My random- my great uncle has officially taken to calling me "Fatty" whenever I see him now. I mean the word "Fatty" has officially replaced "Sarah" as my name in his vocabulary. Keep in mind I've only gained about 15 pounds in 28 weeks, and at one point I was heavier than this (several years ago)- oh and he had plenty of comments for back then too. I would walk up to him and say hello and go in for a hug and he would say "I can hardly fit my arms around you, you're getting so big!" Any other person I'd have lashed out with an extra sarcastic remark to put them in their place, but with him it just brings me back to that time in my life (when I was still 20 pounds heavier than I am now at 28 weeks pregnant), when I was so uncomfortable in my own skin. Ugh I hate people.
We got massages as part of te bachelorette party activities. Everyone got 25 minute ones but my MIL paid for me to get a 60 minute "baby on board" and it was glorious!! The weird pregnancy pillow thing I laid on was the most magical thing ever. I have missed laying on my stomach so so so much!!
@SarahDarah333 OMG I can't believe he calls you that! I know it is hard to correct older people so what do you say??? Do you think you could muster up an "Umm, that hurts my feelings"??? Maybe start calling him "Crotchety Old Man" and see how he likes it? LOL. I would like to think he means it in an enduring way since I don't think men of that generation are as sensitive to women's feelings about their bodies, but still, you shouldn't have to endure that, hun.
Married: 3/21/15 First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
@RG1 I had a very similar dream!!!! Minus the exercise ball part which is so weird/funny. Like a hamster ball. I dreamed the baby stuck it's hands and feet up against my belly and went into this huge seizure and you could see the little hands and feet twitching. It was terrible
@SarahDarah333, that is NOT acceptable! I would totally say something snarky back to him, like a real jab.
I talked my husband I to seeing Finding Dory with me this weekend. Since I was sick all week and lost out on calories (excuse I'm telling myself) I got a back of popcorn with butter! That was Saturday night....it's Sunday night and I can just feel myself retaining fluid. My stomach feels huge, I can't breathe comfortably unless I'm leaning back, my butt feels huge. Woof. Also, I'm really ready to just quit. Being at home for a week I got one a normal day/night schedule and felt AH-MAZ-ING. Now back to nights. Even though it's just two nights a week now I want to leave Why do I feel guilty about quitting even if my husband supports it and were comfortable without the income? I was planning on going PRN the first week of August (and realistically not going back to work for like a year).
I'm used to having respiratory issues (it's the ongoing story of my life), but this is so miserable.
@RG1 I'm so sorry you're having more problems! When it rains, it pours.
My random of the day is that two people commented on my belly/pregnancy in the 15 minutes I was out of the house today.
First, I was at Target and barely made it in the door before some woman stopped in her tracks and informed me that "my baby was all over on one side of my stomach."
I'd just commented in the car that both boys had suddenly positioned themselves so that I was lumpy (one butt sticking out mid-torso on my side, where the woman at Target noticed him) and one right under my ribs and that I was self-conscious because I was wearing a very form-fitting maxi dress that showed every little baby lump and I'm all belly, so it's hard not to focus on it. He assured me no one would notice. They did. Luckily I was able to laugh it off, but I find it weird that she felt the need to tell me for some reason. As if I can't tell, I guess?
Then we went next door to Home Goods and were checking out when a woman in line asked me if I was having a girl (no clue why, maybe the whole carrying high vs. low thing?). I said no, that it's two boys and she just burst out laughing and practically yelled "I never would have guessed that. Never! I don't know where you're going to put them, but good luck!" I have no idea what to think about that one. It was so...random.
Before today, I've only had anyone outside the family comment twice. I guess I looked particularly pregnant today.
@RG1--yikes! I'm glad you went in and got checked out!
@SarahDarah333--good for you for not doing physical harm to that uncle. That's so inappropriate!
all of you who are not sleeping--right there with you. I didn't even bother with lying in bed for an hour tonight. Straight to the recliner. Hoping some sleep comes.
I'm mobile and can't keep track of who has sent positive vibes but thank you! You are all awesome
edited to add update from surgeon:
He says from the ultrasound, it looks like there's a little tear in the stitch. Probably from pressure of the uterus when it was healing. Then under that tear there's some fluid and he thinks the pressure from that fluid is where the pain is coming from. But nothing is protruding up the tear so there's no need for surgery! Just manage the pain until it goes away. But it's nothing that will hurt me or the baby. Feeling better that there's nothing serious, but wish there was a magical fix for the pain haha
@RG1 Just wanted to say I'm glad you don't need another surgery. Good luck with the pain management and hope this goes away soon!
@Sporty1216 I can relate on the not sleeping kick. I can't seem to get comfortable in any position and my hands are starting to get tingly/fall asleep all the time now (day & night) and its driving me nuts!
@SarahDarah333 Your uncle is so out of line! Does he happen to have any extra weight on himself? Someone at work kept making rude comments about my belly so I mentioned (yet again) that I was pregnant and asked him "what was his excuse?!" Seemed to do the trick...
Thanks for the update @RG1 I'm happy to hear that you don't need surgery. Sounds like you've really lucked out, aside from the pain, and I hope that gets better for you soon!
Good deal @RG1 I'm glad it's nothing bad! Can they not drain that fluid out? You know, since I'm a doctor and totally know better than they do.
Haha I don't know?! This visit has been very confusing and I hardly know what's going on. But I trust the pain will go away eventually, maybe, hopefully...
@SarahDarah333 your uncle is AWFUL. I cannot believe him!! How often are you blessed with his presence?
@marikkita nice!! I can't wait for mine! I raved about how wonderful it was last time, so DH got me a massage gift cert for Mother's Day. Yay for pillows with a hole!
Hello all! Just caught up on 88 posts from the weekend, woo! I had some responses in mind but can't remember any of them
On Friday, the 3 of us went to our local baseball game - we stayed for about 2 hours and my son was great! (we brought my tablet with Bubbleguppies to keep him sitting for a bit... never say never, ladies). We got to see Yoan Moncada's first AA homerun (#3 prospect in all of baseball, in the Red Sox farm league), so it was wonderful - the park food was also amazing as always. Saturday I met up with my parents and niece/nephew to pick strawberries with Emmett. It was fun, then they all came over for lunch while Emmett napped... Why is Little Caesar's so good for $5? That night I went to have dessert and the whole freezer was thawed. UGH. Vacummed the back (inches of dust) and hoped I had solved the problem Sunday morning - freezer completely thawed (had moved most food to chest freezer), and then realize fridge doesn't feel cold enough. Repair man coming tomorrow morning, but also prepared to buy a new fridge even though this one is not very old. Just happy we hadn't shopped yet for the Baby-Q this coming weekend! WHEW! Living out of a dorm fridge with a 1.5 year old is not easy... his gallon of milk is taking up half the space!
Emmett and I spent the day at my parents' house yesterday with my sister and her kiddos, and swam the afternoon away at the lake. Glorious.
That's a lot about me, excited to keep up with the thread so I can give some replies throughout the week when it becomes JULY!!! WTF?!
I'm still catching up on the 81 posts I missed over the weekend, but going to add my random before I get even more behind. But it's much more a rant/whine than a random.
I've already posted this in the two GD threads, but I had a voice mail Friday night from the nurse saying I "definitely have GD". The way she said it freaked me out (now I totally regret my carb binge on Thursday night/Friday morning). I've been keeping track of my sugar all weekend and it's higher than it was my first pregnancy. Then I got the actual results from my 3 hr this morning, and they were abysmal. Now I'm freaking out that I'm going to end up on insulin. I'm already pitying myself for all the marks I already have from the 3 hr draw, my TB shot, and the finger prick testing.
@camichael84 - Boo!! I hadn't seen your post in the other thread as I'm catching up myself this morning. Don't feel bad about a day's carb-binge, baby will be just fine. How was your diet/exercise over the weekend while testing? Also, consider your stress level, and those sugars are probably somewhat reactionary to all that is going on with the news.
Also - not sure where your provider stands but there are some oral medications that have been shown to help in GD (although not FDA approved for this.. they are typical Type 2 DM drugs)... glyburide and metformin. They do not do as well as insulin, but when in combination with diet and exercise maybe you could push to try that first for a couple weeks? Metformin can cause some pretty yucky stomach upset, but I take it when trying to conceive and titrating up slowly or using extended release usually makes it really tolerable.
Okay, just caught up on all the weekend posts. I can't possible respond to everything I wanted to, but I can say I love you girls! (Also... Amazon Prime for life!)
@AnnaS930 My diet was decent. Stayed on my carb limit for all but two meals. My city had their summer festival, so I had a corn on the cob, cheeseburger, and half a lemon shake up for lunch on Saturday. Then we went to a cookout on Sunday, and I had some (very little) mashed potatoes and mac and cheese there. But I forgot to take my monitor to both places and didn't test my sugar after those until 2.5 and 3 hrs after I'd eaten. It was good by that point. But I had high numbers (over 140) on a couple of the meals I did stay on track with my carbs. And my fasting has been a lot higher than it was last time. Exercise has been great. Lots of walking over the weekend. It helped with some meals, not others.
I've been on both Metformin and Glyburide before (not at the same time). Met to get pregnant and through 1st tri (and I hate it because of the digestive issues... even on the slow release). And I took Glyburide to control my morning numbers when I was pregnant for McKenna. That's actually why I'm worried I'll need the insulin. I took Glyburide to keep my 98-115 fasting numbers under 95. I'm getting fasting numbers around 125-130 this time.
I'm going to fax what I've tracked to my OB, and then see if she thinks I need to start something before I see her at next week's appt.
@camichael84 - Sounds like you've got a plan moving forward. I wouldn't rule out some of the stress level playing into those fasting numbers if good meals were looking bad and worse meals were looking good. Things sound a bit wonky so far and might need a few days to even out!
Anyone else having to deal with a mid-year self-performance review? Mine is due Thursday and I'm just putting it off because my brain barely works for my actual work and I just don't want to have to deal with stupid corporate nonsense.
@MojieJo & @RG1 - Yikes. I'm really hoping you both feel better soon!!
@SarahDarah333 - Ummm yeah, not OK. I'm really hoping that you say something to him. What a miserable human being.
@camichael84 - Crossing my fingers that you don't need insulin. I have diabetes and was on insulin shots before I got pregnant with Bert & Elle. I tended to have lower numbers when I was pregnant with them so I was very surprised when my doctors this time around were telling me that I was going to end up needing more insulin during this pregnancy. And I argued with them and told them that that never happened with the first two. Funny enough, they were right and my insulin needs have gone way up! I'm on a pump but have to take a basal insulin shot every night in addition to what I'm constantly getting through the pump.
@PSUBecky23 - Yuck. Mine was due in May. I always put it off until the last minute and underestimate how long it'll take me. Sure enough, my boss emailed everyone the Friday it was due and said "Go home after lunch and enjoy the beautiful day...if you've submitted your mid-year review". And of course, I was there until 3:30 finishing mine up. Good luck!
I just got walloped by the dog this morning and she left three large scratches down my bump. Rational brain knows baby is well protected. Irrational brain is worried that something bad will happen as a result.
@UnwritteN12 I'm sorry you have to do a shot even with your pump! I know I'll live and figure it out, if I have to go on it, but it's not something I want to do. My mom is diabetic, and I couldn't even watch her give herself insulin shots growing up (she's on a pump now). She wanted me to learn how to give it to her at one point, and I refused. I keep thinking, how will I manage to give it to myself? But I didn't think I'd be able to do the finger pricks and I can. So there's that.
I should have thought more about how it was likely the GD would be worse my second pregnancy because I've heard that it can be, but I guess I was just in deep denial and expected it to be the same as last time.
@camichael84 - I've only injected myself a handful of times during pharmacy trainings/Diabetic counselor trainings, but I can assure you that the finger pricks were more painful than the insulin shots themselves. If you've handled that before, I think you're already over the bigger hump. And insulin works wonders - it might free up your life a bit and keep you and baby super healthy
Pregnant coworker left a bridal shower over the weekend because of all of the rude belly comments she got. I feel bad, because no pregnant woman should have comments made to them.. but this is the 90 pound weakling that weighs as much as one of my legs that wanted to compare our bellies a couple months ago to predict if she was having a boy or girl... what goes around comes around
@AnnaS930 Thanks! I need someone to spin the positive side for me. DH tries to help, but his way is usually to assume I'm overreacting and try to convince me of that. It doesn't usually help.
Eta: Torn on how I feel towards your coworker's experience. Obviously, I feel bad and sympathize with her, but also I have to wonder was it really so, so bad that she had to leave a shower?
@camichael84 I'm sorry to hear you didn't receive good news after your 3 hour test. I am sending positive thoughts your way so you can help make the best of your situation. I think it is normal to be completely bummed out and disappointed at first though. You just need some time to process it. Luckily this is only temporary and we all know you've got this!
@PSUBecky23 Yes, I just finished my mid-year review myself last week and get to hear what my boss thinks of me during the formal review meeting later this week. Setting goals and objectives for the 2nd half of the year ought to be fun knowing we will be out for a good chunk of it....ugh.
Married: 3/21/15 First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
@camichael84 - It sounded like someone told her she was "huge" and another was bragging about not having reflux and not lotioning her stomach. I get called huge pretty often but it never sends me home! And comparing pregnancy symptoms seems pretty par for the course.. I think it was an overreaction.
Agreed with @camichael84. @AnnaS930 I would love to be a fly on the wall to see what the remarks were regarding your coworkers belly. Based on everything you've mentioned so far, I feel like they would've been tame/non-offensive but that anything that didn't offer glowing 'you're so skinny for being so far along' remarks would've sent this coworker over the edge.
Of course with all of that - just another reason the only thing you should every say to a pregnant woman is: 'Congratulations - you look great!'
@camichael84--sorry about your results! I hope that you and your doctor are able to get a plan together so you can manage it without meds. But if you have to do it, I'm sure you'll handle it like a champ!
@AnnaS930--normally I would be horrified and righteously indignant on any pregnant lady's part. But I laughed when i saw your post because that gal totally had that coming! Hopefully she'll be a bit more generous and kind from here on out.
My random (TMI): I couldn't wait to get into work this morning to have my works deplorable coffee. It's the only thing guaranteed to run through me in an hour and clean everything out. After a weekend of not going, I feel like a new woman. Total TMI, but I can't be the only who uses coffee for the caffeine and uh...releasing qualities, right? Right!?
@camichael84 I saw your post in the GD thread over the weekend, but I'm sorry to see your numbers were worse than you expected. Hopefully, now that you are aware of it and already know what to do, you will be able to get your sugars under control in no time. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you that you don't end up needing insulin.
It sounded like someone told her she was "huge" and another was bragging about not having reflux and not lotioning her stomach. I get called huge pretty often but it never sends me home! And comparing pregnancy symptoms seems pretty par for the course.. I think it was an overreaction.
Ha! I knew it! She's got a rough couple of months ahead because those comments are probably going to get worse as she gets bigger. I do feel bad for her to a degree still. Because it sucks to hear you're getting huge.
On that note, my brother totally made me feel awesome this weekend. When I was telling him about my GD, he said that even though he knew weight didn't really effect GD, that I looked good and not very big to be as pregnant as I am. Everyone else had been commenting how much bigger I am this time. He's currently my favorite person right now.
@camichael84 Sorry to hear you didn't get the results you were hoping for! I really, really hope that you find it all easier to manage than you're fearing!
@RG1 Happy to hear you didn't have a hernia - especially one so serious that tissue was already dying! I hope the pain management plan they have you on gets you through this so you can enjoy the rest of your pregnancy!
@PSUBecky23 My company stopped doing formal reviews a few years ago. At first, it was kind of glorious (no year end or mid-year evaluations, meetings with higher-ups, etc) but then I realized that no there's really no way to get feedback, either! (They did put a feedback tool in place but no one uses it like they should.) Good luck writing your evaluation and with the actual review. I hope you get stellar feedback and a big raise/bonus! (Haha...that would be a snide joke in my company...but I hear there are others out there that actually work that way and I hope yours is one of them!)
Re: June Randoms Thread
First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
I talked my husband I to seeing Finding Dory with me this weekend. Since I was sick all week and lost out on calories (excuse I'm telling myself) I got a back of popcorn with butter! That was Saturday night....it's Sunday night and I can just feel myself retaining fluid. My stomach feels huge, I can't breathe comfortably unless I'm leaning back, my butt feels huge. Woof. Also, I'm really ready to just quit. Being at home for a week I got one a normal day/night schedule and felt AH-MAZ-ING. Now back to nights. Even though it's just two nights a week now I want to leave
I'm used to having respiratory issues (it's the ongoing story of my life), but this is so miserable.
@RG1 I'm so sorry you're having more problems! When it rains, it pours.
My random of the day is that two people commented on my belly/pregnancy in the 15 minutes I was out of the house today.
First, I was at Target and barely made it in the door before some woman stopped in her tracks and informed me that "my baby was all over on one side of my stomach."
I'd just commented in the car that both boys had suddenly positioned themselves so that I was lumpy (one butt sticking out mid-torso on my side, where the woman at Target noticed him) and one right under my ribs and that I was self-conscious because I was wearing a very form-fitting maxi dress that showed every little baby lump and I'm all belly, so it's hard not to focus on it. He assured me no one would notice. They did. Luckily I was able to laugh it off, but I find it weird that she felt the need to tell me for some reason. As if I can't tell, I guess?
Then we went next door to Home Goods and were checking out when a woman in line asked me if I was having a girl (no clue why, maybe the whole carrying high vs. low thing?). I said no, that it's two boys and she just burst out laughing and practically yelled "I never would have guessed that. Never! I don't know where you're going to put them, but good luck!" I have no idea what to think about that one. It was so...random.
Before today, I've only had anyone outside the family comment twice. I guess I looked particularly pregnant today.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
@SarahDarah333--good for you for not doing physical harm to that uncle. That's so inappropriate!
all of you who are not sleeping--right there with you. I didn't even bother with lying in bed for an hour tonight. Straight to the recliner. Hoping some sleep comes.
edited to add update from surgeon:
@Sporty1216 I can relate on the not sleeping kick. I can't seem to get comfortable in any position and my hands are starting to get tingly/fall asleep all the time now (day & night) and its driving me nuts!
@SarahDarah333 Your uncle is so out of line! Does he happen to have any extra weight on himself? Someone at work kept making rude comments about my belly so I mentioned (yet again) that I was pregnant and asked him "what was his excuse?!" Seemed to do the trick...
edit: clarity - still half asleep
@marikkita nice!! I can't wait for mine! I raved about how wonderful it was last time, so DH got me a massage gift cert for Mother's Day. Yay for pillows with a hole!
@rg1 hang in there!! Sounds so painful
On Friday, the 3 of us went to our local baseball game - we stayed for about 2 hours and my son was great! (we brought my tablet with Bubbleguppies to keep him sitting for a bit... never say never, ladies). We got to see Yoan Moncada's first AA homerun (#3 prospect in all of baseball, in the Red Sox farm league), so it was wonderful - the park food was also amazing as always.
Saturday I met up with my parents and niece/nephew to pick strawberries with Emmett. It was fun, then they all came over for lunch while Emmett napped... Why is Little Caesar's so good for $5?
That night I went to have dessert and the whole freezer was thawed. UGH. Vacummed the back (inches of dust) and hoped I had solved the problem
Sunday morning - freezer completely thawed (had moved most food to chest freezer), and then realize fridge doesn't feel cold enough. Repair man coming tomorrow morning, but also prepared to buy a new fridge even though this one is not very old. Just happy we hadn't shopped yet for the Baby-Q this coming weekend! WHEW! Living out of a dorm fridge with a 1.5 year old is not easy... his gallon of milk is taking up half the space!
Emmett and I spent the day at my parents' house yesterday with my sister and her kiddos, and swam the afternoon away at the lake. Glorious.
That's a lot about me, excited to keep up with the thread so I can give some replies throughout the week when it becomes JULY!!! WTF?!
I've already posted this in the two GD threads, but I had a voice mail Friday night from the nurse saying I "definitely have GD". The way she said it freaked me out (now I totally regret my carb binge on Thursday night/Friday morning). I've been keeping track of my sugar all weekend and it's higher than it was my first pregnancy. Then I got the actual results from my 3 hr this morning, and they were abysmal. Now I'm freaking out that I'm going to end up on insulin. I'm already pitying myself for all the marks I already have from the 3 hr draw, my TB shot, and the finger prick testing.
Also - not sure where your provider stands but there are some oral medications that have been shown to help in GD (although not FDA approved for this.. they are typical Type 2 DM drugs)... glyburide and metformin. They do not do as well as insulin, but when in combination with diet and exercise maybe you could push to try that first for a couple weeks? Metformin can cause some pretty yucky stomach upset, but I take it when trying to conceive and titrating up slowly or using extended release usually makes it really tolerable.
@AnnaS930 My diet was decent. Stayed on my carb limit for all but two meals. My city had their summer festival, so I had a corn on the cob, cheeseburger, and half a lemon shake up for lunch on Saturday. Then we went to a cookout on Sunday, and I had some (very little) mashed potatoes and mac and cheese there. But I forgot to take my monitor to both places and didn't test my sugar after those until 2.5 and 3 hrs after I'd eaten. It was good by that point. But I had high numbers (over 140) on a couple of the meals I did stay on track with my carbs. And my fasting has been a lot higher than it was last time. Exercise has been great. Lots of walking over the weekend. It helped with some meals, not others.
I've been on both Metformin and Glyburide before (not at the same time). Met to get pregnant and through 1st tri (and I hate it because of the digestive issues... even on the slow release). And I took Glyburide to control my morning numbers when I was pregnant for McKenna. That's actually why I'm worried I'll need the insulin. I took Glyburide to keep my 98-115 fasting numbers under 95. I'm getting fasting numbers around 125-130 this time.
I'm going to fax what I've tracked to my OB, and then see if she thinks I need to start something before I see her at next week's appt.
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@SarahDarah333 - Ummm yeah, not OK. I'm really hoping that you say something to him. What a miserable human being.
@camichael84 - Crossing my fingers that you don't need insulin. I have diabetes and was on insulin shots before I got pregnant with Bert & Elle. I tended to have lower numbers when I was pregnant with them so I was very surprised when my doctors this time around were telling me that I was going to end up needing more insulin during this pregnancy. And I argued with them and told them that that never happened with the first two. Funny enough, they were right and my insulin needs have gone way up! I'm on a pump but have to take a basal insulin shot every night in addition to what I'm constantly getting through the pump.
@PSUBecky23 - Yuck. Mine was due in May. I always put it off until the last minute and underestimate how long it'll take me. Sure enough, my boss emailed everyone the Friday it was due and said "Go home after lunch and enjoy the beautiful day...if you've submitted your mid-year review". And of course, I was there until 3:30 finishing mine up.
I should have thought more about how it was likely the GD would be worse my second pregnancy because I've heard that it can be, but I guess I was just in deep denial and expected it to be the same as last time.
Eta: Torn on how I feel towards your coworker's experience. Obviously, I feel bad and sympathize with her, but also I have to wonder was it really so, so bad that she had to leave a shower?
@PSUBecky23 Yes, I just finished my mid-year review myself last week and get to hear what my boss thinks of me during the formal review meeting later this week.
First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
Of course with all of that - just another reason the only thing you should every say to a pregnant woman is: 'Congratulations - you look great!'
@AnnaS930--normally I would be horrified and righteously indignant on any pregnant lady's part. But I laughed when i saw your post because that gal totally had that coming! Hopefully she'll be a bit more generous and kind from here on out.
On that note, my brother totally made me feel awesome this weekend. When I was telling him about my GD, he said that even though he knew weight didn't really effect GD, that I looked good and not very big to be as pregnant as I am. Everyone else had been commenting how much bigger I am this time. He's currently my favorite person right now.
@RG1 Happy to hear you didn't have a hernia - especially one so serious that tissue was already dying! I hope the pain management plan they have you on gets you through this so you can enjoy the rest of your pregnancy!
@PSUBecky23 My company stopped doing formal reviews a few years ago. At first, it was kind of glorious (no year end or mid-year evaluations, meetings with higher-ups, etc) but then I realized that no there's really no way to get feedback, either! (They did put a feedback tool in place but no one uses it like they should.) Good luck writing your evaluation and with the actual review. I hope you get stellar feedback and a big raise/bonus! (Haha...that would be a snide joke in my company...but I hear there are others out there that actually work that way and I hope yours is one of them!)