@tisunge602 I just googled it on my phone also (just in case it was not work computer appropriate) and I saw that it is definitely what it sounds like. Also, the couple of things I read about it said it is a gay or straight thing. Some women love it eeeeekkkkk...it sounds scary to me!
I would assume fisting could be decent practice for child birth depending on the size of the fist.
On a side note, my mom discovered urban dictionary a few months ago when she wanted to know what something was. She learned the lesson that you only look on urban dictionary when you really want/need to know.
The thought of fisting in general does not sound appealing, but post partum it sounds like a torture practice.
@SkiChic626 I had a vaginal birth and have no issues peeing myself, and haven't come across that problem in any of my friends. Maybe that's just a really strange coincidence.
@katm89 I don't think you should be scared about tearing, especially since there's nothing you can really do to help prevent it at this point. I've only had one person I know tear terribly - for the most part it's not a huge deal. Mine healed pretty quickly, I never even looked at it (I'm pretty squeamish about stuff like that) - I just cleaned with the rinse bottle and after a few weeks it was fine.
@SkiChic626 I have asked my friends about it too since I had been debating between a rcs and VBAC. Most of them had peed a little at some point after delivering whether it was sneezing, laughing or working out. Most of them also said their ability to "hold it in" is not as long. Not saying it happens to everyone but it doesn't seem to be super uncommon.
I agree with you on the rcs. I didn't want a c-section originally but it ended up being my only option in the end. The scar is already there, we might as well use it again. Plus, since I've already experienced it and understand the recovery process so I feel more comfortable with that option.
I've had two kids vaginally, and while both required a couple stitches, I didn't even notice they were there or when they fell out. I know my bladder isn't as great as it used to be, but even during this pregnancy I have yet to pee myself at all. I only know of one person who developed issues with bladder control after having a baby. And I don't know anyone personally with a tearing horror story. It's pretty normal to tear a little, and you're body is going through so much it's not really noticable. You just have to keep clean down there and use the squirter bottle for a while
I been peeing myself constantly for most of the pregnancy, thought everyone was. Every time I cough or sneeze I pee. Even if I literally just got off the toilet. I have to wear overnight sized pads, not just panty liners. I really really really hope the stress incontinence stops after delivery! 28 is too young for depends!
I just dropped DS off at daycare and he was like a spider monkey... Screaming about me not leaving. He's 2 and hasn't had separation issues since about 18months, especially at daycare because he loves it there. The last few weeks have been rough though, and I'm thinking he's reacting to the baby already. Any STM+'s having this issue?! It's making me really worried about how he's going to react when LO actually gets here!
Ok July's boards are seriously the most entertaing people. Why is August so nice? I feel like everyone here is pretty predictable, that shit over in July is wild!
I just dropped DS off at daycare and he was like a spider monkey... Screaming about me not leaving. He's 2 and hasn't had separation issues since about 18months, especially at daycare because he loves it there. The last few weeks have been rough though, and I'm thinking he's reacting to the baby already. Any STM+'s having this issue?! It's making me really worried about how he's going to react when LO actually gets here!
I'm a SAHM so not so much separation anxiety but definitely the extra clinginess. My 2.5yo always wants to be held or have me rub his back while he falls asleep, etc. It started when we potty trained him two months ago and has let up a little but I definitely think he can sense something is changing.
I just dropped DS off at daycare and he was like a spider monkey... Screaming about me not leaving. He's 2 and hasn't had separation issues since about 18months, especially at daycare because he loves it there. The last few weeks have been rough though, and I'm thinking he's reacting to the baby already. Any STM+'s having this issue?! It's making me really worried about how he's going to react when LO actually gets here!
DD's definitely a lot more clingy she has even cried a few times when my mom has picked her up. My mom is her favorite person on earth. It's hard because she wants to be all up on me all the time, and I'm hot.
Washing dishes suck! I have the hardest time getting the dishes washed these days, my belly is completely in the way! I keep bumping my belly on the counter and it is so uncomfortable and at times painful! Anyone else have this problem?
@Bookhousegirl DD is more emotional right now as well. But she has also been super sweet too. I feel like once this baby is here things will be much better. She will be able to adjust, right now things are just weird because she knows there is a change coming but doesn't understand.
@AmandaG225 I have the same issue! I have a bad habit of leaning up against the counter too much and I won't realize it for a few minutes until my stomach starts to hurt.
I just dropped DS off at daycare and he was like a spider monkey... Screaming about me not leaving. He's 2 and hasn't had separation issues since about 18months, especially at daycare because he loves it there. The last few weeks have been rough though, and I'm thinking he's reacting to the baby already. Any STM+'s having this issue?! It's making me really worried about how he's going to react when LO actually gets here!
DS has been different, too. He sleeps with about 8,000 stuffed animals in his bed, adding more all the time, and each morning, he has to take his "babies" with him. He only wants to carry around his smaller stuffed animals and calls them little and cute. He went through the clingy stage and is now just an oddball who is obsessed with his "babies".
I just dropped DS off at daycare and he was like a spider monkey... Screaming about me not leaving. He's 2 and hasn't had separation issues since about 18months, especially at daycare because he loves it there. The last few weeks have been rough though, and I'm thinking he's reacting to the baby already. Any STM+'s having this issue?! It's making me really worried about how he's going to react when LO actually gets here!
Yup! Here's my exact post from my Mama Talk board on facebook that I posted not more than 10 minutes ago...."So we've had a lot of changes happening at home recently, and more to
come with the new baby in a few more weeks. Charlotte just turned 2
last week, we recently moved her into her big girl bedroom, took away
the pacifier during the day, she's cutting her 2 year molars, etc.....so
the problem is that she's been insanely clingy to me, which ok I get it
with all the changes and she's probably realizing that the baby is
coming soon and understanding a bit more, but it's gotten to
the point where it's really taking a mental toll on me and I'm not sure
how much longer I can take it before I have my own meltdown. I'm very
much an introvert, so I also need my downtime to recoup - it makes me a
better mom, so sue me. I usually travel for work here and there, so I
inherently get that time away, but being pregnant I haven't traveled in
several months, and won't be for a while. With Charlotte, it's gotten
to the point where she won't even entertain my husband doing anything
for her - he went to pick her up from school yesterday and she flipped
out and didn't want to leave because it wasn't me picking her up. If
she wakes up during the night, God forbid he goes in to get her, she
refuses to let him touch her. I can't even go to the bathroom or brush
my teeth without her having a full on meltdown. Do we just let her cry
and fuss until all the change levels out and we get past this?? I'm not
sure what else we can do - I'm exhausted and my husband totally take it
personally and feels like his daughter doesn't like him, though I've
told him not to but he's sensitive like that. I'm at a loss."
@AmandaG225 I have the same issue! I have a bad habit of leaning up against the counter too much and I won't realize it for a few minutes until my stomach starts to hurt.
This happens to me, too, but usually it's only when I'm in the bathroom leaning over to pluck my new chin hair friends. My kitchen counter is low enough that my belly fits over it, but I'm also tall.
@Katm89Don't worry, it sounds like it's not that common - maybe it's juts a coincidence that that particular group of women all have the same issue!
Car0liiine I actually thought it was very uncommon! It's never happened to me. Not this pregnancy or with DD. This time I do feel LO dancing on my bladder sometimes (he's breech), but nowhere near enough to actually make me pee.
@AmandaG225 Yup, same! I have to stand way back and lean forward. After about 5 minutes, my back is killing me. We move next week back into our real house with our dishwasher... Told hubby we're eating off paper plates until then. I'm just done.
Every time I see the words "kegal" or "pelvic floor" I do a set of kegals. Since I spend a lot of my day bumpin' or reading baby/childbirth articles instead of actually working, I'm pretty sure my vagina is going to be able to shoot this kid out across the room by delivery time.
@texasmama2014 yes, the same thing with DS! He's obsessed with my mom and she picks him up from daycare once a week, but this week he started crying for me the second they got home.
@SkiChic626 that sounds really similar to our situation. DS doesn't let DH put him to bed, give him a bath, etc anymore. I didn't mind at first because DS has always been a daddy's boy, but now it's getting a little out of hand! I'm not sure what to do... For now I feel like I have to just give him the extra love because he obviously needs it.
@jacmkelley that's what I'm hoping too! I'm thinking the anticipation of the change might be harder than the actual change.
@ashleybaker712 I keep meaning to get DS a baby doll in hopes that it will help him feel more excited and invested in being a big brother.
@tisunge602 I feel your pain, DS needs like 17 songs before bed now - I used to be able to just put him in his crib, sing one song and be done.
@bookhousegirl A girl I run with got her 2 year old boy a baby doll recently and she said it has really helped in getting him comfortable with baby coming (she is due in October). It could help!
@skichic626 your situation sounds so much like mine. I'm more introverted as well and it seems I never have a moment alone. Definitely have noticed my patience wearing thin and I've gotten more snappy. Luckily, DH can still get her in the middle of the night if she cries out.
On top of DD being extremely clingy, she has also resorted back to using baby language. It is driving me crazy. She has spoken in sentences for months and all of a sudden it is "wawa," "milkie" and all these other made up words she used to use when she was tiny.
Ok July's boards are seriously the most entertaing people. Why is August so nice? I feel like everyone here is pretty predictable, that shit over in July is wild!
That comment had me rolling!!! All my kids are looking at me like I'm crazy!!
Whew! Catching up on my bumping today. Sorry it's just been a busy last few days, thanks for thinking of me ladies! @Nikkoli98
I am not sure if I want to read that c-section blog. Ignorance is bliss at this point at 31 weeks.
@jacmkelley I also thought the "working baby down" thread was funny on julys board.
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DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Got my first stranger comment on my pregnancy today... I'm 34w2d, so I don't know how I made it this far unscathed, but it wasn't even rude at all. She asked how far along I was, said I looked small, but that people told her that all the time too when she was pregnant, and that I probably didn't feel small (I certainly don't). It's not like I live in an area where people tend to keep to themselves either, so it was a bit strange, but not all together unpleasant
My mother-in-law left this morning after a 5 day visit! I feel like I deserve high-fives on this happy occasion. I actually like and get along with her ok, but it's still such a weight off when a visit is over. She tends to question/comment on everything we do, everything in our apartment, etc. I get so tired of having to answer/explain all the time. Looking forward to some quality private time with no one to answer to!
@Bookhousegirl I plan on getting DD one of those baby doll sets where you can put a diaper on it and it has its own little bassinet thing and bottle. She will be almost 2 when LO is born and she's really started to use her imagination here recently so I'm hoping that having her own baby to take care of will help some with the transition. I'll probably get it 2 weeks before my DD so that way she has time to learn how to play with it but will still be interested in it when LO is born.
Ok July's boards are seriously the most entertaing people. Why is August so nice? I feel like everyone here is pretty predictable, that shit over in July is wild!
That comment had me rolling!!! All my kids are looking at me like I'm crazy!!
Same lol, I stopped reading I didn't even finish it. It boggles my mind how civilized we are. I will say that Leonardo DiCaprio meme had me rolling too. So much sarcasm. I loved it.
My husband is the NICEST guy in the whole world, and some days I could kill him for it.
My obgyn referred me to a MFM specialist because of my gallbladder and the two episodes of preterm labor we've been through. Okay - fine. She was explicit she wanted me to be seen within a week - from last Thursday. My husband has called every day since Thursday, and somehow we still don't have an appointment and they still hadn't reviewed the referral - which they had received Friday, and was marked with the highest urgency code.
I called and was... firm. I let them know they were liable should anything happen to my son due to the issues I had been referred, and not seen for. I also spoke with patient relations and let them know this office was not responding in a timely manner, and should any complications happen due to the delay, Albany would be liable. Mysteriously - we had had our record reviewed and an appointment set up within an hour of my being... firm.
I HATE New York. Can I just say that? I hate being that way, I hate threatening people to get them to do their damn jobs. My husband thinks the nicer you are to people the more they are going to want to help you - Maybe in the Midwest that's how things work, but definitely not in New York. Ugh!
My husband is the NICEST guy in the whole world, and some days I could kill him for it.
My obgyn referred me to a MFM specialist because of my gallbladder and the two episodes of preterm labor we've been through. Okay - fine. She was explicit she wanted me to be seen within a week - from last Thursday. My husband has called every day since Thursday, and somehow we still don't have an appointment and they still hadn't reviewed the referral - which they had received Friday, and was marked with the highest urgency code.
I called and was... firm. I let them know they were liable should anything happen to my son due to the issues I had been referred, and not seen for. I also spoke with patient relations and let them know this office was not responding in a timely manner, and should any complications happen due to the delay, Albany would be liable. Mysteriously - we had had our record reviewed and an appointment set up within an hour of my being... firm.
I HATE New York. Can I just say that? I hate being that way, I hate threatening people to get them to do their damn jobs. My husband thinks the nicer you are to people the more they are going to want to help you - Maybe in the Midwest that's how things work, but definitely not in New York. Ugh!
My mom grew up in NJ, but she's the same way as your husband. A very "you catch more flies with honey" type of personality. There are definitely situations where that's true, but sometimes it takes putting on your big girl panties and being "firm" to get sh*t done!
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On a side note, my mom discovered urban dictionary a few months ago when she wanted to know what something was. She learned the lesson that you only look on urban dictionary when you really want/need to know.
@SkiChic626 I had a vaginal birth and have no issues peeing myself, and haven't come across that problem in any of my friends. Maybe that's just a really strange coincidence.
@katm89 I don't think you should be scared about tearing, especially since there's nothing you can really do to help prevent it at this point. I've only had one person I know tear terribly - for the most part it's not a huge deal. Mine healed pretty quickly, I never even looked at it (I'm pretty squeamish about stuff like that) - I just cleaned with the rinse bottle and after a few weeks it was fine.
I agree with you on the rcs. I didn't want a c-section originally but it ended up being my only option in the end. The scar is already there, we might as well use it again. Plus, since I've already experienced it and understand the recovery process so I feel more comfortable with that option.
Baby #2: Emmeline Grey - August 2016
Baby #3: BFP 9/7/18 | EDD 05/24/19
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Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
This happens to me, too, but usually it's only when I'm in the bathroom leaning over to pluck my new chin hair friends. My kitchen counter is low enough that my belly fits over it, but I'm also tall.
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
Car0liiine I actually thought it was very uncommon! It's never happened to me. Not this pregnancy or with DD. This time I do feel LO dancing on my bladder sometimes (he's breech), but nowhere near enough to actually make me pee.
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
Married May 2014
DD born August 2016
Baby #2 due December 2017
Every time I see the words "kegal" or "pelvic floor" I do a set of kegals. Since I spend a lot of my day bumpin' or reading baby/childbirth articles instead of actually working, I'm pretty sure my vagina is going to be able to shoot this kid out across the room by delivery time.
@SkiChic626 that sounds really similar to our situation. DS doesn't let DH put him to bed, give him a bath, etc anymore. I didn't mind at first because DS has always been a daddy's boy, but now it's getting a little out of hand! I'm not sure what to do... For now I feel like I have to just give him the extra love because he obviously needs it.
@jacmkelley that's what I'm hoping too! I'm thinking the anticipation of the change might be harder than the actual change.
@ashleybaker712 I keep meaning to get DS a baby doll in hopes that it will help him feel more excited and invested in being a big brother.
@tisunge602 I feel your pain, DS needs like 17 songs before bed now - I used to be able to just put him in his crib, sing one song and be done.
@skichic626 your situation sounds so much like mine. I'm more introverted as well and it seems I never have a moment alone. Definitely have noticed my patience wearing thin and I've gotten more snappy. Luckily, DH can still get her in the middle of the night if she cries out.
On top of DD being extremely clingy, she has also resorted back to using baby language. It is driving me crazy. She has spoken in sentences for months and all of a sudden it is "wawa," "milkie" and all these other made up words she used to use when she was tiny.
That comment had me rolling!!! All my kids are looking at me like I'm crazy!!
I am not sure if I want to read that c-section blog. Ignorance is bliss at this point at 31 weeks.
@jacmkelley I also thought the "working baby down" thread was funny on julys board.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Little mini vent -
My husband is the NICEST guy in the whole world, and some days I could kill him for it.
My obgyn referred me to a MFM specialist because of my gallbladder and the two episodes of preterm labor we've been through. Okay - fine. She was explicit she wanted me to be seen within a week - from last Thursday. My husband has called every day since Thursday, and somehow we still don't have an appointment and they still hadn't reviewed the referral - which they had received Friday, and was marked with the highest urgency code.
I called and was... firm. I let them know they were liable should anything happen to my son due to the issues I had been referred, and not seen for. I also spoke with patient relations and let them know this office was not responding in a timely manner, and should any complications happen due to the delay, Albany would be liable. Mysteriously - we had had our record reviewed and an appointment set up within an hour of my being... firm.
I HATE New York. Can I just say that? I hate being that way, I hate threatening people to get them to do their damn jobs. My husband thinks the nicer you are to people the more they are going to want to help you - Maybe in the Midwest that's how things work, but definitely not in New York. Ugh!
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016