DS2 is 2 years old. At his check up we discussed his lazy eye. Ophthalmologist consult showed he’s far sighted with both eyes having a tendency to cross with one worse than the other. He gets to wear glasses. He is head strong and hates things on his face. Any tips on getting him to wear his glasses and leave them on?
I'm not a mom yet, but I am a preschool special education teacher, and I've had several students with glasses. One thing we often see is that children sometimes really "get" that they can see better, and therefore keep them on! Fingers crossed that's the case. Consistency is key, and unfortunately, this is just not a choice. If you get to the point that it's a battle, maybe consider a sticker chart? I kept my glasses on all morning- sticker. I kept them on all afternoon- sticker. 2 stickers (or whatever number you want) = he picks a special activity/treat/game/show. You can decide the length of time that is appropriate, knowing your son, but kids can be easily motivated with visuals and prizes!
DS2 is 2 years old. At his check up we discussed his lazy eye. Ophthalmologist consult showed he’s far sighted with both eyes having a tendency to cross with one worse than the other. He gets to wear glasses. He is head strong and hates things on his face. Any tips on getting him to wear his glasses and leave them on?
I'm not a mom yet, but I am a preschool special education teacher, and I've had several students with glasses. One thing we often see is that children sometimes really "get" that they can see better, and therefore keep them on! Fingers crossed that's the case. Consistency is key, and unfortunately, this is just not a choice. If you get to the point that it's a battle, maybe consider a sticker chart? I kept my glasses on all morning- sticker. I kept them on all afternoon- sticker. 2 stickers (or whatever number you want) = he picks a special activity/treat/game/show. You can decide the length of time that is appropriate, knowing your son, but kids can be easily motivated with visuals and prizes!
The sticker chart may work. I’m hoping when he gets to school on Mon/Weds/Fri he sees the one other boy with glasses and that helps too. He is such a cooperative boy at school when the other kids do stuff like lunch and nap that are battles at home. Fingers crossed.
Things looked good at my anatomy scan today! He was moving (couldn't feel it) and measured right on schedule. I have to go back in two weeks bc they didn't get a good look at his face. I feel much better now.
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Ok I had a doctors appt today (22 weeks just about) and I asked my doctor if my weight gain is on track (about 11 pounds) and she said "yes, you can gain up to 20 pounds for the pregnancy, so around 10 more pounds- tops!"
i was at a very healthy (even on the thin side) weight prior to getting pregnant - I thought all the guidelines say a 25-35 pounds gain is normal for women in a healthy weight range?
@meatballs37 I am waiting for her to respond, too. What she said is completely insane to me! I thought immediately of you and your twins, or anyone finding out they were even carrying twins, for that matter... not to mention the (many) people I know who were first alerted to preeclampsia with routine urine/blood pressure checks, or with placenta previa or vasa previa for whom going into a vaginal delivery with no information could have been catastrophic for them and their baby! The list of reasons goes on and on... It's one thing to opt out of genetic testing for personal/religious reasons, but quite another to turn up your nose at routine prenatal testing. How has no one in the June board jumped all over that?
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I totally missed that reading the rest of that thread! *frantically goes back to read said post*
@wal2017 Yeah 25-35 is pretty normal, sometimes they get weird about it but women are alllll over the place with pregnancy weight gain for a variety of reasons, so as long as you’re being mindful of your diet as you normally would be I wouldn’t worry too much. I know people who have gained barely anything all the way to people who have gained like 60 lbs (my mom!) and even she was able to lose it quick because it was mostly water weight at the end she says. I gained 35 with my last and lost it all in the first 7 weeks PP. My best friend gained less and is still trying to lose it 4 months PP and she’s a much healthier eater than me. All bodies handle pregnancy weight gain and loss so differently, docs just want to make sure we’re not using pregnancy as an excuse to eat all the things I think. My doc gave me a lot of crap about my weight gain towards the end of my last one and I was trying so hard but it was just the way it was. So I just tried not to take it personally by the end, lol. Sorry that was not a very brief answer...
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@meatballs37 I am waiting for her to respond, too. What she said is completely insane to me! I thought immediately of you and your twins, or anyone finding out they were even carrying twins, for that matter... not to mention the (many) people I know who were first alerted to preeclampsia with routine urine/blood pressure checks, or with placenta previa or vasa previa for whom going into a vaginal delivery with no information could have been catastrophic for them and their baby! The list of reasons goes on and on... It's one thing to opt out of genetic testing for personal/religious reasons, but quite another to turn up your nose at routine prenatal testing. How has no one in the June board jumped all over that?
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I totally missed that reading the rest of that thread! *frantically goes back to read said post*
Edit because what did I just read!?
Oh no lurkers!
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@meatballs37 I am waiting for her to respond, too. What she said is completely insane to me! I thought immediately of you and your twins, or anyone finding out they were even carrying twins, for that matter... not to mention the (many) people I know who were first alerted to preeclampsia with routine urine/blood pressure checks, or with placenta previa or vasa previa for whom going into a vaginal delivery with no information could have been catastrophic for them and their baby! The list of reasons goes on and on... It's one thing to opt out of genetic testing for personal/religious reasons, but quite another to turn up your nose at routine prenatal testing. How has no one in the June board jumped all over that?
Lurking from June 2018
I totally missed that reading the rest of that thread! *frantically goes back to read said post*
Edit because what did I just read!?
Oh no lurkers!
Oh no worries, some really crazy stuff happened in my old bmb. Don't mind me here. I am second guessing my choice to come back to TB though. Too dramatic too soon on that board.
The June mama may be a wee bit too crunchy for TB. Lol It seems like there are less crunchy mamas here since the mass exodus.
She needs to head over to mothering. I think some practices are just foreign to TB that aren't really a big deal in certain parts of the birthing community. Having planned three homebirths and being active in the med-free and OOHB community for 12+ years, I've come across a number of women that UP and UC. I guess after a while it rings less taboo for me, and while it's not something I'm comfortable with, their body/baby, their choice. I can understand opting out of most ultrasounds if you're low risk and choosing other options for testing (glucose intolerance is not a routine test in all developed countries and can be tested using candy bars, jelly beans, breakfast with all macros, etc.) and forgoing VEs and a lot of routine interventions since there's plenty of evidence to support low intervention model of care. I get more concerned about opting out of screenings and diagnostic ultrasounds because the presence of fetal anomalies can affect delivery/birth options and post-birth care.
***TW: I had an old friend that was active on a stillbirth and neonatal loss board. After a while you become familiar with everyone's stories of what brought us there. She planned a homebirth like many of us, but also had an unassisted pregnancy. I think she had a few midwife visits toward the end, but no ultrasounds of any kind. Her son passed away during the birth. There was an investigation, because homebirth was quite taboo 10+ years ago, and still is in certain areas. They were blamed for his death and ostracized by the community. It turned out that he had a fatal heart defect. He wouldn't have survived long after birth if he hadn't passed during labor. She had a very "what will be, will be" outlook. Her rainbow baby was also a UP/UC.
On the flip side, another member lost her son during a homebirth with a similar outcome. Except she had prenatal/midwifery care and ultrasounds. Her son's severe diaphragmatic hernia went undiagnosed during those ultrasounds. My first son went into congestive heart failure before making it to my homebirth. It would have been a very similar outcome had I not been induced at the hospital. I had dual care and ultrasounds during my pregnancy. I'm a big proponent of screenings and monitoring, whether midwifery or OB model, because I think it's important to have as much information to work with to avoid possible complications and prepare for appropriate neonatal care. Screenings and ultrasounds aren't 100%, but they can provide valuable information. end TW***
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@soulcupcake I am by no means a crunchy person. Some of my best friends have had home births though. I'm one of those people who is like "I think you're nuts but I support you". With that particular lady I think not doing diagnostic screenings was my biggest "huh" because I can't understand why you'd want to be unprepared if there was an issue so I totally agree with you there!!
@SarahFoley725 - I get you. UP tends to raise my eyebrow. I'm not satisfied with the "it was meant to be" or "whatever happens, happens" of trusting every part of the pregnancy/birth process. Like, yeah, I get letting go of fear and believing in my body, but that also includes trusting my caregivers and support team to provide proper care. I opt for monitoring when there's a need for it and to mitigate potential risks and complications. I'm not going to give it all to nature or whatever. That's the sentiment I've heard among a lot UP/UCers.
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Uh yeah definitely commented on the UO thread in June. That is some serious flames going.
I didnt get the impression that the crunchy lady was sooo crunchy. I think personal experiences drive a lot of the decision making when it comes to doctors and procedures with pregnancy. With my moms 6th she rarely went to the doctor and had maybe 1 ultrasound. It worked for her, is it for me, definitely not. Did she get lucky and dodge a bullet? Maybe. She also had her first when all the testing and medical care wasn't as available as it is today, so it was more normal to her. I personally think it is a wise decision to take advantage of what is available to you. But if you make the decision not to, you just have to own the decision and the outcomes whatever they might be, but it is important to understand what the consequences of the decisions could be before you make those decisions.
I can't believe that thread hasn't been shut down! What a mess!!
I finally caught up on that thread and yes, amazed that it's not shut down, but I guess it hasn't spun completely out of control or off topic... It's amazing to read!
Oh Jesus take the wheel....the last post about "so you're comfortable with your husband having female friends and hanging out with them all the time without you or your teenage daughter alone in her room with a boy".
I have a feeling that the writer of this UO is a victim of childhood abuse based on what she's alluded to. With that possible background, I can understand where she's coming from but she's going way off the rails now.
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@meatballs37 I am waiting for her to respond, too. What she said is completely insane to me! I thought immediately of you and your twins, or anyone finding out they were even carrying twins, for that matter... not to mention the (many) people I know who were first alerted to preeclampsia with routine urine/blood pressure checks, or with placenta previa or vasa previa for whom going into a vaginal delivery with no information could have been catastrophic for them and their baby! The list of reasons goes on and on... It's one thing to opt out of genetic testing for personal/religious reasons, but quite another to turn up your nose at routine prenatal testing. How has no one in the June board jumped all over that?
Lurking from June 2018
I totally missed that reading the rest of that thread! *frantically goes back to read said post*
Edit because what did I just read!?
Oh no lurkers!
Oh no worries, some really crazy stuff happened in my old bmb. Don't mind me here. I am second guessing my choice to come back to TB though. Too dramatic too soon on that board.
You're welcome to stay and "lurk" with us. We're relatively normal and boring.
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Oh June 2018, thank you so much, you are officially the new March. I just went through the UO post and obviously liked all the Feb BMB posters! Also I wonder if lurkers ever come into our BMB and think we're so boring. Someone do something saucy. We're losing to June.
Guyssssss my friend asked me to make a few onesies for her baby that she's now 4 days overdue with. Poor girl, ANYWAY I forgot how tiny NB clothes are.
@meatballs37 I am waiting for her to respond, too. What she said is completely insane to me! I thought immediately of you and your twins, or anyone finding out they were even carrying twins, for that matter... not to mention the (many) people I know who were first alerted to preeclampsia with routine urine/blood pressure checks, or with placenta previa or vasa previa for whom going into a vaginal delivery with no information could have been catastrophic for them and their baby! The list of reasons goes on and on... It's one thing to opt out of genetic testing for personal/religious reasons, but quite another to turn up your nose at routine prenatal testing. How has no one in the June board jumped all over that?
Lurking from June 2018
I totally missed that reading the rest of that thread! *frantically goes back to read said post*
Edit because what did I just read!?
Oh no lurkers!
Oh no worries, some really crazy stuff happened in my old bmb. Don't mind me here. I am second guessing my choice to come back to TB though. Too dramatic too soon on that board.
You're welcome to stay and "lurk" with us. We're relatively normal and boring.
Awww, thanks. I like boring and relatively normal.
I'm going "go here" for a bit because I'm barely pregnant but have a question for mom's further along than I am.
If you are having twins, did you "know it" before you had an US to confirm it? Obviously, I want this confirmed by US but I've read on a few different sites that sometimes mom's intuition is a good tell. I did not ever experience anything like that in my pregnancy with dd. Heck, I never even had a good feeling either way that she was male/female. So, have at it then I'll go back to my mess of a BMB.
I have updated our blog for the twins. We got some more not so great news yesterday and will be at children's hospital all day Friday getting scans and hopefully answers. I feel so tired and emotionally drained, and yet I can't sleep.
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I have updated our blog for the twins. We got some more not so great news yesterday and will be at children's hospital all day Friday getting scans and hopefully answers. I feel so tired and emotionally drained, and yet I can't sleep.
I am sorry you guys got not great news. I’m praying for your day today.
I have updated our blog for the twins. We got some more not so great news yesterday and will be at children's hospital all day Friday getting scans and hopefully answers. I feel so tired and emotionally drained, and yet I can't sleep.
I just finished reading the UO from J18. I wanted to start flaming the chick who kept referring to massage therapist as masseuses. Ugh!!!!!!!! Being a massage therapist, WE ALL HATE THAT TERM! Dang you bump gods for shutting it down!
DS2 is 2 years old. At his check up we discussed his lazy eye. Ophthalmologist consult showed he’s far sighted with both eyes having a tendency to cross with one worse than the other. He gets to wear glasses. He is head strong and hates things on his face. Any tips on getting him to wear his glasses and leave them on?
They are the miraflex brand with a strap if that helps.
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Does your son like super heros at all? Maybe play it like the glasses give him super powers to see better. He can even wear a cape. I would just make the glasses a fun thing at first, not scary or intrusive. I have not had to deal with this specific issue, but I do know that making it fun would have been my only shot getting my son to wear glasses at this age. Best of luck.
@meatballs37, sorry to hear you got not so great news. I will continue thinking of you and your family.
I was texting my bestie last night who runs a licensed daycare, and she said that at their annual physicals they are required to get a tb test, but not to get a tdap. She has no idea if she is current on it or when she had her last one. Just something to think about for all of those requesting that dh, grands, immediate family etc. To get them but will be putting there baby in childcare of some sort.
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@smorzandoj Just read your comment on that dumpster fire of a thread and was all
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BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
i was at a very healthy (even on the thin side) weight prior to getting pregnant - I thought all the guidelines say a 25-35 pounds gain is normal for women in a healthy weight range?
I totally missed that reading the rest of that thread! *frantically goes back to read said post*
Edit because what did I just read!?
DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
She needs to head over to mothering. I think some practices are just foreign to TB that aren't really a big deal in certain parts of the birthing community. Having planned three homebirths and being active in the med-free and OOHB community for 12+ years, I've come across a number of women that UP and UC. I guess after a while it rings less taboo for me, and while it's not something I'm comfortable with, their body/baby, their choice. I can understand opting out of most ultrasounds if you're low risk and choosing other options for testing (glucose intolerance is not a routine test in all developed countries and can be tested using candy bars, jelly beans, breakfast with all macros, etc.) and forgoing VEs and a lot of routine interventions since there's plenty of evidence to support low intervention model of care. I get more concerned about opting out of screenings and diagnostic ultrasounds because the presence of fetal anomalies can affect delivery/birth options and post-birth care.
***TW: I had an old friend that was active on a stillbirth and neonatal loss board. After a while you become familiar with everyone's stories of what brought us there. She planned a homebirth like many of us, but also had an unassisted pregnancy. I think she had a few midwife visits toward the end, but no ultrasounds of any kind. Her son passed away during the birth. There was an investigation, because homebirth was quite taboo 10+ years ago, and still is in certain areas. They were blamed for his death and ostracized by the community. It turned out that he had a fatal heart defect. He wouldn't have survived long after birth if he hadn't passed during labor. She had a very "what will be, will be" outlook. Her rainbow baby was also a UP/UC.
On the flip side, another member lost her son during a homebirth with a similar outcome. Except she had prenatal/midwifery care and ultrasounds. Her son's severe diaphragmatic hernia went undiagnosed during those ultrasounds. My first son went into congestive heart failure before making it to my homebirth. It would have been a very similar outcome had I not been induced at the hospital. I had dual care and ultrasounds during my pregnancy. I'm a big proponent of screenings and monitoring, whether midwifery or OB model, because I think it's important to have as much information to work with to avoid possible complications and prepare for appropriate neonatal care. Screenings and ultrasounds aren't 100%, but they can provide valuable information. end TW***
@soulcupcake I am by no means a crunchy person. Some of my best friends have had home births though. I'm one of those people who is like "I think you're nuts but I support you". With that particular lady I think not doing diagnostic screenings was my biggest "huh" because I can't understand why you'd want to be unprepared if there was an issue so I totally agree with you there!!
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Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
I didnt get the impression that the crunchy lady was sooo crunchy. I think personal experiences drive a lot of the decision making when it comes to doctors and procedures with pregnancy. With my moms 6th she rarely went to the doctor and had maybe 1 ultrasound. It worked for her, is it for me, definitely not. Did she get lucky and dodge a bullet? Maybe. She also had her first when all the testing and medical care wasn't as available as it is today, so it was more normal to her. I personally think it is a wise decision to take advantage of what is available to you. But if you make the decision not to, you just have to own the decision and the outcomes whatever they might be, but it is important to understand what the consequences of the decisions could be before you make those decisions.
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I have a feeling that the writer of this UO is a victim of childhood abuse based on what she's alluded to. With that possible background, I can understand where she's coming from but she's going way off the rails now.
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Married DH 03/25/2017
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DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
something saucy. We're losing to June.
I'm going "go here" for a bit because I'm barely pregnant but have a question for mom's further along than I am.
If you are having twins, did you "know it" before you had an US to confirm it? Obviously, I want this confirmed by US but I've read on a few different sites that sometimes mom's intuition is a good tell. I did not ever experience anything like that in my pregnancy with dd. Heck, I never even had a good feeling either way that she was male/female. So, have at it then I'll go back to my mess of a BMB.
DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@meatballs37, sorry to hear you got not so great news. I will continue thinking of you and your family.
Off to June to read the dumpster fire thread.
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DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018