My husband and I knew we wanted a basketball team before we had the first one. As soon as I gave birth I thought it would be quite some time before I would have another but three months went by and I was having baby fever already. We have both always wanted a bunch and as long as we can handle it mentally and financially we will keep going. Honestly I don't know if I'll ever feel really done. I will stop though haha!
also, everyone we know is aware that we want a bunch so they just joke a lot about how we'll have 8 kids and make up for the rest of our family not having any... we won't have 8 but I don't mind the jokes.
My mom is planning to come the week before I'm due and staying 3-4 weeks after baby is born - DH is technically here on a visitor's visa so he'll be at home with baby and me, and then at home with baby without me. I'm not sure how I feel about my mom being here so long, but we'll see. She's the helpful type of mom I suppose - and she knows that I'll take what I want from her advice and ignore what I don't want - she's 100% ok with that. I haven't seen her in person for over a year, which is really strange for us (normally 2-4x per year even with huge distances) so I think it will be good for both of us. She and I can also just sit in the same room and talk or not talk - knit or not knit - pre baby so I don't feel like I have to entertain her. Thankfully we'll be in our new home by that point, I don't know what I could handle in our current condo. MIL and stepFIL will come at some point - but we're still figuring out when - it can't overlap with my mom because we only have 1 spare bed. This is their 1st grandchild...
We're not sure what to do about the hospital part - she won't have a car, and even if she did she hates driving in big cities. But she's also older (74) and I don't know if a night on hospital chairs will be good for her. We're thinking that DH popping home to pick her up after baby is born is the best plan.
EDIT - sorry - I hit post before I think things through... This is our first, I'm just sharing what our plans are...
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@LivingLaVidaGinger I am in the one and done camp. Now if an accident happens, it will not be the end of the world. But cost of things like day care make it only possible for one. Also I want my kid to be a ski racer like I was and that is one of the most expensive sports ever. Also I know for sure I do not want more than 2 kids. Every house I have been in that have more than two kids are chaotic, I just can't handle it, I have to deal with 130 middle school kids every day and when I come home I do not want to be out number by kids there too.
I grew up as a only child and I loved it. I became very comfortable at having conversations with adults at a young age and became very creative because I had to entertain myself. Also my parents could afford to do more experiences with me that they would not been able to do if I had a sibling ( like I got to go to a private school in my elementary years) and they were able to participate more in my activities because they did not need to split their time. For example my mom was my girl scout leader, she said she probably would not have time for that if she had more than one kid while being a big boss with crazy long work hours.
DH and I are also in the OAD camp. Our decision comes down to a few things. First, I'm 37. I've had so much anxiety around the possible complications of having a baby this late that I don't want to go through it again. Not to mention, I already worry about hitting all the big milestones being so much older than other moms. Second, DH and I agreed that it just makes more sense for what we want lifestyle wise. Having one seems more do-able financially and practically. Finally, I had experiences of being an only child (living with my mom) and being one of four (living with my dad & step-mom). With my personality, I usually liked being an only child a bit better. I've always been independent and somewhat introverted. DH is very similar. Obviously, there is no guarantee that our kid will be anything like us, but we both agreed on this from the beginning of family planning discussions.
I'm a FTM but DH and I know we both want more. We however don't really have the timing planned out for the next one and will wait and see how this one goes. We're thinking at least 2 years out but we shall see what happens. Also I kind of want 3 but DH wants 2 and really the decision will prob come down to finances on if we can afford 3 or not.
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
dh and I always talked about 3 or 4. While I was pregnant for number one I knew that I wasn't done. Number two pregnancy was hard and life circumstances had changed though(dh joined the navy) so we considered stopping at two. We ultimately decided we wanted to add a third but in a few years. Then our surprise homecoming baby came along. Haha. Although I sometimes think about a fourth baby and don't know if that feeling will ever go away, I'm pretty sure we'll stop at 3. Financially it's a good place for us to still get to do the things with the kids we want etc. and also after two rough pregnancies I'm not so sure about chancing another. Not rough like some others- but very sick etc is really hard, especially when you have other kids. But still- we won't make a final decision or take any more permanent measures for a few years just so we know for certain. It's hard to decide while you're pregnant and before the baby is actually here. I want my hormones to settle down, etc.
@LivingLaVidaGinger being an only child made me want to have more than one kid. As much as was able to experience being an only child, I really wish I had a sibling and want to give that to this baby. Now, I always thought I'd end up with 4 but after this unexpected pregnancy I think I would be okay with 2. 4 seems like a lot financially and I want to be able to have both my fiancé and I able to spend time with the kids as a family and not just constantly working to provide for them.
I am not sure what we will do. We had 3 years of infertility before this worked. So we were put through the wringer. We changed to a new doctor- it worked on the first try and I have 7 frozen embryos. So, that makes me hopeful we could have at least one more, but I am realistic enough to accept it might not. We have decided that we won't do the fertility meds, retrieval, etc. again, which has been a huge weight off my shoulders. If we have one child, then that's what we will have. So I THINK I want one more but I kind of hope I am good with one!
Both my husband and I are 1 of 5 too. We both agree that will NOT happen (even before we had issues), but it's nice to know our daughter will have plently of cousins if she is our only one!
H and I definitely want more kids, although how many is still our debate. He wants 2, I want 3. H is pretty dead set on trying to pay for our kids college 100%, where I'm ok if we help them the best we can and they have to have some loans. That basically comes down to the way each of us was raised. Regardless, we both said we will re-evaluate after each child before making our final decision. We will see how this first one goes!
I'm so glad I'm not the only OAD person! I feel like it's often looked down on. It's very interesting to hear everyone's plans and the rationales behind them.
You know we were undecided until we met our kid and realized how much he would like having a sibling. If we were close with his cousins we probably would have only had one but we just see them a handful of times a year.
Then when my dad got sick I was glad I had someone else to comisertate about how much dealing with it sucked.
FTM, and we're totally split on if we're done or not. We want(ed) two. Parts of the pregnancy have been so much better than I expected, but the trapped-feeling fear of complications has been worse than I thought. I'm with @MLRocha on the complications anxiety. For me it's epilepsy meds and diabetes. We had all the screenings for the things that I risk doing to him, and everything has come back perfect. There have been a few worries, but really it's been amazing. Somehow that hasn't helped. It still feels like last May I irresponsibly rolled a baby through a landmine and idly hoped he didn't hit anything. It could be PGAL, it could be hormones, who knows. I really hope I can take 2 or so years, a few deep breaths, and do this again. Less anxiously
We initially talked about wanting 2. But by the time this one is here, I'll be 37 and H will be 1 month shy of 40. I would definitely want at least a couple years between kiddos, and based on how crappy this pregnancy has been for me, I feel like I might be more in the OAD camp. I don't know that I could go through this again (I mean, I'm sure I could, I just don't know that I would want to). We'll see what happens after this one is here.
We always thought we'd want 2, but lately we're leaning towards OAD. Everything from finances, our ages, to DH being gone a LOT, to us knowing that emotionally we could give much more to one child plays into it. We also would love to travel and give our child amazing experiences that would be so much harder with 2. I hear a lot of people saying they were an only child and always longed for a sibling. I see it from the opposite side- my sister and I have never been close, she's just not a good person. DH's sister is an adult alcoholic thats a succubus and causes so many dramatic episodes. So its really the luck of the draw.
I think there will always be a part of me that will want one more than we already have (even if we had 6 kids, I'd still want another) but I don't feel mournful that we may stop at one. Who knows lol. DH is all about getting snipped when the time comes.
As far as my mom or MIL (*shudder*) staying for an extended period of time: No. They can visit here and there but it would cause a lot of unecessary stress and exhaustion with them "helping."
I think this conversation is hard to have in the middle of 3rd tri. We all feel crappy and don't have the end in sight yet. I would be curious how things change for people after babies are here and a few months have gone by. We had discussed numbers before we got married and DH wanted 3 and I wanted 4. Our first was a preemie but overall healthy. Our second was small but full term and healthy. With our third I ended up on bedrest for 6 weeks- I seriously didn't think I would convince DH to try for a 4th but he came around. We had actually talked about stopping trying after some secondary infertility issues due to the distance in ages that the kids were going to be. Of course that was the month I got pregnant. Finances have always been a big discussion with us because of college tuition savings and such. I don't expect to have 100% saved for all 4 of them, but would like decent amounts. My parents didn't have savings for me and neither did his parents. I choose schools based on scholarships. I managed to complete 10 years of schooling after high school with debt under 100k- which is pretty darn good considering all of the schools I went to. For childcare we have a nanny who gets a raise when another child is added. Though in the fall we will have half of the kids in full time school so she will actually have less kids to watch.
We thought we were done after #2, and I had an IUD for 5 years. When it came time to either have it replaced or removed, we obviously had decisions to solidify. Trying for one more just felt right, and we are beyond excited! She will be our last, and our only girl. We see her as a gift after the struggles we've had the past 5 years. I had horrible PPD/PPA after #2, DH went through nursing school, nursing school caused marital problems. After recovering from all of that, she's a bonus baby. And that just feels like the right number. I will be having a tubal ligation along with my c-section this time. Also, this will be my 3rd c-section, and that seems like more than enough surgery.
DH and I always talked about having 2 or 3, but now that LO will be here soon, we are not so sure we want to add to our family, or at least not any time soon.
Finances are a big factor for us, as well as space. We will be able to comfortably live with 3 people in our home now, but would definitely need a bigger house if we decide we want more children. Also, day care is incredibly expensive, so I would want to wait until DD is in kindergarten at least (the kiddos go full day KG here) so that we don't have two in day care at the same time.
I'm relatively young (27), so it wouldn't be a big issue for me if we waited 5 or 6 years to have another one. My sister and I are 4 years apart and DH is 10 and 6 years younger than his sisters so we are both used to larger age gaps. My niece and nephew are also only children, so it wouldn't bother me if DD was an only child either.
I guess we'll just wait and see how life with DD will be before we make any decisions on adding to our family.
Im a FTM, so I totally understand that my perspective may change once the baby arrives, but we've talked about it and are both on the same page with being OAD. We purposely waited to have a kid until we were in a certain place financially and also until we had enough of our own time together having adventures. Because of that we are both older, I'm mid-thirties, H is mid-forties. We want to continue to be able to travel, want to be able to provide our kid all kinds of experiences and advantages, extra curriculars, good schools, etc. Because we live in a very expensive city and don't have family to rely on nearby - we just feel like one is all that we can handle that would still allow us to to maintain our lifestyle.
We had talked about having two kids, but after DD I had a miscarriage and was firmly in the OAD camp. Eventually I started to come around to trying again and here we are. I guess my point is that even after you have your current inside baby, you may change your minds a few times over.
That's true @Spicyweiner we changed our minds many a time even after the kids were here! That's why we definitely want to give it a few years before we decide to snip, etc.
I had terrible morning sickness up until I delivered DD. And then she was the most colicky baby ever. I was 100% happy with just her and my marriage was also falling apart so I knew adding a baby to the mix would be the nail in the coffin. We later got divorced and I obviously thought I was one and done officially at that point.
But when I met my husband I got baby fever pretty bad. We blended our families and our kids together and it just seemed to make sense that once we got married we'd try for a baby. Then I got pregnant by surprise but it was a happy surprise, and we will now be a hectic household of 4 kids. I never would have imagined but I'm happy how things are turning out
Has anyone had Yogi brand green tea (decaf)? We were excited to get it but noticed it said herbal supplement on it and had a note on the side to ask your doctor if you're pregnant. I know herbal teas are usually a no but I thought green teas were okay
I used to say I wanted 4-8 kids, but as a FTM with a semi-rocky pregnancy this round, I'm not sure. DH is one of 8 and I'm one of 3, and all of our parents are from big families too. I think its more fun when you're older as well. Our baby already has 9 cousins on DH's side with not even half of the siblings married yet and on my side the baby will have 1 cousin with maaaaybe 2-3 more overall. I have two older brothers and always wanted a sister, as my mom is best friends with her sisters, but I think ultimately every family dynamic is different and you can't guarantee anything either way.
I'm a FTM and whether we're OAD depends on our family dynamics after our little girl arrives. If we have another it will hopefully be with a 2-3 year spacing between them.
DH and I are each 1 of 4 - but my siblings are 15, 17 and 19 years older than I am (remarriage) so I feel more like an only - my nieces and nephews are closer in age to me, the eldest is just 8 years younger and now we're pretty close. I'd like 2 - we have family all over the place (we're in TX, all family is in Canada or Italy) but I think with 2 we could manage financially because we aren't big spenders in most areas of life. My dad had an extended battle with Parkinson's Disease and having siblings was such a blessing, even if I'm not as close to them as they are to each other. And DH is super close with his siblings now.
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Our first was a complete surprise. I was even on BC and so we never discussed how many kids we would want before hand. It was something "we had time to discuss in the future...." After DS was born, I went through PPD for a few months and so I had myself convinced we were OAD. I'm an only child myself so I didn't see it as a big deal. H wanted more though. It's only when DS turned 18 months old that I started coming around to the idea of having another. I just felt it in my heart that it's something I wanted after all.
H says he's always wanted 3 kids but I told him I'm drawing the line at 2 and he says he's really ok with that in the end. I'll be getting my tubes tied after my c-section.
************* First BFP: 12/16/13 EDD: 08/23/14 Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
DH doesn't like to talk about the total number of kids, he's more of a after-we-have-two-my-brain-can-talk-about-three and so on. He was an only child, so his only thought is more than one.
In my head I want three, but pregnancy is such an anxiety ridden affair for me, that I'm not sure I want to do it again. I love the idea of three boys, but I will probably feel guilty if after two boys, we have a girl and don't try to give her a sister best friend. And I'm pretty sure that's how you snowball into four kids, and that sounds like SO MANY KIDS.
Has anyone had Yogi brand green tea (decaf)? We were excited to get it but noticed it said herbal supplement on it and had a note on the side to ask your doctor if you're pregnant. I know herbal teas are usually a no but I thought green teas were okay
I was always told no green tea, but that was back over 8 years ago. My Dr this time didn't say anything about it, but I don't like green tea anyway so I didn't ask.
@kswiger 06 ohh I didn't know green tea was a no-no too, I thought just "herbal" but I guess that is a pretty large umbrella. I like iced green tea but not hot usually. My fiancé got an amazing hot one that was decaf for me (so thoughtful!) but was sooo bummed when it said herbal supplement on the box and to check with my dr since I'm pregnant. Ohhh well, I told him to save me a few haha.
@jlellis603 I'm no doctor or herbalist, but my understanding is that the issue with green tea is that it can inhibit folic acid absorption, which is more of a first tri issue. I would legitimately just ask at your next appointment. There's a good chance a cup a day or so at this point would be fine! I love green tea and drank massive amounts while TTC, but stopped only because I'd rather spend my caffeine on coffee.
@ohstars 4 kids does sound like so many. I still haven't wrapped my head around it. Fwiw, the best way to snowball (avalanche) into 4 is to accidentally drop 2 eggs when you're trying for #3. #vasectomy2017
I always thought it would be the coolest to be the only girl and have older brothers. This is the case with a bunch of my friends, and they all loved it.
@Xstatic3333 oh thanks for the info! I'll ask in a couple of weeks when I go back. I'm with your, I'd rather use my allotted caffeine for coffee, but this special tea is decaf, yay! Also - did TB eat your avatar? It threw me off haha
4 does sound like a lot of kids, too many, I agree! Actually another way to get 4 is to not be ready for any permanant decisions, and to be planning to talk to your doctor about an ablation, but then to be off your birth control for a couple months before that.
We are also team #vasectomy2017, DH just had that conversation with his doctor yesterday.
Married - 7/29/06 Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09 Mia - 6/16/11 Surprise! due 2/23/17
Re: Number of kids - I am the youngest of four, so growing up it always seemed like 3-4 was an ideal number. I can't imagine having fewer than three siblings, though now that I am an adult and in my childbearing years, I wonder how my parents did it. I'm up for two kids, three max.
H and I have already discussed what we want to do in terms of future children, contingent upon how things go with the baby on the way. We would like to have a second relatively soon after the first - like a two, two and a half year age gap? But since I only have one fallopian tube and we are not confident I will get lucky and get pregnant as quickly a second time as I did this time, we plan to start trying again when this baby is just under a year old. Depending on how THAT goes, maybe we'll have a third in a few years. And after that, H will be getting a vasectomy.
Re: kiddos I'm a FTM but I've known for years that I wanted kids. We have been SUPER lucky. Got KU on the 1st try. Pregnancy has been pretty easy on me and our only complication is this stupid GD and blood sugars that won't go down.
I want 3 and could easily physically have 3 (probably) but for financial reasons we'd need to space them out quite a bit. So I could be 39 or 40 on #3. Not sure I want to do that!
Re: kiddos I'm a FTM but I've known for years that I wanted kids. We have been SUPER lucky. Got KU on the 1st try. Pregnancy has been pretty easy on me and our only complication is this stupid GD and blood sugars that won't go down.
I want 3 and could easily physically have 3 (probably) but for financial reasons we'd need to space them out quite a bit. So I could be 39 or 40 on #3. Not sure I want to do that!
Hey, being pregnant at 39 is super cool. Just kidding. It was so much easier when I was 34/35, but maybe that's because I have a very active 4 year old to keep up with?
My chart at my mfm labels me as "elderly multigravida" though. That's not so cool.
Re: kiddos I'm a FTM but I've known for years that I wanted kids. We have been SUPER lucky. Got KU on the 1st try. Pregnancy has been pretty easy on me and our only complication is this stupid GD and blood sugars that won't go down.
I want 3 and could easily physically have 3 (probably) but for financial reasons we'd need to space them out quite a bit. So I could be 39 or 40 on #3. Not sure I want to do that!
Hey, being pregnant at 39 is super cool. Just kidding. It was so much easier when I was 34/35, but maybe that's because I have a very active 4 year old to keep up with?
My chart at my mfm labels me as "elderly multigravida" though. That's not so cool.
LMFAO omg that's amazing. I know it isn't too old to have kids, but will I still want to be pregnant then? *shrug* I'm leaving it open.
Props to you @FreshBakedBrownies! This pregnancy is so much harder at 31 than I remember my other 2 pregnancies being at 23 and 24.
Thanks? Our life plan was 3-4 kids and get started before turning 30. Well, unexplained infertilty/God/bad luck laughed at that plan! Our miracle son was from ivf#7 and was going to be our last try. Then after finally knowing it was possible, we wanted to try for a sibling. Lost our twins fall '15, and now here we are, 31 weeks with our last ivf baby. In general I think having little kids keeps you young, but that doesn't seem to apply to breezing through pregnancy.
At 38, with older kids, I have to say, I feel very old, all the time, and also, I have no idea how we are going to function without sleep again. I also clearly remembered a couple weeks ago how I felt old around other moms with my twins, almost 8 years ago
Married - 7/29/06 Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09 Mia - 6/16/11 Surprise! due 2/23/17
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also, everyone we know is aware that we want a bunch so they just joke a lot about how we'll have 8 kids and make up for the rest of our family not having any... we won't have 8 but I don't mind the jokes.
We're not sure what to do about the hospital part - she won't have a car, and even if she did she hates driving in big cities. But she's also older (74) and I don't know if a night on hospital chairs will be good for her. We're thinking that DH popping home to pick her up after baby is born is the best plan.
EDIT - sorry - I hit post before I think things through... This is our first, I'm just sharing what our plans are...
Me: 33 & DH: 33
Married: 07/2006
TTC: 10/2015
BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017
I grew up as a only child and I loved it. I became very comfortable at having conversations with adults at a young age and became very creative because I had to entertain myself. Also my parents could afford to do more experiences with me that they would not been able to do if I had a sibling ( like I got to go to a private school in my elementary years) and they were able to participate more in my activities because they did not need to split their time. For example my mom was my girl scout leader, she said she probably would not have time for that if she had more than one kid while being a big boss with crazy long work hours.
Married to my Soul Mate since 09/06/09
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
I am not sure what we will do. We had 3 years of infertility before this worked. So we were put through the wringer. We changed to a new doctor- it worked on the first try and I have 7 frozen embryos. So, that makes me hopeful we could have at least one more, but I am realistic enough to accept it might not. We have decided that we won't do the fertility meds, retrieval, etc. again, which has been a huge weight off my shoulders. If we have one child, then that's what we will have. So I THINK I want one more but I kind of hope I am good with one!
Both my husband and I are 1 of 5 too. We both agree that will NOT happen (even before we had issues), but it's nice to know our daughter will have plently of cousins if she is our only one!
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Then when my dad got sick I was glad I had someone else to comisertate about how much dealing with it sucked.
Married: 10/10
EDD: 8/27/16 MMC 1/16
Rainbow Boy: 2/04/17
TTC: 4/18 BFP: 1/2/19
EDD: 9/6/19
Me: 37 - H: 39
TTC#1: 01/2016
BFP: 06/18/2016 - EDD: 02/20/2017 - Born: 01/27/2017
I think there will always be a part of me that will want one more than we already have (even if we had 6 kids, I'd still want another) but I don't feel mournful that we may stop at one. Who knows lol. DH is all about getting snipped when the time comes.
As far as my mom or MIL (*shudder*) staying for an extended period of time: No. They can visit here and there but it would cause a lot of unecessary stress and exhaustion with them "helping."
We see her as a gift after the struggles we've had the past 5 years. I had horrible PPD/PPA after #2, DH went through nursing school, nursing school caused marital problems. After recovering from all of that, she's a bonus baby. And that just feels like the right number. I will be having a tubal ligation along with my c-section this time. Also, this will be my 3rd c-section, and that seems like more than enough surgery.
Finances are a big factor for us, as well as space. We will be able to comfortably live with 3 people in our home now, but would definitely need a bigger house if we decide we want more children. Also, day care is incredibly expensive, so I would want to wait until DD is in kindergarten at least (the kiddos go full day KG here) so that we don't have two in day care at the same time.
I'm relatively young (27), so it wouldn't be a big issue for me if we waited 5 or 6 years to have another one. My sister and I are 4 years apart and DH is 10 and 6 years younger than his sisters so we are both used to larger age gaps. My niece and nephew are also only children, so it wouldn't bother me if DD was an only child either.
I guess we'll just wait and see how life with DD will be before we make any decisions on adding to our family.
Eventually I started to come around to trying again and here we are.
I guess my point is that even after you have your current inside baby, you may change your minds a few times over.
I had terrible morning sickness up until I delivered DD. And then she was the most colicky baby ever. I was 100% happy with just her and my marriage was also falling apart so I knew adding a baby to the mix would be the nail in the coffin. We later got divorced and I obviously thought I was one and done officially at that point.
But when I met my husband I got baby fever pretty bad. We blended our families and our kids together and it just seemed to make sense that once we got married we'd try for a baby. Then I got pregnant by surprise but it was a happy surprise, and we will now be a hectic household of 4 kids. I never would have imagined but I'm happy how things are turning out
DH and I are each 1 of 4 - but my siblings are 15, 17 and 19 years older than I am (remarriage) so I feel more like an only - my nieces and nephews are closer in age to me, the eldest is just 8 years younger and now we're pretty close. I'd like 2 - we have family all over the place (we're in TX, all family is in Canada or Italy) but I think with 2 we could manage financially because we aren't big spenders in most areas of life. My dad had an extended battle with Parkinson's Disease and having siblings was such a blessing, even if I'm not as close to them as they are to each other. And DH is super close with his siblings now.
Me: 33 & DH: 33
Married: 07/2006
TTC: 10/2015
BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017
After DS was born, I went through PPD for a few months and so I had myself convinced we were OAD. I'm an only child myself so I didn't see it as a big deal. H wanted more though. It's only when DS turned 18 months old that I started coming around to the idea of having another. I just felt it in my heart that it's something I wanted after all.
H says he's always wanted 3 kids but I told him I'm drawing the line at 2 and he says he's really ok with that in the end. I'll be getting my tubes tied after my c-section.
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
In my head I want three, but pregnancy is such an anxiety ridden affair for me, that I'm not sure I want to do it again. I love the idea of three boys, but I will probably feel guilty if after two boys, we have a girl and don't try to give her a sister best friend. And I'm pretty sure that's how you snowball into four kids, and that sounds like SO MANY KIDS.
I always thought it would be the coolest to be the only girl and have older brothers. This is the case with a bunch of my friends, and they all loved it.
We are also team #vasectomy2017, DH just had that conversation with his doctor yesterday.
Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09
Mia - 6/16/11
Surprise! due 2/23/17
H and I have already discussed what we want to do in terms of future children, contingent upon how things go with the baby on the way. We would like to have a second relatively soon after the first - like a two, two and a half year age gap? But since I only have one fallopian tube and we are not confident I will get lucky and get pregnant as quickly a second time as I did this time, we plan to start trying again when this baby is just under a year old. Depending on how THAT goes, maybe we'll have a third in a few years. And after that, H will be getting a vasectomy.
I want 3 and could easily physically have 3 (probably) but for financial reasons we'd need to space them out quite a bit. So I could be 39 or 40 on #3. Not sure I want to do that!
My chart at my mfm labels me as "elderly multigravida" though. That's not so cool.
In general I think having little kids keeps you young, but that doesn't seem to apply to breezing through pregnancy.
Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09
Mia - 6/16/11
Surprise! due 2/23/17