Question for some of you STMs: when the BHs start up for me, I feel it in my chest before I notice it in my uterus (honestly, I probably wouldn't notice them at all if it wasn't for the chest part). It's like someone is sitting on my chest or squeezing my lungs really hard. It gets really hard to breathe and my heart is pounding afterward.
Is it the same way during actual labor? OB says that difficulty breathing during contractions isn't unusual, but this is intense. I've also noticed that over the last couple of months the BHs have been getting stronger/longer as I get further along (they are still very sporadic though). It's getting harder to force myself to breathe through them. I can't imagine doing this during real labor when contractions are minutes apart and presumably even stronger than this...I don't know how I'm going to keep myself from blacking out.
Question for other mamas: DH and I were getting frisky last night (first time in six weeks!!) and I was all ready to go (lubrication wise) and when he actually went inside me it was so damn painful I cried out! It felt like my vagina was raw on the inside and he was rubbing a rug burn. Dr. Google says it's perfectly normal because you're a little swollen/engorged down there but I just want some reassurance from other mamas that this is totally normal. and I apologize in advance...I know how much we all don't like "is this normal" posts.
@JoMunson same thing happened to me last night. We just switched positions and it was fine after, but things are definitely more sensitive/tight from being swollen. You could also keep some kind of lube handy for those occasions.
Just a quick update. They did another BPP on the baby this morning and this time he got an 8/8!!! We also had two non stress test and all was good with them. I'm home now but with my blood pressure continuing to rise my doctor pretty much said to not be surprised if I end up back in for monitoring again before too long.
Sooo I'm annoyed because husband has been out of town on a business trip for >2 weeks, gets home Monday night, and because his school just got to the sweet 16 and they're playing in town next Friday, decides to invite his friend from college to stay with us and go to the game without either consulting or inviting me. Like I get that this is super exciting and I would not have said no, but maybe a little consideration slash an invitation (not that I'd even go!) would have been a good way to avoid an irritated pregnant wife.
Now that I'm all caught up on this thread, I wanted to wish everyone a very safe few weeks left! I know I'm getting anxious and it's getting very hard to breathe when I lay down, so I'm hoping someone can relate? MH and I are moving into our new home and I haven't gotten the nursery ready yet so I'm starting to worry. The 3rd trimester tiredness is a killer though so I will see how much I get done. I certainly don't know when to stop even though I know I'm tired.
DH just ordered the new floor and all the stuff to install. I love what he picked, but omg I think I may cry bc of how much it cost. This was one of the cheaper options too. MIL is covering half and my dad knows how to install it so we save there... so I guess it makes it a little better?
DH just ordered the new floor and all the stuff to install. I love what he picked, but omg I think I may cry bc of how much it cost. This was one of the cheaper options too. MIL is covering half and my dad knows how to install it so we save there... so I guess it makes it a little better?
Thought my in laws would pay for some of the nursery furniture...they didn't. Needless to say I'm still paying it off my dam credit card!!! The plastic has been getting a good workout lately! I also spent a small fortune yesterday getting some of the stuff we didn't get from our registry...and there's still quite a bit left. Thankfully nothing "essential" so it can all wait!!
Listening to my husband and his friend hang IKEA shelves. Seriously should've done it myself. They have to be the most complicated IKEA thing we've ever purchased and yet they seem so simple! I think there's going to 100 holes in the wall before the shelf actually gets hung!
Listening to my husband and his friend hang IKEA shelves. Seriously should've done it myself. They have to be the most complicated IKEA thing we've ever purchased and yet they seem so simple! I think there's going to 100 holes in the wall before the shelf actually gets hung!
the day my husband hung the floating shelves in the nursery was one of the most trying days we've had in our marriage. I feel your pain.
Listening to my husband and his friend hang IKEA shelves. Seriously should've done it myself. They have to be the most complicated IKEA thing we've ever purchased and yet they seem so simple! I think there's going to 100 holes in the wall before the shelf actually gets hung!
the day my husband hung the floating shelves in the nursery was one of the most trying days we've had in our marriage. I feel your pain.
Listening to my husband and his friend hang IKEA shelves. Seriously should've done it myself. They have to be the most complicated IKEA thing we've ever purchased and yet they seem so simple! I think there's going to 100 holes in the wall before the shelf actually gets hung!
the day my husband hung the floating shelves in the nursery was one of the most trying days we've had in our marriage. I feel your pain.
IKEA probably caused more divorces than affairs
Apparently there's a piece of furniture that takes over 11 hours to put together. It's called the marriage breaker!
Update: shelves are up and look awesome. Few more things to hang and I'll put some photos on the nursery thread
Listening to my husband and his friend hang IKEA shelves. Seriously should've done it myself. They have to be the most complicated IKEA thing we've ever purchased and yet they seem so simple! I think there's going to 100 holes in the wall before the shelf actually gets hung!
the day my husband hung the floating shelves in the nursery was one of the most trying days we've had in our marriage. I feel your pain.
IKEA probably caused more divorces than affairs
Apparently there's a piece of furniture that takes over 11 hours to put together. It's called the marriage breaker!
Update: shelves are up and look awesome. Few more things to hang and I'll put some photos on the nursery thread
Just googled it- yup that seems like hell. We thought it was a good idea to build two dressers in one day when we moved in. Never again will I build a drawer. Never again.
Listening to my husband and his friend hang IKEA shelves. Seriously should've done it myself. They have to be the most complicated IKEA thing we've ever purchased and yet they seem so simple! I think there's going to 100 holes in the wall before the shelf actually gets hung!
the day my husband hung the floating shelves in the nursery was one of the most trying days we've had in our marriage. I feel your pain.
IKEA probably caused more divorces than affairs
Apparently there's a piece of furniture that takes over 11 hours to put together. It's called the marriage breaker!
Update: shelves are up and look awesome. Few more things to hang and I'll put some photos on the nursery thread
Just googled it- yup that seems like hell. We thought it was a good idea to build two dressers in one day when we moved in. Never again will I build a drawer. Never again.
Drawers are always my job. Hubby does the "skeleton" I do the drawers. So tedious!
Never thought I'd say this but I seriously love MIL right now. She was in the area and dropped by. Wanted to see how I was doing, nursery was coming along, etc.
A little back story... Last night DH got upset bc I was bugging him about the nursery. He said if I mentioned anything else then he just wouldn't do it. She saw the nursery today while he was standing right there and said "Hmm, I figured you might be further along by now. You might want to get moving on this bc you're running out of time." No prompting on my part whatsoever. Of course he can't say no to his mom so he basically agreed the walls would be fixed and he would be painting this coming Saturday. The floor should be in the following week and he'll be doing that soon after. Then started listing all these other ideas he has for the room.
Basically I really appreciated her visit today and getting under his butt to get the stuff done... And it showed him I'm not crazy in thinking the stuff should be further along by now.
Lol. I feel like such a weirdo; I actually like putting together furniture with DH. Our problem is that I want to start immediately and DH takes forever to set up.
I am FUMING... We have kept the name a secret. Today after doing the nursery I sent my mom this pic, just trying to be nice. But now she is testing my patience. She started by sending me a text that said "You did a good job on harpers room" (yes, harper is the name). This whole time she has been guessing names that she knew was on the list so I just assumed that was what she was doing. Then she sends me another message that I left the initial on the wall. I figure if she can tell it is an H, then Ill tell her its for our last name. She goes "nice try". I flipped out a bit and told her if I wanted her to know we would tell her, and I think it is rude for her to assume then to back me into a corner. So now I am wondering.... can you guys identify the initial in the room, and if so, can you tell what it is?? Why does she have to ruin EVERYTHING? If she thinks she knows what it is, STFU and pretend like you don't. DH is pissed. I am pissed. I feel like she ruined this for us. I guess PG brain kept me from noticing it in the pic. I did send another without it on the wall too from another angle that would have really shown what it was.
I am FUMING... We have kept the name a secret. Today after doing the nursery I sent my mom this pic, just trying to be nice. But now she is testing my patience. She started by sending me a text that said "You did a good job on harpers room" (yes, harper is the name). This whole time she has been guessing names that she knew was on the list so I just assumed that was what she was doing. Then she sends me another message that I left the initial on the wall. I figure if she can tell it is an H, then Ill tell her its for our last name. She goes "nice try". I flipped out a bit and told her if I wanted her to know we would tell her, and I think it is rude for her to assume then to back me into a corner. So now I am wondering.... can you guys identify the initial in the room, and if so, can you tell what it is?? Why does she have to ruin EVERYTHING? If she thinks she knows what it is, STFU and pretend like you don't. DH is pissed. I am pissed. I feel like she ruined this for us. I guess PG brain kept me from noticing it in the pic. I did send another without it on the wall too from another angle that would have really shown what it was.
Cant tell from that photo only from the others you posted. She's just trying to see if you'll give it up if she guesses the correct name. My MIL tried as well with ours
@yogahh I feel your frustration! We've told immediate family our baby's name but have told other people "we have a name but we aren't sharing it". Some of the women I work with have become obsessed with guessing it. I don't understand why someone would be obsessed with learning a baby's name. It's not like learning the name makes them come any sooner.
@yogahh I feel your frustration! We've told immediate family our baby's name but have told other people "we have a name but we aren't sharing it". Some of the women I work with have become obsessed with guessing it. I don't understand why someone would be obsessed with learning a baby's name. It's not like learning the name makes them come any sooner.
THIS. I don't understand it either. Just shut up and wait until the baby is born and you'll find out then!
Ok, this weekend was winning: - Yesterday we had to go to Target to get stuff for the nieces and nephew's Easter baskets and somehow got out of there fo under $150 - Then we went to a 1st birthday party and then a St Patrick's Day party and I only napped a little in the car - This morning I was the worship leader and coordinated the kid's Palm Sunday Parade while MH was head deacon, usher, ran the sound board and had to troubleshoot when the live feed wasn't working in the nursery at church. Phew! - We took my FIL out for his birthday dinner and I could tell he had an awesome time - I really wanted to take a bath, but knew I needed to give my son a tubby and there is no longer room for both of us. Since he didn't poop or pee in the tub, I figured I would just hop in the already filled bath. How would I keep my 2year old entertained? I dumped his clean laundry in the bathroom and had him play the super fun game of Laundry! He had to run each piece into his room and put it in the right drawer. I was able to actually shave my legs and luxuriate while my son ran off enough energy he basically passed out the second he got in bed! Score!
ETA: Just got the call school is cancelled tomorrow! And I don't have to make it up. Yes!
@yogahh I definitely can't tell that is an H. That would make me so mad. Why cares what the name is?! I mean really, who does it affect other than your child? It is no one else's business. No one has given us a hard time about not announcing our son's name.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Now that I'm all caught up on this thread, I wanted to wish everyone a very safe few weeks left! I know I'm getting anxious and it's getting very hard to breathe when I lay down, so I'm hoping someone can relate? MH and I are moving into our new home and I haven't gotten the nursery ready yet so I'm starting to worry. The 3rd trimester tiredness is a killer though so I will see how much I get done. I certainly don't know when to stop even though I know I'm tired.
I'm in your boat. DH and I move into our new home this weekend (hopefully, it's already been delayed once) so we haven't started on our baby's room yet either!
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
I have a theory about why people get mad when we don't share the name.
The pregnant body is something people kind of think is "theirs" to objectify and "consume." Hear me out: Think about it--people feel comfortable touching the belly, commenting on how "big" you are, asking things like "Was this planned?" and so forth. So in sum, people feel a lot of comfort in asking very intimate questions and doing intimate things to pregnant women. So when a pregnant woman resists that in the form of not sharing the name, people are insulted because it goes against this kind of unspoken rule that the pregnant body is available for public "consumption."
I have a theory about why people get mad when we don't share the name.
The pregnant body is something people kind of think is "theirs" to objectify and "consume." Hear me out: Think about it--people feel comfortable touching the belly, commenting on how "big" you are, asking things like "Was this planned?" and so forth. So in sum, people feel a lot of comfort in asking very intimate questions and doing intimate things to pregnant women. So when a pregnant woman resists that in the form of not sharing the name, people are insulted because it goes against this kind of unspoken rule that the pregnant body is available for public "consumption."
But WHY is this the unspoken rule? I just don't get it.
I have a theory about why people get mad when we don't share the name.
The pregnant body is something people kind of think is "theirs" to objectify and "consume." Hear me out: Think about it--people feel comfortable touching the belly, commenting on how "big" you are, asking things like "Was this planned?" and so forth. So in sum, people feel a lot of comfort in asking very intimate questions and doing intimate things to pregnant women. So when a pregnant woman resists that in the form of not sharing the name, people are insulted because it goes against this kind of unspoken rule that the pregnant body is available for public "consumption."
I think you're right and I agree with @Aquinna82. Why?! I haven't had too many people touch my belly without asking but one day the secretary at my work who I only talk to occasionally did it and I was not pleased... I wasn't even showing yet! It's just rude.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Re: **The Everything Random Thread for May 2016**
Is it the same way during actual labor? OB says that difficulty breathing during contractions isn't unusual, but this is intense. I've also noticed that over the last couple of months the BHs have been getting stronger/longer as I get further along (they are still very sporadic though). It's getting harder to force myself to breathe through them. I can't imagine doing this during real labor when contractions are minutes apart and presumably even stronger than this...I don't know how I'm going to keep myself from blacking out.
DH and I were getting frisky last night (first time in six weeks!!) and I was all ready to go (lubrication wise) and when he actually went inside me it was so damn painful I cried out! It felt like my vagina was raw on the inside and he was rubbing a rug burn. Dr. Google says it's perfectly normal because you're a little swollen/engorged down there but I just want some reassurance from other mamas that this is totally normal.
and I apologize in advance...I know how much we all don't like "is this normal" posts.
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)
Update: shelves are up and look awesome. Few more things to hang and I'll put some photos on the nursery thread
A little back story... Last night DH got upset bc I was bugging him about the nursery. He said if I mentioned anything else then he just wouldn't do it. She saw the nursery today while he was standing right there and said "Hmm, I figured you might be further along by now. You might want to get moving on this bc you're running out of time." No prompting on my part whatsoever. Of course he can't say no to his mom so he basically agreed the walls would be fixed and he would be painting this coming Saturday. The floor should be in the following week and he'll be doing that soon after. Then started listing all these other ideas he has for the room.
Basically I really appreciated her visit today and getting under his butt to get the stuff done... And it showed him I'm not crazy in thinking the stuff should be further along by now.
We have kept the name a secret. Today after doing the nursery I sent my mom this pic, just trying to be nice. But now she is testing my patience. She started by sending me a text that said "You did a good job on harpers room" (yes, harper is the name). This whole time she has been guessing names that she knew was on the list so I just assumed that was what she was doing. Then she sends me another message that I left the initial on the wall. I figure if she can tell it is an H, then Ill tell her its for our last name. She goes "nice try". I flipped out a bit and told her if I wanted her to know we would tell her, and I think it is rude for her to assume then to back me into a corner.
So now I am wondering.... can you guys identify the initial in the room, and if so, can you tell what it is??
Why does she have to ruin EVERYTHING? If she thinks she knows what it is, STFU and pretend like you don't.
DH is pissed. I am pissed. I feel like she ruined this for us.
I guess PG brain kept me from noticing it in the pic. I did send another without it on the wall too from another angle that would have really shown what it was.
Agreed - I looked for the H for a while. Bad move, Lady!
Mama to Three Girls:
Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor
and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
- Yesterday we had to go to Target to get stuff for the nieces and nephew's Easter baskets and somehow got out of there fo under $150
- Then we went to a 1st birthday party and then a St Patrick's Day party and I only napped a little in the car
- This morning I was the worship leader and coordinated the kid's Palm Sunday Parade while MH was head deacon, usher, ran the sound board and had to troubleshoot when the live feed wasn't working in the nursery at church. Phew!
- We took my FIL out for his birthday dinner and I could tell he had an awesome time
- I really wanted to take a bath, but knew I needed to give my son a tubby and there is no longer room for both of us. Since he didn't poop or pee in the tub, I figured I would just hop in the already filled bath. How would I keep my 2year old entertained? I dumped his clean laundry in the bathroom and had him play the super fun game of Laundry! He had to run each piece into his room and put it in the right drawer. I was able to actually shave my legs and luxuriate while my son ran off enough energy he basically passed out the second he got in bed! Score!
ETA: Just got the call school is cancelled tomorrow! And I don't have to make it up. Yes!
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!I'm in your boat. DH and I move into our new home this weekend (hopefully, it's already been delayed once) so we haven't started on our baby's room yet either!
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!The pregnant body is something people kind of think is "theirs" to objectify and "consume." Hear me out: Think about it--people feel comfortable touching the belly, commenting on how "big" you are, asking things like "Was this planned?" and so forth. So in sum, people feel a lot of comfort in asking very intimate questions and doing intimate things to pregnant women. So when a pregnant woman resists that in the form of not sharing the name, people are insulted because it goes against this kind of unspoken rule that the pregnant body is available for public "consumption."
DS: Born 5-17-16
I think you're right and I agree with @Aquinna82. Why?! I haven't had too many people touch my belly without asking but one day the secretary at my work who I only talk to occasionally did it and I was not pleased... I wasn't even showing yet! It's just rude.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!