@lindsayleigh1989 I didn't think about it at first, but my SIL has been pregnant 4 times (pregnant now, due in June) and she throws up the entire time, every time. I definitely hope this is not your fate!! But, for her the puking is normal, so someone can relate at least. haha
@smashjam What the heck! I don't understand how big, important details fall through the cracks like that! I'm so sorry you're having a rough time with them, I know where you give birth and feeling comfortable is very important.
@LadyJ2949 all of the flockofmoosens are me, lol! I forgot why I made three of them, though! Happened so long ago....My sn references a Brian Regan joke about the plural of moose.
@SmashJam WTH? I'm sure it takes 5 minutes to send a new order for the correct blood work. I'd pitch a fit. There is no excuse for you not to be able to have the blood test. Like, take the time to do your job correctly. You can have the second tri screen between 15 and 20 weeks so I think you have plenty of time.
Married 9/19/09 Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
TTC#1 starting Nov. 2009 3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12 TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15. Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15. Forever in our hearts. TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
@smashjam that's so annoying! Mine wasn't as serious, but my doc waited until my 16th week check-up to give me the orders to book the anatomy scan. When I called, most places were booked and now I have to drive 35 min one way in the middle of the day to get it done. It's a scan everyone does no matter what, so I wish I had had the orders sooner. Your case is way more annoying because it's a complete oversight while filling out paperwork.
@LadyJ2949 that "thing" is terrifying! How is that something cool to hang on a wall?
I got da Spectra pump from insurance and while we are still undecided about baby #2 I plan to keep it just in case:)
@SmashJam unbelievable! How frustrating! My doctor said I could go between 16-18 weeks, but I’m sure there’s a little more wiggle room. I hope you still have time and they can get you in stat.. that’s unacceptable!
Thanks all for the support! So they called back and said they would not redo the bloodwork, but I could call and talk to them about "what I hoped to gain from the extra test." I left a shitty message and told them not to bother to call back...but then I wondered why I couldn't get the test so I called again and it turns out that the lab just doesn't like to have to reports cuz it confuses doctors! The genetic counselor admitted it was her mistake and they made an exception so I get to go in tomorrow to get the second part done. They also gave me my results for the first tri screening which were done 2.5 weeks ago (wtf?) And I'm low risk for everything that tests for (yay!) But will have a different set of numbers for the second tri screening. Whew. So good news after a lot of frustration.
@flockofmoosen3 I also wonder3d if all the flockofmoosens were you lol!
I had to tell my bff yesterday that she and I are on a break.
It sucks, she's the Phoebe Buffay to my Monica Geller, and I miss her already. She's one of the most amazing people I know, but her life is super dramatic. 50% of her drama is totally outside her control like her health and the fact that she's the sole provider for her elderly, alcoholic, meth addict of a father, and the other 50% is because she's got such a big heart, she can't help but to mix into other people's drama.
I have too much going on with myself right now with work and pregnancy, so I don't have the emotional or mental bandwidth to deal with her chaos and also be healthy. She's never been pregnant herself, so part of it is she doesn't understand where I'm at currently and I'm tired of trying to be there for her craziness. Hopefully things will be better later, but for now I'm having to be selfish and take a break.
ETA: I've also tried (gently) to persuade her to get into counseling for the anxiety and other things she deals with, but she won't do it.
@noideawhatshesdoing I feel like there was a Sex and the City where everyone had to tell Carrie to get her shit together and get a counselor because they literally could no longer deal with hearing about her and only her problems.
@SmashJam, serious cluster, glad it got resolved! @noideawhatshesdoing I'm sad to hear this but it sounds like you're making the right decision especially if it was impacting you - this is a time to shelter yourself from drama whenever possible. I will say I've been warned that some friendships will change, so far I've seen a couple actually grow stronger as I couldn't believe how incredibly happy some of my childless friends were to hear about this baby:) but I can see others struggling a bit.
@SmashJam It is a little bit like that. She's amazing, but really needs to get some professional help. She's dealing with a lot and it's gotten beyond a simple vent session.
@kissableviv I'm completely prepared for some friendships to change. BFF is over the moon excited for us, but not having been through it herself she can't relate, so it's hard for her to understand. She also doesn't work and doesn't understand that working from home doesn't mean I'm watching Ellen and eating ice cream all day, so she'll call at like 11 and ask what I'm doing. Um, working! I know she and another mutual friend who had a baby a year and a half ago had a bit of a falling out, and I never really knew what happened, but I suspect it was a similar situation. The difference there is bff doesn't know what happened because the other friend basically ghosted on her.
@lindsayleigh1989 thanks! She seemed to take it well, or at least better than I expected. So hard!
I just feel like a bit of a jerk because she's going through a lot personally, her bladder cancer is back, drama with her dad, and a bunch of other crap.That I can be there for, it's the other 50% of stuff I can't even.
As an example, yesterday she called me at 5 am, didn't leave a message and then turned off her phone. She's never up before 9, so for her to call that early meant something was wrong. I half expected she was going in for an emergency surgery.
She later texted to tell me she was headed up to the hospital because her cousin's 4 month old was back in the ICU, she spent most of December up at the hospital with this cousin and the baby, but before the kid was born hadn't been close to the cousin at all. Then another friend was in the ICU with pneumonia. Then another friend with a heart condition was headed to the ER with chest pains. And she was upset because now she had to choose which person to support. I reminded her all these people already have the support of their parents, grandparents and spouses, and while all of us appreciate her big heart and desire to help, sometimes that is too much. I love her, but she's like a busybody grandma.
Oh man - so, we're flying to Montana on 3/8 to visit my BFF for a week. My VP told me last week that she nominated me for a new project/committee. I just heard from them that the meeting dates are 3/6-3/7 in NYC. So I'll be flying to NY on 3/5, back to TX on 3/7 and then to MT on 3/8. That's a lot of flying for anyone, let alone a pregnant woman!
I'm also betting myself $5 that my husband has his mom come stay here while I'm gone to help with DD. Insert eyeroll here. I traveled on a one day trip last year (fly in the AM back in the PM) and he called them to come over. He put her down for a nap at 4:00. They showed up at 5:30 when I was getting on my flight. Yeah, she never woke up again just fell asleep for the night at 4:00 that day. HAHAHA!
@noideawhatshesdoing That's sad that you're having to take a break from your BFF, but you have to focus on keeping yourself in a good place right now. It sounds like she does have some issues that need to be addressed. Like she needs to learn some boundaries and that, while she cares for those people, she's not the Only Person who can be there for them, and their problems are not automatically her problems. I think you're making a good decision for yourself and hope that your friend will get some help for the extra problems she's taking on for herself.
Anatomy scan went great!!! The baby was super cooperative they asked us to use our scan as an example for some board certification. Lol. Kid needs to start earning his keep in utero! I'm so relieved! The only "issue" is that the cord is off centered I guess and curving slightly which in 1% of the cases can cause the baby to be too small. So they are giving me another ultrasound in 4 weeks just to be safe. Hurrah for additional free ultrasounds! He's literally growing within one day of his due date. I have 30 pictures although most of them are anatomy parts I can't even recognize.
Also, it was a 2 HOUR appointment! I had an early lunch but I was so starving afterwards I devoured a peanut butter smoothie bowl before I went back to work. One more box exam out of the way!
@comealongponds I remember that came up on my last bmb. I believe august or sept had a catfish too someone with an alterego got caught and continues to randomly pop up from tkme to time
Just got back from our baby basics class...extremely informative. DH was so attentive in class and answered a lot of questions others kept quiet on. Proud wife moment.
I disappeared for a while, but I’m going to try to get back in more regularly! I have lots to catch up on! If I missed anything good, tag me and let me know what I missed!! I haven’t read any posts in about two weeks (maybe that should go in FFFC lol).
In the past few weeks we have had the sickness pass through our house, bought a new house, listed our house, got a new baby niece and had our anatomy scan with the high risk specialist. What a whirlwind! We are so relieved to know that both babies are measuring right on track and both are getting good blood flow through their umbilical cords! The doctor is fairly confident we’ll have a healthy pregnancy with no twin twin transfusion, but is recommending ultrasounds every two weeks to keep an eye on it.
Well. My H just got let go from his job. With no warning whatsoever, and the way it went down is extremely suspicious. I mean, he had people calling him and warning him that his assistant manager wanted to take over his store and was out to get him and to watch his back, and here we are, a week later. Cue freak out from 19 week pregnant wife. There goes my health insurance. So here I am, sitting at work crying and shaking and having a panic attack trying to figure out how my family is going to survive this.
trying to tell myself "don't get banned she isnt worth it" but man having a hard time not telling this person how I really feel. You feel me on this @wildtot?
@4deep Agreed that the app is annoying and slow. Although I do have an iphone 5c that is barely surviving, so that could be contributing to my issues. I've been on less recently because the app requires way too much patience...
@SmashJam Sounds so frustrating. I'm also part of a big hospital/provider system and I find that if I'm not constantly following up, nothing gets done. Or they don't give me the referral I need unless I specifically remind them, etc.
Excited to hear about all the first kicks and anatomy scans! And sympathy to all who are sick...lots of people in my office have had the flu and other illnesses and I've basically barricaded myself in my office with hand sanitizer.
Re: Weekday Randoms 2/12-2/16
I donated my pump as well and now insurance won't cover a new one. That's what I get for thinking it'll be awhile between babies! lol!
@lindsayleigh1989 I didn't think about it at first, but my SIL has been pregnant 4 times (pregnant now, due in June) and she throws up the entire time, every time. I definitely hope this is not your fate!! But, for her the puking is normal, so someone can relate at least. haha
@smashjam What the heck! I don't understand how big, important details fall through the cracks like that! I'm so sorry you're having a rough time with them, I know where you give birth and feeling comfortable is very important.
Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues
TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui
TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12
TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks
Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15. Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15. Forever in our hearts.
TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
@LadyJ2949 that "thing" is terrifying! How is that something cool to hang on a wall?
I got da Spectra pump from insurance and while we are still undecided about baby #2 I plan to keep it just in case:)
@LadyJ2949 how appetizing!
@flockofmoosen3 I also wonder3d if all the flockofmoosens were you lol!
It sucks, she's the Phoebe Buffay to my Monica Geller, and I miss her already. She's one of the most amazing people I know, but her life is super dramatic. 50% of her drama is totally outside her control like her health and the fact that she's the sole provider for her elderly, alcoholic, meth addict of a father, and the other 50% is because she's got such a big heart, she can't help but to mix into other people's drama.
I have too much going on with myself right now with work and pregnancy, so I don't have the emotional or mental bandwidth to deal with her chaos and also be healthy. She's never been pregnant herself, so part of it is she doesn't understand where I'm at currently and I'm tired of trying to be there for her craziness. Hopefully things will be better later, but for now I'm having to be selfish and take a break.
ETA: I've also tried (gently) to persuade her to get into counseling for the anxiety and other things she deals with, but she won't do it.
@noideawhatshesdoing I'm sad to hear this but it sounds like you're making the right decision especially if it was impacting you - this is a time to shelter yourself from drama whenever possible. I will say I've been warned that some friendships will change, so far I've seen a couple actually grow stronger as I couldn't believe how incredibly happy some of my childless friends were to hear about this baby:) but I can see others struggling a bit.
@kissableviv I'm completely prepared for some friendships to change. BFF is over the moon excited for us, but not having been through it herself she can't relate, so it's hard for her to understand. She also doesn't work and doesn't understand that working from home doesn't mean I'm watching Ellen and eating ice cream all day, so she'll call at like 11 and ask what I'm doing. Um, working! I know she and another mutual friend who had a baby a year and a half ago had a bit of a falling out, and I never really knew what happened, but I suspect it was a similar situation. The difference there is bff doesn't know what happened because the other friend basically ghosted on her.
@lindsayleigh1989 thanks! She seemed to take it well, or at least better than I expected. So hard!
I just feel like a bit of a jerk because she's going through a lot personally, her bladder cancer is back, drama with her dad, and a bunch of other crap.That I can be there for, it's the other 50% of stuff I can't even.
As an example, yesterday she called me at 5 am, didn't leave a message and then turned off her phone. She's never up before 9, so for her to call that early meant something was wrong. I half expected she was going in for an emergency surgery.
She later texted to tell me she was headed up to the hospital because her cousin's 4 month old was back in the ICU, she spent most of December up at the hospital with this cousin and the baby, but before the kid was born hadn't been close to the cousin at all. Then another friend was in the ICU with pneumonia. Then another friend with a heart condition was headed to the ER with chest pains. And she was upset because now she had to choose which person to support. I reminded her all these people already have the support of their parents, grandparents and spouses, and while all of us appreciate her big heart and desire to help, sometimes that is too much. I love her, but she's like a busybody grandma.
I'm also betting myself $5 that my husband has his mom come stay here while I'm gone to help with DD. Insert eyeroll here. I traveled on a one day trip last year (fly in the AM back in the PM) and he called them to come over. He put her down for a nap at 4:00. They showed up at 5:30 when I was getting on my flight. Yeah, she never woke up again just fell asleep for the night at 4:00 that day. HAHAHA!
Ladies who are getting migraines--if you haven't tried essential oils, I just read an article saying that this works incredibly well: https://migrastil.com/products/migrastil-migraine-stick-with-free-shipping. It's a mix of peppermint, spearmint & lavender.
https://web.archive.org/web/20141020045556/https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12462811/newb-in-town/p1
Its taking forever to load for me but I want to know how it ends up!
Also, it was a 2 HOUR appointment! I had an early lunch but I was so starving afterwards I devoured a peanut butter smoothie bowl before I went back to work. One more box exam out of the way!
My husband just took all my boys to Open House at their school so that I could go get Taco Bell alone.
A lot of it it has been redacted but this is the thread not from the Wayback, it’ll load faster.
https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12462811/newb-in-town/p1
@4deep relationship goals
Just got back from our baby basics class...extremely informative. DH was so attentive in class and answered a lot of questions others kept quiet on. Proud wife moment.
In the past few weeks we have had the sickness pass through our house, bought a new house, listed our house, got a new baby niece and had our anatomy scan with the high risk specialist. What a whirlwind! We are so relieved to know that both babies are measuring right on track and both are getting good blood flow through their umbilical cords! The doctor is fairly confident we’ll have a healthy pregnancy with no twin twin transfusion, but is recommending ultrasounds every two weeks to keep an eye on it.
@SmashJam Sounds so frustrating. I'm also part of a big hospital/provider system and I find that if I'm not constantly following up, nothing gets done. Or they don't give me the referral I need unless I specifically remind them, etc.
Excited to hear about all the first kicks and anatomy scans! And sympathy to all who are sick...lots of people in my office have had the flu and other illnesses and I've basically barricaded myself in my office with hand sanitizer.