I'm going to thank H yet again that he set boundaries with his family years ago and they know not to cross them. I at least have a great MIL & step-MIL. These stories are awful!
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I talked to DH when he got up for work last night. He said he hasn't called her in a while, and she does irritating stuff like this for attention sometimes when she feels ignored. We both agreed we just aren't going to say anything to her about it to avoid feeding her "negative attention" unless she tries to do it again. He's going to call her today and try to call more often so she doesn't act out like this.
Why do I feel like I'm dealing with my toddler instead of my MIL
I'm going to thank H yet again that he set boundaries with his family years ago and they know not to cross them. I at least have a great MIL & step-MIL. These stories are awful!
This. My in-laws can drive me bonkers, but they live far away and DH has set pretty clear boundaries that are rarely crossed. My family is probably more of a pain for him than his is for me.
I have 2 whopping MIL stories (she seriously deserves some sort of award)---
First--My SIL and BIL announced last night on FB that they are expecting twins! BIL posted a picture of his wife that was taken in MIL's kitchen. Everyone commented the usual "omg, congrats!", "holy cow, what a wonderful blessing". My MIL comments, "Isn't my kitchen beautiful? It's a good thing it's so big and we can accommodate lots of babies".
Then, later in the night, MIL texts DH and BIL in a group message. She explained she couldn't come to work bc her face looks awful (she had a facial peel and had some sort of reaction--so it now telling people she had "precancerous spots removed"). Anyways, she goes on in the text about how she "won't do this again, she would rather just have cancer". Um, WTAF? Who the hell says shit like this? It really hurts my heart that she could say something SOOO insensitive...
@magnolia305 Wow, she sounds like a peach. And did she really turn a lie about having a facial peel into actual cancer? That's next-level narcissism!
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
Over the weekend DH said he was worried my mom would just pop up at our house once we have babies, and his mother would never do that. Um, while he was out of town for a while his mom unexpectedly dropped by to see me like 3 times, and my mother has never in my entire life done that. WTF DH.
my MIL and BIL had a huge blow out with DH when DS was 3mo old. MIL was angry we never let her babysit, they accused us of “keeping the baby from them”. I was new to breastfeeding and was not comfortable nursing in front of them. DS would nurse for 45min so it wasn’t a quick thing. DS tore up one of my nipples (I have scar tissue from it) and so I had to pump that side bc it was so painful... etc. and so by the time he was fed, I had pumped, he was awake etc... they only had 15-20mins to see him before the process started again.
None of which was their business. Thankfully DH put them in their place and no issues since.
So my suggestion (especially for FTM’s) is to deal with it now rather than later.
@TattoosandLace I’d love to hear her logic on how having kids close together makes you sick ... what sense does that even make?!
I was like... “uh...no... 50% of this baby’s DNA is DH’s so my immune system is lowered so it doesn’t attack the baby...and a lowered immune system makes you more susceptible to sickness..” MIL: no. Mine was higher when I was pregnant. Me: Ha. Okay. See you later!
@TattoosandLace WOW. Sounds like she just has to be right. I wouldn’t have been able to hide the “are you seriously that dumb” stare down after that response.
Over the weekend DH said he was worried my mom would just pop up at our house once we have babies, and his mother would never do that. Um, while he was out of town for a while his mom unexpectedly dropped by to see me like 3 times, and my mother has never in my entire life done that. WTF DH.
My DH said the same thing before DS was born. Yeah no his parents drop by all the time and mine always ask well in advance. Thankfully I love my in laws so drop ins don’t bother me really but it was annoying that he acted like my mom was such a problem when she has always respected our space so well. He hasn’t gotten over the fact that she didn’t like him when we first started dating (in high school....when he was 16....ten years ago....)
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From my mom "why do you need to buy baby things? What happened to everything you had?" My youngest is 7 and i went through a nasty divorce when she was under 1 year old. Idk mom why i didn't save any of the baby things! The next sentence from my mom "where is the crib, you still have that right? I told her my ex had it. She told me to ask for it from him...
From my mom "why do you need to buy baby things? What happened to everything you had?" My youngest is 7 and i went through a nasty divorce when she was under 1 year old. Idk mom why i didn't save any of the baby things! The next sentence from my mom "where is the crib, you still have that right? I told her my ex had it. She told me to ask for it from him...
Yeah because that will go over really well! Geez what is it with mothers???
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I got two different "holy crap you're not due until February" comments today. And so it begins.
I'm so sorry people say super insensitive things. For what it's worth...I think you look happy and healthy and that's all that really matters. People SHOULD keep their comments to themselves but they never do unfortunately.
Last night I was changing into pajamas and looking at my bump in the mirror and my husband said "wow, looks like we're going to have a fat baby!"
My weight gain is pretty much all bump and boobs right now so he said this just as I was thinking I looked pretty good for being 27 weeks pregnant. Well that dose of self-confidence went out the window real fast after that comment.
Y'all I got the worst one today. Worse that the "I thought it must be twins because you're so big" comment I got with DD.
I was grabbing Starbucks at the grocery store and the barista, who I haven't seen for a few months, was like holy crap girl you're about to pop! So I said laughed and said oh I'm due at the end of February. She said "are you sure the doctor is right?" Ummm yes I am lol.
I told her I was huge with DD and expected as much this time but Instead of stopping there she was like wow you're going to be HUGE when you're done, like, I've never really seen anyone get that big in real life. I've seen pictures and stuff online but I don't know anyone personally who got so big like that!
Then she mentioned her son is about to be 5 months old, which reminded me why I haven't seen her in a while but I'm like YOU JUST HAD A BABY YOURSELF AND WE ARE HAVING THIS CONVERSATION ARE YOU SERIOUS???
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
Wow @SarahFoley725!!! Who in their right mind would say any of those comments!! Especially a new mom herself! I'm sorry for those negative comments and keep smiling!
@SarahFoley725 I’m so sorry. People suck. I got a “that’s gonna be one big baby - or is there 2 in there?” Yesterday and it took everything I had not lose it on her!
At family dinner yesterday, my SIL asked how much weight I have gained so far (she is also pregnant). I told her about 12 pounds, and she responded with "I've only gained two so far. I think I will only gain 12 my whole pregnancy."
Congratulations....?
(I am 27 weeks and she is 17. I don't think she was trying to be mean....but it definitely stung!)
At family dinner yesterday, my SIL asked how much weight I have gained so far (she is also pregnant). I told her about 12 pounds, and she responded with "I've only gained two so far. I think I will only gain 12 my whole pregnancy."
I was under the impression that baby + fluid + uterus growth + placenta = about 30 pounds. So good luck with alllll that.
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
At family dinner yesterday, my SIL asked how much weight I have gained so far (she is also pregnant). I told her about 12 pounds, and she responded with "I've only gained two so far. I think I will only gain 12 my whole pregnancy."
I was under the impression that baby + fluid + uterus growth + placenta = about 30 pounds. So good luck with alllll that.
Haha me too!
Also not looking forward to the inevitable "who can bounce back fastest" competition that's bound to come once the babies are born.
@sugarcoateddonut She may be in for quite a shock then, eep. I think at 17 weeks I had only gained about that much and then I exploded lol. Now I’m up 25 at 27 weeks and fully expect to gain tons more. I gained 35-40 with my first and lost it all pretty quick, while my BF gained probably half what I did and hasn’t been able to lose it very quickly. (Which is totally fine, just example of how completely different our bodies gain and lose pregnancy weight!)
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@sugarcoateddonut I checked my app and I was up 2.2 pounds at 17 weeks and am up 18 now. Is this her first kid? Maybe she hasn't seen what's in store still...
@winnie1122@3plus1equals4 Yes, it's her first! I just wish it didn't feel like such a competition because I am very content to be the "loser" as long as baby is healthy .
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Why do I feel like I'm dealing with my toddler instead of my MIL
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First--My SIL and BIL announced last night on FB that they are expecting twins! BIL posted a picture of his wife that was taken in MIL's kitchen. Everyone commented the usual "omg, congrats!", "holy cow, what a wonderful blessing". My MIL comments, "Isn't my kitchen beautiful? It's a good thing it's so big and we can accommodate lots of babies".
Then, later in the night, MIL texts DH and BIL in a group message. She explained she couldn't come to work bc her face looks awful (she had a facial peel and had some sort of reaction--so it now telling people she had "precancerous spots removed"). Anyways, she goes on in the text about how she "won't do this again, she would rather just have cancer". Um, WTAF? Who the hell says shit like this? It really hurts my heart that she could say something SOOO insensitive...
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
Over the weekend DH said he was worried my mom would just pop up at our house once we have babies, and his mother would never do that. Um, while he was out of town for a while his mom unexpectedly dropped by to see me like 3 times, and my mother has never in my entire life done that. WTF DH.
“I never got sick when I was pregnant. Youre probably having kids too fast and that sucks why you’re sick.”
listen here, lady. Your kids are closer in age than mine are. F u
None of which was their business. Thankfully DH put them in their place and no issues since.
So my suggestion (especially for FTM’s) is to deal with it now rather than later.
MIL: no. Mine was higher when I was pregnant.
Me: Ha. Okay. See you later!
My youngest is 7 and i went through a nasty divorce when she was under 1 year old. Idk mom why i didn't save any of the baby things!
The next sentence from my mom "where is the crib, you still have that right? I told her my ex had it. She told me to ask for it from him...
older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7
DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
My weight gain is pretty much all bump and boobs right now so he said this just as I was thinking I looked pretty good for being 27 weeks pregnant. Well that dose of self-confidence went out the window real fast after that comment.
#2 due 2.15.18
I was grabbing Starbucks at the grocery store and the barista, who I haven't seen for a few months, was like holy crap girl you're about to pop! So I said laughed and said oh I'm due at the end of February. She said "are you sure the doctor is right?" Ummm yes I am lol.
I told her I was huge with DD and expected as much this time but Instead of stopping there she was like wow you're going to be HUGE when you're done, like, I've never really seen anyone get that big in real life. I've seen pictures and stuff online but I don't know anyone personally who got so big like that!
Then she mentioned her son is about to be 5 months old, which reminded me why I haven't seen her in a while but I'm like YOU JUST HAD A BABY YOURSELF AND WE ARE HAVING THIS CONVERSATION ARE YOU SERIOUS???
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
DD born 04/28/2002
Married DH 03/25/2017
1st MMC 08/13/2016 2nd MMC 02/14/2017
BFP 06/16/17 Rainbow DS Born 02/05/2018
Me (standing in a very tight Christmas sweater): "umm, it's in my belly? I'm not due til February"...
Que awkward silence.
older siblings: ds 16 dd 14 ds 13 dd 11 dd 7
Congratulations....?
(I am 27 weeks and she is 17. I don't think she was trying to be mean....but it definitely stung!)
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
Also not looking forward to the inevitable "who can bounce back fastest" competition that's bound to come once the babies are born.