@RG1 I think I am starting to feel a little more emotional too. I think I am just exhausted. I feel like there is so much to do that I am constantly trying to get things done. This weekend everytime I finished one task there was something else I needed to do. I had a mini meltdown yesterday and DH finished most of the stuff I needed done while I sat in a bath and watched Netflix.
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
My kid was up at 4:45. Put her back in bed three times and then gave up. Yawn.
@rg1 I'm well versed in the pathetic stage of pregnancy. Not there yet but I definitely hit it with my last. Hang in there and don't be afraid to ask for help.
To everyone who is feeling emotional we are almost there! Echoing everyone else's words of support.
I cry almost every day now but I haven't had a real break down in a few weeks. Similar to @RG1 I told FI that I wasn't ready to be be a mom and he looks at me and goes omg you want an abortion? and then i cried for 2 hours. Poor guy. He puts up with a lot.
Recently I've been crying because I'm so happy and he thinks it's the cutest thing and laughs at me (in a nice way not a mean way)
@mom2adoodle - Red Doritos. Usually when alone I get blue because my husband doesn't like the ranch ones, but yesterday the red ones jumped right into my hands - unreal!
Hang in there ladies who are feeling emotional! I was crabby last night because I hadn't had an ice cold drink all day, after dinner I made my husband go get us DQ Blizzards so I could have something cold (similar to my Doritos.. I guess yesterday was a day to eat away my misery instead of just finding some ice water). Well, I gained 3 pounds since yesterday so now I feel extra crabby this morning, though I'm sure it's just water weight and/or my lack of weight gain lately catching up with me all at once.
For those who are first time moms.. this is a hard stage of pregnancy - everything was going so far, the 3rd trimester seems to slow down, and all of the anxieties of this bump becoming a baby start to hit home. Keep your chin up, talk it out - especially with your significant others and healthcare providers. The next 10-14 weeks will go by just fine, and miracles and baby snuggles are ahead. We've all got this, and a great support team here as well.
Love you all, spend some time today watching your belly dance and thinking of the little mister(s) or miss(es) that's gearing up to meet you!
Liking the posts in offer of support to all of you feeling down lately. I haven't hit that stage yet, I'm only about 27 and a half weeks along, but I'm sure it's coming. But it's nice to know we all have such a strong support system on this board.
Also, I'm enjoying all this random talk about poop It just makes me feel that much more normal.
Re: emotions. I'm just at 27 weeks, but I've definitely felt myself beginning to get more emotional than I normally am! I just hope my poor husband doesn't get overwhelmed when I reach the pathetic stage.
My husband is home with the fridge repairman right now. Here are my possible outcomes in order of awesomeness... 1. It's an easy fix. Repairman fixes it and we move on, minus a couple hundred bucks 2. It's completely dead. Fridge is beyond repair, we are out $100 for him telling us that, plus $1400 for a new fridge that arrives in the next day or two and this one gets hauled away 3. It needs a part that isn't as expensive as a new fridge, but will take a while to come in.
I'm seriously afraid of option #3. I need a fridge before the end of the week, we have the party and I'm going to lose my mind trying to feed our family out of the smallest dorm fridge you can imagine, we can't even make anything that produces leftovers! We keep a large nest egg of money for home emergencies, so I wouldn't REALLY notice the cost of a new fridge coming out of it... if the part is super cheap but going to take a week or more to get here - I'm going to be in such a pickle deciding WTF to do! And I do NOT want to keep the broken fridge and sell it.. no thank you.
@AnnaS930 Worst case scenario - if #3 is how this all goes, you might be able to get by with your dorm fridge and coolers and a BUNCH of ice for your BBQ. That's what we had to do this past weekend - it wasn't convenient but it worked. We actually put a bunch of ice in our actual fridge and used it basically like a giant cooler, haha. I hope for your sake you don't have to worry about it at all and this all goes down with option #1 as your final solution!
@AnnaS930 Worst case scenario - if #3 is how this all goes, you might be able to get by with your dorm fridge and coolers and a BUNCH of ice for your BBQ. That's what we had to do this past weekend - it wasn't convenient but it worked. We actually put a bunch of ice in our actual fridge and used it basically like a giant cooler, haha. I hope for your sake you don't have to worry about it at all and this all goes down with option #1 as your final solution!
Fantastic - I usually can see silver linings in things, but wasn't seeing one just yet. We actually need to buy/borrow some huge coolers for the Baby-Q, so yes we could certainly get by. Also, it's at 2pm on Sunday and my husband and MIL (argh) will be home to watch Emmett in the morning.. I could certainly go buy everything that day if that's what it came to! Good point!!!
I forget who else mentioned it, but I wanted to add support for those feeling more emotional lately. The other night, my back and incision scar hurt so much I was being SO whiny. I told DH I was "over" being pregnant and he's like "whats that mean? We get an abortion?" I just started crying saying I don't know how I can do 11 more weeks. Then he was reading beside me on the couch and decided to go to bed and I started BAWLING, saying he needed to stay with me. I said "you're supposed to feel bad for me" and he goes "I can't feel bad for you 24/7". Side note: he's extremely caring and always there for me but it really made me realize how needy and pathetic I was being and I'm NEVER like that so he probably just didn't know what to do. I've always been so independent and never over react or get too emotional so I can understand he's a bit thrown off.
My friend told me there something called the "pathetic stage of pregnancy" when you start to feel huge and crappy and you get really emotional. It hit her at 34 weeks and she cried for a couple hours every day for a week. I'm sure people can experience it at different times and maybe that's what's happening to us?! Or baby blues. I gotta keep an eye on it cause I have a history of depression. I hope we all start to feel better soon!
Whoa that was long.
Totally in the pathetic stage of pregnancy, very uncomfortable and emotional. DH Is trying but he's stuck with contractor /hourly work so its a lot of down time for me and DD at home on our own. I want to be productive again but the easiest things for me are now the hardest and I hate it. 10 more weeks of this? Kid is only gonna get bigger and so am I? Throw me a bone please because I don't remember this from last pregnancy...
I'm swinging into the emotional stage of pregnancy too, boo! It usually only hits at night when I'm physically and mentally exhausted, but all I want to do is sit on the couch and eat ice-cream whilst having a pity-party for myself.
the poop issues are so real, glad I'm not the only one!
@camichael84 so sorry to hear about your results- I would be devastated if I had to restrict my diet any more than I do (I have celiacs)
@thefridges we had problems a couple years ago with our fridge and were on a tight budget. We ended up getting a NICE stainless one off Craig's for $1000 less and it's still pumping along to this day (knocks on all wood). Plus when my 2yo Rams his bike and other related things into it, I'm not phased in the least. I'm convinced that we won't have nice things until the kids are in their 30s.
Just had a doctors appointment and it went really well. Baby is measuring 1/2 week ahead (28 weeks), heart rate was in the 130's which she said was excellent and I found out I passed my glucose test and also that I don't need the Rh shot. Baby is kicking away which makes me smile. The only way my day could get better is if I wasn't back at work. Lol!
Well just had to wait over an hour at the Drs for my TDap, so in the meantime I blew up their bathroom. That's what you get for cutting into my toddler-free Target time
Also, I wanted to do a bit of an update and an additional THANK YOU to all those who shared your own emotional stories. I'm feeling a lot less like a basket case today and knowing that I'm not the only one who feels a bit crazy and has the pathetic pregnancy/pre-baby blues is really comforting, so thank you. I don't know how I'd get through all this without such a supportive community.
I talked to DH about it last night and I am SO glad I did. I rarely speak about my emotions because I'm largely afraid they'll either be laughed/shrugged off or that I'll be told to "tough it out" or that "you're just being crazy" or something like that. But DH really listened to how I was feeling and that I was really understanding that I wasn't doing well. He hugged me a lot and told me that he loved me, and that of course I'm a bit emotionally crazy - I've got his DNA in my body right now so it was bound to happen.
Anyway, today is a much better day than yesterday (so far), and I'm glad it's not a constant negative and topsy turvy feeling, and I feel bit better prepared to ride the emotional roller coaster when it happens again. So thanks again! And I hope all of those that are struggling are able to feel a but more comfortable, too.
Glad to hear you had a talk with your DH @PoodleDoodleOoo and that you're feeling better today! It's going to be a lot of ups and downs the rest of the way, but I hope the ups outweigh the downs for you going forward!
Fridge repair would need a $700 part, definitely not waiting for that.
Now stores that had said they could install a new fridge by today, are saying Saturday or way past the 4th. WAAAAAAAAAAAH, should have just ordered a new fridge over the weekend and I'd have it today (hindsight is 20/20). Husband is going to all stores trying to see what we can do. This is the pits.
If we could really get one on Saturday, could maybe buy a bigger dorm fridge (mine that we're using is the smallest one imaginable.. a cubic foot or so, literally holds a gallon of milk and some eggs) and get through until the weekend. Trying not to panic.
@anna930 sorry about your fridge situation. Why can appliance stuff just be easy??? Last week we had to get our AC fixed and then yesterday Our new dryer came BUT they couldn't install it because they would have to move the washer out first and it would be a liability for them. So it is just sitting in my garage until I figure out what to do.
I spend the morning lurker on the other boards, I can't believe they have august babies already!! This ish is getting real.
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
Appliance issues are the worst. DH and I recently bought our first home. We've lived for so long in rental situations where we weren't responsible for any of the appliances/ac/upkeep and we were pretty freaked out about it, especially considering that the appliances in the house we bought are not in the BEST condition. They're not crap, by any means, but they're definitely not new and they have their quirks.
Thankfully my parents advised us to look in to "American Home Shield", which is an insurance plan that covers all appliances, AC/Heaters, garage doors, toilets, and SO MUCH MORE. You pay a flat monthly fee (never goes up no matter how many claims you put in) and choose your deductible, which is what you pay whenever you need someone to come in and look at your items.
So, for example, DH and I went with the lowest deductible ($125) and pay $50 a month for the insurance. Already we've had to call them in twice for AC and water heater. Both times it cost $125 and ONLY $125. We didn't pay for parts or instillation or repeat visits for unfixed issues.
With American Home Shield your deductible covers EVERYTHING. Which means that if your fridge craps out, you pay your $125 to have someone come out and look at it. If they discover it's just a parts issue then they'll order it and replace it, no further charge. If they discover that the fridge is BUSTED TOTALLY and needs to be replaced, they pay for a new fridge.
I highly highly recommend them. It's taken so much worry off our shoulders regarding all of that mess, especially because we haven't quite built up our emergency funds all the way from where they were before our 1,000 mile move from NJ to the South end of last year (that shiz is expensive!).
Ugh appliances can be the pits. we recently got a new furnace, but we knew we needed to get one soon when we bought our home two and a half years ago (it was still the original from when the house was built in the 80's). We also installed central air at the time (which I'm super thankful for in this heat!). Just after we did that, our dryer quit on us. I tried calling for service and no one would come and look at it so we just went out and bought a new one at Sears. It is larger and nicer so we are happy about it now. Though, it always seems like something is going after you fix something else. The fridge has been making some funny noises lately - hoping that's not going too. Ugh!
That appliance warranty sounds crazy @bibliobebe wow! I have never heard of that but it sounds pretty good. Especially if repairs or replacement is worth more than the deductible. Very interesting! Thanks for the tip on that.
I had my follow up with the cardiologist today. Both tests (the heart monitor and the echo) looked good. He pointed out a couple of small things but was not worried at all just said we'll continue to follow up after pregnancy. I just have to ensure that, before any surgeries, I let the doctor know that I'm prone to an irregular heartbeat. Easy enough.
Super random but 3 years ago I taught my friend how to boil water and she just sent me a snapchat that she is making a soup from scratch from one of the recipes I sent her. I feel like a proud momma!
Ok. So my husband took today off to deal with this appliance stuff (luckily Emmett is in daycare) and do other home work.. well only the appliance is going to happen because it's taking him all day.
Sears will sell us a floor model, they have quite a few options and can deliver to us on Friday. Agren (local appliance small chain) will bump us up and can deliver TOMORROW if we tell them ASAP or Thursday, best value is a floor model for $2400 (my husband assures me it's a really nice fridge) He is now at Home Depot to find out about soonest delivery of floor model, and I spoke to Lowes online who offers 7 day a week next day delivery on appliances (not sure of charge) so he will go there last.
BLESS HIM for doing all of this. OMG, he seems a bit stressed to pick out a fridge but as long as it's stainless steel and has water/ice dispenser I promised him I'm ok with it. I should probably be putting out tonight.. right? I mean, this seems worthy of some sort of action. I can probably muster up a BJ. That's probably TMI, I'm on a "I might have a fridge by tomorrow or Thursday HIGH ladies"
Been waiting over an hour for my routine prenatal appointment. Even had time to do my one hour glucose test but still waiting. I got here early today cause my father is watching the kids. My appointment time was over an 1 1/2 ago now. And the lab is separate so I know it wasn't because I was doing that. At least it gave me some time to catch up on all the posts I've been missing out on since being out of town all last week.
I had a fellow photographer mentor me recently in her shooting style and editing, and I just set up the editing part of the session. She asked me how far along I was now, and then said that I should come ready for pics because we can shoot some maternity photos before and then she will teach me to edit off of those. I am so excited! I wasn't planning to have them done, last time I just had my mom take one really good one just to remember how I looked.
@UnwritteN12 I'm glad your cardiology stuff came back ok! Mine did as well. Apparently it's just something that can happen to pregnant women with all the extra hormones and stuff. I think mine was worse when I was also stressed with work because when I have flutters now they're pretty quick and don't linger...before it would last for a few hours (and I probably should have gone to OB triage but I was afraid that'd make it worse...yes, I'm my own worst enemy!)
@Annas620 Yay for options to have a fridge ASAP! Appliances are a necessary evil for sure.
As for August babies, I was due June 5 and had my son April 27, so he would have been born by now if the due date was switched to August. I definitely think I still harbor ill thoughts towards the fact that he came early because to be honest I eyeroll at the "woe is me, I'm so pregnant" complaints. I'd give just about anything to make it to 40 weeks this time, no matter how miserable I feel in the mean time. There is nothing fun about having a premature baby.
@AnnaS930 so sweet of DH. I'm sorry about the ridiculously expensive part but it sounds like you've got some good options which will probably have some good discounts as floor models.
I think it was this thread where we were talking about Prime. I can't even imagine trying to find it now lol. I noticed that Amazon has added a ton of options for their dash buttons. Has anyone tried these? Like them?
I'm getting a Dasani one since San Diego has horrible, hard tap water and we're picky about what we drink. There's several others that look promising but we're starting with this one. Between buttons and automatic deliveries I can see Amazon services being super helpful while in 3rd trimester, on maternity leave, and living on the 2nd floor (I'm slightly worried about lugging everything upstairs all the time with a baby when DH returns to work).
Eta: stupid bump didn't post the changes since my last saved draft.
@diagonalley - My pregnant coworker's friend had her twins early and they remain in the NICU. I told my preggo coworker "Remember this if your due date comes and goes. Even if past what you expected and you're huge and feel miserable, every day in there baby is getting stronger and more ready for this world." ... I don't think she really cared.
@diagonalley - My pregnant coworker's friend had her twins early and they remain in the NICU. I told my preggo coworker "Remember this if your due date comes and goes. Even if past what you expected and you're huge and feel miserable, every day in there baby is getting stronger and more ready for this world." ... I don't think she really cared.
Well considering the source I'm not surprised lol.
@PSUBecky23 I agree but my dr also had her two PAs in office today and I ended up seeing one of the anyways. I saw the doctor and the PAs all walking around so I know they were all there today. I ended up being there for more than 2 hours. I'm so thankful I at least didn't have my 16 month old with me because there is no way he would have made it through that wait. And I ended up seeing the PA for a grand total of 4 minutes, and the nurse for maybe 5 mins. Usually my doctor is great and I'm in and out in less than an hour. I don't know what the hell was going on today.
Re: June Randoms Thread
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@rg1 I'm well versed in the pathetic stage of pregnancy. Not there yet but I definitely hit it with my last. Hang in there and don't be afraid to ask for help.
I cry almost every day now but I haven't had a real break down in a few weeks. Similar to @RG1 I told FI that I wasn't ready to be be a mom and he looks at me and goes omg you want an abortion? and then i cried for 2 hours.
Poor guy. He puts up with a lot.
Recently I've been crying because I'm so happy and he thinks it's the cutest thing and laughs at me (in a nice way not a mean way)
Hang in there ladies who are feeling emotional! I was crabby last night because I hadn't had an ice cold drink all day, after dinner I made my husband go get us DQ Blizzards so I could have something cold (similar to my Doritos.. I guess yesterday was a day to eat away my misery instead of just finding some ice water). Well, I gained 3 pounds since yesterday so now I feel extra crabby this morning, though I'm sure it's just water weight and/or my lack of weight gain lately catching up with me all at once.
For those who are first time moms.. this is a hard stage of pregnancy - everything was going so far, the 3rd trimester seems to slow down, and all of the anxieties of this bump becoming a baby start to hit home. Keep your chin up, talk it out - especially with your significant others and healthcare providers. The next 10-14 weeks will go by just fine, and miracles and baby snuggles are ahead. We've all got this, and a great support team here as well.
Love you all, spend some time today watching your belly dance and thinking of the little mister(s) or miss(es) that's gearing up to meet you!
Wishing everyone a wonderful day.
Also, I'm enjoying all this random talk about poop
Re: emotions. I'm just at 27 weeks, but I've definitely felt myself beginning to get more emotional than I normally am! I just hope my poor husband doesn't get overwhelmed when I reach the pathetic stage.
1. It's an easy fix. Repairman fixes it and we move on, minus a couple hundred bucks
2. It's completely dead. Fridge is beyond repair, we are out $100 for him telling us that, plus $1400 for a new fridge that arrives in the next day or two and this one gets hauled away
3. It needs a part that isn't as expensive as a new fridge, but will take a while to come in.
I'm seriously afraid of option #3. I need a fridge before the end of the week, we have the party and I'm going to lose my mind trying to feed our family out of the smallest dorm fridge you can imagine, we can't even make anything that produces leftovers! We keep a large nest egg of money for home emergencies, so I wouldn't REALLY notice the cost of a new fridge coming out of it... if the part is super cheap but going to take a week or more to get here - I'm going to be in such a pickle deciding WTF to do! And I do NOT want to keep the broken fridge and sell it.. no thank you.
Totally in the pathetic stage of pregnancy, very uncomfortable and emotional. DH Is trying but he's stuck with contractor /hourly work so its a lot of down time for me and DD at home on our own. I want to be productive again but the easiest things for me are now the hardest and I hate it. 10 more weeks of this? Kid is only gonna get bigger and so am I? Throw me a bone please because I don't remember this from last pregnancy...
July: Patriotic Fails
the poop issues are so real, glad I'm not the only one!
@camichael84 so sorry to hear about your results- I would be devastated if I had to restrict my diet any more than I do (I have celiacs)
@thefridges we had problems a couple years ago with our fridge and were on a tight budget. We ended up getting a NICE stainless one off Craig's for $1000 less and it's still pumping along to this day (knocks on all wood). Plus when my 2yo Rams his bike and other related things into it, I'm not phased in the least. I'm convinced that we won't have nice things until the kids are in their 30s.
I talked to DH about it last night and I am SO glad I did. I rarely speak about my emotions because I'm largely afraid they'll either be laughed/shrugged off or that I'll be told to "tough it out" or that "you're just being crazy" or something like that. But DH really listened to how I was feeling and that I was really understanding that I wasn't doing well. He hugged me a lot and told me that he loved me, and that of course I'm a bit emotionally crazy - I've got his DNA in my body right now so it was bound to happen.
Anyway, today is a much better day than yesterday (so far), and I'm glad it's not a constant negative and topsy turvy feeling, and I feel bit better prepared to ride the emotional roller coaster when it happens again. So thanks again! And I hope all of those that are struggling are able to feel a but more comfortable, too.
Now stores that had said they could install a new fridge by today, are saying Saturday or way past the 4th. WAAAAAAAAAAAH, should have just ordered a new fridge over the weekend and I'd have it today (hindsight is 20/20). Husband is going to all stores trying to see what we can do. This is the pits.
If we could really get one on Saturday, could maybe buy a bigger dorm fridge (mine that we're using is the smallest one imaginable.. a cubic foot or so, literally holds a gallon of milk and some eggs) and get through until the weekend. Trying not to panic.
I spend the morning lurker on the other boards, I can't believe they have august babies already!! This ish is getting real.
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
Thankfully my parents advised us to look in to "American Home Shield", which is an insurance plan that covers all appliances, AC/Heaters, garage doors, toilets, and SO MUCH MORE. You pay a flat monthly fee (never goes up no matter how many claims you put in) and choose your deductible, which is what you pay whenever you need someone to come in and look at your items.
So, for example, DH and I went with the lowest deductible ($125) and pay $50 a month for the insurance. Already we've had to call them in twice for AC and water heater. Both times it cost $125 and ONLY $125. We didn't pay for parts or instillation or repeat visits for unfixed issues.
With American Home Shield your deductible covers EVERYTHING. Which means that if your fridge craps out, you pay your $125 to have someone come out and look at it. If they discover it's just a parts issue then they'll order it and replace it, no further charge. If they discover that the fridge is BUSTED TOTALLY and needs to be replaced, they pay for a new fridge.
I highly highly recommend them. It's taken so much worry off our shoulders regarding all of that mess, especially because we haven't quite built up our emergency funds all the way from where they were before our 1,000 mile move from NJ to the South end of last year (that shiz is expensive!).
@AnnaS930 - Yikes! Hoping you guys can figure something out before this weekend. $700....ridiculous!
That appliance warranty sounds crazy @bibliobebe wow! I have never heard of that but it sounds pretty good. Especially if repairs or replacement is worth more than the deductible. Very interesting! Thanks for the tip on that.
I feel like a proud momma!
(sorry I've always wanted to use that gif!)
@UnwritteN12 - So glad to hear the cardiologist says things are looking good!
Sears will sell us a floor model, they have quite a few options and can deliver to us on Friday.
Agren (local appliance small chain) will bump us up and can deliver TOMORROW if we tell them ASAP or Thursday, best value is a floor model for $2400 (my husband assures me it's a really nice fridge)
He is now at Home Depot to find out about soonest delivery of floor model, and I spoke to Lowes online who offers 7 day a week next day delivery on appliances (not sure of charge) so he will go there last.
BLESS HIM for doing all of this. OMG, he seems a bit stressed to pick out a fridge but as long as it's stainless steel and has water/ice dispenser I promised him I'm ok with it. I should probably be putting out tonight.. right? I mean, this seems worthy of some sort of action. I can probably muster up a BJ. That's probably TMI, I'm on a "I might have a fridge by tomorrow or Thursday HIGH ladies"
I'm glad your cardiology stuff came back ok! Mine did as well. Apparently it's just something that can happen to pregnant women with all the extra hormones and stuff. I think mine was worse when I was also stressed with work because when I have flutters now they're pretty quick and don't linger...before it would last for a few hours (and I probably should have gone to OB triage but I was afraid that'd make it worse...yes, I'm my own worst enemy!)
@Annas620
Yay for options to have a fridge ASAP! Appliances are a necessary evil for sure.
As for August babies, I was due June 5 and had my son April 27, so he would have been born by now if the due date was switched to August. I definitely think I still harbor ill thoughts towards the fact that he came early because to be honest I eyeroll at the "woe is me, I'm so pregnant" complaints. I'd give just about anything to make it to 40 weeks this time, no matter how miserable I feel in the mean time. There is nothing fun about having a premature baby.
I think it was this thread where we were talking about Prime. I can't even imagine trying to find it now lol. I noticed that Amazon has added a ton of options for their dash buttons. Has anyone tried these? Like them?
I'm getting a Dasani one since San Diego has horrible, hard tap water and we're picky about what we drink. There's several others that look promising but we're starting with this one. Between buttons and automatic deliveries I can see Amazon services being super helpful while in 3rd trimester, on maternity leave, and living on the 2nd floor (I'm slightly worried about lugging everything upstairs all the time with a baby when DH returns to work).
Eta: stupid bump didn't post the changes since my last saved draft.
DD 10/4/02
DS due 9/28/16
Its so disrespectful of your time to expect you to just hang out all day because they cannot handle the responsibility of managing appointments.
I try to give OBs some leeway in light of the devastating news that they sometimes have to impart on their patients.