September Randoms

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Trial run of a monthly randoms thread instead of weekly. If this gets too long, we can switch back to weekly!

setosh

First random: I miss you guys.. and the snark. 

LDSJM123

Can't decide if everyone is super busy with their babies or just over on the book of faces group. I do follow a handful of you (or them) on Instagram though, so that's fun! 

austinjl

Today I woke up wondering when I will ever sleep in again...let's say til 8...and when children stop crying daily....

DachshundMomma

I am seriously debating on going back to work. I'm going to give it a try but wont torture myself if I hate it. I have a great job and all but the thought of leaving my son just breaks my heart, especially since I've gotten to witness him grow and change every day since he was born. My husband, fortunately, fully supports it. Not to mention we're still unable to find childcare which is discouraging. Well, I found a nanny but during the interview she asked me how to change a diaper and what to feed him. Alarm bells...

Are any of you having the same emotions regarding going to work? 

lalamilk

Yes I am worried/hesitant about going back to work. I'm a nurse and I work 12 hour shifts at night so I'm leaving my baby one night with dad and the other night with my parents. The thing that sucks is that I have to be away from her at night and the next day as well so I can get some sleep once I get off. I don't know how to do it I already feel so sleep deprived I can't imagine staying up all night again like I used to. And I don't want to be away from my beautiful angel. 

DachshundMomma

@lalamilk I work 4, 10 hour days and call shifts. It's a great job but I get so sad thinking of leaving him. I'm glad I'm not the only one hesitate about returning. I never thought I'd be wanting to stay at home but my gut and heart are telling me to.

setosh

I unfortunately don't have a choice when it comes to returning to work. I have way too many bills and my boyfriend doesn't make enough to support us. Which I don't expect him to, but it sucks. I start a new job on the 12th and the LO will only be 7 weeks old. I'll be working 11-7:30 M-F and every 5th Saturday from 8-3:30. Boyfriend works 8 days straight from 9:30 pm-7:15 am and then has 6 days off. We are barely going to see each other and the sleep deprivation isn't going to be fun either. 

joleri23

@setosh That sounds awful! The best I can say is try it out and if it needs to change, you guys will find a way to make it work. And I also miss all the snark around here.

@DachshundMomma I'm totally a wreck about going back to work this week. My plan is to work 3 10-hour days and 2 5-hour days, and I'm already freaking out about it. I keep telling myself to calm down and give it a shot. I'd say if you have DH's blessing, stay home!

LF93

Kyle is getting to big for his bassinet and his crib won't fit in my room. I don't think I'm quite ready to have him in his room on his own. His crib is literally 10 feet from my bed though so he'll be fine but I'm weary about him being alone in the room. 

I miss the snark too, not that I ever really got involved in it much but it was great entertainment to read when I was in bed! 

Kellyj103

@LDSJM123 I'll admit I'm too busy with the fb group lol!!! But I miss ya girl! If you ever get a Facebook please join it! It's hard to juggle a baby, fb group and the bump. Also, who are all these people? hardly recognize those names. 

mnkenned

Hey peeps, what time is your LO's "bedtime"? Mine has been slowly creeping up from 2am (!) to 11, to now 9:30 tonight. She is super fussy in the evenings and cluster feeds until she falls asleep and we tend to have a few false starts, but I always feel like she's overly tired when I put her down and I missed her actual bedtime. Anyone on a schedule yet?

winnie1122

Hm, how did I miss the FB group starting up? I remember something about it during the ban explosion when half the board was in timeout...but I guess I thought it fizzled out. Is that where everyone is now???

LDSJM123

I was curious if I got back on Facebook if I'm cool enough to get enough votes to make the group over there. I remember someone mentioning y'all vote on each person. Just don't know if I could handle the rejection.    

edited to add smiley faces. Hahaha 

babycakesday

@mnkenned I hadn't put LO on a schedule, but a friend of mine told me to jot down her sleep/nap times so I could see a pattern. Started tracking at 3 weeks and towards the end of week four I began to see her sleep pattern. Her bedtime is around 9:30pm. Sometimes earlier sometimes later, but she's the one who kind of told us. 

allthingscozy

I know I have l start working hard on transitioning Lil to her crib but part of me doesn't want to I like her close in our room but I know I will sleep better once she is In her own room though since I won't wake up to every little sound she makes 

arhodes6

We have had our LO in his crib since he was 3 weeks old because my husband couldn't sleep with him in our room. He woke up to every little sound DS made. If it were up to me he would still be in our room, but it works out better for us this way. DS sleeps great in his crib and his room is directly across from our bedroom and only about 10 feet away. We opted for a video monitor even though I thought it was unnecessary, but I'm so glad we did because I can keep an eye on DS and feel more comfortable with him by himself. And I know we all sleep better this way. But I think you have to do what's best for you and your family. This works for us but I know I am the minority. 

kellz14

@arhodes6  Same for us. We moved him to his own room at 4 weeks.  DH sleeps much better now... I really just didn't want to risk him being so tired that he falls asleep on his commute to work. That's a real possibility.

shaylalr

@mnkenned E goes to bed at 7:30pm, sometimes 7 if she seems very tired.  We were feeling like that too when I put her down at 9 so we reevaluated. She now sleeps from 7:30 to 4am. Then wakes up again at 6. We are on a schedule because she really thrives on structure! She hates when we deviate from the plan and ends up waking up multiple times in the night for comfort. If she gets her bedtime routine and is in bed by 7, she is great. On weekends we commonly throw her bedtime out the window and I am up more often, but we need our social lives too! 

Here is her schedule at 9 weeks. I built this based on tracking her habits and the help of my sister in law. E can only stay up an hour and then she sleeps for an hour and a half. 

6 am: Eat. Play. Sleep. 

9:00 am: Eat. Play. Sleep. 

11:30 pm: Eat. Play. Sleep. 

2:00 pm: Eat. Play. Sleep. 

4:30 pm: Eat. Play. Sleep. 

6:30 pm. Eat. Play. Bedtime routine. Sleep.

10:00 pm: Dreamfeed. 

Middle of night: whenever she naturally wakes up. Feed and right back to bed. 

mnkenned

Thanks @babycakesday and @shaylalr - I've been kind of keeping track in my head but I think I'll start writing it down and try to fall more into a schedule. I think it will save both of our sanities a bit.

question @shaylalr: I try to eat/play/sleep but it usually ends up being eat/play/eat/sleep as she's up until she's hungry again and then falls asleep feeding. Any tips for putting her down after playtime or does your LO fall asleep on their own? 

Agree @LDSJM123, I can't handle the rejection, but maybe people are taking themselves less seriously now that we're all covered in poop and spit up 24/7  

kellz14

@shaylar16  @mnkenned  I have the same question!  I've been trying really hard for a schedule to for our 8 wo but putting him down for a nap seems impossible.  I can't ever "get" him to nap unless he falls asleep on his own.  Case in point.. He woke at 7, DH played with him and tried to get him to nap at 8.  It's 9:30 and he's crying in his crib. Tried everything... pacifier, in his crib, rocking (which I know is anti-babywise haha) -- but no good.  Would love any tips you have.

LDSJM123

I've now committed to writing down how M's day goes over the next few days to see if any consistencies/schedule. She has a consistent bedtime (on her own) so I guess  that's a start. 

As soon as she hit 6 weeks, I stopped holding her while she slept  As soon as she falls asleep I lay her down now. But she typically wakes up within minutes, unless I hold her. And then she'll sleep for 2 hours. But I don't want to start any bad habits so Most of the time, I suck it up and lay her down knowing she'll be up quickly. Thankfully just nap time is just rough, she sleeps really well at night.

It's work in progress over here. And we are nowhere near laying her down and her putting herself to sleep. 

Edit: more detail. 

mgotay15

Hey all!
If anyone uses the wonder weeks app, do you base the date on your actual due date or when you little one actually arrived!?

austinjl

I have to do eat/play/eat/sleep too most of the time. If I don't he doesn't nap as long so it's worth it to me. 

@mnkenned

jennyleigh16

I had sent the PM to be added to the FB page and never got a reply.  Guess I'm not cool enough.  

My little guy has a bit of a bedtime. We try to start bedtime at 7:30 or 8 which is diaper change, pj's, then nurse in our bedroom in the dark until he's sleepy and put him down in the pack and play by our bed. It takes about 30-45 mins usually. He sleeps until 430-530, nurses, then back to sleep until 6-7. Then he's pretty much up. He sleeps great at night but the tradeoff is he pretty much refuses to nap during the day unless it's 15 mins on me when he falls asleep nursing. So he gets crankier and fussier as the day goes on.  

shaylalr

@mnkenned @kellz14 This is what works for us during nap time! Usually she starts to fuss or rub her eyes. At that point, we go in her room and I put her in her swaddle me. Then I hold her and pat her back for a moment in the dark until she is calm. She used to be a big comfort nurser and still tries sometimes but I know she is not hungry. I set her in her crib awake, sing her a song (every time I sing a certain song now she yawns and gets drowsy), turn on the fan, and leave the room. She usually fusses for a minute but falls asleep. If she is actually crying, I will go back in and we do it again. Sometimes she wakes up an hour into her nap for no reason. If she doesn't settle within a couple minutes I go in and sing her a song. Sometimes I have to go in multiple times but I wait until at least 10 minutes before she needs to get up to get her out of the crib. I can't do cry it out. It breaks my heart too much! But I will let her fuss. 

setosh

mgotay15 said:

Hey all!
If anyone uses the wonder weeks app, do you base the date on your actual due date or when you little one actually arrived!?

I believe it's based on the due date. 

mgotay15

Thank u! @setosh

jjtruffles

I just got a snapchat and I feel so old and clueless 

I am envious of you mamas who have babies sleeping on schedules/in their cribs/through the night already. C is 9 weeks old today & I'm having such a hard time figuring this out! I work until 8:30pm most days so by the time I get home and pick him up from my parents, let my dogs out, get us both ready for bed, etc. it's usually 10-10:30. He eats and sometimes he goes right down, while other times he fights sleep and we're both exhausted and awake until 1am. Some nights he lets me get in a solid 5hr stretch of sleep and doesn't wake to eat until about 3:30, then passes right back out, and other nights we're up for feedings every 2 hrs.

I don't even know how to go about trying to transition him to his crib. Anytime I've tried to put him down in it, even for just a nap, he always wakes himself up within 10 minutes. He's not a baby who will CIO either...he just keeps wailing. I let him go for a half hour once and it broke my heart to see all those tears when I finally went in and picked him up.

Brittnic531

I try to comment when I can, but I went back to work last week and it has seriously wiped me out.  I sometimes feel like we're still in survival mode over here with a baby and toddler. my toddler has had a tough time transitioning with the new baby.  Thankfully she loves her though! 

Working Moms- on my last bmb we had a thread for working moms (I believe it was weekly).  We supported each other and shared tips and tricks about routine, childcare, pumping at work, and all that comes along with it.  Is that something you guys would be interested in? It really helped me to deal with the intense emotions. 

deuxbouledogues

@mgotay15  so it should be based on due date but that didn't work for us. Elliott was 3 weeks early and matches exactly based on his birthday. I made two kids at first- one on due date and one on birthday to see what matched up.

KASG

@mnkenned bedtime is anywhere from 10pm to 1am depending on bath and feeding for us.

@Lindsayleigh1989 how did you transition to the crib? The princess is 5 weeks tomorrow and hasn't slept more than 10 minutes in hers.

@shaylalr (and anyone else) what kind of "play" do you do? I feel like I'm being ridiculous/boring when she's awake

mgotay15

Thank you @theshannondee. That was a great idea to create 2 to see which matched up! My son was born 1 week past the due date so it's like he could be entering a leap in either 2 days or 9 lol! Although i dont know if 1 weeks will make that much of a difference lol. He just turned 1 month today  

shaylalr

@KASG It can be pretty ridiculous! I lay her down on a blanket and talk to her in a high pitched voice about random things. She likes when I bicycle her legs so we do that a lot. I read to her. Sometimes she just lays there and listens to music. Now that she is interested in toys I pick some up and shake them in front of her. We do tummy time at least once during awake time as well. My husband dances with her. Haha. 

DachshundMomma

New mom level reached: 5pm coffee break.

sboston06

@kasg I have no idea what to do for play either. We do tummy time once or twice a day, and she loves to lie on her back in her activity gym. I also prop her on the boppy and she stares at the paintings on the wall. I have no idea why they are so fascinating but she can stare at them and laugh for a good chunk of time. I also count baths and walks as "play". 

brandiK

The wonder weeks app is pretty cool! You are supposed to base it off the due date but I did like a lot of you seem to have it and set it based on her actual delivery date and it seems more accurate. I even downloaded the book and it has a lot more in-depth info in it. Pretty neat stuff. 

My random - there's a girl I'm friends with on FB who is pregnant and talks about it literally everyday. Usually about how great her pregnancy is and it's everything she could have ever imagined. I get that it's exciting, I'm happy for you, really. But for the love of god just shut up. 

mamafox14

If people sent requests to be added to the FB group and never heard anything, it's possible your message wasn't read (unintentionally). I just checked my inbox for the first time in months and I had a message in there from June (my very first warning! Are you guys proud?) and I never got a notification about it. 

And I'm with @Kellyj103 - it's hard keeping up with everything now! 

Kellyj103

@stellaluna14 I just discovered how to look at my inbox too! I haven't been on a desktop since June so I hadn't checked my messages until a few days ago oops!

also I think a lot of the fb group admins don't come on here anymore. If you never heard back, they probably haven't seen your message. They usually respond back.

@brandiK  I have a fb friend like that!!!! You'd think she's the first and only person to ever get pregnant. I had to block her because it was too much. 

LDSJM123

@KASG "play time" here consists of rotating between the boppy, bumboo chair, mamaroo, bouncy chair, tummy time on the floor, tummy time in the crib, reading books, and sitting outside with M. We also go for walks and I change that up by wearing her in different carriers or taking the stroller. 

brandiK

@Kellyj103 don't get me wrong, it's an exciting time. But it gets old when she talks about how easy the whole thing is. And talks about every single one of her symptoms (or lack thereof.) I purposely didn't post about my pregnancy everyday because I know how obnoxious it is lol.