@Car0liiine I bought a bunch of wicked cheap tanks and am going to do this: https://www.iwantasquarepiece.com/diy-nursing-tanks/ I figure with these tanks I can layer with normal shirts, and the shirt goes up, tank goes down and I am still mostly covered - and I don't have to spend a fortune on a nursing wardrobe. As far as nursing bras, I would try target. Their nursing bras seem to run large - I have been a DDD since about 20 weeks, but the D there even leaves me a little room to grow, and it does run up to DDD. Cheaper than Nordstrom! I have been wearing this one since 20 weeks (figured if I was buying bigger sizes, might as well buy nursing so I had a couple of those) and it has held up well so far (especially for a $17 bra...)
@Allisun85 Thanks! I actually brought home a bag of 5 different nursing bras from target the other day that all claim to fit an E, but they don't contain my boobs at all, at least none of the soft ones. I did get one that had sturdier cups and it does technically fit. But the cup shape does a weird gappy thing and I see zero benefit of unclipping the little cup versus just pulling one boob out of the cup of my normal bra? So those are getting returned.
@Car0liiine go to Nordstrom about 2 weeks postpartum and get fitted for a nursing bra. They have a ton of sizes. They can also make any bra into a nursing bra, but you should be able to get an actual nursing bra that fits.
As for nursing tops, I never bought anything besides tanks I could layer under normal clothes so I could lift my shirt up without exposing my stomach, or I just gravitated toward vnecks or tops I could easily get a boob out of.
I don't know if this should go in the symptoms thread but I am seriously hardcore bitchy this week and I can't stop. It takes everything in my power not to just post eyerolling gifs everywhere.
Maybe it's the pressure of potty training (we are on day 3 of the 3 day training) or having to deal with my stupid mom and her drama but can I just skip to 36 weeks now? Better yet... Is it 8/16 yet?? I can't handle stupid people and there are far too many of them. I'm just over it.
Typing this up makes me want to eyeroll my whiny little self...
Maybe this is my FTM realization point but we mothers and mothers-to-be are so unbelievably strong.
To those that are only weeks into PP, those who already have LO's and going through last stages of pregnancy, and those anxiously waiting for their first babies...
you are so incredibly strong. Maybe I needed to hear this more than anything but as random as this is (lol), remember it when times get tough. Xoxo
I am so mad. I had a MFM appointment over 2 hours away, midday today. The appointment went long, I had to go do some testing and traffic was horrendous coming out of Albany. We usually close the office at 4pm on Fridays - I would have gotten to work at 3:30. I texted my boss, and obnoxious coworker the situation, and my boss said "Honestly we're pretty slow, don't worry about coming in." My obnoxious, incompetent co worked texted me at 7:30 at night to complain about how "swamped she was because I blew off work." Yes, talking to multiple specialists about how my organs are failing, when we're going to induce, and what the game plan post pregnancy if everything doesn't magically go back to normal is WAY more fun than work... How unprofessional to bother the 9 month pregnant chick at home, on a friday night, because she didn't make it into work today... Because I was in the hospital. I would bet the reason she was so "busy" is the reason she usually is - she doesn't know what she is doing, so she screws up, then it takes twice as long to fix the problem she caused - so something which should have taken an hour ends up taking 5. She's been with us for 6 years, and still can't do basic things - and it's getting worse and worse as we digitize. She actually prints out emails to read / store them. Who does that? Make a file in your inbox like a normal person. Also - get used to it. Frankly, we're at the point now where any day could be my last day at work until October. If you can't handle ONE day how are you going to manage 12 to 14 weeks? (I have to have surgery immediately after I am recovered from birth, so it may end up being a little longer than FMLA. I have vacation time, and sick time, so resenting the time my boss TOLD me to take off at 37 weeks pregnant is petty and RUDE. I'm going to bring it up to my supervisor on Monday. We've been having a lot of attitude problems with her since she returned from *her* medical leave (which was a surgery she deliberately planned for our busiest time of year.) This is our slowest...
@Allisun85 I am mad on your behalf! I can't believe anyone would try to make you feel guilty about all you have going on. Like seriously, F that person. I would be livid if I were you, and you might as well show that to your boss. Rudeness might not be an HR-worthy offense, but the boss might as well know what a whiny little brat she is.
I've been getting comments about how "lucky" I am to get to leave early/come in late for my doctor's appointments. Yeah, I'm using my vacation time for this, meaning I didn't get to take any actual vacation this year because I'm using most of that time to sit in a waiting room.
@allisun85 ughhhhh that's annoying. People are so effing rude. I was in labor and receiving threatening voicemails because some crazy woman that my boss offered my services to kept making changes to a project I had been working on and finalized the week before. I also got calls from my office asking for passwords (the people who handle our IT have everything) and other unnecessary crap less than 12 hrs after my c/s. I just wanted to scream, how do you people function everyday??!! Figure it out on your own! Your silly issues are the least of my worries!
It is close to 4 AM right now and I took the night shift for the first time (FTM point of view). Wow, so here's what I missed while DH has been on duty for the past few nights:
I breastfed baby A for 20 mins, tried burping her for 5, then she wanted more so I gave her a bottle (40 ml of what I pumped earlier) which she finished in 5 mins. That is 30 mins right there.
I knew she had done something (#1 and prob. #2 as well) so I took her to the changing table to see what was waiting for me.
Lo and behold, #1 & 2! I take out the baby wipe, butt paste, and a clean diaper. Put the clean diaper under her old one, take the old one out, and BAM!
She grunts a bit and all I see is a fountain right in front of my eyes. Lots of pee spraying everywhere (I thought only boys had this problem). It's on the baby wipe case cover, changing pad cover, and her new diaper. I think I used all the baby wipes to change her diaper and clean up the mess. This took about 15 mins.
Then she stuck her hand in her mouth and proceeded to make the "duck face." AHH so I grab formula, put in bottle, take nipple cap off of the snappy I used earlier, and put it on the new bottle except I somehow managed to twist my skin with the nipple I was twisting to secure on the bottle. There was a brief moment of, "oh shit, am I going to bleed?" But I couldn't let this get to me. I needed to heat up the formula milk under hot water. As I was by the sink letting hot water heat up the formula, I realized I should probably wash my hands after what happened at the changing table. Rest assured, I did make sure I wiped off everything with baby wipes but still. All of this took another 15 mins.
I finally warmed up the bottle of formula and she downed it in 5 mins. I tried to burp her for the next 5 mins but to no avail. Finally put her down in her crib all swaddled up and she was already fast asleep.
And then she burped as I started ranting on here about my first night duty.
This is no joke. Craziest hour and ten mins of my night so far. #thenewnormal
i was reading craziest places moms went into labor which was not such a good idea after all, there was some interesting ones, think i am scare to be out and about like at the store and my water just brakes there or something, has anyone thought about this other than me being weird
I was on a flight from Saudi Arabia to the Phillipines, and my friend and I nearly delivered a baby on the flight. She was fully dialated and +3 as we were landing. None of us were seatbelted for landing. Thankfully she held out for the team waiting on the ground. It was also nice the it was a Muslim airline and they allowed us to use the prayer area which had enough space and privacy.
I have my hospital bag basically packed but I made a list of the last minute items to put in there. I just clicked the link to the checklist that TB has for what to bring to the hospital and it's ridiculous! It says to bring your breast pump (you most likely won't use it in the hospital and most hospitals have ones that you can use if needed) but also basically says to leave any of your clothing and pjs at home because it "will get ruined". Ummm, none of my clothing got ruined when I had DS. I mean, I wore the hospital gown during labor and delivery but then changed into my own clothing for the rest of my stay. When do they think it's going to get ruined??
I posted this also on the hospital bag thread, but compression stalkings were a huge bonus for me after the delivery.
Also consider motrin, ear plugs, and a bella band.
@Car0liiine - definitely wait until a couple weeks postpartum to spend money on nursing bras. I bought a couple to wear while pregnant (thinking they would fit after as well) and they fit until my milk came in. Then didn't fit again until I had been nursing around a year. When my milk came in I went from a ddd to a h/i and they stayed that size until dd started eating solids regularly at about 1 year. I had a handful of nursing tanks I wore under shirts that I could pull up, but never any "nursing" shirts.
If one more person gives me a condescending smile and then tells me "it's all going to be worth it in the end" I'm pretty sure I'm going to bitch slap them across the face.
NO SHIT it's going to be worth it, otherwise why would we put ourselves through this craziness?!? But that doesn't mean I'm not allowed to vent or complain every once in a while...especially when *you're* the one who asked how I was doing! Don't ask if what you really want is a fake smile and to hear that "everything's great!"
UGH. Sorry for the rant-y swears. I just can't take people anymore.
Sad that we have to return our hospital grade Ameda pump today (we rented it while baby A was still at hospital)! I had gotten so used to that pump (clearly I have attachment issues to things) and now I must use my Medela on-the-go. I know it's not bad but again, this is more of, "hey we have a rhythm down now."
Okay seriously, I can't believe I'd get sad over saying bye to a breast pump. Wtf.
OMG I feel like my baby is so low he is going to fall out. I have lightning crotch like no other, ugh. 4 more weeks of this is going to be rough. I know I can do it, but man oh man!
I'm supposed to go to my cousins baby shower today, and as much as I want to see them and the new baby, I am not feeling up for going out into this heat (100+ heat advisory!) and I am not feeling like being social. I was told there will be a huge group since my cousin current lives out of town and is only here for the weekend, that's why the shower is happening now, after the baby is here. Feeling like a bad family member but kinda want to just stay home today...
I keep having these random dreams about my RCS and the baby. They're all so weird, I need to stop having these crazy dreams because I want as easy and uneventful birth/hospital stay as I can get.
@Lynnlove28 that was me all last week! I never had a pregnancy/labor dream with DD and last week I was up multiple times a night with crazy long labor dreams. I just kept thinking, I'm having a rcs... It should be done in 10 min or less. I'm just hoping my water doesn't break prior to my date so I won't have to worry about one of the labor dreams coming true!!
Snuggling DD as much as I can today before tomorrow. I'm so excited to meet this sweet boy, but I'm freaking out about the whole "Oh hey, you get to share me now." part of him arriving with DD. I'm feeling so bitter sweet!!!
@jacmkelley oh man, I know I'm gonna be a blubbering mess when I drop DD off with my parents the night before my RCS. I tear up just thinking about it. Good luck tomorrow!
@jacmkelley oh man, I know I'm gonna be a blubbering mess when I drop DD off with my parents the night before my RCS. I tear up just thinking about it. Good luck tomorrow!
Yes! My in-laws will hang with DD until I'm dilated to an 8 or so and then head that way. She offered to keep her tonight and I was like no way. I need to be able to go lay in her bed tonight or kiss her face. I'm freaking out! Thank you - so excited and nervous!!
@jacmkelley oh my goodness, I feel the same way! There's at least one point everyday that I tear up thinking about DS1 not being an only child anymore. Good luck tomorrow!
"Baby Bump Pics" on feb '17 board. Someone lurking from O'16 shamed a bump photo...smh.
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@midwestbaby it got carried over into Oct 16--shit just got real--thread. I really can't understand how nasty/bitter you have to be to lurk a board that's months from yours and body shame someone.
@midwestbaby it got carried over into Oct 16--shit just got real--thread. I really can't understand how nasty/bitter you have to be to lurk a board that's months from yours and body shame someone.
I have never lurked more than a few months out of our BMB. But I saw someone mentioned it in July and I had a half hour left of work to kill. Lordy...
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I bought some sour cream today that expires Sept. 19, and had a major "shit getting real" moment. I have dairy products with a longer shelf life than my pregnancy! I could be eating a baked potato with this very sour cream on it while holding my little boy.
I read the threads on F17 and O16. That was really mean and uncalled for. All bumps are different and beautiful. The poster should be able to post feeling proud that she is growing a human!
So, I have a tour for a daycare in an hr and a half. I already have our baby reserved for a daycare that is 227 a week( pretty cheap in ct). I used to work there for 3 years... so I know everyone that would be watching my child personally....The daycare is 27 minutes away from me and then 29 minutes from my job... so about an hour of driving in the am (with zero traffic).
The other daycare is right by my house( 5 minutes away) and is 250 a week, but I don't know the people.
I'm even contemplating doing the commute for the first year and then maybe switching around 1 yr old when my baby would switch rooms from infant to waddler...( so they would switch teachers). What would you do?
I think if the daycare seems like a great place, I'd pay for the extra for it being so close. On the other hand it would be nice to know where my little one is staying. Maybe stick with the one you are more comfortable with for the first few months and then switch?
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@katm89 I added about 20 minutes to my commute to go with one I was comfortable with, making the total about an hour for me. There is one on my husbands way to work, 5 minutes from our house, but I thought the further one was worth driving for. Ask me again when I am exhausted with a new baby, but for now, for me, sending him some place I really liked rather than kinda liked helped ease those FTM returning to work jitters.
That being said, I would go look. It can't hurt, and even though you don't know the people, you may love the set up.
Re: Randoms 7/18
https://www.iwantasquarepiece.com/diy-nursing-tanks/
I figure with these tanks I can layer with normal shirts, and the shirt goes up, tank goes down and I am still mostly covered - and I don't have to spend a fortune on a nursing wardrobe.
As far as nursing bras, I would try target. Their nursing bras seem to run large - I have been a DDD since about 20 weeks, but the D there even leaves me a little room to grow, and it does run up to DDD. Cheaper than Nordstrom! I have been wearing this one since 20 weeks (figured if I was buying bigger sizes, might as well buy nursing so I had a couple of those) and it has held up well so far (especially for a $17 bra...)
As for nursing tops, I never bought anything besides tanks I could layer under normal clothes so I could lift my shirt up without exposing my stomach, or I just gravitated toward vnecks or tops I could easily get a boob out of.
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
Maybe it's the pressure of potty training (we are on day 3 of the 3 day training) or having to deal with my stupid mom and her drama but can I just skip to 36 weeks now? Better yet... Is it 8/16 yet?? I can't handle stupid people and there are far too many of them. I'm just over it.
Typing this up makes me want to eyeroll my whiny little self...
Baby #2: Emmeline Grey - August 2016
Baby #3: BFP 9/7/18 | EDD 05/24/19
To those that are only weeks into PP, those who already have LO's and going through last stages of pregnancy, and those anxiously waiting for their first babies...
you are so incredibly strong. Maybe I needed to hear this more than anything but as random as this is (lol), remember it when times get tough. Xoxo
My obnoxious, incompetent co worked texted me at 7:30 at night to complain about how "swamped she was because I blew off work." Yes, talking to multiple specialists about how my organs are failing, when we're going to induce, and what the game plan post pregnancy if everything doesn't magically go back to normal is WAY more fun than work...
How unprofessional to bother the 9 month pregnant chick at home, on a friday night, because she didn't make it into work today... Because I was in the hospital. I would bet the reason she was so "busy" is the reason she usually is - she doesn't know what she is doing, so she screws up, then it takes twice as long to fix the problem she caused - so something which should have taken an hour ends up taking 5. She's been with us for 6 years, and still can't do basic things - and it's getting worse and worse as we digitize. She actually prints out emails to read / store them. Who does that? Make a file in your inbox like a normal person.
Also - get used to it. Frankly, we're at the point now where any day could be my last day at work until October. If you can't handle ONE day how are you going to manage 12 to 14 weeks? (I have to have surgery immediately after I am recovered from birth, so it may end up being a little longer than FMLA. I have vacation time, and sick time, so resenting the time my boss TOLD me to take off at 37 weeks pregnant is petty and RUDE.
I'm going to bring it up to my supervisor on Monday. We've been having a lot of attitude problems with her since she returned from *her* medical leave (which was a surgery she deliberately planned for our busiest time of year.) This is our slowest...
I've been getting comments about how "lucky" I am to get to leave early/come in late for my doctor's appointments. Yeah, I'm using my vacation time for this, meaning I didn't get to take any actual vacation this year because I'm using most of that time to sit in a waiting room.
Baby #2: Emmeline Grey - August 2016
Baby #3: BFP 9/7/18 | EDD 05/24/19
I breastfed baby A for 20 mins, tried burping her for 5, then she wanted more so I gave her a bottle (40 ml of what I pumped earlier) which she finished in 5 mins. That is 30 mins right there.
I knew she had done something (#1 and prob. #2 as well) so I took her to the changing table to see what was waiting for me.
Lo and behold, #1 & 2! I take out the baby wipe, butt paste, and a clean diaper. Put the clean diaper under her old one, take the old one out, and BAM!
She grunts a bit and all I see is a fountain right in front of my eyes. Lots of pee spraying everywhere (I thought only boys had this problem). It's on the baby wipe case cover, changing pad cover, and her new diaper. I think I used all the baby wipes to change her diaper and clean up the mess. This took about 15 mins.
Then she stuck her hand in her mouth and proceeded to make the "duck face." AHH so I grab formula, put in bottle, take nipple cap off of the snappy I used earlier, and put it on the new bottle except I somehow managed to twist my skin with the nipple I was twisting to secure on the bottle. There was a brief moment of, "oh shit, am I going to bleed?" But I couldn't let this get to me. I needed to heat up the formula milk under hot water. As I was by the sink letting hot water heat up the formula, I realized I should probably wash my hands after what happened at the changing table. Rest assured, I did make sure I wiped off everything with baby wipes but still. All of this took another 15 mins.
I finally warmed up the bottle of formula and she downed it in 5 mins. I tried to burp her for the next 5 mins but to no avail. Finally put her down in her crib all swaddled up and she was already fast asleep.
And then she burped as I started ranting on here about my first night duty.
This is no joke. Craziest hour and ten mins of my night so far. #thenewnormal
Also consider motrin, ear plugs, and a bella band.
NO SHIT it's going to be worth it, otherwise why would we put ourselves through this craziness?!? But that doesn't mean I'm not allowed to vent or complain every once in a while...especially when *you're* the one who asked how I was doing! Don't ask if what you really want is a fake smile and to hear that "everything's great!"
UGH. Sorry for the rant-y swears. I just can't take people anymore.
Okay seriously, I can't believe I'd get sad over saying bye to a breast pump. Wtf.
Baby #2: Emmeline Grey - August 2016
Baby #3: BFP 9/7/18 | EDD 05/24/19
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
So, I have a tour for a daycare in an hr and a half. I already have our baby reserved for a daycare that is 227 a week( pretty cheap in ct). I used to work there for 3 years... so I know everyone that would be watching my child personally....The daycare is 27 minutes away from me and then 29 minutes from my job... so about an hour of driving in the am (with zero traffic).
The other daycare is right by my house( 5 minutes away) and is 250 a week, but I don't know the people.
I'm even contemplating doing the commute for the first year and then maybe switching around 1 yr old when my baby would switch rooms from infant to waddler...( so they would switch teachers). What would you do?
I think if the daycare seems like a great place, I'd pay for the extra for it being so close. On the other hand it would be nice to know where my little one is staying. Maybe stick with the one you are more comfortable with for the first few months and then switch?
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@katm89 I added about 20 minutes to my commute to go with one I was comfortable with, making the total about an hour for me. There is one on my husbands way to work, 5 minutes from our house, but I thought the further one was worth driving for. Ask me again when I am exhausted with a new baby, but for now, for me, sending him some place I really liked rather than kinda liked helped ease those FTM returning to work jitters.
That being said, I would go look. It can't hurt, and even though you don't know the people, you may love the set up.