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lalala2004

pghctwife said:

I dint think I’ve mentioned it in ages and certainly not weekly but maybe others have (shrug). It’s up to date but KILLS my battery and I find it clunky, hard to navigate through 5 page threads, hard to tag etc. and hellllooooo emojis and reactions are fun maybe because I’m mostly on fb except this group it makes this forum seem frustrating.

I already mod one and don’t really want to mod 2 lol.., and it seems I’m not the only one lately who was ready so I mentioned . I truly don’t really understand the hesitation, honestly, which is why I’ve come back to reply.  

Try going back and rereading the thread, maybe? I’m not going to repeat myself.

izza2

lalala2004 said:

pghctwife said:

I dint think I’ve mentioned it in ages and certainly not weekly but maybe others have (shrug). It’s up to date but KILLS my battery and I find it clunky, hard to navigate through 5 page threads, hard to tag etc. and hellllooooo emojis and reactions are fun maybe because I’m mostly on fb except this group it makes this forum seem frustrating.

I already mod one and don’t really want to mod 2 lol.., and it seems I’m not the only one lately who was ready so I mentioned . I truly don’t really understand the hesitation, honestly, which is why I’ve come back to reply.  

Try going back and rereading the thread, maybe? I’m not going to repeat myself.

***dirty lurker***


ILY @lalala2004

Okay, leaving now.

aj1327

I used to hate emojis too but now I love them and probably way over use them. Oops. 

coffeecocktailsandcake

Sorry I missed all the UOs, we were in transit.  I hate to categorize animals, just like people, but our neighbor had a pit and when we were kids the out came into our yard and mauled our pet dog to death.  I know a LOT has to do with nurture, but after a personal experience I'm a huge nope nope to pits.  Sorry to say.

On the topic of FB, in case it can be useful later, I'm not ready now.  I'm afraid of catfish and creepos.  I'm hesitant to share a lot of personal things on tb but it is what it is.  I also feel if people migrated I'd be left behind, I feel like people don't know me very well.  I was gone for a few weeks and now when I'm here I'm on mobile so I don't tag people often to make personal connections, the app is glitchy, etc.  BUT, when we migrated last time it was about a month before mainstream deliveries.  We had a larger much more active board though and became a FB group of about 90.  We had about seven or eight people form an admission "board".  Basically, you ask to be added, the board had to have enough people saying "Yes this person has been active enough, let them in." There were people left behind on tb that were upset bc they felt it was a popularity contest or unfair, but there were people let in that many didn't like or that were constant trouble makers.  But they we're still let in bc it wasn't based on popularity, it was based on whether they were believed to be legit people and participated rather than lurking.  The group was secret, so unsearchable.  After you were in there were a few bigger group discussions on a few remaining people that wanted in that the "board" was unsure about.  After that we did a few creative things to establish identity.  We never had a catfish, but people were weeded out for lack of participation.  People left because of drama.  We made group rules, established admins, etc.  I felt very secure in that group and it was a huge part of my postpartum life.  I am pro Facebook, but later, after we know each other's personalities a little better.  This group seems so much smaller than my last.  There may be a few people that pop up in the next few months that would be great to have, and a few people leave.  

hardlyhannah

@coffeecocktailsandcake I am in the 'maybe not recognized enough' camp too. I would be fine going to FB, but don't really care either way. I go through my phases of when I am able to check in and not able to, so that's why I'm on the bubble I think. I 100% agree about how important the group is for those postpartum months though - who else can you turn to at all hours of the night nursing when most likely will also be awake? It's a huge help mentally to stay connected to other humans that aren't tiny.

LC12261012

Just want to add for those that said that the app kills their battery, I have that problem too and I found that putting my phone on low power mode before opening the app really helps a lot. 

livinthesunnylife

@hardlyhannah and @coffeecocktailsandcake you are both recognizable.  The not recognizable comment I made was directed at the 200+ people who introduced themselves and then never said anything else. 

delujm0

livinthesunnylife said:

@hardlyhannah and @coffeecocktailsandcake you are both recognizable.  The not recognizable comment I made was directed at the 200+ people who introduced themselves and then never said anything else. 

Well, they introduced themselves and then AWed their ultrasound pics, and otherwise nothing haha.  Because who doesn't love to see the inside of a stranger's uterus.

hardlyhannah

@livinthesunnylife well I'm glad my disappearing acts don't exclude me from the eventual FB fun! #imrealipromise #justeasilydistracted

legallykate

Sorry I have been MIA, I had a huge hearing yesterday and was offline all day (and soooo exhausted). Playing catch up/slacking off at work today since I have already worked an insane amount this week. 

I totally don't get the Disney obsession either, my best friend from college goes to World with her husband and three kids like FOUR TIMES A YEAR. I seriously think I'd rather die. We went to World twice as kids, I was like 9 and 11 and my brother was two years younger and it was fun both times but that was totally enough. DH and I went to Land together a couple years ago and it was jbasically torture, so crowded and so much walking and standing in line, not my thing at all.

DH and I know everything about each other's finances (we learned everything when we bought our condo together a year before we got married) but we don't really combine them. I make a lot more money but also have a huge student loan payment, whereas he makes less but has no debt and a good amount in savings so it works out, like he paid the DP on our condo and I pay the mortgage. We don't ever worry about it when we go out to eat or whatever, one of us just pays and we don't track it, but we did split our wedding and honeymoon 50/50. I am sure I will spend way more on stuff for the baby but only because I want to buy more stuff than he would. 

hfooter

lalala2004 said:

You can figure out a lot about someone just knowing their name. There have been situation on TB with people having their workplace called and harassed because someone was unhappy with them. There have also been cat fishing instances. We can’t be sure everyone here is who they say they are. People have gone to great lengths to decieve people on the internet. Everyone’s concerns are very valid. The longer we stay anonymous, the longer we may figure out if anyone here is BSC, a catfish, etc. Nothing is every certain, but the longer we wait the less likely any of this is. This isn’t unfounded paranoia, because crazy shit has gone down.

Yes I’ve seen it in my other board. The super crazy put on a good show for a long long time. Like I think the kids were one by the time it all came to light. I normally have a good feeling about the crazies so I didn’t contribute money to her fund...lol so I guess I’m not too concerned although I’ve see it.

pghctwife

Yes I read all the comments, I’m on two bmb that went to fb by this point thst are very tight, drama was just because... women, and I’ve never seen identity issues. I adore my bmb groups and am honestly coming from a place of good and really wanting to get that for this baby too. The closeness came once we were on fb. I guess I can try to find a random fb group but I dunno.., my other groups were from here. And I really like this group. Really truly! I am frustrated bc i do find it hard to get on here, and Being almos 1/2way seems like a decently long time. 

Im on an iPhone and it does drain my battery very fast. I work 2 days a week and can’t use the computer there (plus I’m too busy for bumping, I usually just check my email or my fb notifications on my phone there - and my phone gets less of a signal anyhow so battery x 10. 

Im 100% mobile so if I’m waiting for a desktop im waiting forever lol. I use an iPhone and it drops really fast when I’m logged on (or if I forget to totally shut it down). I’m at home with my kids otherwise which means I’m not sitting around plugged in, I’m running errands then check my phone whilebim
waitung at the school for pickup, or between chore etc. as I’m sure most of us do. So the battery thing gets annoying... otherwise it usually lasts a all day. My phone is fairly new too, got it this fall. I think my pop in pop out way of life makes it hard too... I don’t see notifications unless I have the app open when it happens. 

And im really happy to let this die lol. But I wanted to be clear, especially that 100% mobile really means 100%. 

OH and emojis are great so there really I find them useful when everything is in text to convey that something is meant as a joke, or whatever, because it seems like soften things can be taken the wrong way without the benefit of body language or expression, tone of voice. I am just overcompensating here by doing my normal overrxplaining

lalala2004

@pghctwife no one is discounting the benefits of a Facebook group. It will happen. There just clearly aren’t enough people comfortable with it at this point. I have an iPhone and I don’t have these battery draining issues. I always close my apps when I’m done, and I also have a car charger, so I get a chance to charge my phone anytime I’m in there.

pghctwife

I don’t know. Seems to not only be me but maybe there’s a reason some are worse than others. I charge when I’m in the car too, but I’m mostly not in one place lol. 

I really wish wish I could just not use the app at all and just go on desktop mode in my browser bc I super miss the sigs but it was always crashing or eating what I typed. It has been a while, I should try that again I guess maybe it got fixed. It’s hard to remember who’s who without seeing anything but the name (and itsy bitsy avatar).

elsieisamoocow

For me the app is slightly battery draining, but my biggest annoyance with it is that it’s really unresponsive. To go in and out of the threads I have to click on the topic or arrow at least 3-4 times, sometimes more, before it starts to happen. Half the time I’m using the app I just sit there tapping the screen trying to catch up. Thankfully I’m a SAHM so I’m able to at least catch up on my laptop during nap time and bed time, but I’m annoyed that in the almost 5 years I’ve used this app, it’s gotten no better *facepalm*

lalala2004

@elsieisamoocow I find it easier to just go to the link to our board at the bottom of each page (right under where you post). It’s way more responsive than that back arrow.

pghctwife

I also still forget that I can’t just swipe to go back and am always trying lol. I usually use the link too but sometimes you need back (like when you accidentally vlivk on a name instead of a topic). Half the time it’s fine, the other half it takes 7 tries

I wish our laptop worked but it’s basically dead, and we honestly have no need for one at this point

melprop

 I’m 100% mobile, but I don’t use the app at all. I just open TB on my Safari browser. It seems to be way easier to use than the app. 

mrslittlemac

Also 100% mobile here, but don't have the app installed. I go to the mobile browser and while it is painfully slo-o-o-ow and my stupid $50 LG POS phone does really weird things if ever I have to edit in the middle of posting, (and using apostrophes tends to summon demons), it's manageable. Don't use rogue emojis and the bump will rarely eat your posts. The format has to be forum supported. It is smart enough to convert basic ones, but to be safe just use the dropdown menu and search for the one you want. 

pghctwife

I’ll try the browser again. It was constantly crashing and freezing before even just scrolling but esp typing, but maybe it’s better now. 

kc0711

@lalala2004 clicking on the link at the bottom just changed my life. The back arrow for me so rarely works, but the link works every time. Thank you!!

ecwk

kc0711 said:

@lalala2004 clicking on the link at the bottom just changed my life. The back arrow for me so rarely works, but the link works every time. Thank you!!

OMG SAME!!!!!!!!

melissaf22

Thank you for telling us about the link at the bottom that stupid back button made me cuss at the phone 

melbel0824

Thanks from me too @lalala2004 I had no idea that even existed. Which is dumb because it’s right there haha

lalala2004

Haha, wow, I’m surprised so many people hadn’t tried it

redheadbride15

Yes, the link on the bottom is key on the app! But also infuriating if you want to change to another thread when you’re not at the bottom and then you have to scroll allllllllllllll the way down.

elsieisamoocow

I didn’t know about the bottom link either lol. That solves half of my problem then. Still glitchy but better!

princesslockness

The ‘ my birth club’ button does the same thing, without having to be at the bottom of the thread.

elsieisamoocow

princesslockness said:

The ‘ my birth club’ button does the same thing, without having to be at the bottom of the thread.

I don’t have that button. At the top it’s only community, the bump month clubs, and inbox

princesslockness

elsieisamoocow said:

princesslockness said:

The ‘ my birth club’ button does the same thing, without having to be at the bottom of the thread.

I don’t have that button. At the top it’s only community, the bump month clubs, and inbox

It should be at the bottom of the page, just above the ‘community’ button. It just doesn’t scroll down.

lalala2004

princesslockness said:

elsieisamoocow said:

princesslockness said:

The ‘ my birth club’ button does the same thing, without having to be at the bottom of the thread.

I don’t have that button. At the top it’s only community, the bump month clubs, and inbox

It should be at the bottom of the page, just above the ‘community’ button. It just doesn’t scroll down.

I’ve never seen that. Are you on Apple, android, or mobile browser?

princesslockness

Apple.

elsieisamoocow

@princesslockness nope, only buttons on the bottom are “home” and “August 2018 moms”

I’m on Apple too.

scottishlass1213

My button is at the top in my app

princesslockness

elsieisamoocow said:

@princesslockness nope, only buttons on the bottom are “home” and “August 2018 moms”

I’m on Apple too.

Not the bottom of the thread. The bottom of the actual app. Very bottom of the app has ‘home, community, calendar, guides, more’ as buttons. On the row above that, is ‘my birth club’ and ‘all forums’

if this works, it’s on the picture.

pghctwife

^ definitely don’t have that

pghctwife

scottishlass1213

Yeah my version doesn’t look like that either! So weird. 

meeks2020

@pghctwife do you see under your reply section how it says Home•August 2018 Moms.  Click the August

lalala2004

That’s bizarre. My app has a completely different design. Have you just never updated it?