog. Our dog is soooo good with other dogs and she is incredibly good with kids/babies. Plus we are having a baby. We do not want the responsibility of another dog, truly. It's breaking my heart and causing internal turmoil for me because I cannot see an innocent animal be treated like this. I'm struggling on all aspects at the moment.
Do we wash our hands of the money we've invested and back out 1.5 weeks before moving?
Do I tell bil that I'm relinquishing the puppy to the vet because he cannot properly care for it and ultimately cause a major family break up?
Do I give the puppy back knowing bil will not take care of it?
DH is really struggling with all of this, too. It's such a crappy situation and we are feeling stuck either way. My mom did make a valid point, "how much is it going to cost to keep myself, newborn, and dog safe?". There's no price tag for that. Why does being responsible have to be so damn frustrating at times?
ETA:
@lindsayleigh1989 DH sprayed for fleas, ticks, mosquitos, flea eggs, and spiders this weekend before we left the house. There was new flooring put in the house as well on Tuesday, so this will help inside. However, if bil allows the boxer inside at all since the new floors have been put in, total waste. It's hard because we are not there yet to see what he is doing. I think that is part of my problem. I don't trust bil.
DH is spraying again this weekend when we go over there.
I forgot to tell y'all - I mentioned to my doc yesterday that I had been having some contractions and some cervical pressure. Although I was only 34 weeks, she went ahead and checked and said it's not dilated at all but is already thinning. She said she's been expecting me to go full term but that surprised her, so maybe not. I tell you what - it definitely gave me contractions last night though.
@MichelleAG05 i won’t until 36/37 week. With DS i got them early on and they did cause more of my plug to come out and some contractions. I still made it to 39 weeks.
eta, It’s almost 9pm and DS is still awake but in his bed. For some reason the sitter says he takes long naps and today he took 2 naps of 2-3 hrs each. That is way too long and more than usual. It really makes me wonder what she’s doing sometimes. The longest DS will do at home is 2 hrs if we get lucky. So now i need to tell her to limit to 2 hrs so it doesn’t screw up his bedtime (usually 7/730). Dr also prescribed Zyrtec so hopefully no coughing tonight.
@wildtot hoping you got some sleep and there was no coughing!
I'm feeling way less like a sad sack today! It's nice to be out of that headspace, but weird to me the difference sleeping it off can make. I'm glad I was able to recognize it was anxiety giving me the crazy thoughts and went to spend some time alone before bed so I wasn't spewing my thoughts that weren't based in reality all night.
@SmashJam well he did cough still but it sounded a bit different and they weren’t like full on cough attacks. Hopefully it gets better as the med stays in his system. If it continues we’ll have to take him back in two weeks to the pedi.
I woke up feeling like a bus hit me and i had trouble sleeping on my right side. If i did I’d feel a lot of cramping pressure. Can’t tell if it was baby or just a stomachache and the soon need to poo. Keep reminding myself just 4 more weeks of work.
@crabcake18 I just read your birth story with the boys!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!! I'm glad it went quickly AND the way you wanted (if only a bit early) and they are healthy and thriving. This is so great. Enjoy and be sure to get some rest, sweetie!!!!!
@crabcake18 a HUGE congratulations on your twins! One of my coworkers had twins born then and now they are healthy 8-year-olds!
@carsonraynee good luck and good vibes being sent your way! Can’t wait to hear your story when you’re ready.
@MichelleAG05 I had a cervix check yesterday due to a little bleeding. My cervix is still closed and there was no blood there, which was good news. TMI alert: blood was likely from straining due to a BM. I thought that meant I have hemerroids, but I don’t. I guess it’s more Colace for me!
@wildtot +1 to the watermelon. I've eaten an entire watermelon this week by myself and it was fabulous. According to the scale, I've also gained 2lbs this week so maybe it's all of the "water" I've consumed? Lol! Also, I've been cramping and feeling the need to "poo" off and on. That is how I started labor with DS....however, I don't feel like DD is low enough yet for that. I'll be 36 weeks on Sunday.
@zombiehoohaa I am a huge animal lover myself. I have no advice for you because you have to do what feels best. However, I am a true believer of speaking up for those that cannot speak for themselves. If I were you, I would take BOTH dogs to the first rescue I could find. I know the Boxer is older but it's never too late to find him a home (or foster home) in which he would receive the medical care and love he deserves. If you are fearful to do it yourself, you could always bring the puppy back home and immediately call animal control anonymously for a "home check". This might help the situation because your BIL will assume (or you can infer) that the vet called it in after the puppy left. If animal control is doing their job correctly, they will take the animals from your brother....hopefully to a "no kill" shelter in your area. You are in such a tough spot, I hope you figure something out soon. Please keep us posted.
@foxbaby2016 oh don’t tell me that lol baby has been super low these days with lots of pressure. TMI I think I’m seeing more of a plug like discharge too. I’m 34 wks today and this guy needs to stay put for 5 more!
Thanks for all the good luck wishes! Nothing to report, day 3 of trying to induce. They're going to try a balloon in about an hour. We were not prepared at all, I got sent to L&D from a regular appointment, luckily my mom has brought me everything I need for me and LO and set up the bassinet for us last night so we'll be ready to take him home. Pack those hospital bags ladies! I'll check in again at some point, it's hard to type because the magnesium makes me shaky and weak. Keep those babies cooking!
@MichelleAG05 I've already had a few cervical checks already this pregnancy due to PROM and spotting concerns, and I remember from DD cervical checks always cause extra cramping/contractions/discomfort. I guess they're becoming somewhat controversial because of it and I've read of a lot of women are declining them because it can stir things up. I'm in the "i'd rather know what's going on" camp myself.
@gingerbride26 - I'm torn on it, really! My birth class told us to put no stock whatever into cervix checks because you could just as easily walk around for 3 weeks at a 4 (which my husband's coworker did recently) or you could be at a 1 and go into labor the next day. Last pregnancy I don't even think I asked what I was at until my last cervix check at 40 weeks. I just felt so much pressure down there this time that something felt off! Plus, DH mentioned he may need to travel for work in a couple weeks, so I had that in the back of my mind....
HAPPY NATIONAL DONUT DAY EVERYONE! I got a stern talking to by my Doctor over weight gain this morning telling me to try and stay where I am going forward. Then of course I get to work and my company has already provided Cronuts as part of bagel friday and they have another specialty donut shop coming from 2-5 today. Just what the doctor ordered, lol.
@carsonraynee hang in there! Rest as much as you can!
So my NST appt this morning didnt go so wonderfully. The actual test was fine, but my stress with work and everything is absolutely through the roof and it’s showing in my BP readings. Also having a lot of contractions, which feel like BH but the monitor is picking them up and I honestly feel like all the stress and anxiety I’m feeling is what’s causing it. So they’re keeping an eye on things for a while and meanwhile things are blowing up with work and I honestly feel like I’m on the verge of a full blown panic/anxiety attack over all of it. Being out of commission today means 1) another sick day, so one less day of pay during leave, which we already can’t afford and 2) probably working all weekend to get ready for the hearing on Monday when my H is already working this weekend and nothing is done/ready for the baby and we are running out of time. So much anxiety right now.
@zande2016 I'm so sorry about the stress. Is there anyway you can go out early on disability for the high BP? I know it's not ideal but your health and sanity are worth it.
We don't have much done for the baby either. The room that will be hers is mostly an assortment of amazon boxes.
@zande2016 I know it's so hard to do at this stage but remember that baby comes first. Work will survive if you take time away but no one else can provide what you are for your baby right now. When I was working while pregnant with DD, work made me feel so guilty, like I was abandoning them on purpose and it would ruin them. In reality, they were fine but my health and LOs health were suffering. I went on bed rest at 35.5 weeks (it lasted 2 weeks) and we were both so much better for it. I guess all I'm saying is listen to your body and let work figure itself out. I'm certain they can survive some time without you.
@MichelleAG05 Yea i walked around at 2cm for a month with DD and told "could be any time" at every check, so completely agree they can be more stressful/frustrating than helpful. If i wasn't at risk for PROM/pre-term I don't think I'd want a check, but I'd rather know i was effacing/thinning/dilating so i could curtail activity. I'm super type-a if you can't tell ;-) @nimmle I'm totally stopping for a frozen lemonade and glazed donut on my way to my OB appointment this afternoon. National donut day donuts don't count I have to brag/dish about DH for a sec - last night as I'm waddling to bed from my 5th pee run he looks at me and says "you look really skinny" and it was a believable compliment. The bump is huge - like bigger than DD at 41 weeks at only 31 weeks. This pregnancy I'm all bump and boobs, I told him this means DS is a ginger too and is eating my soul :-P
Currently being induced for severe preeclampsia, just had the cervidil removed 2 hours ago and the next suppository is in now, not quite at 1 cm but came in at 0 so things are getting started (very slowly that is) the doctor thinks that LO won't need any NICU time other than maybe monitoring for an hour I'm 35 + 3 today. I'll update as I can!
@runsomewhere@TalesOfASocialIntrovert I know you’re both right, the stress is clearly taking a physical toll and I have to put my foot down and put the baby first. I’m not at the point of being put on bed rest or taken out of work, but I think I need to have a talk with my boss about working from home more and doing more background/writing type work and having others take over the litigation aspects. I don’t know how receptive she’ll be, but my body clearly isn’t handling all this stress well at all.
@carsonraynee sending good vibes! Hang in there! @nimmle so I'm a lazy bum and still in bed but I'm contemplating driving to get these amazing donuts at a place not too far since it's national donut day!!!
@zande2016 I'm sorry you're so stressed! I'm guessing taking leave early isn't an option because it would still be without pay? Remember - you don't plan to even go back to this job, so don't let it stress you out to the point of early delivery or other complications! Some of the same deep breathing and relaxation techniques you can use in labor may help de-stress now, maybe?
@chaser61 Ugh strep..I get a case of that almost every year it seems..the worst! couldn't imagine it while pregnant. What do you get to take for it this late in pregnancy?
mmmmmm donuts
Dropped our dog off at the vet this morning for his neuter. so nervous. One of his balls never fully descended so it's a little more complicated than your average snip. Hoping everything turns out OK!
TTC History:
Me: 36 H: 40 Married 2015. Together since 2010. TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017 BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018. TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020 Due date was Nov 2020 DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma. TTC: March 2021 IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022 IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.
@MichelleAG05 you’re right, but at the same time I do care about (some of) my clients and I don’t want to screw things up for them. @runsomewhere I can possibly get a note about not commuting anymore, I guess I’ll see how things go and if it’s necessary.
Re: Weekday Randoms 5/28
Anyone else have a cervix check?
eta, It’s almost 9pm and DS is still awake but in his bed. For some reason the sitter says he takes long naps and today he took 2 naps of 2-3 hrs each. That is way too long and more than usual. It really makes me wonder what she’s doing sometimes. The longest DS will do at home is 2 hrs if we get lucky. So now i need to tell her to limit to 2 hrs so it doesn’t screw up his bedtime (usually 7/730). Dr also prescribed Zyrtec so hopefully no coughing tonight.
I'm feeling way less like a sad sack today! It's nice to be out of that headspace, but weird to me the difference sleeping it off can make. I'm glad I was able to recognize it was anxiety giving me the crazy thoughts and went to spend some time alone before bed so I wasn't spewing my thoughts that weren't based in reality all night.
I woke up feeling like a bus hit me and i had trouble sleeping on my right side. If i did I’d feel a lot of cramping pressure. Can’t tell if it was baby or just a stomachache and the soon need to poo. Keep reminding myself just 4 more weeks of work.
Married: 6/27/2008
DS: 3/14/2010 Planned, PG first try
M/C 6/2012
DD: 4/22/2013 Planned, UnDx Infertility, PG on our own
BFP: 10/28/2016 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE!
M/C 12/12/2016
BFP: 10/27/2017 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE
EDD: 7/2/2018
@carsonraynee good luck and good vibes being sent your way! Can’t wait to hear your story when you’re ready.
@MichelleAG05 I had a cervix check yesterday due to a little bleeding. My cervix is still closed and there was no blood there, which was good news. TMI alert: blood was likely from straining due to a BM. I thought that meant I have hemerroids, but I don’t. I guess it’s more Colace for me!
ugh I have strep throat.
@zombiehoohaa I am a huge animal lover myself. I have no advice for you because you have to do what feels best. However, I am a true believer of speaking up for those that cannot speak for themselves. If I were you, I would take BOTH dogs to the first rescue I could find. I know the Boxer is older but it's never too late to find him a home (or foster home) in which he would receive the medical care and love he deserves. If you are fearful to do it yourself, you could always bring the puppy back home and immediately call animal control anonymously for a "home check". This might help the situation because your BIL will assume (or you can infer) that the vet called it in after the puppy left. If animal control is doing their job correctly, they will take the animals from your brother....hopefully to a "no kill" shelter in your area. You are in such a tough spot, I hope you figure something out soon. Please keep us posted.
So my NST appt this morning didnt go so wonderfully. The actual test was fine, but my stress with work and everything is absolutely through the roof and it’s showing in my BP readings. Also having a lot of contractions, which feel like BH but the monitor is picking
them up and I honestly feel like all the stress and anxiety I’m feeling is what’s causing it. So they’re keeping an eye on things for a while and meanwhile things are blowing up with work and I honestly feel like I’m on the verge of
a full blown panic/anxiety attack over all of it. Being out of commission today means 1) another sick day, so one less day of pay during leave, which we already can’t afford and 2) probably working all weekend to get ready for the hearing on Monday when my H is already working this weekend and nothing is done/ready for the baby and we are running out of time. So much anxiety right now.
We don't have much done for the baby either. The room that will be hers is mostly an assortment of amazon boxes.
@nimmle I'm totally stopping for a frozen lemonade and glazed donut on my way to my OB appointment this afternoon. National donut day donuts don't count
I have to brag/dish about DH for a sec - last night as I'm waddling to bed from my 5th pee run he looks at me and says "you look really skinny" and it was a believable compliment. The bump is huge - like bigger than DD at 41 weeks at only 31 weeks. This pregnancy I'm all bump and boobs, I told him this means DS is a ginger too and is eating my soul :-P
Married: 6/27/2008
DS: 3/14/2010 Planned, PG first try
M/C 6/2012
DD: 4/22/2013 Planned, UnDx Infertility, PG on our own
BFP: 10/28/2016 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE!
M/C 12/12/2016
BFP: 10/27/2017 Unplanned, HUGE SURPRISE
EDD: 7/2/2018
@nimmle so I'm a lazy bum and still in bed but I'm contemplating driving to get these amazing donuts at a place not too far since it's national donut day!!!
mmmmmm donuts
Dropped our dog off at the vet this morning for his neuter. so nervous. One of his balls never fully descended so it's a little more complicated than your average snip. Hoping everything turns out OK!
TTC: Sept 2016-Oct 2017
BFP Oct 2017. DD born July 2018.
TTC: March 2020. BFP March 2020
Due date was Nov 2020
DS born Sept 2020. DS passed away Nov 2020 due to prematurity and birth trauma.
TTC: March 2021
IUI #1 Nov 2021, BFN
IUI #2 Dec 2021 BFP. MC Jan 2022
IUI #3 Aug 2022 BFN
IUI #4 Sept 2022 BFN
AMH test came back at .081. Was going to move on to IVF with DE, but have decided not to. Will be leaving it up to the universe now.