Randoms 4/19!

hellopartyof5

hellopartyof5

How is the day half gone? I feel like I blinked. 

pumpkinpancake

@hellopartyof5 you must be an east coaster! Damn you! (jk) It’s only 10:00 here, there’s still soooo much work left! 

sliztee

I'm having difficulty keeping up with all the threads now and feel like I'm not able to respond to people as often because there's too much content to sort through!

So, just know...I see y'all and I'll try to do better!

kiwi2628

I am with you @sliztee. I feel like every time I log on the randoms and questions threads are like '45 new responses' and I start reading them and responding, only to find I am like a billion years behind and we are already onto new topics.

cagncoo12

DH is on a fishing trip this weekend and I leave today after work to do a 5 hr drive to visit family and host a wedding shower. Five hours, just me and my dog. Hope he sleeps and I can manage to stay awake!

nasalot188

We had a marketing mtg this morning to discuss our new 'restructure'. Which was really just taking teams and bucketing them into different silos. So.....no change at all in my opinion. Except now ppl are worried they'll be fired.

Can it be mat leave yet? I'm so over work..

chyvie

@kiwi2628 and @sliztee 100% agree. I barely have time to read the posts let alone respond in a way that I feel might be contributing! I feel like some of you ladies are serious good multi-taskers. Plus I find a lot of the threads are great to read because of STM advice etc, but I don't have a lot to contribute to the conversation.

ladyofarlington

Ditto @sliztee

I exclusively post from my phone and have limited access to it during the day thanks to my job so it’s is challenging to keep up! I prefer individual threads for new topics so much more than a zillion responses in one thread! Oh well.

My random - someone with whom I work regularly (but does not work for my firm) confided in me yesterday that she and her husband are officially separated as of yesterday. She is due with her first baby in September (only a few days before me!) and said she feels like a failure to her baby. I do not know the details of what is going on but I felt awful and didn’t know how to respond other than sharing she shouldn’t feel that way and her baby is lucky to have her as a mom. She had casually mentioned before that her marriage was a bit rocky, but man, that sucks. I wish I knew how to better support her without making it awkward.

nasalot188

@ladyofarlington poor girl. that is tough. I have a friend who just told me her and her BF had broken up, their daughter is 11 months. I didn't know what to say either. I just said don't stress, don't be embarrassed (which she felt), it'll all work out. Thousands of split families function daily. I came from one and I turned out fabulous!! hahaha

chopchop25

I enjoyed the 'appointment later than I thought' thread in Dec. No serious snark or drama, but just enough entertainment...like a good, short, summer beach read.

Think I'm going to start a thumb or star rating for posts found while lurking...

sammierose464

ladyofarlington said:

Ditto @sliztee

I exclusively post from my phone and have limited access to it during the day thanks to my job so it’s is challenging to keep up! I prefer individual threads for new topics so much more than a zillion responses in one thread! Oh well.

My random - someone with whom I work regularly (but does not work for my firm) confided in me yesterday that she and her husband are officially separated as of yesterday. She is due with her first baby in September (only a few days before me!) and said she feels like a failure to her baby. I do not know the details of what is going on but I felt awful and didn’t know how to respond other than sharing she shouldn’t feel that way and her baby is lucky to have her as a mom. She had casually mentioned before that her marriage was a bit rocky, but man, that sucks. I wish I knew how to better support her without making it awkward.

I can't imagine going through two major life events at once. However, coming from a 2nd wife...my husband leaving his ex was the best thing he could have done for his son (and truly himself). His son can now see a happy, healthy relationship. And he has more family to love him.

ninji15

So I tried jackfruit today. No it does not replace pulled pork. It was interesting but I think I am going to pass next time.

chopchop25

Ohhh @ninji15 I LOVE jackfruit. I couldn't eat enough of it when I was in Vietnam. Definitely agree that I'm not sure how it would replace pulled pork, but it's so good when it's plain and ripe. Reminds me of a pink starburst.

knottieamusements

@ladyofarlington

Ditto that this is a shit thing for her to have to deal with right now. 

As hard as it is, my best advice is to listen when she talks and keep your thoughts and advice to yourself unless she clearly and directly asks for advice.  

She is going to be getting a lot of advice, most of it terrible and unsolicited.  What she probably really needs is time and space to work out for herself what she wants her future to look like.  

(This is coming from someone who divorced six years ago, ignored most everyone’s advice, and is genuinely happy she was able to do so. Also- my biggest regret from my marriage is no longer a regret (hello sweet dinosaur!), but is still my biggest relief- I cannot imagine going through that with young kids.)

mytrueloves

Can someone tell me if this idea is silly or cute?

DF has recently started getting REALLY into updating the house, working with tools, building things (like he's building a dog crate right now and then our crib). #1, he's really into it. Like it makes him so happy and excited every time he gets a new tool or does any work around the house. And #2, it's a running joke of ours that seeing him work with tools turns me on. 

So for his birthday I'm getting him a leather tool belt and the new hammer he asked for. And I thought it would be funny / cute to put together a little "sexy construction worker" costume as a gag gift to go with it. I'm going to put it all in the gift box together so it's like the tool belt is part of the costume. 

Idk, is this a stupid idea or cute? Heeeelp

sliztee

@mytrueloves Honestly, you have no other option besides getting him a sexy construction worker outfit to accompany his new toys. Do eeeeeet.

mytrueloves

@sliztee I found faux denim boxers with a very large...pouch. I'm at the very least going to see him in those.

sliztee

@mytrueloves Again, you really have no choice...

mytrueloves

Alright you've convinced me! Will report back with results 

kiwi2628

@chopchop25 ahhhh! I love your lurking

chopchop25

@mytrueloves I'm going to play devil's advocate on this - not against, but with a question. What is his sense of humor like? My H is a little sensitive on the self-security/confidence side, and might think I was mocking his new hobby/interest with this. So, totally for it if he'd have a good laugh, but would be more against/on the fence if he might react differently.

mytrueloves

@chopchop25 I have no concerns that he would take it the wrong way We have the same sense of humor. 

chopchop25

@mytrueloves then you gotta do it!

kiwi2628

So my random is that we just signed to convert our house from oil to natural gas in May (so we get rid of the oil tank, get rid of our old boiler and streamline our basement) AND signed a contractor to build a new deck/build shelving in our basement/put in a new backdoor. Going to have it all done by June/July. Hurrah!

knottieamusements

@mytrueloves - don’t forget the hard hat.  And get him a real one, not a prop. $7 at Home Depot.

@kiwi2628 - Congratulations!  That is a great upgrade!

knottieamusements

Seriously the coolest thing I have read this week:

https://www.cnn.com/2018/04/19/politics/tammy-duckworth-baby-senate-floor/index.html

mytrueloves

@knottieamusements added to cart 

krzyriver

@knottieamusements I could not love that any harder. So awesome

krzyriver

Final walk thru of our new home is tonight! Closing is tomorrow afternoon! Moving day is memorial weekend! I'm so excited!!!

pajamstagrams

I'm a dumb dumb who just posted a random question in last week's randoms thread....This is what I get for not being up to date on my bumping!

BrittanyCupcakes

@jemmerjams I just replied to your question in last week's thread, thinking it was in this week's, too. 

hellopartyof5

I wish there was a way to shut off commenting! It would make this much easier 

cdepperschmidt

@jemmerjams I answered you even though i knew it was last weeks. It was a good question. 

My random is that I went to the kids consignment sale tonight and got DS a full summer wordrobe!!! I didn’t buy anything for new baby, but i was tempted. Also, a BF because I was showing DH everything I bought and he couldn’t shut up about how he didn’t like ONE of the outfits I bought because it was salmon and plaid and “preppy”. I was like really, you hate one outfit Ingot for church and that’s all you can focus on...

coffee-saur

OH MY STARS YOU GUYS!!! I totally forgot it was my mom's birthday today! At like 5:00 PM it dawned on me that it was today! I messaged my sister (the one who just had a baby) and SHE HAD TOTALLY FORGOT TOO!! They already had plans for supper but I messaged my mom and it wasn't too late, so we took her out for supper.  We went to this amazing burger place that has gluten free buns so my mom can get what she wants. 

Also thought I should let y'all know that I am crazy. We did adopt the dog we'd seen and we have totally fallen in love with her! I talked with DH about things mentioned on here and that we definitely wanted to be sure about it. He agreed and we left it at that. The next day, he was working in town, and came home with a $500 dog pen and a 40lbs bag of puppy chow... I guess he was sure about it! Our 3 y.o. DD Thought we should name her Bunny and 7y.o. DS has been over the moon! (Don't worry, I'm not totally delusional, I know the dragging feet and unenthusiastic attitudes will come, but) we are totally committed to keeping her around for life! We'll have years to look forward to DS told me yesterday,'i'm so glad we got Bunny, I just love her!' It's been so sweet watching him take care of her. 

coffee-saur

Btw, I saw my spelling and grammar errors, but it keeps goofing up my post if I try and fix it

sammierose464

Yay for your new family member!! You'll have to share a picture!

DunkinDecaf

WAH I got an email from my OB that I had a new test result. So I checked, and it was just a summary of the ultrasound we had last week, which I know are normal because the dr told me at the time. I totally thought it was going to be the results of my materniT21  . They got me.

lovelycrookedfox

I lost it at a diner the other day cuz I saw an old man walk in and I wondered where his wife was. Thought too much about getting old and losing everyone I love. The waitress thought I was nuts when she brought my soup out. 

wolfpackgrl718

I've been obsessed with the Southwest Flight that had an engine fail. I keep reading the story and keep crying so hard. Like why? Why do I care so much about it? I mean, it's absolutely awful, but I just cant stop! 

jengibre_zorro

@wolfpackgrl718 me too!  I have a flight in a couple weeks too, and all i can think is that i am never sitting in a window seat again!  Someone also made a joke about it in a meeting yesterday, and i bit their head off out it.