What does it mean when someone says you look SO amazing, your face is changing? Lol. I chalk it up to that I decided to grow my bangs out but then it makes me think did I look bad with bangs, ugghhh. Lol my one girlfriend just keeps saying it's because it's different.
@ShyTonia I'd totally want clarification on that too. Like, did you hate my hair before? Are you saying my face is getting fat? WHAT ARE YOU SAYING?! Lol.
I got my first confusing comment today too. I met two customers at work today and my coworker was telling them how there had been an office poll to guess the sex, so they asked if I had found out. I told them girl, and one of them goes, "Oh you look like you're carrying a girl!" I don't have any acne at the moment, so I know it's not because of that... Is it like a high/low carrying thing? I think there's a wives tale about that. But anyway...is my FTM-ness showing that I don't know if I'm carrying high or low? I feel like I'm carrying pretty much in the middle lol.
@MJDsquared I'm right there with you, I don't get it at all. I just try to remind myself that people one don't know what they are talking about or two the just need to have some sort of opinion lol. The comments on my face have been non stop this past week, and it all began when I started to wear my bangs back. Who knows lol. and I feel like I'm carrying right in the middle too.
I've gotten to the point where it's not necessarily the words, but their facial expressions. I wish I wore a go-pro all day to capture them all.
I'd also like to punch the next person who tells me "you look good (or small) for having twins". Are you saying if it was a singleton that I'd look bad or huge? Just stop!
@MJDsquared lol my mom asked me recently on the phone (she hasn't seen me in a few weeks) if I'm carrying high or low and I'm thinking, "I have no idea what the fuck that means." Someone told me last week they think it's a girl because I'm carrying high and I just want to be like
Me: 36 | DH 35, Married 2007
TTC #1 June 2015 April 2016 - AMH, FSH, Progesterone normal June 2016 - HSG clear *TW* BFP - Aug16, demise confirmed Sep16, incomplete m/c, D&C Nov16 BFP 3/27/17, edd 12/7/17 DS - 12/9/17 TTC #2 December 2018 BFP 2/22/19, edd 11/4/19 DD - 11/1/19 My Chart
I'm a STM and I'm still not really sure what high versus low means. I'm surprised so many people still comment on it or ask about it since it clearly has nothing to do with anything.
Married May 2014 DD born August 2016 Baby #2 due December 2017
Yesterday DH was talking to my BFFs boyfriend (Or common law spouse, whatever) whom she has 2 kids with and he has a 14yo daughter from a previous relationship. They were talking about what it's like to have daughters since this baby is a girl and I walk into the middle of the conversation and he goes "there's your 'Fuck My Life' right there!" Pointing at my belly... Ugh.
Boss - So how many kids do you think you guys want? Me - I think we'd like 3. DH comes from a big family and would like that so I think 3 is our compromise. Boss - Do you know what you're having? Me - (internal eye rolls because we've had this discussion multiple times) Yep! Baby is a girl! Boss - Oh how wonderful. Now you can stop at two since you'll have one of each.
Today at a reception I got a second coke (200 ml glass). The server poured my drink telling me having two was too much. I'd need about 750 ml to equal the caffeine of one cup of coffee. And plus also I never drink coffee, because I don't like it. Worst thing was that I was so surprised (I really have no idea who he is), that I started explaining myself, instead of saying 'thanks for your concern', not caring and walking away.
I had a Co worker the other day feel the need to tell me how I'm huge and she's worried I still have 3 months left, and how she only gained 6kg and put no weight on in any other part of her body, just bump. Well thanks for that! Just what I needed to hear. Who do people think they are ffs?!
Rather than high/low bumps, Im getting more people say that with boys your bump is all up front and with girls you just carry all round?? What the hell is that supposed to mean? I thought all babies were carried in the front lol
@kate0506 I heard that too, but I heard with girls it's all up front. My mom commented how you can't tell I'm pregnant from the back, like my waist hasn't thickened/my bump isn't wide enough that it shows in the back. But of course I don't think baby's sex actually says anything about how you carry.
I ran into someone I haven't seen in probably a year. We are friends on Facebook, so she knows I'm expecting. The first sentence out of her mouth was "WOW, I didn't think you would be this big already".
I'm getting the opposite. Everyone keeps telling me how small I am or that they thought I'd be bigger. Or "wow, you have twins in there?!! You're so small!" Thanks for making me feel like shit. That makes me think I'm not eating enough or something and they're too small.
Well, asswipe, I know because I had a catheter stuck through my cervix where a sample of the cells were taken and tested. That's how I know. AND YES GENETIC TESTING IS ACCURATE.
Outside of my office building... Stranger: Congratulations, twins? Me: No Stranger: Triplets? Me: No, just one Stranger: Laughter
3 minutes later in my office... Colleague I barely know: Wow, that's a big belly Me: *explodes*
Props to my boss who chimed in to say "it's amazing how people think they can say whatever they want to pregnant women," even if the offending colleague didn't seem to realize that categorization included her...
@kyrwyn my husband makes that comment every time I go swimming. I had a coworker tell me she thought I was getting fat, but now she can tell I'm pregnant. I'm 26 weeks and I've gained 9 pounds confined to my belly and boobs. I wasn't even offended because she is clearly not very observant.
I'm also getting a lot of comments about not being very big for almost 29 weeks. It makes me super self conscious because I feel quite huge and also because I have been so sick this whole time that I am driving my doctors nuts making sure babe is growing at a healthy weight (Which he is by the way. Smack dab in the middle of the range.)
Also I sure do seem to know a lot of ladies who don't have kids who are full of advice they have learned from having friends who have kids. My brother's girlfriend is especially constant in her pro-tips which is super irritating to DH who has 2 kids age 19 and 17 and obviously knows a thing or two about parenting. I love my parent friends who pretty much have told me to ignore almost all advice as pretty much you've got to dive in and figure out what works for you in the long run.
I'm a STM and I'm still not really sure what high versus low means. I'm surprised so many people still comment on it or ask about it since it clearly has nothing to do with anything.
Exactly! Here's DD1 vs this DD. I carried high with my first(she was right under my boobs and I couldn't breathe) and low with this one. Why? Because my abs and stomach have been through c section hell thank you. I'm tired of people saying they bet the dr is wrong and I'm really having a boy.
Gonna revive this thread for funsies. My sweetheart of a coworker, who was out of office yesterday and is currently on a ton of painkillers, said to me this morning: OMG, you were not that huge on Friday.
I'm gonna blame it on the vicodin and forgive her, because she's an amazing human who accidentally crashed her dirt bike (and self) into the hard hard ground on Saturday.
@kyrwyn WTH. WOW. Some people just need better filters.
Since you revived it, I'll add my most recent... My loving, but filter lacking, severely arrogant father told me, and I quote I'm "becoming quite a fatty!" Like. Ugh. Wtf Paul.
Me: 30 DH: 31
2 Dogs / 2 Cats
IUI #1 07/2016 BFN
IUI #2 10/2016 BFN
IUI #3 11/2016 BFN IVF #1 03/2017 - 23 Retrieved / 22 Fertilized / 11 at Day 3 / 1 Beautiful Embryo tf on Day 5 / 7 Frozen on Day 6 - Beta #1 4/5/17: 104 Beta #2 4/7/17 224
An elderly family member of my patient today said "you know how that happens right!?!" ... Yes old man I just met 30 seconds ago... shall we discuss how my husband and I had unprotected sexual intercourse specifically timed around my ovulation that I tracked using 3 different methods and ensured he ejaculated enough semen in side of my vagina to fertilize my egg? Oh... No? That's not appropriate? Really?
An elderly family member of my patient today said "you know how that happens right!?!" ... Yes old man I just met 30 seconds ago... shall we discuss how my husband and I had unprotected sexual intercourse specifically timed around my ovulation that I tracked using 3 different methods and ensured he ejaculated enough semen in side of my vagina to fertilize my egg? Oh... No? That's not appropriate? Really?
i was at Aldi picking up some last minute thing for my son's bday party. my older brother tagged along since he was already at my house. we get to check out. cue this conversation with the cashier, and me as the trapped and unable to escape victim:
"oh wow, are you due like today?" "no." "oh, so this week?" "no." "oh, are you having twins?" "NO." "oh, well, uh, you look...cute..."
LADY. IF LOOKS COULD KILL YOU WOULD HAVE DIED A THOUSAND DEATHS BY NOW. my brother was dying laughing. this cashier was about 60 years old with kids of her own in college, btw, not like a 19-year-old.
Met: September 2005Married: October 2008 DS: 09/2014
Sooo my same coworker who asks me how I'm feeling constantly came over and asked again this morning (as usual). But he was just staring at my belly the whole time. Seriously, straight uninterrupted stare with a smile on his face. I was sitting at my desk and he was standing at my cubicle.
He's a super nice guy and not creepy or anything, and he has two daughters of his own (I think they're in the 17-22 age range) but seriously, the laser focus on my belly made me uncomfortable. I kept waiting for his gaze to shift.
@anewadventure I am so there with you girl. If another person looks like they might faint or stares at me bug-eyed when I tell them I'm due at Christmas and they ask are you sure? Yes people I still have MONTHS to go, STFU unless your going to tell me I'm beautiful. @brittabatwhite I wish people would not comment on a pregnant woman's size you are fine, perfect and beautiful just the way you are. Everyone carries differently. @txmomma16 wow that deserves a TP
*TW*
TTC 1/2012 Diagnosed : unexplained infertility 6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015 TTC #3 5/2016 Restarted Fertility tx IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
The other day I ran into a past employee that I haven't seen in over a year. He gave me a long look over, asked if I was pregnant. My response, yes due early December. His only response well that is interesting. - what is that even suppose to mean.
In the breakroom on Friday. A fellow co-worker made the comment that my belly button hadn't even popped yet. One I felt so self conscious that my shirt was to tight all day and two way does it matter how my body looks and reacts to the changes as this little dude grows. Plus why do people feel the need to comment on it.
Being team green has basically appeared to be an open invitation for anyone that speaks to me to share their opinion on whether I am carrying a boy or girl... "You're all belly, must be a boy" You're carrying across your abdomen, it's a girl" "Your nose and lips are bigger, it's a girl" "You're carrying low, it's gotta be a boy" And so on and so forth...
I told someone that I was having twins. She then said, in all seriousness, that she’s had two kids a year apart, so it’s basically like having twins. Then she added, “actually, I think that’s way harder than having twins!” OK, bitch. Call me when you’re the size of a full term Singleton pregnancy at 28 weeks and still have 8 weeks to go. Idiot.
This dude at the store was very obviously staring at me. He started to walk away but was like craning his neck and not turning his head away to keep staring! I’m not even that big, bro, so unless you have a weird fetish I’m not sure what’s so fascinating.
My male supervisor said only in passing, "Wow, getting big!". He basically avoids me as much as possible because every time he tries to make small talk with me, he ends up saying something equally inappropriate.
I could really, really do without the comments from strangers about how I'm never going to make it to my due date based on my size. I'm measuring on track so I'm not sure why people feel the need to comment on something they know nothing about. I am not ready to pop... do people even realize they are suggesting that my baby will be born pre-term?
Omg, DH just told me he mentioned at work how we bought an exercise bike and I’ve used it. This woman who has a kid said, “She shouldn’t use that, you’re not supposed to shake the baby.”
Okay, I’ll also stop walking while I’m at it. And laughing since my entire belly shakes like Santa Claus. Why are people so stupid?! That’s up there with people saying you can’t lift your hands above your head or the cord will wrap around the neck.
@MJDsquared hahaha. Wow if riding a bike is bad I must be a horrible mother dancing with my baby. She’s gonna be all kinds of screwed up. Gotta love these crazy myths
ugh, yeah the comments about my size are the worst.
I was out at a show with my lovely SO the other night, and a friend of a friend who I don't know well asked what my duedate was. I answered, "December 9th." She did a huge double take and looked down at my bump again, and back up at my face, and said, "wow, so still some time to go!"
Then she asked, "Is it twins?"
I curtly responded, "No, just one", and turned away from her to talk with someone else. I was really about to give her a piece of my mind, and was fantasizing about punching her in the face.
I don't even think I am "that big", but whatever. I was wearing a cute dress that does kind of hug everything.
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Re: Sh*t People Say to Pregnant Women
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**TW**
BFP 2/1/16 I MC 3/21/16 (11w)
TTCAL 6/15/16
BFP 3/23/2017 Team pink! Quinn Leigh EDD December 1, 2017
I got my first confusing comment today too. I met two customers at work today and my coworker was telling them how there had been an office poll to guess the sex, so they asked if I had found out. I told them girl, and one of them goes, "Oh you look like you're carrying a girl!" I don't have any acne at the moment, so I know it's not because of that... Is it like a high/low carrying thing? I think there's a wives tale about that. But anyway...is my FTM-ness showing that I don't know if I'm carrying high or low? I feel like I'm carrying pretty much in the middle lol.
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
and I feel like I'm carrying right in the middle too.
I'd also like to punch the next person who tells me "you look good (or small) for having twins". Are you saying if it was a singleton that I'd look bad or huge? Just stop!
April 2016 - AMH, FSH, Progesterone normal
June 2016 - HSG clear
*TW* BFP - Aug16, demise confirmed Sep16, incomplete m/c, D&C Nov16
BFP 3/27/17, edd 12/7/17
DS - 12/9/17
TTC #2 December 2018
BFP 2/22/19, edd 11/4/19
DD - 11/1/19
My Chart
Married May 2014
DD born August 2016
Baby #2 due December 2017
Boss - So how many kids do you think you guys want?
Me - I think we'd like 3. DH comes from a big family and would like that so I think 3 is our compromise.
Boss - Do you know what you're having?
Me - (internal eye rolls because we've had this discussion multiple times) Yep! Baby is a girl!
Boss - Oh how wonderful. Now you can stop at two since you'll have one of each.
Ummmm thanks lady.
Me: 29 DH: 31
Married 10/13/12
TTC Since 8/2016
Rather than high/low bumps, Im getting more people say that with boys your bump is all up front and with girls you just carry all round?? What the hell is that supposed to mean? I thought all babies were carried in the front lol
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
The first sentence out of her mouth was "WOW, I didn't think you would be this big already".
Thanks for making me feel like shit. That makes me think I'm not eating enough or something and they're too small.
Well, asswipe, I know because I had a catheter stuck through my cervix where a sample of the cells were taken and tested. That's how I know. AND YES GENETIC TESTING IS ACCURATE.
Stranger: Congratulations, twins?
Me: No
Stranger: Triplets?
Me: No, just one
Stranger: Laughter
3 minutes later in my office...
Colleague I barely know: Wow, that's a big belly
Me: *explodes*
Props to my boss who chimed in to say "it's amazing how people think they can say whatever they want to pregnant women," even if the offending colleague didn't seem to realize that categorization included her...
I had a coworker tell me she thought I was getting fat, but now she can tell I'm pregnant. I'm 26 weeks and I've gained 9 pounds confined to my belly and boobs. I wasn't even offended because she is clearly not very observant.
Also I sure do seem to know a lot of ladies who don't have kids who are full of advice they have learned from having friends who have kids. My brother's girlfriend is especially constant in her pro-tips which is super irritating to DH who has 2 kids age 19 and 17 and obviously knows a thing or two about parenting. I love my parent friends who pretty much have told me to ignore almost all advice as pretty much you've got to dive in and figure out what works for you in the long run.
I'm gonna blame it on the vicodin and forgive her, because she's an amazing human who accidentally crashed her dirt bike (and self) into the hard hard ground on Saturday.
Since you revived it, I'll add my most recent...
My loving, but filter lacking, severely arrogant father told me, and I quote I'm "becoming quite a fatty!" Like. Ugh. Wtf Paul.
2 Dogs / 2 Cats
IUI #2 10/2016 BFN
IUI #3 11/2016 BFN
IVF #1 03/2017 - 23 Retrieved / 22 Fertilized / 11 at Day 3 / 1 Beautiful Embryo tf on Day 5 / 7 Frozen on Day 6 - Beta #1 4/5/17: 104 Beta #2 4/7/17 224
Oh... No? That's not appropriate? Really?
i was at Aldi picking up some last minute thing for my son's bday party. my older brother tagged along since he was already at my house. we get to check out. cue this conversation with the cashier, and me as the trapped and unable to escape victim:
"oh wow, are you due like today?"
"no."
"oh, so this week?"
"no."
"oh, are you having twins?"
"NO."
"oh, well, uh, you look...cute..."
LADY. IF LOOKS COULD KILL YOU WOULD HAVE DIED A THOUSAND DEATHS BY NOW. my brother was dying laughing. this cashier was about 60 years old with kids of her own in college, btw, not like a 19-year-old.
Met: September 2005 Married: October 2008 DS: 09/2014
He's a super nice guy and not creepy or anything, and he has two daughters of his own (I think they're in the 17-22 age range) but seriously, the laser focus on my belly made me uncomfortable. I kept waiting for his gaze to shift.
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
@brittabatwhite I wish people would not comment on a pregnant woman's size you are fine, perfect and beautiful just the way you are. Everyone carries differently.
@txmomma16 wow that deserves a TP
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
In the breakroom on Friday. A fellow co-worker made the comment that my belly button hadn't even popped yet. One I felt so self conscious that my shirt was to tight all day and two way does it matter how my body looks and reacts to the changes as this little dude grows. Plus why do people feel the need to comment on it.
"nope, it's a girl!"
"Well, it looks like you're having a boy."
"You're all belly, must be a boy"
You're carrying across your abdomen, it's a girl"
"Your nose and lips are bigger, it's a girl"
"You're carrying low, it's gotta be a boy"
And so on and so forth...
Having said that, if someone told me my nose and mouth were bigger, I would punch them squarely in theirs.
BFP 4/27/2017 - EDD 12/25/2017 - DD born 12/15/2017
OK, bitch. Call me when you’re the size of a full term Singleton pregnancy at 28 weeks and still have 8 weeks to go. Idiot.
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
I could really, really do without the comments from strangers about how I'm never going to make it to my due date based on my size. I'm measuring on track so I'm not sure why people feel the need to comment on something they know nothing about. I am not ready to pop... do people even realize they are suggesting that my baby will be born pre-term?
Me:"Actually its about 6!"
Female coworker: "yeah you can see it in your face it's getting swollen"
Okay, I’ll also stop walking while I’m at it. And laughing since my entire belly shakes like Santa Claus. Why are people so stupid?! That’s up there with people saying you can’t lift your hands above your head or the cord will wrap around the neck.
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
I was out at a show with my lovely SO the other night, and a friend of a friend who I don't know well asked what my duedate was.
I answered, "December 9th."
She did a huge double take and looked down at my bump again, and back up at my face, and said, "wow, so still some time to go!"
Then she asked, "Is it twins?"
I curtly responded, "No, just one", and turned away from her to talk with someone else.
I was really about to give her a piece of my mind, and was fantasizing about punching her in the face.
I don't even think I am "that big", but whatever. I was wearing a cute dress that does kind of hug everything.
Due date 12/9
I can't figure out the pregnancy countdown tickers, but I do know how to make a signature!
#40andpregnant
As of 12/15/2017, my new hashtag is #41 and pregnant!