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Sh*t my SO/ILs/Anyone Says

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  • RaeleenD said:
    Thanks for the support @eggplantface, @magnolia305, and @clc515. I think people would interact so much better if people put a little thought into what they say before saying it.

    @chucksmom15 that is SO inappropriate. I'm not sure how I would react to someone touching me without my permission. I'm sorry that happened to you. I can't wrap my head around people like that....who wants to touch a stranger at all, anyway?!
    It was just as inappropriate as what your coworker said to you!  
    eggplantface
  • A month ago a coworker i barely know asked out of the blue at a meeting , without even a hello mind you, "are you pregnant yet?" I wasnt telling anyone at work yet so I gave my canned response "its in the works". 

    Today i see her for first time since then and she goes OMG I heard you're pregnant why did you tell me no but then soon after you told somebody else yes!

    I did point out that I didn't technically say no, and that I was waiting for some doctors appointments before Spreading the News. However:
    A. I really shouldn't have to justify myself
    B. Especially because B I don't know you!

    And then she went on about other personal stuff I didnt tell her like how its sad my dad isnt around anymore and her daughter went thru the same thing. Ummm okay? Thanks but SMH.
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  • @clc515 Why just....why??

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  • @clc515 So irritating. I wasn't much of a people person before this pregnancy, but this crap makes me hate them more. 
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  • @clc515 - that's so crazy! What's wrong with some people?!?
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  • @clc515 that's so frustrating. Why can't people mind their business? 
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  •  I was at a family wedding this weekend, and it was a nonstop comment-a-thon which was super fun. The worst was at the actual wedding I was wearing gold flats with my dress and this woman at the bar was like (pointing at my shoes) "you did it right with those shoes" so I say "thank you" and she says " so like 7, 8 months?" and I say "20 weeks" and she looks shocked and says" oh second child" and I'm like "no first" and she just makes a surprised face and walks away. Not super terrible but I had already been feeling huge that night. Also she fought some girl for the bouquet and it turned out she was already married.... Also right after that my dad asked me to dance because they were playing our father daughter song from my wedding and said " your a lot wider than last time" .
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  • I'm beginning to think I am going to skip public gatherings all together.  Sorry you had a rough night @MrsJ2410
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  • @MrsJ2410 I'm so sorry! How insensitive! 

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  • @MrsJ2410 People are so rude! I have a big family wedding this weekend and I’m 18 weeks with my first and I’m really not showing much and that seems to be all people want to talk about. I’m kind of dreading having the same conversation over and over with everyone. It doesn’t matter if you’re showing like crazy or carrying small, people just love to comment on the size of your belly! I get it to a certain extent, but come on can’t they think of anything else to talk to us about?? 
    eggplantfacebabybro218
  • @MrsJ2410 People are so rude! I have a big family wedding this weekend and I’m 18 weeks with my first and I’m really not showing much and that seems to be all people want to talk about. I’m kind of dreading having the same conversation over and over with everyone. It doesn’t matter if you’re showing like crazy or carrying small, people just love to comment on the size of your belly! I get it to a certain extent, but come on can’t they think of anything else to talk to us about?? 
    oooh yeah, that will happen. It's true, like there is NOTHING else to ask me besides "how are you feeling". I also had people tell DH that it was time for me to go to bed when it got late or I yawned or something, its pretty brutal, esp if it's a lot of people you haven't seen in awhile. Good luck!!!
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  • @MrsJ2410 People are so rude! I have a big family wedding this weekend and I’m 18 weeks with my first and I’m really not showing much and that seems to be all people want to talk about. I’m kind of dreading having the same conversation over and over with everyone. It doesn’t matter if you’re showing like crazy or carrying small, people just love to comment on the size of your belly! I get it to a certain extent, but come on can’t they think of anything else to talk to us about?? 

    I'm beginning to think I am going to skip public gatherings all together.  Sorry you had a rough night @MrsJ2410
    I'm with you! We have to go to a big open house at my in-laws' this weekend. I'll be 20 weeks with my first and we are just starting to tell people. I am dreading the same things. I told my husband I need to make sure I have a plate of food in each hand at all times so I don't punch someone if they try to touch my belly.
  • Good luck @babybro218 and @kristinl492 with your events this weekend. I've learned that people are the worst. 


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  • MrsJ2410 said:
    @MrsJ2410 People are so rude! I have a big family wedding this weekend and I’m 18 weeks with my first and I’m really not showing much and that seems to be all people want to talk about. I’m kind of dreading having the same conversation over and over with everyone. It doesn’t matter if you’re showing like crazy or carrying small, people just love to comment on the size of your belly! I get it to a certain extent, but come on can’t they think of anything else to talk to us about?? 
    oooh yeah, that will happen. It's true, like there is NOTHING else to ask me besides "how are you feeling". I also had people tell DH that it was time for me to go to bed when it got late or I yawned or something, its pretty brutal, esp if it's a lot of people you haven't seen in awhile. Good luck!!!
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  • I work in employee training. Last week I taught a class and addressed the elephant in the room (my belly) very casually... told them you might get more breaks than you are used to because I have a child on my bladder. People laughed, but quite a few came up to me later to ask how far along i was and said the following in response to me being 18w at the time:
    "Wow, you still have a long way to go!"
    "Only 18 weeks?"
    "Are you sure there's only 1 in there?"
    And other variations on my size being big for my pregnancy. 

    This is my second pregnancy. I lost a ton of weight after DS was born (50lbs) and 30 was put on within 3 months after he was born -i didn't leave the couch.
     I'm about halfway through my pregnancy, and I'm not even at the weight I started when I first got pregnant with DS. I can still pull on my pre-pregnancy pants  (even if i can't button them anymore).  I'm not concerned about my size or weight in the slightest. But those comments are just so insensitive. As other posters have said, "isn't there anything else you can ask me about??"

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  • I work in employee training. Last week I taught a class and addressed the elephant in the room (my belly) very casually... told them you might get more breaks than you are used to because I have a child on my bladder. People laughed, but quite a few came up to me later to ask how far along i was and said the following in response to me being 18w at the time:
    "Wow, you still have a long way to go!"
    "Only 18 weeks?"
    "Are you sure there's only 1 in there?"
    And other variations on my size being big for my pregnancy. 

    This is my second pregnancy. I lost a ton of weight after DS was born (50lbs) and 30 was put on within 3 months after he was born -i didn't leave the couch.
     I'm about halfway through my pregnancy, and I'm not even at the weight I started when I first got pregnant with DS. I can still pull on my pre-pregnancy pants  (even if i can't button them anymore).  I'm not concerned about my size or weight in the slightest. But those comments are just so insensitive. As other posters have said, "isn't there anything else you can ask me about??"
    How about just a congratulations people?!?!
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  • My MIL has never talked to me about this pregnancy yet SO told him we were expecting but she seemed not to like the news (
    rainafire77
  • My MIL has never talked to me about this pregnancy yet SO told him we were expecting but she seemed not to like the news (
    Again...why can't people just be happy for people? No matter how they feel can't they just pretend and be polite????

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  • @sweetgirlamaris That is awful! Whether she likes the news or not it's still her grandbaby! You don't need the negativity in your life! Surround yourself with those around you that truly care about you!
  • @rainafire77, @ash0625, @kbrinks2 thanks alot mama's for the encouraging words.
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  • How do you guys do it? Today I experienced the weight comments. My dads side of the family meets for coffee once a week and as I was walking into Starbucks decides to say "what are you doing carrying a watermelon in there?" I literally lost my cool and told him it was not appropriate nor appreciated. Not even two hours later at the park where we met the rest of family my grandma who had been in Starbucks has the audacity to ask if I brought fat lady clothes!! Again lost my cool and told her how it wasn't nice to make comments on a person's weight let alone when they are pregnant. I seriously don't understand why people especially family think it's okay.
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  • @gymmonkey95 this is my biggest pet peeve! Why do people think the word pregnant is synonymous with the word fat. 
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  • Went to a big open house at my IL's last night. Just prior to the event, we gave the IL's the ok to share the news with their friends. By the time we got there, the news had spread, but there was some mix up along the way and everyone thought that my BIL and his husband were getting a surrogate, not that I was pregnant. Instead of congratulating us, people were saying that they heard the great news about my BILs. Once everything got straightened out, a friend of my MIL congratulated DH and her husband said, "Yeah, because that's just what the world needs...more people."
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  • @gymmonkey95 I seriously don't know why people see the need to make any comment about another persons weight ever!! Especially in pregnancy! No woman, let alone a pregnant woman wants to hear those comments!! I live far away from my family and I really don't hear any size comments from my friends so I've been lucky. I know at Christmas time my dads side of the family will have some stupid remark about my size. They are just like that!! I never know what to say so I just smile. So good for you for sticking up for yourself!!! 

    @babybro218 some people should just never be allowed to speak! 
    rainafire77
  • Went to a big open house at my IL's last night. Just prior to the event, we gave the IL's the ok to share the news with their friends. By the time we got there, the news had spread, but there was some mix up along the way and everyone thought that my BIL and his husband were getting a surrogate, not that I was pregnant. Instead of congratulating us, people were saying that they heard the great news about my BILs. Once everything got straightened out, a friend of my MIL congratulated DH and her husband said, "Yeah, because that's just what the world needs...more people."
    He realizes he is also a person right? What makes him think he is more important? Insert major eye role. 
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    10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
    10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero surgery
    11/2/17 Twin A & B born 
    11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
    Benched 6 months 
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  • At about 32 weeks with DD the cart boy at Kroger asked me when my babies were due. I said oh it's just one and mid March. He said oh I thought it must be twins because you're really big! Our Kroger hires a lot of special needs people so I just laughed it off and said I know right! I cried in my car after that for a while though. 

    Im 5 feet tall and have NO waste. I'm already huge with this baby and I'm dreading the comments. 
  • When we told the ILs MIL said "Congratulations, I can't wait for LadyMillil to get fat"

    A coworker told me I was "so lucky" to get to see the baby so much because I have to go for my 6th ultrasound soon and the standard here is just 1 ultrasound unless something is wrong...Yeah, I'm lucky that I needed all these extra ultrasounds to confirm that my baby is actually okay. That's lucky and not at all stressful *eyeroll*

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  • @LadyMillil I can commiserate. I've had the same comments about the amount of ultrasounds we have had so far.

    Every time we have one it is so stressful and takes 2 hours or more to measure both babies. 

    And then I get the lovely "oh it must be so nice to have two babies for the price of one." Yeah...that's not how it works. Not even close. It's actually more expensive. 

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    10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero surgery
    11/2/17 Twin A & B born 
    11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
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  • @LadyMillil I can commiserate. I've had the same comments about the amount of ultrasounds we have had so far.

    Every time we have one it is so stressful and takes 2 hours or more to measure both babies. 

    And then I get the lovely "oh it must be so nice to have two babies for the price of one." Yeah...that's not how it works. Not even close. It's actually more expensive. 

    As mom to 11 year old twins, I hate the two for the price of one comment!  Nope, hasn't happened yet.  They don't even share clothes.  And every form I fill out, I do twice.  That one drives me crazy.  Back to school paperwork takes forever.
    meatballs37mamaof5already
  • That's terrible!
  • My coworker, when I told him I was pregnant: "Congratulations! Or is it...congratulations??" With this gesture like it was a mistake. I said "Maybe if I were 20, but at 37 it's safe to say I wanted this." He's all "you never know!" And I'm thinking "you can still read your audience better."
    Have gotten this reaction a few times from people at work.

    ”Am I allowed to say Congrats?” Duh. Of course.

    I never know how to reply. 
    babybro218eggplantface
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