Target has a great deal this week. Get a $20 dollar gift card if you spend $100 on diapers, wipes, formula, bottles or baby food. Also newborn clothes are 20% off as well as swimwear for kids. You can still use coupons but we use the Up&Up brand I got so many diapers and wipes woohoo! Also save even more if you have a redcard.
Ohhh I'm still unsure of which diapers I will like so I'm not stocking up yet but damn, that's a good deal! I have a box I was given at the shower, then I bought a small pack of Pampers Pure in NB size (looks like babe is going to be small, but we all know things change..) and everything else I have is samples!
So yeah, up at 630am because DH had to pee. Who's pregnant here?? At least I was asleep by 11ish last night. We got the car which is exciting but they had run the numbers wrong so paym9are slightly higher per week which at this point I can't really deal with. At least this is off the list and the car is very nice and techy.
However we wasted almost the whole day between the baby shower we went to and the dealership and then OF COURSE DH decided it was time to put up the curtains in our bedroom! So that's how the 9pm to 11pm window was spent...went to bed sloghlsl pissed off and thinking about pretending to be sick today and not go to his work BBQ he was invited to. I need some time off this long weekend!
Last shift at work tonight! I am so excited to be done, even though I only work once a week. Because it’s night shifts it ruins the whole next day too because I need to sleep. Excited to have more time to get stuff done around here!
Going to MIL today to eat grilled food and hang with fam. Should be a fun time but we'll have to leave by 1 to get there in time to grill the wings DH wants to make so we have to kind of skip DS's naptime. He's down right now but not sleeping, its just too early for him (although he was up til 9 so I mean, kid should be tired!).
I'm so frustrated with DH and his dislike of my fam. I told my fam they couldn't come visit til september because I expect I won't give birth til the first/second week of august and that's the earliest I could imagine them coming. They aren't helpful, they are like, it around and drink beer and be loud and follow you around while you do stuff to talk to you but then not really offer to help you while they talk kind of people. I agree they are gonna be a handful right after baby is born, but they aren't staying with us, so I feel like sucking it up for a day or two is fine. DH does not agree. My dad has wanted to get out here in June but isn't gonna be able to make it so he's pushing it to July. I don't think I want him here in July just in case I go into labor, he won't be helpful at all it would just be an extra person around stressing me out while my vag heals and my tits are out. I thought this was a great idea, to tell him not to come, DH didn't think it went far enough. DH basically was like, tell him not to come at all, we are broke and I don't want to spend what little money we have to do fun things with by wasting it on your family. So now its like, well maybe I should tell my dad not to come until late November when DH is out of town for a work trip, then he won't have to deal with it? Who knows.
He's just frustrated because my dad took my bro out to the bar the day he got off probation and had a drink with him, which for my bro turned into like, 9 drinks after my dad left and he went home, and he just doesn't want that up here around us, which I understand.
Sorry for the book guys! It was so much less stressful when my bro was on probation and couldn't drink at all..
Ugh that sounds like a lot to deal with @SmashJam! The last thing you need with a new baby is guests who don’t even offer to lend a hand. How would they respond to just being told what to do? Like don’t ask, just say, “I need you to put a load of laundry in/make me something to eat/ whatever, before you hold the baby.”
@SmashJam I’m sorry for the DH/family drama. Honestly do what you feel is best for you. My H has mixed feelings about my family, especially my mom. He has valid reasons but it’s still my family and to a certain extent i want them here. It’s a matter of setting boundaries with my parents and showing H that i can do that and hold them to it. I usually don’t have a problem with DHs family but i do share my feelings of what I don’t want to happen and he can decide how to voice that to them. I know your Dad’s situation is a bit tough.
Well I’ve been cleaning the kitchen for the last 3 hrs. DH decide to take a nap. So here i am in between a tone of mess and watching DS who is butt naked. After trying to get DH up for about 30 mins he gets up and decides DS needs a pull up when I saw he was so close to peeing! He little sat willingly a few times and started crossing his legs. Then once with the pull up i see his poop face and DH says to just let him poop in his pull up. Ugh i was pissed! Then DH says he needs to poop too! Yeah dude I’m saving the poop pull up for you.
I was totally like, why are we starting a weekday thread on the weekend?....Yeah, it's Monday
I had an increase in discharge today and baby is definitely lower than yesterday. Still same amount of contractions and NST at the hospital yesterday looked normal. Uncertain if the discharge is normal or possibly AF. Any insight STM+? TMI: It's milky, not sticky, but metallic smelling. Not my normal discharge. I have another NST tomorrow so as along as contractions or discharge don't increase, I'll likely just wait until tomorrow.
@TalesOfASocialIntrovert my discharge is all over the place. I’d mention it at your nst tomorrow and see if they maybe want to swab you or do a urine culture. As long as it’s not watery I wouldn’t be overly concerned I don’t think. Does your office have a number you can call to check in with the nurse?
@comealongponds There is an after hours number but it goes to a Dr, not a nurse (not that it really matters). I also have BV which was diagnosed on Thursday so it completely possible as it's clearing up, things are just changing.
@TalesOfASocialIntrovert if it’s a significant change, I’d just call and let them know. Worst case they bring you in today for a swab and check, best case they tell you to wait til tomorrow’s NST. I’m always in camp “better safe than sorry”!
@lindsayleigh1989 thanks for posting, that’s a good deal! I noticed amazon is out of newborn pampers swaddlers, and when I went to buy buy baby today they also didn’t have any. Seems strange. We also use target brand for my son but never used them when he was a newborn. I was gonna use swaddlers until he’s a few months old but maybe I should just save money and to target. It’s literally the last thing I need to get for this babe!
@SmashJam ugh I’m sorry, family drama is the worst. I would speak up and be firm about when you don’t want them visiting, but I also understand how hard it is to say no to family.
Soooo my husband lost the hardware for the baby’s crib. Such a disorganized life we live.
I love the target deal! We use target brand diapers and wipes. But, I literally just remembered that DS would get a rash in the newborn target diapers only. We did Pampers for a while and then switched back and he's fine. But I may hit up target this week anyway!
Well, he found the hardware for the crib but it was missing a bunch of stuff (got it second hand off someone on FB). I guess he decided to start building it anyway, knowing he was missing stuff, and all I could hear from downstairs was loud banging, crashing, and my husband screaming and cursing. Then he tells me he has to go to ikea for replacement stuff. The closest one is an hour away so we’ll see if that ever happens. Really stupidly thought we’d actually get the nursery done today. We have less than 6 weeks, possibly only 4 weeks, until this baby is here and I feel like no matter how hard I try to get stuff ready it’s never gonna happen. I’m also reallly fed up with my husband’s anger management issues and just really want nothing to do with him right now.
On the topic of family visiting after, I'm dreading my MIL coming after the disaster last time with DD. She's the person who comes to "visit and hold baby while they sleep" vs actually help type. She's also super opinionated and loves to email articles supporting her opinions and ask "are you sure you want ..." over and over when your opinion is different (like are you sure you want to use a paci, not use cloth diapers, not co-sleep, etc) She stressed me out so much last time my immune system tanked and my stitches got infected, so I had DH send her home early from her planned week long stay after only 4 days. Problem is she's asking when she can come after DS is born "to help". She's gotten a bit better with the batshit crazy stuff in the last 3 years, as she doesn't do the full on crazy in front of DH and FIL anymore. So for the past 3 years I've come up with excuses for when she wants to come stay and DH or FIL can't be there too (he is full time caretaker for his elderly mother with dementia, so we usually go to them). My mom will be staying 2 weeks, she's a huge help, is off for the summer as a teacher, and is great with DD. So now MIL wants to come for at least 1-2 weeks too. I had resigned myself to the fact that she's coming, but was hoping I could limit it to 4 days, and make it fall over a weekend so DH can take 2 pto days and be here the whole time. DH is afraid it will really hurt her feelings and we'll never hear the end of it if we say she can't come or even try to limit how long cause my mom is coming for 2 weeks. Sorry for the novel, but any of you ever deal with a similar situation or have advice? I have no clue how to handle this!
@rkk0002 just make your older son her responsibility, either in the house or at the park or something. Having someone to entertain the older kid(s) is always helpful.
We had my MIL, FIL, and SIL over for dinner today. We cooked pork chops. It was nice. DD loved having extra people to entertain and there was no tense conversation about anything. Sometimes a nice relaxing visit is worth a million dollars
Made some chewy banana oatmeal cookies for DS and I am trying hard not to eat them all. I was not expecting them to come out this good lol. I was just looking for a way to use the ripe bananas no one eats.
@zande2016 not having all the hardware for the crop seriously stresses me out lol. Somehow, amazingly. After 6 years and 2 kiddos and 2 moves we have all the hardware still! Hopefully your H found what he needed and he won’t be a grumpy butt all evening!
@hillbillywife this same thing happened with my son’s crib, which was also a hand me down. I guess this is what we get for not buying our kids new cribs!
@flockofmoosen3@elizabethrn87 I wish DD would play with MIL, but MIL isn't really good with toddlers and babies, like I said before, she just does things her way, and my super opinionated stubborn toddler is not having any of it. DD screams bloody murder every time we try to let MIL keep her, max we can do is 2 hours and MIL calls us to come home the 2 times we've tried to do a date night type thing. MIL is better with like 8 yrs old and up. So then I end up entertaining toddler and cooking and cleaning for everyone, plus doing whatever "projects" MIL wants to do, like baking fresh bread, making soap, working in the garden. I can handle it for about 2 or 3 days, but after that I'm exhausted. There's no way I can manage toddler, newborn, do all normal day to day needs, plus entertain MIL, all on top of being 2 weeks postpartum and dealing with the PPD/PPA I'll most likely have again.
@rkk0002, then for your sanity you're gonna need your husband to take one for the team and be straight with her about what you expect of her time at your house or she can't stay with you. Maybe suggest a hotel, even, and then she can come and go as needed. It is hard with difficult family but post partum is the best time to be selfish. It doesn't last forever. If she needs convincing have your husband list out all the reasons she isn't helpful at all. In my case, I grew up with the difficult mother so I am used to toeing the line between accepting her help when i need it and telling her to back off when I don't.
We ended up getting the crib put together tonight (well, DH did) and my brother helped moved some furniture to our basement and the changing table/dresser to the nursery yesterday. I thought I was set on how I wanted the room laid out but now that it's all in here, I'm not sure. There are basically two completely free walls - the other two have the door and closet, or windows. I went through the same thing setting up DD's nursery last year. Inevitably, I'll move a bunch of stuff around and it will probably end up in mostly the same spots. Its just bothering me right now that there's one pretty much empty wall. But it lines up with the door so anything placed on that wall visually blocks the door.
Anyway, mostly I'm just glad to have a place to change diapers!
@rkk0002 agreed with what others have said, I think it will be up to your H to "run interference" and talk straight with his mom/parents. I don't think it's worth having someone around who stresses you out during such a delicate time! @zande2016 sorry about the hardware, that sucks! @wildtot I bought a bunch of bananas so maybe I'll let a couple go ripe and make something yummy! @TalesOfASocialIntrovert I keep changing my mind about the setup too but I have a small/weirdly layed out room so my options are limited.
Well we did a bunch of things this am but the BBQ was fun and we got to eat a bunch of yummy food without hosting lol. Then we saw Deadpool 2 with my girlfriend. All in all a good day! Now for some r&r because I am pooped!
Also baby hiccups crack me up. Babe had them early this am, then again this evening. Poor baby is like me if I get them in the morning they last on and off all day!
Awake again before 3am because DS is coughing and currently consulting Dr Goggle. It’s telling me potential asthma. Ugh i hope not but keep reading so many stories of nighttime coughing attacks being a symptom. This paranoid mama will be calling the pedi soon. It’s been going on for about a month now, only during the night and has no other symptoms
@wildtot solidarity with the up before 3 am thing. I was up off and on from 12am on with a broken bit of sleep to talk to SIL around 1:30am and then had to come out to the couch because of DH's snoring. I know he's going to apologize for the snoring BUT he knows my chief complaint about him over indulging in beer (besides be drunk) is his sleeping-he snores when he's on his back, and sober I can get him to turn over. When he's been drinking he talks in his sleep, tells me know, or just doesn't hear me. And its worse. So good thing he gets to sleep later, go to work and sit in his office, and I get to do what? OH THATS RIGHT the same thing I do every day. On less sleep. Awesome. So pardon me for not giving a shit about your apology.
At least today is little farmers and a growth scan!
Anywho, is it possible your house or his room has incredibly dry air or that it is allergies? I have a hard time in the winter with coughing at night due to dry air. This time of the year its dry throat/coughing due to allergies. Just something else to look into if asthma doesn't turn out to be it, but I know how frustrating it is to hear that cough and be able to do basically jack about it because they are so young!
@wildtot I was also thinking allergies, it could be post nasal drip that causes coughing and only happens at night since he’s lying down. Definitely am the ped though! Poor little guy.
@SmashJam my husband doesn’t drink much but when he does I absolutely can’t stand sleeping next to him. Ugh the snoring.
I am at a loss with my marriage right now. My son is definitely challenging lately and it’s stressful, and twice in a matter of days my husband’s completely lost his temper with me when I’ve asked for help. This morning he broke the remot control by throwing it at the window, and seconds later broke two dishes in the sink when he slammed something in there. I told him I’d rather be divorced than have my children grow up in an angry home. He refuses to speak to me and I’m just sitting here crying but also a prisoner on the couch because my toddler has a crying tantrum if I leave his side. I need to be working in the hour I have before leaving for my appointment but I can’t. I have a full on hearing to prepare for and the stress is off the charts with that alone. I just don’t know what to do. I can’t even afford to kick him out of the house because we can’t afford for him to stay in a hotel and his parents live too far away from his work. When he’s himself he’s a great dad and husband. Then this monster Comes out of him.
@zande2016 hugs lady. I have no advice but I'm so sorry you're dealing with it. This sounds like a super high stress time for you and him and then add the impending baby and maybe all emotions are heightened and the best things are not coming out of him (or maybe you too!). Anyway, hugs again. And I hope things calm down today and your NST is uneventful, and that you and DH can have a productive conversation about how to move forward.
ETA: My MIL decided it would be easier to come watch DS for our growth scan today at our house. She has never been left unsupervised within our house and I am nervous AF. I am binge cleaning all sorts of stupid things I could usually hide, like our bedroom. She knows that we are gonna have the nursery set up in there, and I am worried she'll go in there and "check things out" and its a mess. I'm thinking of leaving a dildo or something like right on the end of the bed, so it the first thing she sees when she walks in, and then she gets scared and backs out immediately. Too much? lol
@SmashJam i can’t stand snoring either and DH is the same when he drinks. I think I’ve nagged him enough to not get that drunk again or he started hating feeling like shit the next day. Sorry to hear about the sleepless night! Hope you have some time to relax a bit today. @zande2016 hugs! I can completely relate with it all right now. I sleep in a different room not just for my own comfort but also because i can’t go to bed being up with DH and he just snores away like it’s nothing. I recently told to not even apologize because he never changes. I need to see action not just verbal acknowledgment. I hate that DS has to see it sometimes but i try to wait out our “conversations” until he out of the room or in bed. I can’t tell him to leave because money and our friends and family are out of state. So many hugs! Please feel free to pm me if you want to chat more. I truly hope your day gets better!
I was thinking allergies weeks ago but the cough continues with some dry boogers. Throughout the day. Gonna give Benadryl a try the next few nights with the humidifier. It’s been warm but rainy the last few days so idk if it’s the level of dryness.
@rkk0002 In laws are difficult. Does she already know your mom is staying with you for 2 weeks? If not, I wouldn’t offer up that type of information or make note not to say anything next time. Sometimes it is better to keep a little distance by not letting them know details. I think it is a good idea for DH to run interference but if he is anything like mine, it won’t work. DH would let things go easier than I would or just ask me to deal with it. I ended up just saying what was on my mind rather than letting it eat me alive. Of course that ticked MIL off. Not that I recommend that but unfortunately it is what it came too. The relationship is slowly being repaired. She wants to see her grandkids so she has no choice but to change a little.
@SmashJam hahahaha! I think that’s a brilliant idea! Especially if she’s known to snooping. When I was a newlywed I was worried about my MIL just popping by because she had a hard time letting go of her “little boy” my stepdad told us to just hang out in our place naked so that if she came over unannounced she’d get quite the surprise and not come over again without asking first.
@zande2016 I’m so sorry you’re struggling right now. I understand how frustrating it can be to navigate a marriage with a toddler that is really pushing everyone’s buttons. Sometimes it’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel especially with a little one on the way. Maybe your marriage won’t last, but I’ve always been told not to quit anything on a bad day.
You guys constantly remind me to be grateful that my MIL is pretty hands off, so thank you for that! Right now we only see her for holidays, birthdays and other events. I'm sure it will be more frequent once LO is here but I've never had to worry about her showing up unannounced. My poor DH though, my mom lives 4 houses up the street and she's my best friend so she's here constantly lol luckily they get along well
@SmashJam I totally feel you on the hiding messy areas though, I haven't made the bed since the snoogle entered my life and our master bedroom is on the main floor so I just shut the door when people come over
Turning out to be a crappy day indeed. It took them 35 minutes to find my baby’s heartbeat on the monitor, I gained 3 pounds since Thursday, and they seem concerned about the bad headache I’ve had for a couple days now. Guessing my BP is okay since that wasn’t mentioned...he’s so low the heart rate monitor isn’t even on my belly, it’s on my pubic area. Ugh I just wanna get out of here.
@zande2016 aw im so sorry! Glad baby is doing well and you BP is good. I've had a few appointments where they took a while to find baby's heartbeat because he's so low too. I hear ya on the weight gain. Hope you catch a break later today and things get better!
Re: Weekday Randoms 5/28
I have a box I was given at the shower, then I bought a small pack of Pampers Pure in NB size (looks like babe is going to be small, but we all know things change..) and everything else I have is samples!
However we wasted almost the whole day between the baby shower we went to and the dealership and then OF COURSE DH decided it was time to put up the curtains in our bedroom! So that's how the 9pm to 11pm window was spent...went to bed sloghlsl pissed off and thinking about pretending to be sick today and not go to his work BBQ he was invited to. I need some time off this long weekend!
My husband did the same thing!! We waited until bedtime saturday and than decided we should put up the curtains in dd's room. I was so annoyed!
Going to MIL today to eat grilled food and hang with fam. Should be a fun time but we'll have to leave by 1 to get there in time to grill the wings DH wants to make so we have to kind of skip DS's naptime. He's down right now but not sleeping, its just too early for him (although he was up til 9 so I mean, kid should be tired!).
I'm so frustrated with DH and his dislike of my fam. I told my fam they couldn't come visit til september because I expect I won't give birth til the first/second week of august and that's the earliest I could imagine them coming. They aren't helpful, they are like, it around and drink beer and be loud and follow you around while you do stuff to talk to you but then not really offer to help you while they talk kind of people. I agree they are gonna be a handful right after baby is born, but they aren't staying with us, so I feel like sucking it up for a day or two is fine. DH does not agree. My dad has wanted to get out here in June but isn't gonna be able to make it so he's pushing it to July. I don't think I want him here in July just in case I go into labor, he won't be helpful at all it would just be an extra person around stressing me out while my vag heals and my tits are out. I thought this was a great idea, to tell him not to come, DH didn't think it went far enough. DH basically was like, tell him not to come at all, we are broke and I don't want to spend what little money we have to do fun things with by wasting it on your family. So now its like, well maybe I should tell my dad not to come until late November when DH is out of town for a work trip, then he won't have to deal with it? Who knows.
He's just frustrated because my dad took my bro out to the bar the day he got off probation and had a drink with him, which for my bro turned into like, 9 drinks after my dad left and he went home, and he just doesn't want that up here around us, which I understand.
Sorry for the book guys! It was so much less stressful when my bro was on probation and couldn't drink at all..
@SmashJam Yeah that definitely sounds stressful and it really unfortunate that they aren't helpful.
Well I’ve been cleaning the kitchen for the last 3 hrs. DH decide to take a nap. So here i am in between a tone of mess and watching DS who is butt naked. After trying to get DH up for about 30 mins he gets up and decides DS needs a pull up when I saw he was so close to peeing! He little sat willingly a few times and started crossing his legs. Then once with the pull up i see his poop face and DH says to just let him poop in his pull up. Ugh i was pissed! Then DH says he needs to poop too! Yeah dude I’m saving the poop pull up for you.
I had an increase in discharge today and baby is definitely lower than yesterday. Still same amount of contractions and NST at the hospital yesterday looked normal. Uncertain if the discharge is normal or possibly AF. Any insight STM+? TMI: It's milky, not sticky, but metallic smelling. Not my normal discharge. I have another NST tomorrow so as along as contractions or discharge don't increase, I'll likely just wait until tomorrow.
check and ease any uncertainty:)
@SmashJam ugh I’m sorry, family drama is the worst. I would speak up and be firm about when you don’t want them visiting, but I also understand how hard it is to say no to family.
Soooo my husband lost the hardware for the baby’s crib. Such a disorganized life we live.
Problem is she's asking when she can come after DS is born "to help". She's gotten a bit better with the batshit crazy stuff in the last 3 years, as she doesn't do the full on crazy in front of DH and FIL anymore. So for the past 3 years I've come up with excuses for when she wants to come stay and DH or FIL can't be there too (he is full time caretaker for his elderly mother with dementia, so we usually go to them).
My mom will be staying 2 weeks, she's a huge help, is off for the summer as a teacher, and is great with DD. So now MIL wants to come for at least 1-2 weeks too. I had resigned myself to the fact that she's coming, but was hoping I could limit it to 4 days, and make it fall over a weekend so DH can take 2 pto days and be here the whole time. DH is afraid it will really hurt her feelings and we'll never hear the end of it if we say she can't come or even try to limit how long cause my mom is coming for 2 weeks.
Sorry for the novel, but any of you ever deal with a similar situation or have advice? I have no clue how to handle this!
@wildtot sounds yummy!
@zande2016 not having all the hardware for the crop seriously stresses me out lol. Somehow, amazingly. After 6 years and 2 kiddos and 2 moves we have all the hardware still! Hopefully your H found what he needed and he won’t be a grumpy butt all evening!
I wish DD would play with MIL, but MIL isn't really good with toddlers and babies, like I said before, she just does things her way, and my super opinionated stubborn toddler is not having any of it. DD screams bloody murder every time we try to let MIL keep her, max we can do is 2 hours and MIL calls us to come home the 2 times we've tried to do a date night type thing. MIL is better with like 8 yrs old and up. So then I end up entertaining toddler and cooking and cleaning for everyone, plus doing whatever "projects" MIL wants to do, like baking fresh bread, making soap, working in the garden.
I can handle it for about 2 or 3 days, but after that I'm exhausted. There's no way I can manage toddler, newborn, do all normal day to day needs, plus entertain MIL, all on top of being 2 weeks postpartum and dealing with the PPD/PPA I'll most likely have again.
In my case, I grew up with the difficult mother so I am used to toeing the line between accepting her help when i need it and telling her to back off when I don't.
Anyway, mostly I'm just glad to have a place to change diapers!
Well we did a bunch of things this am but the BBQ was fun and we got to eat a bunch of yummy food without hosting lol. Then we saw Deadpool 2 with my girlfriend. All in all a good day! Now for some r&r because I am pooped!
Also baby hiccups crack me up. Babe had them early this am, then again this evening. Poor baby is like me if I get them in the morning they last on and off all day!
At least today is little farmers and a growth scan!
Anywho, is it possible your house or his room has incredibly dry air or that it is allergies? I have a hard time in the winter with coughing at night due to dry air. This time of the year its dry throat/coughing due to allergies. Just something else to look into if asthma doesn't turn out to be it, but I know how frustrating it is to hear that cough and be able to do basically jack about it because they are so young!
@SmashJam my husband doesn’t drink much but when he does I absolutely can’t stand sleeping next to him. Ugh the snoring.
I am at a loss with my marriage right now. My son is definitely challenging lately and it’s stressful, and twice in a matter of days my husband’s completely lost his temper with me when I’ve asked for help. This morning he broke the remot control by throwing it at the window, and seconds later broke two dishes in the sink when he slammed something in there. I told him I’d rather be divorced than have my children grow up in an angry home. He refuses to speak to me and I’m just sitting here crying but also a prisoner on the couch because my toddler has a crying tantrum if I leave his side. I need to be working in the hour I have before leaving for my appointment but I can’t. I have a full on hearing to prepare for and the stress is off the charts with that alone. I just don’t know what to do. I can’t even afford to kick him out of the house because we can’t afford for him to stay in a hotel and his parents live too far away from his work. When he’s himself he’s a great dad and husband. Then this monster Comes out of him.
ETA: My MIL decided it would be easier to come watch DS for our growth scan today at our house. She has never been left unsupervised within our house and I am nervous AF. I am binge cleaning all sorts of stupid things I could usually hide, like our bedroom. She knows that we are gonna have the nursery set up in there, and I am worried she'll go in there and "check things out" and its a mess. I'm thinking of leaving a dildo or something like right on the end of the bed, so it the first thing she sees when she walks in, and then she gets scared and backs out immediately. Too much? lol
@zande2016 hugs! I can completely relate with it all right now. I sleep in a different room not just for my own comfort but also because i can’t go to bed being up with DH and he just snores away like it’s nothing. I recently told to not even apologize because he never changes. I need to see action not just verbal acknowledgment. I hate that DS has to see it sometimes but i try to wait out our “conversations” until he out of the room or in bed. I can’t tell him to leave because money and our friends and family are out of state. So many hugs! Please feel free to pm me if you want to chat more. I truly hope your day gets better!
I was thinking allergies weeks ago but the cough continues with some dry boogers. Throughout the day. Gonna give Benadryl a try the next few nights with the humidifier. It’s been warm but rainy the last few days so idk if it’s the level of dryness.
@rkk0002 In laws are difficult. Does she already know your mom is staying with you for 2 weeks? If not, I wouldn’t offer up that type of information or make note not to say anything next time. Sometimes it is better to keep a little distance by not letting them know details. I think it is a good idea for DH to run interference but if he is anything like mine, it won’t work. DH would let things go easier than I would or just ask me to deal with it. I ended up just saying what was on my mind rather than letting it eat me alive. Of course that ticked MIL off. Not that I recommend that but unfortunately it is what it came too. The relationship is slowly being repaired. She wants to see her grandkids so she has no choice but to change a little.
@zande2016 I’m so sorry you’re struggling right now. I understand how frustrating it can be to navigate a marriage with a toddler that is really pushing everyone’s buttons. Sometimes it’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel especially with a little one on the way. Maybe your marriage won’t last, but I’ve always been told not to quit anything on a bad day.
@SmashJam I totally feel you on the hiding messy areas though, I haven't made the bed since the snoogle entered my life and our master bedroom is on the main floor so I just shut the door when people come over