The fella has so many dress shirts that he hasn't taken a batch to the cleaners since we moved. We left Chicago on Labor Day weekend last year. I told him that as soon as his shirts come back from the cleaners (he's almost out), they are fair game for me to nest half of them away to a donation charity!
Homelessness is a huge concern here, so I really want to make sure they go to a shelter or somewhere that helps people who are struggling and gives clothes to people who needs nicer stuff for work and interviews.
I asked my mom to take my toddler for 24 hours, I went through my closet and got rid of stuff I haven’t fit in 5 or more years and sold a few big dumb kid toys we don’t need, esp with another coming. Yay! Also my daughter is having a dream weekend so even though I miss her, I don’t feel guilty.
We posted our announcement on social media today and it's been so fun reading everyone's congratulations notes. Really makes it feel real and feeling all the love
I am so excited, my best friend just got told she's still pregnant! We have a long history of infertility and losses together (we always manage to end up pregnant at the same times but have never both made it through a pregnancy together. One or both always ending in loss.) She was sent to the hospital with some decently heavy bleeding for about 4 hours Friday, but cervix was closed so they listed it as "threatened mc". Today she got her 2nd blood work and her hcg went from 37 to 222! The dr said it does not appear to be a miscarriage and she believes her progesterone is pretty low and she needs to start the suppositories asap. (She had to do the same with her daughter) She was referred to a high risk OB in the next big town (they are military and just came home, so starting over with drs etc) and was waiting for them to call with her appointment date earlier. Still being cautious, but so excited we might actually get to do this together and even in the same state!
So I am in now way hiding my pregnancy, and have announced to family and friends, but we haven’t made a social media announcement so not every knows. Well I worse a maternity shirt that is pretty form fitting and LoL’d as people awkwardly gasped at my belly all day. I think i might announce it tonight.
So this job was just posted at work in another dept that I would (if not pregnant) have loved to apply for. I’m not unhappy in my current job really, but this sounds like a great fit for me and would probably be more pay (and definitely more time off). If I mention it to DH, he’d probably say to apply anyway, but I feel weird applying for a new job while pregnant and due in October. I wish this would have been posted months ago so I wouldn’t have thought twice about applying.
@pumpkinpancake go for it!! The worst that can happen is you don't get it. But anything could happen pregnant or not. They could also find you as a great fit and be willing to work with you more since you already work there??
I started to put this in the bitchfest but it’s really more of a wahfest. I’m really sad I won’t get to put this baby in all my favorite dresses from when the girls were tiny. Also I love making the girls nightgowns and I don’t want to have to make pajama sets for this kid instead. It’s more work and they aren’t ruffle and cute.
Mostly I’m sad because I don’t think I’m reacting “right” to finding out we’re having a boy this time. I know he’s going to be perfect, and I’m going to make him totally cute pajamas too. I’ve just been used to being a “girl mom” and I’ve loved it. I know I’m being dumb. Grumble.
@DunkinDecaf totally acceptable feelings!! You may not be as excited right now or immediately but those feelings will come!! There certainly isn't a right way to react to finding out what your baby is! And I'm sure you can find a way to throw a ruffle or two In his pjs2 (;
@pumpkinpancake I say go for it! If they really want you, they will make it work.
@DunkinDecaf I'm super excited for a not, but I know what you mean. I see such cute girly clothes and get kinda sad I won't have a girl to buy them for.
Thanks guys. @mamabearcj it’s so funny my immediate reaction was happy, mostly because I was stressed about the “healthy” part and everything came back fine. I only started getting kinda gloomy when I came home and started working on finishing the nightgowns I was making for the girls. We have soooo many cute things that I won’t be able to put this baby in. Oh well.
@pumpkinpancake - I agree- go for it! Also- what is your company culture like? At my company, it can literally take 6-12 months to transition someone from one group to another. (Literally. No joke.)
@DunkinDecaf - My Mom wants me to have a little girl so she can dress her in all the ruffles.
@pumpkinpancake I'm in a similar position, so I get how you feel. Mine is a specialty position at my job, only opens every 3-5 yrs due to rotation. The issue I'm having is that with accommodations to pregnancy, I can't do the full job. But the requirements/preferences are pretty much written to describe me, and only me, at work. So.... do I apply for a job that I move into already unable to do the full position for a year or so (pumping will limit some things as well.) So I say you do what l think I'll do. Go for it and be up front about your pregnancy. You're hiding nothing, and worst case your situation doesn't change. Why not?
Thanks for the encouragement, guys! I do want to apply, but I'm always more cautious about applying to internal positions in other departments, because I'm worried if word gets back to my boss/department and I don't get the job, things would get weird. DH says I shouldn't worry about that, but it's always there in my mind.
The last 24 hrs have been so great! My best friend who is three weeks ahead of me found out she is having a boy!! Then this morning my other best friend found out she is pregnant due end of December!!! My two bestie's are having babies with me! So happy and excited.
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
@pumpkinpancake Are there any unwritten rules at the company’s to help avoid the potential uncomfortable situation? It goes unsaid here but our company is so relationship based that we have to tell our boss ahead of time when we are applying since the hiring manager will ALWAYS reach out to current boss before making an offer. That said, the expectation is also that a good manager will only support anencephaly enable his/her employee’s growth and development.
@chopchop25 not that I’m aware of, but who knows. I would assume that it would hopefully stay at least somewhat confidential until it came down to whether or not I was in consideration to be offered the job, but I just don’t know.
@sliztee she is very cool. I get all of my eccentricities from her- I grew up in a very different way and in a very different world than most people for so many reasons and she has absolutely colored every aspect of my life in the best possible way.
@DunkinDecaf I hear you. My second is a boy and I’m actually bummed I won’t get to put him in all the cute stuff I have from DD! It’s a weird type of “mourning” I did both times when I found out what I was having.
Ugh I don’t even know where to post this. Lab results from genetic counseling u/s got updated online and they wrote ’uterus severely retroverted. Possible increased risk of uterine incarceration.’ Hey asshat, you did NOT say SEVERE at the appointment. Now I’m completely freaking out, near tears, and terrified of the worst case scenario. Thanks for blasting it online and leaving me alone to stew with my thoughts, doc.
tempted to call the after hours number for my OB so hopefully she can give me peace of mind, but I also don’t want to sound insane.
@chopchop25 ugh I’m sorry they posted the wording like that. I’m sure you could call the after hours number and you wouldn’t sound insane. They have definitely gotten calls for more insane reasons, I’m sure.
I also don’t know what they consider “severe” but if the dr didn’t mention it to you when discussing your results, then my completely non medical opinion says it probably isn’t something truly concerning. Hope you can get some clarity/reassurance soon though!
@chopchop25 - definitely call and get more information. Hopefully they will be able to clear it up and it is just a “we’ll watch how baby develops” kind of thing. I’m so sorry you are having to deal with this overnight.
@chopchop25 I would call for peace of mind. If they sounded more reassuring at the time though I would try not to worry. I’m sure what they write down in medical language has a tendency to sound much scarier than their plain-language explanation for patients.
@chopchop25 that's definitely scary seeing in writing like that. I would call for sure! Also did some quick research and it looks like the most important thing is getting a diagnosis quickly, so knowing this in advance is a good thing! Obviously scary, but better to know than be surprised with it. I hope your dr is reassuring!!
@chopchop25 As impossible as it is, try not to worry. In medicine, we always have to label things as detailed as possible, so on a 1/4 scale or a mild, moderate, severe etc... so even though it is labeled as 'severe', that just says the degree of the tip, not necessarily that it will become a problem. I know my RE doesnt care about a retroverted uterus until 20+ weeks because he says the overwhelming majority of them move into the correct or almost correct position, regardless of where they start, as the baby grows, so its possible your doctor doesnt want to alarm you until/unless it becomes an actual problem.
@chopchop25 To add to what everyone else has said keep in mind that everything with the OB always sounds dramatic..... I'm 35 so I'm "geriatric". Also, I would have had the same reaction. My doctor knows I'm prone to get worked up and will limit what I can see online. She knows me too well. I hope your doctor can reassure you :-)
Re: Randoms 4/19!
Homelessness is a huge concern here, so I really want to make sure they go to a shelter or somewhere that helps people who are struggling and gives clothes to people who needs nicer stuff for work and interviews.
I am so excited, my best friend just got told she's still pregnant! We have a long history of infertility and losses together (we always manage to end up pregnant at the same times but have never both made it through a pregnancy together. One or both always ending in loss.) She was sent to the hospital with some decently heavy bleeding for about 4 hours Friday, but cervix was closed so they listed it as "threatened mc".
Today she got her 2nd blood work and her hcg went from 37 to 222! The dr said it does not appear to be a miscarriage and she believes her progesterone is pretty low and she needs to start the suppositories asap. (She had to do the same with her daughter) She was referred to a high risk OB in the next big town (they are military and just came home, so starting over with drs etc) and was waiting for them to call with her appointment date earlier. Still being cautious, but so excited we might actually get to do this together and even in the same state!
and would probably be more pay (and definitely more time off). If I mention it to DH, he’d probably say to apply anyway, but I feel weird applying for a new job while pregnant and due
in October. I wish this would have been posted months ago so I wouldn’t have thought twice about applying.
Mostly I’m sad because I don’t think I’m reacting “right” to finding out we’re having a boy this time. I know he’s going to be perfect, and I’m going to make him totally cute pajamas too. I’ve just been used to being a “girl mom” and I’ve loved it. I know I’m being dumb. Grumble.
@DunkinDecaf I'm super excited for a not, but I know what you mean. I see such cute girly clothes and get kinda sad I won't have a girl to buy them for.
@DunkinDecaf - My Mom wants me to have a little girl so she can dress her in all the ruffles.
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
tempted to call the after hours number for my OB so hopefully she can give me peace of mind, but I also don’t want to sound insane.
I also don’t know what they consider “severe” but if the dr didn’t mention it to you when discussing your results, then my completely
non medical opinion says it probably isn’t something truly concerning. Hope you can get some clarity/reassurance soon though!