H and I were discussing doughnuts last night. I REALLY want a doughnut, but it'll have to wait until after the baby. I have a whole list of foods I want after the baby comes that I cannot have now because of GD - doughnuts, peanut butter cup pie, thai food, a peppermint mocha (will I be able to find one in late Feb?), ice cream from my favorite place...
@Xstatic3333 I'm late to this but I totally don't blame you for turning down the tickets. We went to a Pats game in the beginning of the season and even then it was a super long walk and going up and down the stairs at the stadium was killer! I can't even imagine doing it now, especially in the cold. Someone on our town FB page was selling tickets for next week and I briefly thought about it but then realized I was crazy. There's no way I want to walk a mile in the cold and trudge up all the ramps and stairs.
@kirstynikole I hope it's just a fluke and the symptoms don't mean anything. I know it's hard not to be worried, and it's understandable that you and your DH are a little nervous. It sounds like your OB has a plan just in case though. FX for you that you don't have it!!!
BFP #1: DD born on 08.25.12
BFP #2: 09/08/15 miscarried at 6w
BFP #3: DD2 born on 02.07.17
Lab work didn't come back today so now I'll be waiting through the weekend. oh well, guess I'll go get a doughnut to soothe my worry. No really though, doughnuts make me happy and I've been thinking about them all damn day.
@PerraSucia yea I'm just over here biding time. The itching comes in waves around a 5, more so annoying that I can't get comfortable. It's that mixed with the feeling sick and loss of appetite that reminds me of how it started in my first pregnancy. I know the chances are higher since I had it in my previous pregnancy, but I'm hoping I somehow just have a weird cold and dry skin.
I hope everything turns out ok @kirstynikole. Hopefully this weekend goes by quickly so you don't have to feel like you're waiting too long.
@xstatic3333, I can't imagine going to the Pats game at this far along either. And I LOVED the game I did get to go too a few years ago with H ad some of our friends. It was during a huge snowstorm and so much fun. Seriously one of the best memories I have. Of course this was with drinking involved, but still. Now, I could never. So as much as it sucks I don't blame you for even a second for passing on this one.
Anyone else disgusted by people's (other than doctors) inquiries as to what kind of birth control you'll use after giving birth? I've had a few people, including a few very close relatives, question whether or not I'm going to get my tubes tied. I understand what with our current living situation that people don't see this as being out of line, but I do. I understand some people might just be genuinely curious, but I feel like most of the time it just comes across as rude and nosy.
@Jab3 I would find that extremely rude and can definitely see why you'd feel disgusted. And nothing about your current living situation implies you need to have your tubes tied! Please don't let others make you feel that way. Having your tubes tied (or really any BC you choose) is an personal decision and I couldn't imagine relatives asking me that kind of question. It's none of their business. The only person I'm ok with talking about stuff like that with is my best friend cause she brought up the fact that she got an IUD and we were 20w apart. Anyone else I would just stare at them and not answer.
BFP #1: DD born on 08.25.12
BFP #2: 09/08/15 miscarried at 6w
BFP #3: DD2 born on 02.07.17
@Jab3 that's ridiculous! Absolutely nobody's business and you should feel free to tell them so. I'm even dreading that conversation with the nurses. I don't plan to ever go on hormonal BC again, and I know that's not the answer they like to hear, but they're not the ones who have to live with the side effects.
@xstatic3333 They just want to hear that you're going to use some form of BC, if you tell them condoms or whatever you've decided they shouldn't side eye at all. I've never been on hormonal BC of any sort and when they ask me it makes me feel awkward but when I say condoms they seem satisfied with the answer.
@Jab3 But seriously, none of their business. I'd practice my icy stare or just say "Ive discussed it with my husband and care provider. Thank you for your concern."
@xstatic3333 +1 to avoiding hormonal BC. I'm terrible with the pill and the Implant made me gain 60lbs! I might try the nuvaring or the non-hormonal IUD but condoms have worked for us in the past!
@Jab3 thank you! +1 to people asking about birth control. With us waiting for lab work my MIL suggested I should have my tubes tied after this pregnancy if it happens again. Granted my husband and I had already discussed this being our last child if I do have cholestasis again, but I felt like her telling me to tie my tubes was super out of line!!
Im also unsure about which particular birth control method to use. My mom had a bad reaction to the IUD, and I haven't been a fan of pills since having my son. I used the mini pill for a few months while breastfeeding but it affected my supply so I stopped. Since then we've used condoms and have been pretty successful, but had a user error which resulted in this pregnancy. We knew when it happened and weren't worried because we had already decided to start trying again, but now I'm nervous of that happening again. My friend swore by her diaphragm...
@Xstatic3333 Also avoiding hormonal BC here. I tried everything except implants and IUDs when we first got married. So many issues with weight gain, mood swings, etc. Condoms and charting work JUST fine. And no ugly effects...
Going off hormonal birth control after 7 years was probably the best thing I've ever done. I don't want to go back so I'm also hoping condoms can be our solve. I should look into charting too.
I've had 2 experiences at different hospitals and can tell you that nurses definitely get rude and nasty if you tell them you have no interest in them setting up your birth control lol.
Ugh, I was somewhat guilted into baby showers and one is today (the other tomorrow) but I don't want to go. Of course I kinda have to go lol
@jab3 absolutely no one has any right to ask those sorts of personal questions no matter what your situation is & i definitely wouldnt hesitate to tell anyone to mind their own business if they ask!
Thanks @Aussie45, @Xstatic3333 and @Gretchypoo. Now I don't feel like I'm being overly sensitive or something. People have acted like it's a topic of casual conversation and I disagree. It's personal and no ones business. Talking with friends is different to me than random relatives with no tact. Now at least, I have some good comebacks up my sleeve instead of just freezing up and getting all awkward when I'm asked about that!
Agreed @Jab3 absolutely no one's business! And extremely uncalled for that someone would think it was appropriate just due to your current circumstances. It's still a personal decision and no one's business but yours!
@PerraSucia I think that's how things are gonna be for us since we have two girls. I told DH after this pregnancy I'm done. I know I might change my mind later, but right now, I honestly feel like I could be happy being done. No one that's going to be pushing for us to have a "boy" knows how anxious I've been this whole pregnancy. I don't need to explain that ish because it's none of their damn business. I don't "need" a boy to complete our family, I'm happy with the kids I have, and if we do decided to have another it'll be because we want another kid, not because we're hoping for one with a peen between his legs.
I know I shouldn't be surprised when people ask such personal questions, but for some reason I always am. People have no tact.
BFP #1: DD born on 08.25.12
BFP #2: 09/08/15 miscarried at 6w
BFP #3: DD2 born on 02.07.17
+1 to non hormonal birth control! I had Mirena for 5 years, and also horrible PPD for 5 years. In my mind, that's no coincidence. Luckily we know we are done done, so I'll be getting a TL with my c-section. But +100000000 to it being nobody's business to ask those questions!
It's definitely nobody's business and it's really weird that anyone thinks it's ok to ask. I'm also on the no hormones train but I hate condoms. I want to go with something that's convenient. I tried 2 different bc pills before I just stopped because of side effects. We would use condoms occasionally but we didn't get pregnant for about a year and we weren't trying for most of that time, just tracking to avoid the first 6 months.
This is one of the only advantages of infertility, i won't even bother with BC! I am just mad all the years I spent religiously taking the pill, what a waste. I thought I was just an all star BCP taker
This is one of the only advantages of infertility, i won't even bother with BC! I am just mad all the years I spent religiously taking the pill, what a waste. I thought I was just an all star BCP taker
You never know, you could be surprisingly fertile after this pregnancy!
This is one of the only advantages of infertility, i won't even bother with BC! I am just mad all the years I spent religiously taking the pill, what a waste. I thought I was just an all star BCP taker
Let me be that cautionary tale . . . 14 months and IVF with twins, 4 pregnancies that surprised us after that! Obviously 2 of them stuck.
Married - 7/29/06 Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09 Mia - 6/16/11 Surprise! due 2/23/17
@leslie1331 dude it's basically asking for more kids to not do something after fertility issues. I have like 2 eggs left and know at 43 they would both get fertilized and one would split or something.
@leslie1331 dude it's basically asking for more kids to not do something after fertility issues. I have like 2 eggs left and know at 43 they would both get fertilized and one would split or something.
Oh I hear ya! I probably will realistically do something when I know I don't want it to happen (first 12 months after she's born) then go off and see what happens. I do have 7 blastocysts left, so I have backup I always handled the pill fine, I did seasonale, so going back on it wouldn't be the end of the world. The IUD seems a little excessive in my case though. Well at least at this point in my life
@leslie1331 I'm with you on infertility being my easy BC plan. Married 12 years, never used any birth control, and never had any pregnancies except through IVF. I feel perfectly fine with my odds. Pregnancy after losing my twins and needing a cerclage has been extremely stressful. We are planning to be done and not do ivf again.
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And @MommaBean I think you're now the sole reason many of us are craving a doughnut now. I could go for a strawberry iced, or blueberry cake doughnut.
@xstatic3333, I can't imagine going to the Pats game at this far along either. And I LOVED the game I did get to go too a few years ago with H ad some of our friends. It was during a huge snowstorm and so much fun. Seriously one of the best memories I have. Of course this was with drinking involved, but still. Now, I could never. So as much as it sucks I don't blame you for even a second for passing on this one.
Anyone else disgusted by people's (other than doctors) inquiries as to what kind of birth control you'll use after giving birth? I've had a few people, including a few very close relatives, question whether or not I'm going to get my tubes tied. I understand what with our current living situation that people don't see this as being out of line, but I do. I understand some people might just be genuinely curious, but I feel like most of the time it just comes across as rude and nosy.
But seriously, none of their business. I'd practice my icy stare or just say "Ive discussed it with my husband and care provider. Thank you for your concern."
@xstatic3333 +1 to avoiding hormonal BC. I'm terrible with the pill and the Implant made me gain 60lbs! I might try the nuvaring or the non-hormonal IUD but condoms have worked for us in the past!
Im also unsure about which particular birth control method to use. My mom had a bad reaction to the IUD, and I haven't been a fan of pills since having my son. I used the mini pill for a few months while breastfeeding but it affected my supply so I stopped. Since then we've used condoms and have been pretty successful, but had a user error which resulted in this pregnancy. We knew when it happened and weren't worried because we had already decided to start trying again, but now I'm nervous of that happening again. My friend swore by her diaphragm...
Ugh, I was somewhat guilted into baby showers and one is today (the other tomorrow) but I don't want to go. Of course I kinda have to go lol
I know I shouldn't be surprised when people ask such personal questions, but for some reason I always am. People have no tact.
Married: 9/2013
Love my LEO!!
TTC #1: 9/2015
BFP: 2/1/16 MC 2/8/16 @ 5wks
BFP: 5/22/16 RAINBOW BABY
EDD: 1/30/2017 *IT'S A GIRL!!!!*
Kirsten Grace 1/20/17
Me: 37 - H: 39
TTC#1: 01/2016
BFP: 06/18/2016 - EDD: 02/20/2017 - Born: 01/27/2017
Married: 9/2013
Love my LEO!!
TTC #1: 9/2015
BFP: 2/1/16 MC 2/8/16 @ 5wks
BFP: 5/22/16 RAINBOW BABY
EDD: 1/30/2017 *IT'S A GIRL!!!!*
Kirsten Grace 1/20/17
Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09
Mia - 6/16/11
Surprise! due 2/23/17