@chyvie Good luck Sorry you're still dealing with this.
@krzyriver The downside of having such an amazing group of women who get along and respect one another is that there's a constant pressure to be involved in all the great conversations! It can be overwhelming. I don't lurk the other boards, but I do wonder how active they are in comparison to ours. I feel like we're all pretty damn respondent!
I am in the same boat as @krzyriver - I've been in and out of town working and when I am home I am catching up with my kids/chores so I am way way behind on here and feel guilty but I am still lurking and reading, just not responding as often!
@jomama1618 at least you have a heads up reminder of what is coming before you deal with it from watching the rest of our posts! @chyvie prayers all goes well! @krzyriver no worries! We all get here when we can!
@sliztee We really are a pretty damn responsive group! My July group was fairly responsive but we had tons of drama! (Including weird feuding and crap with the boards around us, especially the month board before us.) Other groups said we were the "mean girls" of the bmbs at the time, so it wasn't surprising. But nice to be in such a more calm environment this time!
Also, Would anyone be interested in me starting a "Stupid things people say/do/expect" thread? We had one in my last bmb and it got used a lot. We started it around now (finding out or not finding out what genitals baby has at AS seemed to be a trigger for lots of family/friends, stupid random people). It was great for venting, helping each other deal with stupidity and helping shut down unrealistic expectations (from family), that don't match ours.
@chyvie thinking of you!! Hope it's a quick visit, I hate sitting in the ER.. @krzyriver hopefully with school ending soon it'll get less hectic and you'll feel more relaxed! We're here whenever you can be!❤
@jomama1618 oh my gosh, feuding between boards sounds amazing. I hope I'm not a horrible person for saying that, but I'm ready for this team to put on some war paint
@jomama1618 I had started one but I started it too early and for the life of me i can't remember what I titled it! I say go for starting one unless you want to find mine and revive it!
@chopchop25 you're not! Because I totally admit it was hilarious and ridiculous all at the same time! It was constant back and forth of our ladies on their board, and their's on ours. Instigating crap, starting crazy troll posts, creating huge arguments between groups. SO many people got at least a "time out" for 24+ hrs, but some of the hard core ladies, actually ended up banned (I know at least 4 of the ladies were on account 3-4+, because they were permanently banned! Many on at least account #2). We had a few with serious health issues, and decisions to makes, and some of the other girls wanted to jump in on that (and basically anything they seen as questionable) it didn't end well! I know there was stuff deleted and everything. I want to say it started between 2nd and 3rd trimester.
@sliztee oh we were nice and supportive of each other. Just not randos who joined over half way through and refused to follow our board set up/intro/get to know anyone, and then act like we were horrible for not instantly supporting someone we didn't know. Or people from other groups that just wanted to cause drama and be jerks, because they knew they would get a fight. At one point, it was one groups goal to see how many of our ladies they could get banned. We may have been a bit (lovingly) snarky with each other, but always loving and supportive within our own bmb. @chopchop25 I would probably, seriously cry! Lol I have craved Chinese for DAYS and can't get to it til Thursday night at the earliest. (We live in the middle of no where!) I'm so sad! I'm team get you some Chinese food!
Now I also want some Indian food, but H won't eat it with me.
I just had my mouth numbed due to an exposed root (but it wasn't a cavity, yay!) so tonight's dinner will most definitely be a DQ blizzard. Will save Chinese or Indian for next rainy day!
This probably belongs in the UO thread but why do some people talk to their children like most people talk to their dogs? It drives me nuts! “Awww good girl!!” (In a disgusting crooning voice) Excuse me ma’am, do you realize that kid is 4 and all she did was go down a tiny slide? I’m sure I’ll probably cave and use “baby talk” with my baby when he’s little but it is seriously annoying when your child is old enough to talk.
@jynjer91 I am actually SUPER afraid of accidentally being one of those people. I've only ever had dogs and am beyond guilty of baby talking to them, so now I am terrified I'm going to talk to my kid that way just out of habit. It's one of my new parent fears right now.
I will say, (having kiddos at home already) if you put your mind to it before baby is here, you will do fine not doing the baby talk crap. We have never done any of that with 6 or Ds, so it won't be an issue with the new tiny. I WILL say that, if the child was 4, and something like that, it may have been a way of trying to encourage the child for over coming a fear of going down the slide alone. (6 was petrified of it randomly, so her doing it was a huge deal, and we made it out as so when she finally did it alone again). Sometimes there are extenuating reasonings
The one that drives me nuts is when people ask children to stop doing something. As in 'oh please don't walk on this quilt I'm piecing with your muddy shoes, k?' All in a sing-song-y type of voice. bleh! I don't mean that we should yell at them, just talk to them. No need to baby talk about that...
I totally talk to my dog like that when he is getting on my nerves for whatever reason. I do it because he can’t understand what has me irritated, and so I’m trying to not yell at him.
For example- when I get up to feed him at 4:30am and discover he had diarrhea in the back room- not his fault but I’m still grumpy. I’ll say something like “Dude, I wish you’d gotten me up- I would have let you out!” instead of yelling at him.
That said- if he understood English, he would not get the super reasonable version of that comment.
+1 to hating baby talk. I never did that with the girls and don’t intend to with this guy. Strangers do that to DD1 all the time and it makes her so confused. Then she starts speaking (she’s very talkative and has a remarkable vocabulary for her age) and they usually stop. The other thing I hate, though I understand it more I guess, is when people speak to me about my kids as if they weren’t there when they are. I mean with babies I get it, and even with my 18 month old to a certain extent because she can’t speak quite well enough to converse with strangers, but why are you asking me in front of my 3.5yo what her name is or how old she is? She knows those things and she hears you. I usually prompt her to answer to get people to stop it but still. Definite pet peeve.
@knottieamusements yea I do that to my pets too. To My cat it's usually something like, 'hey you fuzz butt, if you don't stop rubbing on my legs I'm gonna squeeze your fluffy lil face!' (I don't usually mind when my cat rubs on my legs, but if she thinks she's 'low' on food, she'll basically not let me walk until I refill her bowl.) The instance I was referring to was an actual quilt being laid out and 4-7 year olds. I totally get baby talk to babies, but once they're out of the toddler stage (at the oldest).. Seriousl y, just stop it.
Just wow. On that June thread- she honestly doesn’t get it. Does she honestly think we all show up on the board as friends to begin with? Or that nobody can join mid-term and not make connections with the rest of the group?
If she wants to make friends, she is doing an awful job...
Update on my visit to the ER. Was there for 8 hrs only for them to tell me they aren't sure what it is and I need to come back tomorrow (today) for an ultrasound on the wound. Due to it being so busy the ultrasound place was backed up. So now I might have to spend another 3-6 hrs sitting waiting for the results! The joys of free health care.
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
Agreed on baby talk. Dh and I talk completely normally to dd and we use big words around her and just explain what they mean if she asks and for a 3 year old, we are told her vocab is super strong. If people ask questions about her in front of her, I’ll turn to my kid and ask “Evelyn, that lady asked XYZ, what do you think?” And let her answer. I’m assuming people are just not sure how old my kid is or what level she talk at so I don’t take it with any bad intent - but i do let my kid do the answering.
See DS' vocabulary is not strong. He does know his name, but not his age. I wouldn't know that other 3 yr olds can be that much more articulate and even though I can understand my toddler most other people can't. I also can't really understand most 3 yr olds, so I get asking the parent.
I also HATE baby talk!!!! It’s so insulting to my kid! We went to a birthday party a few ago and this Mom put and ‘ie’ on the end of every noun. Her kid was like two. UGH!!!
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@krzyriver The downside of having such an amazing group of women who get along and respect one another is that there's a constant pressure to be involved in all the great conversations! It can be overwhelming. I don't lurk the other boards, but I do wonder how active they are in comparison to ours. I feel like we're all pretty damn respondent!
@chyvie prayers all goes well!
@krzyriver no worries! We all get here when we can!
@elothair I feel the same way!
Also, Would anyone be interested in me starting a "Stupid things people say/do/expect" thread?
We had one in my last bmb and it got used a lot. We started it around now (finding out or not finding out what genitals baby has at AS seemed to be a trigger for lots of family/friends, stupid random people). It was great for venting, helping each other deal with stupidity and helping shut down unrealistic expectations (from family), that don't match ours.
@krzyriver hopefully with school ending soon it'll get less hectic and you'll feel more relaxed! We're here whenever you can be!❤
ETA: Found and Bumped.
And a grilled cheese sandwich.
Or people from other groups that just wanted to cause drama and be jerks, because they knew they would get a fight. At one point, it was one groups goal to see how many of our ladies they could get banned. We may have been a bit (lovingly) snarky with each other, but always loving and supportive within our own bmb.
@chopchop25 I would probably, seriously cry! Lol I have craved Chinese for DAYS and can't get to it til Thursday night at the earliest. (We live in the middle of no where!) I'm so sad! I'm team get you some Chinese food!
I just had my mouth numbed due to an exposed root (but it wasn't a cavity, yay!) so tonight's dinner will most definitely be a DQ blizzard. Will save Chinese or Indian for next rainy day!
I WILL say that, if the child was 4, and something like that, it may have been a way of trying to encourage the child for over coming a fear of going down the slide alone. (6 was petrified of it randomly, so her doing it was a huge deal, and we made it out as so when she finally did it alone again). Sometimes there are extenuating reasonings
DD 3/15/12
DD 6/3/14
#4 Due 10/26/18!
I totally talk to my dog like that when he is getting on my nerves for whatever reason. I do it because he can’t understand what has me irritated, and so I’m trying to not yell at him.
For example- when I get up to feed him at 4:30am and discover he had diarrhea in the back room- not his fault but I’m still grumpy. I’ll say something like “Dude, I wish you’d gotten me up- I would have let you out!” instead of yelling at him.
That said- if he understood English, he would not get the super reasonable version of that comment.
The instance I was referring to was an actual quilt being laid out and 4-7 year olds. I totally get baby talk to babies, but once they're out of the toddler stage (at the oldest).. Seriousl y, just stop it.
DD 3/15/12
DD 6/3/14
#4 Due 10/26/18!
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12728987/guess-the-gender#latest
I did grab a link tho.
DD 3/15/12
DD 6/3/14
#4 Due 10/26/18!
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12729169/attitude-of-the-june-2018-moms#latest
DD 3/15/12
DD 6/3/14
#4 Due 10/26/18!
If she wants to make friends, she is doing an awful job...
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada