Baby Movements

acgonzalez22

DH and DS have been feeling her kick lately and it is the best feeling seeing their faces. My heart skips a beat when DS giggles and says baby.

mdcd44127

I felt baby's movements more strongly today than I ever have before, it felt like he was doing pirouettes and punches in my belly. I said it to DH and he pointed out that I was stressing about being stuck behind the slowest person on the planet while in line at the store, and the baby was probably reacting to my anxiety, which made me feel really bad. I hope I didn't upset the little guy, I'm going to have to work on making a concerted effort to stay zen.

anewadventure

djd0404 said:

I felt baby's movements more strongly today than I ever have before, it felt like he was doing pirouettes and punches in my belly. I said it to DH and he pointed out that I was stressing about being stuck behind the slowest person on the planet while in line at the store, and the baby was probably reacting to my anxiety, which made me feel really bad. I hope I didn't upset the little guy, I'm going to have to work on making a concerted effort to stay zen.

uh. really DH? you get a big TW for that. why are so many of your husbands seemingly like this with the pregnancy? food police, emotion police, whatever. like you don't stress ENOUGH as it is, like growing the baby isn't ENOUGH work for you, now he has to make you feel bad about being aggravated like a normal human being? feeling more movement should have been something for you both to celebrate in that moment. that would have made you more zen, right? instead of this comment from him? 

i'm sure i'm more mad at him than you are but you should be mad too. you don't need that said to you. he's coming from a place of caring but he needs to care about your mental well being in addition to the baby's health, especially for something so nebulous. there needs to be a line, when saying something is appropriate because your behavior might ACTUALLY be unsafe and when something is just not a big deal. 

by all means, try to be zen, but don't let the mom guilt consume you already. this is just going to become more of a thing as you try to figure out taking care of an infant. every decision, everything you say and do, can loom over you if you let it. maybe your H should practice some zen, too! 

mdcd44127

@anewadventure No, I totally hear you. Sometimes he's like the "nagging wife" stereotype for my pregnancy, and he stresses me out about my own stress. I'm high-anxiety as it is, unmedicated (by my own choice, but for various reasons), and sometimes the reminders are like snowballs rolling down a hill. That being said, he definitely doesn't mean to be like that, he is honestly concerned about me and the baby and is "trying to help" with his reminders and admonishments, but, like... if that approach hasn't actually helped me in the decade we've been together, why would it start helping now? 

cait5413

djd0404 said:

I felt baby's movements more strongly today than I ever have before, it felt like he was doing pirouettes and punches in my belly. I said it to DH and he pointed out that I was stressing about being stuck behind the slowest person on the planet while in line at the store, and the baby was probably reacting to my anxiety, which made me feel really bad. I hope I didn't upset the little guy, I'm going to have to work on making a concerted effort to stay zen.

This seems like a "WTF, Paul?" moment to me. DH would have gotten an earful if he had said that to me. You should be excited you can feel baby so much! He was saying hi, not telling you to chill out. Being zen is a great goal to keep your blood pressure down, but feeling the kicks and squirms might have been enough to distract you/release some happy feelings--you don't need the guilt!

KathrynJ088

Do babies actually kick more if you're stressed? I have had my moments, and definitely don't notice them kicking specifically around those times. Usually when I'm stressed (idiots driving around me is like 90% of it), I have BH and remind myself that whatever it is isn't worth it to calm myself down.

breezybee

Ugh that reminds me of my mom. I was crying about selling our house and how everything was changing (understandable!!!), and all she could say was "you need to calm down, that's not good for the babies!"  Oh my god I LOST IT on that woman. She stayed away for a couple weeks after that for fear of incurring my wrath again. I'm still annoyed by it. Your husband needs to chill TF out @djd0404!

cait5413

DH felt LO move for the first time tonight. We also had our A/S today and baby was just moving and grooving in there.

kyrwyn

LO was dancing on my drive to work this morning.  Super active and wiggly, almost like he is as excited for FRIDAY as I am.  The Bump app told me that he can hear my voice now, so I sang along to the radio while he wiggled and ended up making myself happy-cry in traffic because I was so overwhelmed by the idea that we can have mommy/son bonding time before he even gets here.

MJDsquared

@kyrwyn Ahhh that made me teary. A coworker of mine was telling me being pregnant/having a new baby were some of her favorite times and she'd always sing her son a specific lullaby when she had alone time while pregnant/when he was a baby (while driving like you said, etc) and it was so sweet.

jennasaisquoi

I have been feeling internal movement from 13 weeks, flutters, rolls, waves, and pushes, but very few defined kicks yet! Having di/di twins, but both placentas are anterior. I had an anterior placenta with my son as well, and didn't feel him until 20 weeks or so. It's probably a blessing, based on how much I see these girls moving on the ultrasound- I'd never be able to sleep!

Hubby finally felt movement today, just past 20 weeks. Baby A was doing a gymnastics routine and he caught the grand finale. Baby B is usually my live wire, so this was a pleasant surprise! 

KathrynJ088

Baby B has found my ribs..   

splsmama2016

She's breech in there, and I've gotten a whole lotta zingers to my lady bits.... its awesome when you're standing in line at the grocery store and all of a sudden your knees buckle. Its awkward explaining 'Lightening Crotch" to a kid who looks like he's MAYBE 17 years old haha. 
Yesterday at my routine appointment, she actually kicked while my dr had the doppler on my belly searching for the heartbeat. My OB commented that she's already like her sister and doesnt like weird things invading her space. I was surprised he remembered that about DD1.

kersey0208

23 weeks and Riley has become a little ninja! Love feeling her move and kicks when I lay down at night. Can't wait until I can feel outside movement! 

KathrynJ088

Wish I could post a video.. I got about 20 seconds of visible baby kicks on camera the other day! 

elev2017

@KathrynJ088 you can turn videos into gifs on a lot of free sites and then post the gif. I'd love to see the kicks!

dkizz82

DH felt baby kick last night. She was so active the whole night. It was fun! That was the only part of pregnancy i enjoyed last time. Thankfully, this one is better. 

MJDsquared

Ahhh I just felt a kick with my hand, then she stopped, then my stomach basically did the wave! So crazy. She's partying in there. DH is at work and I can't decide if I'll tell him or not because he's so hoping to feel her and I don't want him to be disappointed.

kyrwyn

@MJDsquared I text DH whenever LO is having a party in there and I always get the happy-sappiest replies. Even though he's only felt LO once, just telling him that the little guy is kicking makes him really happy. I think it depends on your DH!

MJDsquared

@kyrwyn I couldn't hold it in and did text him! I didn't mention feeling her from the outside, just that it was visible and then I said maybe he'd feel her soon.

MJDsquared

Annnnd DH got to feel her yesterday!

muskratbaby

I feel a couple little movements every day (20 wks), but I'm looking forward to feeling more. It is so reassuring and cute at this point, and not painful. I'm sure my husband will enjoy feeling them, once they are more noticeable. 

KathrynJ088

@leilagphillips I tried to gif it, but the quality gets so bad that you can't see it! I did figure out how to do a shared Google album, so maybe you can see it here? Lemme know if it works! 

https://goo.gl/photos/xM56oEbxvghJALk68

elev2017

@KathrynJ088 It worked! Ahhh that's so cool! Can't wait until my LOs start having stronger kicks like that!

Mandayno

@KathrynJ088 that's great!! So cute to watch!!!

clovelyone

@KathrynJ088 That is so cool! I can't wait to see that. 

abcola

This might warrant a new thread, but is anyone using a kick counter tracker app? I am starting to feel more regular movements (21 weeks) and want a good app to track. I downloaded one from the UK yesterday, but it doesn't seem to be very good. Anyone have anything they've been using that they like?

mdcd44127

@abcola I know Ovia has a kick counter built into the app, I haven't used it yet but I've read good things.

skc040512

I used Ovia last pregnancy and it was pretty good. Although, I will say I would suggest waiting until a little later to really truly start tracking. I managed to freak myself out a few times when everything was normal, just because DD was still a little too small for me to feel all the time. But it is good to go ahead and get prepped for when you need to start tracking!

failuretofly

@abcola I specifically asked my midwife about kick counts and she said the ACOG actually doesn't recommend them until after 30 weeks. And even then they encourage you to just be aware of babe's sleep/wake movement cycles rather than # of kicks 

katiegeminimoon

I felt the baby move on the outside last night! I tried to get DH to feel it. He said he felt something but I think it was in his head because I didn't feel her kick on the inside, haha.

kyrwyn

DH still hasn't had more than one opportunity to feel LO kick yet, but last night our dog laid her head on my stomach (oof!) and baby kicked her under the chin.  She startled and pushed back at my stomach with her muzzle, and he kicked her again.  I about died laughing.  Unfortunately, I couldn't get the sequence to repeat so DH could see/feel.  

I've been waiting for this to happen for months.  It was exactly as gratifying as I had imagined.

Tennis11785

@kyrwyn - that's adorable. 

Twice now my H has said he felt the baby kick on the outside when I didn't feel anything on the inside.  Both times he was being really cute about it, so I didn't mention that I don't think he felt anything.  But I wonder if its in his head, or if he really could be feeling something that I don't feel.  (no right? that seems crazy?)

mdcd44127

@kyrwyn That sounds hilarious!

NME44

Tennis11785 said:

@kyrwyn - that's adorable. 

Twice now my H has said he felt the baby kick on the outside when I didn't feel anything on the inside.  Both times he was being really cute about it, so I didn't mention that I don't think he felt anything.  But I wonder if its in his head, or if he really could be feeling something that I don't feel.  (no right? that seems crazy?)

I've felt movement on the outside myself when I couldn't feel it on the inside, so I would say it's possible. There's always the chance the baby is kicking placenta so it's muffled on the inside.

mdcd44127

I definitely felt my first outside kick yesterday evening (arms folded over my belly and he kicked my wrist), but of course it was when we were at a restaurant and DH had just gone to use the bathroom, so I couldn't be like "stop what you're doing and come feel this right now!" But it was still a really exciting moment for me!

whiska

@abcola Similar to @kvacmak my ob said I don't have to start doing kick counts until 28 weeks.  So I'd ask your doc at your next appointment.  

I visited a friend yesterday to meet her 2 month old and she said she never did kick counts, after clearing it with her ob, she just relied on knowing baby's schedule.  Her feeling was that trying to do the counts would make her overly anxious.

Does anyone else feel like their kicks haven't gotten stronger?  I feel like they've felt the same for 3-4 weeks now  But then a lot of what I'm reading says "Oh, well wait until 25 or 26 weeks and they'll get strong out of nowhere."  Just wondering if anyone's having a similar experience or has before?

ETA I'm 24+0 today, and H has been able to feel them for about 2-3 weeks. 

skc040512

@whiska my kicks felt the same from about 16 weeks - 22 weeks this time around. All of the sudden, they have gotten a LOT stronger and more consistent. I remember with DD1 the same thing happened  (around 28 weeks). Idk if she's just getting more active, bigger, or stronger (or all 3!) but eventually they get it in gear

Edited for typo...

peachy13

@whiska mine have! Just about a week ago (when I was 23 weeks), DH finally was able to feel a strong kick. My mom felt one yesterday. I feel like for a while just I could feel them because they were fairly light. I would have DH put his hand on my stomach and he got nothing, but now we're in business. 

failuretofly

@whiska like @Skcobb & @peachy13 mine have definitely gotten a lot stronger in the last week or two (23 weeks now). Like can DEFINITELY see from the outside and feel a solid thunk from the outside. Just wait until you're getting a foot in the ribs and you'll be like 'uuuuugh why did I wish he/she got stronger?' hahahaha