Weekly Randoms 2/19

livinthesunnylife

What say you?

carrotsandpeas3

So I gave myself a 3 day weekend because I have vacation time to burn and only certain days/months I can use it. So basically I got nothing done the rest of the weekend since I knew I had today off work. Now I feel like I have to be productive today or I've wasted an entire long weekend! All I've managed all morning is running to get a quick haircut. My to do list is a mile long and seems insurmountable at this point. Help!

lolog531

I finally bit the bullet and am wearing maternity jeans today. I’ve been wearing mostly leggings, but my jeans can just not fit comfortably anymore. I’m not sure why I waited this long - I forgot how much more comfortable they are! I feel like they make me look way more pregnant than normal clothes, too. 13 weeks this week, so I’m at the point I just need to embrace it! 

neeraja_k

I'm currently hiding from a drama prone friend. Which means staying logged off Facebook and uninstalling Messenger from my phone. Seriously Zuckerberg, give me an "invisible" option like nearly every other chat platform in existence.

I was going to go to the post office and mail a package, but I didn't realize president's day was actually a holiday that places take off for. So, ixnay that. Didn't want to venture out in the rain anyway, yeah!

I didn't get as much housework accomplished over the weekend as I'd hoped. So today I need to tackle...The Kitchen. Yurgh.

livinthesunnylife

@neeraja_k Can't you just log out of messenger?  I haven't tried to hide from anyone lately

jsnakehole

I have off from my main job but I'm still
putting in six hours at my second job this week. I'm giving myself today to be lazy, and then tomorrow I start working on lesson plans for when I go back to work. 

carrotsandpeas3

@neeraja_k I used to be able to hide from someone on FB chat back in the day before the messenger app existed? I created a "blocked list" and it essentially made it look like I wasn't online without completely unfriending him (My college roommate's ex-BF got a little creepy after they broke up.) I'm not sure how that works with the messenger app though.

neeraja_k

@livinthesunnylife Not that I've found. I've tried turning the "active" status off which should theoretically hide your online status, but she still sees me online the moment I even so much as look at the time on my phone. I haven't found a log out for it, either. I'm tempted to leave it uninstalled for good. 

carrotsandpeas3

@neeraja_k i think we were typing at the same time. Maybe uninstalling is a good thing. Unnecessary drama=unnecessary stress in my book!

melbel0824

I just got done with my 12 week appointment. Got to finally hear the heartbeat and see the baby again. Plus I did the genetic blood work so I should know the sex next week! My first appointment was terrible so I feel much better now. 

windywoman

I m getting blood drawn for the NIPT today. I think I might have to call my OBs office because no one has asked me if we want to find out the sex or not and I am so afraid they are going to tell my once they get the results. 

I went to a little get together to meet my friends baby and her mom made this awesome dip that I could not stop eating. I really wish I would have snuck the rest into my purse because now I am craving it! I might have to make DH stop at a store for the ingredients after work!

scottishlass1213

DS’s daycare is closed for teacher in service so I am working from home today because it’s not a holiday for me, and DH who usually has today off is gone. However, both my parents are off and took DS to the movies and I went grocery shopping and am now working while watching some Housewives hahaha

Firemanswife11

Back at work today after being off Friday with the sick kiddo. He was a total monster threenager yesterday, so I was actually glad to hand him off to day care. I know that sounds bad, but he was just awful! My husband and I looked at each other and mouthed "W-T-F" several times yesterday. 

Anyway...thankfully neither myself nor DH have come down with DS' strep, so that's good. Hopefully we totally dodged it! 

legallykate

lolog531 said:

I finally bit the bullet and am wearing maternity jeans today. I’ve been wearing mostly leggings, but my jeans can just not fit comfortably anymore. I’m not sure why I waited this long - I forgot how much more comfortable they are! I feel like they make me look way more pregnant than normal clothes, too. 13 weeks this week, so I’m at the point I just need to embrace it! 

I'm wearing full panel maternity slacks and a maternity top today and look like 6 months pregnant but am sooo comfortable! 

Jealous of everyone who is off today, we don't get today off for some reason even though courts are closed. 

Firemanswife11

@legallykate I swear this is the "one" holiday that we don't get off working in government. It makes no sense. We get a lot of other random holidays off that no one else gets ... so I guess I should suck it up and try to look busy! 

mrsbubbles-2

@legallykate - ditto, sitting here at work and not happy about it.

Hooray for everyone wearing maternity clothes! I'm trying out the cross-panel thing from Target today and it's so weird to not have the full panel all around my back. I can see how it'll be nice in the summer though, full belly support but no additional back sweat lol!

scottishlass1213

Firemanswife11 said:

@legallykate I swear this is the "one" holiday that we don't get off working in government. It makes no sense. We get a lot of other random holidays off that no one else gets ... so I guess I should suck it up and try to look busy! 

Are you state govt? DH is federal and he would be off today if he was home. 

calimom2524

I'm actually really happy to be at work today. DS2 doesn't have an off button and talks from the second he's awake and only stops to put food in his mouth before he's mr. chatterbox again. I was so worried he would never talk and now I can't get him to stop. 

delujm0

My job just started giving us presidents day off this year.  I was so psyched to have another day like MLK day where work is closed but daycare is open so I can get shit done.  And then daycare made today a teacher training day, so they are closed too.  Bastards.

Firemanswife11

@scottishlass1213 local. But we get like 15 holidays a year lol. 

ecwk

Maybe it’s just because I’m wearing my maternity tops and I’ve told everyone now so I’m not sucking it all in but I have POPPED! I mean,
it’s not like I had a flat stomach before but now I look like I did at 5/6 months last time! The kids at school are going to be weirded out that I wasn’t looking pregnant before the break and I come back looking huge

hezzer78

I have a feeling I'll be in maternity clothes soon. I'm trying to delay that bullet as long as possible. I really hate to buy a bunch of maternity clothes for work that I"ll only wear for a few months - considering 3 months I'll be off and can lounge around in shorts and dresses. 

I did buy a bella band - I hope that works to keep me in my current wardrobe for a little while longer. 

@Brezzy1928 What is this magical dip you speak of?? You can't say something like that and then not give a recipe

livinthesunnylife

 I have a LeTote membership, it helps with having fun new maternity clothes to wear without actually buying anything.  I pay a monthly fee and I get 3 clothing items per week.  I haven't actually bumped up to the maternity box yet, I'm just getting bigger shirts right now in the normal sizes.

calimom2524

I'm here but I'm in a super unsocial mood so I'm mostly just lurking. I pretty much just feel sick to my stomach and I want to cry all the time because of the situation at home. It'll pass I'm sure but for now, I'm a lurker. 

juliebird6

@calimom2524 love tit = internet hug for you. Sorry you're having such a shitty day.  

windywoman

@hezzer78 It is Cheddar, Pimentos and Pecans. It sounds weird but man is it good. 
Here is the recipe I found for it - https://allrecipes.com/recipe/77692/pimento-cheese-spread-ii/
It was sweet and spicy. 

legallykate

@calimom2524:

carrotsandpeas3

@calimom2524 I'm so sorry you aren't getting family support. Hugs.

I think I overdid it today. Been on a cleaning frenzy and now having terrible low back cramps. Still nowhere near done but definitely taking a break and laying flat on my bed for a bit. Feel like my body is betraying me!

neeraja_k

Aww @calimom2524 We got you, don't lurk. Good friends are better than angry family any day. (hugs)

So far owing to my already prodigious boobage, most of my shirts are already oversized a bit, so I haven't been showing too much unless I wear something a bit more clingy, which is rare. But even my jeggings have been tight in the waistband in the last week or so. Our budget has been drastically cut back to the point I had to raid my change purse to mail a package the other day, so I'm not sure how I'm expected to afford new clothes.

So...my husband is insistent on moving us out of the house we've lived in for 15 years, because he wants out from under the high mortgage payment, and he wants to pare down our junk before our eventual move to Montana (and before the economy tanks again). I get it, I'm sad, but I get it.

Only we're apparently on two different pages concerning the latter. I was understanding we'd move after the baby was born (where I have a doctor I like, a hospital I trust, and decent health insurance)....but he's talking about moving us before my due date, making me establish new care somewhere else and the stress of not having insurance is giving me fits already. If he were going from his good job and benefits here to something equally good out there, I'd feel differently. But he's not even really looking for jobs as far as I know, and if he is, it's entrepreneur stay-at-home database programming jobs that don't really pay or have insurance, we'd have to be at the mercy of the state exchanges and we all know how that's working these days. I'm classified as high risk, so good luck to me? 

By his rationale, by the time I give birth in late August I'm not going to want to do anything for a few months with a newborn, and theoretically it'd be impossible to move across the country after September due to weather, so we'd be stuck here till late Spring 2019. He's not opposed to it, but he's desperate to gtfo of here because I have no support to help with a baby, like I'm incapable of learning or something. 

Then add on top of all of that the rudeness of finally giving my mom and grandma a grandkid and then moving away, and they'll likely never see it again as I doubt we'll have the time or money to come back to visit, and they sure as hell aren't driving or flying out there. So. 

I'm freaking the fuck out over here. Anyone have experience cross-country moving before giving birth, or shortly after? 

juliebird6

@neeraja_k No advice, just big hugs.  That sounds really stressful.

mrsbubbles-2

@neeraja_k - no advice here either but that sounds like a big decision. So, you said that he wants to move before baby comes so you guys will have more support, would your move take you closer to family? It's tough to weigh the benefits / risks of moving now vs later, I'm sorry. I hope you both come up with a solution that will work.

@calimom2524 we're here when you're ready. If you want to just vent we'll listen.

livinthesunnylife

@neeraja_k I moved 2 miles (literally) at 5M pregnant last time and it was stressful.  Physically I was exhausted from all the packing & unpacking.  And I wasn't much help with any of the really big stuff.  But also I just wanted to nest and set up a nursery for my little one and I couldn't do that until we got into the new place. 

Giving up health insurance during my pregnancy, like by choice, would be a hard no for me.  Could you afford to buy the COBRA from his current plan so you could maintain your coverage and not have to start a new deductible?

neeraja_k

@mrsbubbles-2 Yes, all of his family will be in the area where we're moving, so a brother with 3 kids and a sister with 2 kids, and his mom. So it's better as far as having experienced people around, and resources for quality doctors I suppose. 

@livinthesunnylife He said he was going to check into how much COBRA would be to maintain our current health plan, but he feels it'll be out of reach for us financially, as his company pays something like 80% of it. And I'm inclined to agree with you on the hard no. This is a big thing for me, life wise, and I realize there may be complications down the road that aren't presenting themselves right now. All he sees is a wife who doesn't look or act pregnant and things seem to be going well. And I think that trumps the desire to be around his family atm, for me anyway. I just don't want to rush into a decision with potentially catastrophic results, either health or financial. =/

Besides, waiting gives us more time for my insular family to come to terms with that it's just going to be my mom and grandma left here, and they hate each other. We've been trying to "encourage" grandma to go check out the local assisted living facility, unbeknownst to her that we're wanting to move, but she's being resistant still. And mom isn't helping with the encouragement, even though it'd be beneficial for her in the long-run as well. 

aj1327

@neeraja_k all that is so stressful. No advice but I’m sorry you’re dealing with all that! 

coffeecocktailsandcake

@neeraja_k moving is a big part of our life over here.  We were originally supposed to move a month before the baby came and I was like, whatever, we'll just do it.  Now we're not moving until about 9 months after and I honestly think that will be way harder.  But Ill have two kids.  My first was not a good sleeper so moving in the newborn stage would have been a nightmare.  I sleep train at four months and life drastically improves when you and baby are both getting sleep, so me personally I'd avoid moving during the first few months.  Honestly if something were to happen and we had to move right after this baby was born I would move alone without my husband and get set up before the baby was born!!! Lol! We always have pocket plans.  I'm no help on the insurance front.

mrsbubbles-2

@neeraja_k - I gotcha. So... I think that I'd not only be a hard no on the  insurance thing but also to need to establish new care in the new city. With the GD if you've found comfort in your care team in your current location I would do what I could to stay until after baby is born. Your medical records can be transferred of course but having that history with your doctor and trusting that they'll make the right call for you is just such piece of mind. Again, just my thoughts so grain of salt...

carrotsandpeas3

@neeraja_k insurance would be the biggest deal breaker for me. Maybe talking to your husband about that part will push him to start looking for different sort of jobs in Montana... Unless those kind of jobs aren't available there?

coffeecocktailsandcake

Sorry, coming back to say, why are you considered high risk? Is it the gd? I'm considered high risk as well but for relatively low risk things.  If I were to have to find a new provider in the third trimester I would be ok with it, but my circumstances might be different.  As far as I know the baby is healthy so the biggest deterrent to a new provider is just my own anxiety.  That I can overcome.  If you get yourself set up before you move, find a provider, make that first appointment, ensure your records are already received, you may feel better knowing that someone at your new home is aware of you, your situation, and you have a contact to call for any pregnancy concerns. Long post, hope that helps a little.

coffeecocktailsandcake

Another post! I was in the high risk check in and see your high risk list.  I'm not an OB but I do have background in medical.  With your conditions, as long as you and the baby are monitored and there are no complications I would think you would be safe to move before delivery (checking with your provider of course).  I don't know how that would affect your insurance though.  I don't know much about the markets and preexisting conditions, etc.  

livinthesunnylife

Pre-existing conditions are not legal anymore (Obamacare).  But you can still have to restart a deductible, which if you've already paid a lot to your current OB could result in a lot of out of pocket costs. 

derbysquirrel

Today is a work holiday for DH, which means he gets to work from home for triple time pay! I love holidays! We're watching the Olympics and he's earning a ridiculous amount of money for doing less work than normal, since most of his clients have the day off (he's in IT). He volunteers to work virtually every holiday unless we have big (meaning out of town) plans.