Is anyone thinking about or already refusing cervix checks at appointments. Or am I an odd duck? My Dr. Said they will probably do a check next week if I wanted. Ummm, not really?! 1- I don't really want any more uncomfortable sensations down there. 2- It won't really tell me if labor is close or not 3- I don't want to add more anxiety wondering when baby day will happen.
@cal031686 I agree with all your points. They won't make me get checked until 40 weeks, I'm planning to skip it at my appointment today (38 weeks). Might do it at 39 weeks if I'm curious!
Call me crazy but I appreciate the cervix checks. I know what's going on and if anything is progressing. It kind of explains any discomfort I may have been feeling and gives me the comfort of somewhat feeling in control. I can't decide when baby gets here but it does comfort me to know what's happening with my body.
I'm all in my pregnancy hormone induced feels today. Not a fun place to be. DHs schedule is rotating so after he gets his weekend off he goes into a long stretch where he works nights. He's finally off the long stretch and he has today and tomorrow off but he's working with my dad today. I feel so incredibly lonely. After my sprinkle Sunday I've also noticed that since I had my shower for DD 2 years ago I'm pretty much a friend-less freak.
I told DH yesterday that the lack of people in my life that actually give a crap about me is genuinely sad. I need to get this baby and all the hormones that come with it OUT. Too much more of this and I'm gonna be a sad, depressed, still friendless loser. Jeeeeez. At least DD has to hang out with me.
@Lynnlove28 we are doing the 3 day training... day 1 is tough. She catches on pretty quickly to most things and they stick so I'm hoping this is one of those relatively simple processes. I know she's a little young so I told my husband that I set aside the next week just in case (you aren't supposed to go anywhere). I'm totally accepting there will be some regression. I'm about a month out from my rcs so I thought that may be a good amount of time to fully implement the routine.
@texasmama2014 I thought about that too! I figured it may be easier for me to do it through the newborn phase (lots of sleeping) than trying to tackle it later when the baby is a little more active. We'll see... I could be eating my words in a month or so lol
@car0liiine I was feeling the same way! I really don't think I've had BH and I do get period cramps or random sharp pains but, my dr said that is just things adjusting and baby moving around and hitting a nerve- not contractions. I brought it up at my labor class when we could go around and say our worries and the teacher said oh you'll know!! So I've kind of just let it go and figure once my mucus plug comes out I'll know it's go time.
@tisunge602 It definitely does. I've pretty much settled on the fact that I will go over and probably be induced at this point. Maybe we'll end up at the hospital at the same time after all
Oh potty training... My DS showed interest before he was 2 so I was optimistic that this wouldn't be a horrible process for us. Here we are, he turned 3 a month ago, and he's still wearing pull-ups. He goes through periods where he's cool with it, will tell us and use the potty (pee only though), and then he'll just stop. Everyone says not to push it so we haven't, but I was really hoping it would click with him before the baby is here....
@cal031686 I had one horrendous cervical check and decided to refuse them from now on. The NP at my last visit says that's fine, they don't need to do them unless I've been having contractions that week and then when it's really close to my due date. I'm still a little curious though, so if it hadn't hurt so bad I would probably be glad to get that info even if it isn't very meaningful.
@tisunge602 Good to know, although I hope I won't have to be induced and that my body is just skipping the dress rehearsals and saving it all for the real deal.
@Lynnlove28 I know exactly how you feel! I too am a lame hermit whose social circle consists of DH and family. I've had some really hard days crying about that during this pregnancy. You always imagine having all your girlfriends gather around you during this big life event so then it sucks when they ghost on you. F hormones. *Big Hugs*
My midwife is in the not cervical checks camp. Originally I was happy about it but now I'm starting to get curious! So I've decided I will not request one, but if they offer to check....
@cal031686 since she was down there already my OB did a check 2 visits ago. Last visit they didn't say anything, if they do this week I think I'll say I would prefer to wait until next week/ closer to 40 weeks.
Is anyone thinking about or already refusing cervix checks at appointments. Or am I an odd duck? My Dr. Said they will probably do a check next week if I wanted. Ummm, not really?! 1- I don't really want any more uncomfortable sensations down there. 2- It won't really tell me if labor is close or not 3- I don't want to add more anxiety wondering when baby day will happen.
I talked to my midwife about them last week and told her I would like to deny them. She said that they weren't necessary and it was up to me. She also said that the only time she would ask me again is if I was having labor symptoms or something felt off.
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DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I planned on forgoing the cervical checks but since I'm at risk for preterm labor and my cervix is basically shot I do want to know if I'm dilated. As of last week (35w) I wasn't but I'll probably get another one this week. Then I may just tell them no thank you since I'll be at a much better place and if I have the baby then I have the baby with much less worry.
So I have a stupid question. I got my car seat inspected / installed by a tech today at the police station and they gave me some official looking piece of paper and said it was "all legal now!" - Do I need to like... keep that and show it to someone official at some point?
@Allisun85 Huh weird. We got ours checked at the fire department and didn't receive anything. But then again carseat laws vary from state to state. I guess just ask around? Maybe your hospital will want to see it before releasing you?
@car0liiine That was my thought too? They even like filled out the serial number of the car seat and VIN number of our car. It's very official looking. I threw it in my glove box for now...
@Allisun85 I wish stuff like that was legally required. I see so many people with poorly installed car seats and kids strapped in wrong... And babies forward facing way too soon...
@texasmama2014 VT does require "passengers under 8 be in a forward or rear facing child restraint, and under 1 year in a rear facing properly installed child restraint." I know that is not the most recent recommendations, but at least there is something? And maybe I need this to demonstrate it is "properly installed" if we get pulled over?
@Allisun85 I would just call the police station where you were today and ask. That has to be something that varies state by state, but it does seem like if they go to the trouble of giving you that document, it must be important.
My dog who was given 6 months to a year to live had some good news today! We took her to a specialist and they said she doesn't have whatever the other vet said. They're going to put her on steroids and check her again in 2 weeks to see if she needs surgery. The surgery, most likely, will help fix her issues and she'll be back to normal. But, she has much longer than a few months! Hooray!!!
@ashleybaker712 what an amazing second opinion! So happy for you!
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DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@Car0liiine and @Lynnlove28 I am in the same boat when it comes to a "social circle". I have a couple of close friends, but with having 3 kids at home and one on the way, I never go out and do anything. They have basically stopped asking. It makes me sad sometimes. I socialize with dh's friend's wives and gf's but it isn't the same. They aren't people that I would call just to hang out with. Thank God I have my family or I wouldn't really have anyone to talk to outside of my house.
A week seems like a year when we are this close to having babies. I feel like my last appointment (last Tuesday) was forever ago and my next one (next Tuesday) is forever away. 35 weeks is like "So close, yet so far away" lol. I could deliver anytime but could also go all the way to 42 weeks. I am really praying NOT to go to 42 weeks.
A week seems like a year when we are this close to having babies. I feel like my last appointment (last Tuesday) was forever ago and my next one (next Tuesday) is forever away. 35 weeks is like "So close, yet so far away" lol. I could deliver anytime but could also go all the way to 42 weeks. I am really praying NOT to go to 42 weeks.
This is exactly how I feel today at 35w3d. Waaaahhh!
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DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@texasmama2014@Lynnlove28@justaudrey I'm also putting off potty training for another few months. DS is 27 months, but hasn't expressed a whole lot of interest and I just can't handle him regressing once the baby is born. I'd love to hear some advice once people tackle it!
@Lynnlove28 I feel the same way. None of my friends have kids yet, so I've felt like there's a huge rift ever since I had DS. I've made a couple of friends with kids, but it's definitely not like it used to be, and being pregnant hasn't helped the situation. I'm trying to be optimistic about being more social after LO is born, but I'm not sure that's actually going to happen with 2 kids at home!
@texasmama2014@Lynnlove28@Bookhousegirl well we are about 3-4 hours away from day 1 to be over (DD goes to bed at 7:30-8) and I can officially say I'm completely wiped out. So much pee everywhere. Plus she chose today to be difficult so she's taking for-ev-er to go down for naps. I think I might binge on some Haagen Dazs now while she decides if she wants to take this much needed afternoon nap. Thank goodness DH is picking up Costco pizza for dinner!!
@Lynnlove28@Bookhousegirl@Car0liiine@jamiesc58 I feel the same way, my social circle is kind of small and a lot of the dynamics shifted when my closest friends had kids a lot earlier than I did. DH is going out of town this weekend, and I was telling my mom how this baby better stay put until he gets back. And my mom goes, "well, who is your person who you would call if you did go into labor and DH was out of town?" and I did not have an answer! First of all, I truly hadn't thought that through, but second of all, I don't really have a BFF who is close enough to be a backup labor buddy. It made me feel lonely that I don't have someone like that, who I could call in the middle of the night with that kind of emergency. I think I would just head to the hospital on my own (we live literally across the street).
One of my goals as a new mom is to seek out some new friends in the other moms that I meet. Moms who are at the same stage as me. Because the friends I mentioned above have little kids now and are busy with birthday parties and soccer games and such. And since they started so much earlier, we haven't been as close in the last 3-4 years.
@jamiesc58 Couldn't have said it better myself. Currently 36w4d and one minute I think "omg he could come anytime" then the next I'm thinking he's not gonna be here till after my due date ughhhh.
@jamiesc58 Ughhhh, tell me about it. Work started a pool of when I am going to pop. Whoever wins the guessing game gets a gift card to the coffee shop at the hospital. Some mean person guessed me to go at 42 weeks. I almost cried. Especially because now Im going to bed every night like "Ohhh, what if it happens tonight?!"
@alyssajrob22 My work started a pool, too! They included baby weight as a category. I told my husband that the pool seems to be an easy way to figure out who doesn't like you in the office--one person has me delivering 8 days late and a 10 pound baby!!! Jeez!
@entropicallyfavored HAHAHA!!! I never thought of it like that! Ill have to look at the pool tomorrow to see who doesnt like me. When they started the pool, they said I couldnt tell them any details like how dilated I am (I work at a hospital so it isnt as weird), if Im inducing, etc. Most of the guesses are for after when we would induce if we end up choosing that option.
We have a Ford Expedition and tonight I noticed that there is a spot on the back driver side where it looks like something scraped the side and there is some white paint on there(ours is black). DH was like oh man I guess someone scraped us but now I'm wondering if maybe I did it and didn't notice? I'm not super good at driving the huge thing especially in reverse!
All I want out if life is an eye pencil sharpener that doesnt mess up my eye liner and a fitted sheet that doesnt come off the bed every single night. At least, thats what I want right now.
@alyssajrob22 I use a liquid liner (Stila @Sephora) and I love it because I don't have to sharpen a pencil. No suggestions on the sheets though--ours even have "deep pockets" but manage to come off the bed every night!
Re: Randoms 7/18
1- I don't really want any more uncomfortable sensations down there.
2- It won't really tell me if labor is close or not
3- I don't want to add more anxiety wondering when baby day will happen.
I told DH yesterday that the lack of people in my life that actually give a crap about me is genuinely sad. I need to get this baby and all the hormones that come with it OUT. Too much more of this and I'm gonna be a sad, depressed, still friendless loser. Jeeeeez. At least DD has to hang out with me.
@texasmama2014 I thought about that too! I figured it may be easier for me to do it through the newborn phase (lots of sleeping) than trying to tackle it later when the baby is a little more active. We'll see... I could be eating my words in a month or so lol
Baby #2: Emmeline Grey - August 2016
Baby #3: BFP 9/7/18 | EDD 05/24/19
@tisunge602 Good to know, although I hope I won't have to be induced and that my body is just skipping the dress rehearsals and saving it all for the real deal.
@Lynnlove28 I know exactly how you feel! I too am a lame hermit whose social circle consists of DH and family. I've had some really hard days crying about that during this pregnancy. You always imagine having all your girlfriends gather around you during this big life event so then it sucks when they ghost on you. F hormones. *Big Hugs*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
y'all are so relieved!
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@Lynnlove28 I feel the same way. None of my friends have kids yet, so I've felt like there's a huge rift ever since I had DS. I've made a couple of friends with kids, but it's definitely not like it used to be, and being pregnant hasn't helped the situation. I'm trying to be optimistic about being more social after LO is born, but I'm not sure that's actually going to happen with 2 kids at home!
Baby #2: Emmeline Grey - August 2016
Baby #3: BFP 9/7/18 | EDD 05/24/19
One of my goals as a new mom is to seek out some new friends in the other moms that I meet. Moms who are at the same stage as me. Because the friends I mentioned above have little kids now and are busy with birthday parties and soccer games and such. And since they started so much earlier, we haven't been as close in the last 3-4 years.
@jamiesc58 Couldn't have said it better myself. Currently 36w4d and one minute I think "omg he could come anytime" then the next I'm thinking he's not gonna be here till after my due date ughhhh.