I think I’m in the minority here, possibly due to the fact my m/s has not been debilitating. I think being pregnant is freaking amazing. I love it, all of it.
I don't mind nicknames for other people/kids but I don't want names that can be shortened or nicknamed down for my kids due to my name and issues I have with it.
I think being obsessed with Disney is corny and I dislike it. Like ok fine bring your kid there but some people are over the top. The princess obsessions, the paraphernalia, Disney weddings, blah
DS born 04/22/15, Pregnant again 03/01/17 however loss due to PPROM at 20+6 weeks now TTC rainbow
@meeks2020 I find this interesting because DH and I are the exact opposite. Neither of our names have a natural nickname and we both hate it so we picked/are picking names that allow for them.
I think I’m in the minority here, possibly due to the fact my m/s has not been debilitating. I think being pregnant is freaking amazing. I love it, all of it.
I felt that way last time, so I’m happy for you and bummed for me. What drives me crazy is when people complain about the lack of symptoms. Just be thankful, damnit!
I think I’m in the minority here, possibly due to the fact my m/s has not been debilitating. I think being pregnant is freaking amazing. I love it, all of it.
I felt that way last time, so I’m happy for you and bummed for me. What drives me crazy is when people complain about the lack of symptoms. Just be thankful, damnit!
I'm bummed for you too! And everyone else who isn't enjoying the experience. I was guilty last time of worrying a bit about lack of symptoms but I agree that complaining about the lack thereof is pretty annoying especially in a forum like this where some women are really suffering! I hope you feel better soon @lalala2004 xo
@F47 - hubby is on the same level as preggers is for me. Just nope.
@ecwk - I loooved my pregnancy with DS, this one has been harder on my body with the nausea and exhaustion but now that those are getting better I'm back to the 'squeeeeee! pregnancy!' mindset.
Not sure that this is an UO but I don't find terms like 'helicopter mom' or 'tiger mom' or any of those stereotypes funny or helpful if we're going to put a stop to the mommy wars. Unless a kid is in danger or being treated in an unhealthy manner I'm all for letting moms do what they do. This is probably because I'm called a helicopter mom occasionally but hey, it's how I choose to parent.
I'm also completely over all the unicorn food stuff that's out there. Unicorn hot cocoa, unicorn milkshake, once someone comes up with a unicorn grilled cheese I'm out.
@mrsbubbles-2 It's essentially your basic grilled cheese but you split the cheese into four bowl and add food colouring (bleurgh) so that you have different shades. Then away you go!! Dare you to try it
Challenge accepted! I'm going to send the pic to DH and tell him that this is something I need in my life immediately, major pregnancy craving. (He's the grilled cheese maker in the house)
@mrsbubbles-2 It's essentially your basic grilled cheese but you split the cheese into four bowl and add food colouring (bleurgh) so that you have different shades. Then away you go!! Dare you to try it
But really, when the unicorn frap came out, my mom made a Shakeology version using different types of berries. She made three different batches. All that garbage is for Instagram photos. I just want to eat my food in a normal color. I’m not going to photograph it because I’m going to eat it immediately. I guess that’s my UO?
I absolutely loved the first half of my pregnancy with ds and had no sickness or issues, so I get it. This time I wanted the most uneventful normal pregnancy and so far I've gotten the normal part down- every symptom thrown at me it may suck sometimes- but I'll take it!
I like to add beets to my fruit smoothies because it makes them an awesome magenta color and just because beets are great. Maybe my UO is just that I love beets!
I absolutely loved the first half of my pregnancy with ds and had no sickness or issues, so I get it. This time I wanted the most uneventful normal pregnancy and so far I've gotten the normal part down- every symptom thrown at me it may suck sometimes- but I'll take it!
I hope second and third trimesters are easy, breezy and symptom free-zy!!
I freakin LOVED being pregnant 1-3, I had some issues (mainly extreme heartburn, like lost sleep and almost puked constantly from it) but maybe bc they were later on when I was also feeling kicks etc I didn’t mind as much? This time I had ms, I get frequent headaches, I often just feel... blah. I carried so stereotypically boy with the boys - big belly out front. So far I’m carrying differently, less belly more in my back butt and legs. I hate how I look and I usually love my pregnant body. So that all plus lingering pgal brain and I’m just ready to have this baby girl in my arms.
+1 on the Disney obsession. Just tacky imo.
Along same lines this may be uo : we do not intend to ever take out kids to Disney. I don’t think they will be deprived from not going, I never went as a kid and while I obviously wanted to, it was soooo not my parents bag, and we did other fun stuff.
and my ongoing up of being beyond ready for fb. This app sucks. I’m on fb all the time anyhow and I’m sure I’ll participate more there. I don’t really get the fear of it. Plus I really really need emojis!
+ one for loving beets...and brussel sprouts. Also hating on the Disney obsessed. You really want to spend every vacation there? Pass.
Still a hard no on the FB group. I don't see the difference it would make, and honestly, I don't want to invite people into my personal life. Plus, I like the trolls for entertainment.
I have a friend/family/person who last month was on the verge of getting their car repossessed. Asking for money. This month they’ve planned a trip to disneyworld. TAX RETURN. And it hurts my head that they don’t use it to get ahead or on track.
So. UO. Disney is fine 1-2 in a lifetime. I wasn’t that thrilled. So many other places to go. In the whole world. And if you are risking losing your car to go. Don’t go??
And secondly. People who use a Tax Return to live like rockstars and then go back to using the food pantry two weeks later. Why?!
+ one for loving beets...and brussel sprouts. Also hating on the Disney obsessed. You really want to spend every vacation there? Pass.
Still a hard no on the FB group. I don't see the difference it would make, and honestly, I don't want to invite people into my personal life. Plus, I like the trolls for entertainment.
I’m 100% mobile and the app blows. It kills my battery. Fb I can periodically chevk but here it’s like, im either logging on and posting etc or I’m off for days.
No need to let anyone into your private life by being in a fb group. You don’t actually have to friend them to be in a group together - just keep your fb locked down which is a good idea anyhow. I’m in lots of fb groups so I just don’t get the fear. They are soooo much easier.
+ 1 on the Disney stuff. Sorry, I think it's strange.
@dirtanddiamonds I know a few people like that. We're asked pretty frequently how we "have it all figured out," and honestly - we DON'T - but we aren't stupid with money. We frequently vacation but that's because we don't do dumb stuff like buy a new house of furniture every 3 years.
My UO is that ALL FISH IS NASTY! All of it. Especially sushi. WHY TF would you eat raw fish? Even the cooked stuff is gross, though.
Update on the unicorn grilled cheese: DH laughed and called me ridiculous but agreed to make it for me tonight. Plus he's going to get me a backup Subway sandwich when I discover it's disgusting.
I'm more excited about this than I should be. Guess I'm not over all the unicorn food stuff after all.
@Firemanswife11 I am in a box. Dang it. I personally am just not that enamored with Disney Parks. I think Disneyland is boring. World is funner but so pricey and I feel like once you’ve seen it, you’ve seen it.
But if that’s your thing, go for it. We probably spend more money than necessary on riding our Rzrs. It’s our thing. I get it.
My UO was more like if you are delving into poverty for extras in life. Fix your priorities. These folks could probably pay off their car with their return. But they’ve chose otherwise. I just don’t get that.
I love Disney. I wouldn't do a Disney wedding and I'm well aware that I'm not a Disney princess, but I grew up with Disney movies and I loved every second I spent at Disney World (the only negative was that I was with my college BF, who was a turd). I saw a Disney/Pull Ups commercial on Instagram yesterday and started crying thinking about taking my little guy there. We'll definitely do more than one family vacation there.
Before I was married and had a baby coming, I would usually split my tax return between shopping and paying down my credit card from college. I don't see anything wrong with that, since I didn't have any obligations. But this year's return is being mostly put away for baby, aside from the money for an AirBnB for my nephew's Bar Mitzvah (because my SIL is also a turd).
Me: 28 DH: 29 Married: 6/2016 TTC #1: 12/2016 Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
My UO: I think people should be more open to talking about money/finances, it will create a much healthier money culture and the more education people get theoretically they’ll be in a better space.
August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB
I love Disney but I am not wacko crazy about. I have been to Disney World 3 times and will definitely try to take my kid(s). I would not lose my car over it! I do think Disney Themed Weddings are over the top. I kinda think any themed weddings are a little much.
This is the only UO I could think of because I just saw someone had a salad in the fridge at work. I hate raw spinach! Cooked i fine but raw is nasty. I get a little angry when I order a salad and it has a ton of spinach instead of lettuce.
If you are financially secure and get a big refund then I don’t see why anyone would judge you for using it for something fun. I do think that when you make your struggles public and ask for help you do open yourself up to judgment if you turn around and waste a windfall.
Our savings has gotten a bit low for our comfort level (new house is $$ lol). Even though I know it’s not a financially smart way to be, I’m glad we are getting a hefty refund to pad it again.
@dirtanddiamonds That mentality is my in-laws. They are always behind, and they've asked us numerous times for money, which we've refused because they don't have the money to pay their bills but they can pay for a summer-long campsite at the beach. Nope. I don't feel sorry for you.
I guess my UO is I love Disney World lol. Growing up my mom and grandma took us every other year or so, and it's a huge part of my childhood memories. I can't wait to take my kids there one day. But I'm also realistic enough to know that it's crazy expensive now, so going a couple times in their life is perfectly fine.
Update on the unicorn grilled cheese: DH laughed and called me ridiculous but agreed to make it for me tonight. Plus he's going to get me a backup Subway sandwich when I discover it's disgusting.
I'm more excited about this than I should be. Guess I'm not over all the unicorn food stuff after all.
Hahahaaa this is awesome. Can't wait for you to report back!!
Agree @hardlyhannah, DH is responsible for finances in our home, that's his line of work and he loves doing it, but I feel super ignorant about it all. I should probably take more of an interest!!
+1 for no FB group yet. I'll be down for one in June/July. There still may be crazies to weed out by then! *coughLeecough*
Catching up: -I don't get the Disney obsession either. No desire to go there and super thankful I have boys so I don't have to gag over princess stuff. - I'm probably called a helicopter mom sometimes, but it's usually because someone else's house isn't as prepared for a toddler as my own. And he's mine, I'll protect him if I feel like it. - I LOVE beets! I'm so glad other people do too! - I refuse to publicly discuss money. DH didn't even know how much I made when we got married. Because he didn't care and that was really important to me. My ex valued people in life based on what they brought in and it really scarred me. So yeah, I don't like talking about money/income/etc.
I think that talking about money is important in a relationship. How else do you know if you can realistically afford the life together that you want? Or plan for the future together?
For example, we have a couple that's living with us now in their 20s. They've never lived on their own and now that I'm pregnant they're moving out. They want to get an apartment, and they've been looking at really nice and expensive ones. But they never talked to each other about their finances and it turns out that they both have bad credit that the other one didn't know about. Now they have to re-evaluate their expectations when they could have gone into the situation knowing what they could afford.
@dirtanddiamonds My in-laws also have that mentality. They have payments on everything, cc’s practically maxed out, and will ask us for $$ to pay their property taxes. We don’t give them $$ anymore because they just spend any extra they have on unnecessary shit. DH’s brother is the same way. His wife just spent $200 on books at Barnes & Noble. Last month asked me to buy her kid a $65 birthday gift for his party this weekend because they couldn’t afford it. Um, no. I’ll stick to my budget thanks.
@livinthesunnylife that’s crazy to me that you didn’t have a discussion about money before you got married. I understand not wanting it to be an important value, but it’s also a logistic that needs to be worked through. There was a really good clip PBS did recently about money and marriage/couples that stressed the importance of financial compatibility. It just feels irresponsible to not at least talk about it (and obviously you’re fine and it worked for you guys which is great, but I can’t fathom it)
August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB
@melbel0824 fair point. We did discuss credit scores and not having debt. But too often relationships are based on the wrong thing and I think it's important for money not to even be a factor until way after love is.
@livinthesunnylife I absolutely agree with money not being the foundation of a relationship or even something that needs to be discussed early on.
I think in a more general sense, kids should be taught more about finances and credit. DH is a finance guy and he's trying to help the couple that lives with us better understand how to budget and how to solve their credit issues because they have no idea otherwise. Their parents didn't teach them or lead by a good example.
I got distracted by beets. I've never eaten beets. I can't get over the image of gelatinous sliced beets at the salad bar with bits of pasta salad sprinkled over them from people overloading their spoons.
I think maternity photos where people rest a little pair of shoes or name blocks on their bumps are....not my style....
- Disney is just overrated marketing for me. And my kid will not be going when I think there's better things to do. I do enjoy the older Disney movies, most of the new ones that aren't Pixar are just lame. Favorite Disney movie of all time for me? Robin Hood.
- I freaking LOVE beets. I eat canned, pickled, baked, and I love steamed beet greens.
- I do not have the aptitude for finances, I never have, and my husband gave up ages ago when trying to explain it. It makes me feel like I'm out of the loop of being a competent adult in a stable marriage, but it's just not my thing and goodness knows I've tried. I'm not sure if earlier intervention by my parents or school would have helped, but it may have. He does the budgeting, bill paying, and taxes, and I do everything else, so I guess it works for us?
After another shitty encounter at my mailbox this morning that just reinforces why I unfortunately don't walk to get the mail anymore, I guess my UO is that I do not like pit bulls. This particular dog once again charged me trying to open my truck door. I sat in my truck and honked the horn to no avail for a couple of minutes. Just as I was about to give up and drive back home, the house a short distance from our mailboxes has a police officer living there who came out with his night stick, he waved his hands and shouted at it, and finally the dog ran off. He and I talked a bit and he said he can't let his kids play out in the yard alone because he doesn't trust the dog.
The dog in question lives about a quarter mile down the road from where my mailbox is located, he has been limping for months with a large angry swelling on his rear leg that appears not having been seen to by a vet, he is left out all the time to run at cars on our county road (probably how his leg got hurt), and mostly from the trash I see strewn all over the yard eats garbage and roadkill. I've called animal control several times, but they refuse to come out to private property without landowner permission (lamest excuse ever).
Let me preface that I am an animal lover. I LOVE all sorts of animals...livestock, dogs, cats, birds, fish, reptiles, even tarantulas. And if you saw my house or met me in person you'd understand why my friends nicknamed me "The Zookeeper". But there's just something about pits that I don't trust. I don't care how cute you say they are, how cuddly you say they are, how friendly you say they are, how they come in that adorable shade of grey I love on a dog...I don't want to be around them, it makes me uncomfortable. I sure as hell don't understand why people with small children allow them to socialize together. Seeing local Facebook pictures of little kids hugging all over a dog that clearly looks uncomfortable with the situation just makes me cringe and toss an atheist prayer to the universe that the dog never snaps. They're in the category as a loaded bazooka for me. My beagle mutt isn't bred with the mentality to be aggressive or misplaced protective, but if he bites, you're not likely to die in one bite...not so with a pit. So many other good dogs to have as a family dog instead. It's so bad locally the local animal shelter doesn't even adopt them out anymore. It was too much work and money involved trying to assess their temperament and training, and then the liability if something were to go wrong, that they're just euthanized now after a week if no owner comes to claim them. It's sad all around.
Re: UO 3/1
@ecwk - I loooved my pregnancy with DS, this one has been harder on my body with the nausea and exhaustion but now that those are getting better I'm back to the 'squeeeeee! pregnancy!' mindset.
Not sure that this is an UO but I don't find terms like 'helicopter mom' or 'tiger mom' or any of those stereotypes funny or helpful if we're going to put a stop to the mommy wars. Unless a kid is in danger or being treated in an unhealthy manner I'm all for letting moms do what they do. This is probably because I'm called a helicopter mom occasionally but hey, it's how I choose to parent.
I'm also completely over all the unicorn food stuff that's out there. Unicorn hot cocoa, unicorn milkshake, once someone comes up with a unicorn grilled cheese I'm out.
yeah no.
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
But..but are you telling me that you don't at all find this appealing?
what is that anyway?!? That's not food.
Nope.
I can't.
Seriously - da fuq IS THAT???
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
It's essentially your basic grilled cheese but you split the cheese into four bowl and add food colouring (bleurgh) so that you have different shades. Then away you go!! Dare you to try it
Challenge accepted! I'm going to send the pic to DH and tell him that this is something I need in my life immediately, major pregnancy craving. (He's the grilled cheese maker in the house)
I'll update with photos.
I freakin love this board
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
But really, when the unicorn frap came out, my mom made a Shakeology version using different types of berries. She made three different batches. All that garbage is for Instagram photos. I just want to eat my food in a normal color. I’m not going to photograph it because I’m going to eat it immediately. I guess that’s my UO?
+1 on the Disney obsession. Just tacky imo.
Along same lines this may be uo : we do not intend to ever take out kids to Disney. I don’t think they will be deprived from not going, I never went as a kid and while I obviously wanted to, it was soooo not my parents bag, and we did other fun stuff.
and my ongoing up of being beyond ready for fb. This app sucks. I’m on fb all the time anyhow and I’m sure I’ll participate more there. I don’t really get the fear of it. Plus I really really need emojis!
11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
08/03/17 no hb 8w
Still a hard no on the FB group. I don't see the difference it would make, and honestly, I don't want to invite people into my personal life. Plus, I like the trolls for entertainment.
So. UO. Disney is fine 1-2 in a lifetime. I wasn’t that thrilled. So many other places to go. In the whole world. And if you are risking losing your car to go. Don’t go??
And secondly. People who use a Tax Return to live like rockstars and then go back to using the food pantry two weeks later. Why?!
either logging on and posting etc or I’m off for days.
No need to let anyone into
your private life by being in a fb group. You don’t actually have to friend them to be in a group together - just keep your fb locked down which is a good idea anyhow. I’m in lots of fb groups so I just don’t get the fear. They are soooo much easier.
11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
08/03/17 no hb 8w
@dirtanddiamonds I know a few people like that. We're asked pretty frequently how we "have it all figured out," and honestly - we DON'T - but we aren't stupid with money. We frequently vacation but that's because we don't do dumb stuff like buy a new house of furniture every 3 years.
My UO is that ALL FISH IS NASTY! All of it. Especially sushi. WHY TF would you eat raw fish? Even the cooked stuff is gross, though.
DH laughed and called me ridiculous but agreed to make it for me tonight.
Plus he's going to get me a backup Subway sandwich when I discover it's disgusting.
I'm more excited about this than I should be. Guess I'm not over all the unicorn food stuff after all.
Me: 37 Him: 38
Married 11.07.2015
Before I was married and had a baby coming, I would usually split my tax return between shopping and paying down my credit card from college. I don't see anything wrong with that, since I didn't have any obligations. But this year's return is being mostly put away for baby, aside from the money for an AirBnB for my nephew's Bar Mitzvah (because my SIL is also a turd).
Married: 6/2016
TTC #1: 12/2016
Benched due to deployment- Off the bench 8/8/17!
August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB
This is the only UO I could think of because I just saw someone had a salad in the fridge at work. I hate raw spinach! Cooked i fine but raw is nasty. I get a little angry when I order a salad and it has a ton of spinach instead of lettuce.
Our savings has gotten a bit low for our comfort level (new house is $$ lol). Even though I know it’s not a financially smart way to be, I’m glad we are getting a hefty refund to pad it again.
11/18/16 missed m/c 9w1
08/03/17 no hb 8w
I guess my UO is I love Disney World lol. Growing up my mom and grandma took us every other year or so, and it's a huge part of my childhood memories. I can't wait to take my kids there one day. But I'm also realistic enough to know that it's crazy expensive now, so going a couple times in their life is perfectly fine.
Agree @hardlyhannah, DH is responsible for finances in our home, that's his line of work and he loves doing it, but I feel super ignorant about it all. I should probably take more of an interest!!
+1 for no FB group yet. I'll be down for one in June/July. There still may be crazies to weed out by then! *coughLeecough*
-I don't get the Disney obsession either. No desire to go there and super thankful I have boys so I don't have to gag over princess stuff.
- I'm probably called a helicopter mom sometimes, but it's usually because someone else's house isn't as prepared for a toddler as my own. And he's mine, I'll protect him if I feel like it.
- I LOVE beets! I'm so glad other people do too!
- I refuse to publicly discuss money. DH didn't even know how much I made when we got married. Because he didn't care and that was really important to me. My ex valued people in life based on what they brought in and it really scarred me. So yeah, I don't like talking about money/income/etc.
For example, we have a couple that's living with us now in their 20s. They've never lived on their own and now that I'm pregnant they're moving out. They want to get an apartment, and they've been looking at really nice and expensive ones. But they never talked to each other about their finances and it turns out that they both have bad credit that the other one didn't know about. Now they have to re-evaluate their expectations when they could have gone into the situation knowing what they could afford.
August '18 March Siggy Challenge - You had ONE JOB
I think in a more general sense, kids should be taught more about finances and credit. DH is a finance guy and he's trying to help the couple that lives with us better understand how to budget and how to solve their credit issues because they have no idea otherwise. Their parents didn't teach them or lead by a good example.
I think maternity photos where people rest a little pair of shoes or name blocks on their bumps are....not my style....
- I freaking LOVE beets. I eat canned, pickled, baked, and I love steamed beet greens.
- I do not have the aptitude for finances, I never have, and my husband gave up ages ago when trying to explain it. It makes me feel like I'm out of the loop of being a competent adult in a stable marriage, but it's just not my thing and goodness knows I've tried. I'm not sure if earlier intervention by my parents or school would have helped, but it may have. He does the budgeting, bill paying, and taxes, and I do everything else, so I guess it works for us?
After another shitty encounter at my mailbox this morning that just reinforces why I unfortunately don't walk to get the mail anymore, I guess my UO is that I do not like pit bulls. This particular dog once again charged me trying to open my truck door. I sat in my truck and honked the horn to no avail for a couple of minutes. Just as I was about to give up and drive back home, the house a short distance from our mailboxes has a police officer living there who came out with his night stick, he waved his hands and shouted at it, and finally the dog ran off. He and I talked a bit and he said he can't let his kids play out in the yard alone because he doesn't trust the dog.
The dog in question lives about a quarter mile down the road from where my mailbox is located, he has been limping for months with a large angry swelling on his rear leg that appears not having been seen to by a vet, he is left out all the time to run at cars on our county road (probably how his leg got hurt), and mostly from the trash I see strewn all over the yard eats garbage and roadkill. I've called animal control several times, but they refuse to come out to private property without landowner permission (lamest excuse ever).
Let me preface that I am an animal lover. I LOVE all sorts of animals...livestock, dogs, cats, birds, fish, reptiles, even tarantulas. And if you saw my house or met me in person you'd understand why my friends nicknamed me "The Zookeeper". But there's just something about pits that I don't trust. I don't care how cute you say they are, how cuddly you say they are, how friendly you say they are, how they come in that adorable shade of grey I love on a dog...I don't want to be around them, it makes me uncomfortable. I sure as hell don't understand why people with small children allow them to socialize together. Seeing local Facebook pictures of little kids hugging all over a dog that clearly looks uncomfortable with the situation just makes me cringe and toss an atheist prayer to the universe that the dog never snaps. They're in the category as a loaded bazooka for me. My beagle mutt isn't bred with the mentality to be aggressive or misplaced protective, but if he bites, you're not likely to die in one bite...not so with a pit. So many other good dogs to have as a family dog instead. It's so bad locally the local animal shelter doesn't even adopt them out anymore. It was too much work and money involved trying to assess their temperament and training, and then the liability if something were to go wrong, that they're just euthanized now after a week if no owner comes to claim them. It's sad all around.