Ok so I know we've had random threads about this over the months, but wondering now that we are closer to the end if anyone has experience with this....my doctor hasn't mentioned doing kick counts, just said to call if I don't feel the babies move. I have been feeling them move the last 2 days, but it's just not as strong or as frequent. Do we think it's another growth spurt? I think I may call the nurse line anyway and just ask specifically what they consider alarming, and I'm sure feeling them at all is a good sign. But I can't help but worry.
My doctor hasn't mentioned this either but I've read about kick counts... most of what I read says pick a time in the beginning and end of the day and try to count 10 moves in an hour. If you don't get to 10, drink some juice, change positions, try again. I also have been feeling less movement this week but I think it's because the baby is getting bigger and running out of space to flip around so the movements are less than they have been.
@babyfmama When I was called for jury duty last year, I believe there was an option to opt out if the following applied to you and I believe being pregnant was one of them. Others were being a certain age or older and if you are primary caregiver for child/elderly. Obviously this was my state, Florida, so you may want to check with your state/ county to see if that is an option of you.
I don't know why, but MH is obsessed with jury duty. He gets so excited when he gets called and is so determined to get on the jury. I find it absolutely adorable. And he gets called every 3 years on the dot. He has been on at least 4 juries for big cases in our area and loves every second of it! I think he likes the fact that both sides always want him on because he is a pretty interesting looking dude in that he looks like a cop and a mobster at the same time. He also is rough around the edges, but super intelligent and knowledgeable. I could see why either a defense attorney or a prosecutor would want him to weigh in. He is the most level-headed and objective person I know so I think he really is the perfect juror. I on the other hand have never been called for jury duty...ever! So weird.
I am terrified to go to jury duty again! Last time I was there was 8 years ago and on grand jury. For the 2 weeks I was there, the head ADA that handles grand juries and I flirted and on the last day he asked me out. I turned him down as I had a BF, but when we broke up I found him on linkedin and sent him a message. We met for drinks, then brunch, then he would keep making plans with me and cancelling. I had enough so stopped replying to his texts. But I am so scared about going again and seeing him! I probably just jinxed myself, and when I get home I will have a summons....
I think that there should be professional jurors. To @laurenmdrn16 point some people really enjoy going. My mom is one of them. This should be a full time job, and only level headed, intelligent people can apply. It would end a lot of the horrible decisions (Casey Anthony anyone??) that comes out of jury deliberation.
I'm trying to come up with a good Gotcha Day gift for my niece. I don't know if I should do something for her, like a toy (she'll be 10 months) or something for my BIL/SIL (like a fun wall hanging I saw on Etsy) or both. Suggestions?
Does anyone have any experience with Montessori schools? We are still in the process of choosing a day care, and I want to get on a wait list somewhere by the end of next week. There is a Montessori school just around the corner from my office, and I had a tour this afternoon. It seemed really nice, but I don't know much about their programs aside from what I discussed with the director and the information on their website. From what I gather, it seems like a more "hands off"/natural approach to child development. Are there other differences between Montessori schools and traditional day cares/preschools? Have you used one for your children in the past, or do you know anyone who has?
@babyfmama you can usually postpone jury duty and they will try you again in about 6mo or so. If it's too late for that and you have to appear then you can explain to the judge that you can't financially swing and additional missed time with your required dr appointments and maternity leave etc and they should excuse you. I have also seen folks (I served on a jury previously) who will say that they can't be objective for whatever reason and therefore aren't able to be selected as a juror (prejudice, have been in a similar situation that makes you biased etc). I generally wouldn't tell somebody how to get out of jury duty, but pregnancy special in my book!
LOL. No, it's what they call the formal adoption day. The day that everyone goes to court, signs their stuff, and there's no longer any possibility of anyone ever claiming rights to the baby again. It's a big day!! In their case, the birth mother knows who the biological father is but wouldn't say, so they had to go through more steps to be sure that no one else could claim custody. At this stage of the game (they've had her in their custody since she was a day old) it would be very unlikely that anything bad will happen, but I know they are going to celebrate when the ink of the final paperwork is dry!!
@bshurdy a family friends daughter decided to announce the loss of her mucous plug then told everyone about the suppository she had to insert to soften her cervix, all on FB. Why she thought the world needed to know this is beyond me... She also proceeded to post hourly update pics while she was in the hospital getting ready for delivery, explaining how great her epi was. One picture she was applying makeup while her friends were in the background taking selfies... Not sure I'll be that calm but I definitely won't be on my phone the whole time.
@Aquinna82 I love that!!! Maybe a toy for the child and a growth chart wall sticker. I think they'll be touched by the meaning of the sticker. I also love that if they move in the future, the family is able to move the chart to the new house.
I absolutely hate my job, and can't wait #1- to be on maternity leave so I don't have to be here and #2- to start looking for a new job while on leave. I am a bit nervous though that I won't have time to be job hunting while adjusting to a brand new life and bonding with baby. Anyone else planning on this, or has done this?
I need some advice, especially from the lawyers/paralegals or anyone with past jury duty experience. I got called for jury duty next week and while I'm happy to do my civic duty, I don't want to be placed on a jury because I'm taking off Friday to go home for my baby shower and really need to be in the office the rest of the week. Will being big and pregnant help me get excused? Anything else I can do or say to lessen my chances of being put on a jury?
Is it for Philly? If so, there'll be a contact website on your jury duty stub that says something like "if for any reason you cannot physically or mentally perform the functions of a juror, please fill out this form." Go there and put in "I'm pregnant and suffering from [insert annoying pregnancy-related medical problem here, I put "morning sickness"]" and they should excuse you within a couple of business days.
@bshurdy a family friends daughter decided to announce the loss of her mucous plug then told everyone about the suppository she had to insert to soften her cervix, all on FB. Why she thought the world needed to know this is beyond me... She also proceeded to post hourly update pics while she was in the hospital getting ready for delivery, explaining how great her epi was. One picture she was applying makeup while her friends were in the background taking selfies... Not sure I'll be that calm but I definitely won't be on my phone the whole time.
Desperate for attention much! I would've been so annoyed.
@swflJD re Montessori I really like the idea of the different age kids being together teaching each other stuff rather than the segregated age rooms. The one near me may be different than yours but there is a focus on nature and art as well which I really like the look of - if it doesn't sound too cranky just more holistic relaxed approach to learning. I really want to use one near me but the hours aren't as great as the regular nurseries, I still may do some after hours stuff there though as I just like their ethos...
"Montessori saw that children learn best by doing and that happy self-motivated learners form positive images of themselves as confident, successful people. She created specially designed resources to foster independence and a love for learning from an early age.
The Montessori approach is holistic and aims to develop the whole child. Fundamental to the approach is the belief that a child's early years from birth to six are the period when they have the greatest capacity to learn."
I need some advice, especially from the lawyers/paralegals or anyone with past jury duty experience. I got called for jury duty next week and while I'm happy to do my civic duty, I don't want to be placed on a jury because I'm taking off Friday to go home for my baby shower and really need to be in the office the rest of the week. Will being big and pregnant help me get excused? Anything else I can do or say to lessen my chances of being put on a jury?
Is it for Philly? If so, there'll be a contact website on your jury duty stub that says something like "if for any reason you cannot physically or mentally perform the functions of a juror, please fill out this form." Go there and put in "I'm pregnant and suffering from [insert annoying pregnancy-related medical problem here, I put "morning sickness"]" and they should excuse you within a couple of business days.
You should use something cringe-worthy on this form... debilitating hemorrhoids for example. Make sure they can't excuse you fast enough
I need some advice, especially from the lawyers/paralegals or anyone with past jury duty experience. I got called for jury duty next week and while I'm happy to do my civic duty, I don't want to be placed on a jury because I'm taking off Friday to go home for my baby shower and really need to be in the office the rest of the week. Will being big and pregnant help me get excused? Anything else I can do or say to lessen my chances of being put on a jury?
Is it for Philly? If so, there'll be a contact website on your jury duty stub that says something like "if for any reason you cannot physically or mentally perform the functions of a juror, please fill out this form." Go there and put in "I'm pregnant and suffering from [insert annoying pregnancy-related medical problem here, I put "morning sickness"]" and they should excuse you within a couple of business days.
You should use something cringe-worthy on this form... debilitating hemorrhoids for example. Make sure they can't excuse you fast enough
I know a lot of mamas are getting Charlie horses but all of my cramps are in my feet! It's awful, I have to bend my toes until the cramp goes away! It's excruciating and happens randomly at the end of the day. My dr said its normal and I need more potassium, so I eat bananas a lot now. It has decreased the cramping but it's still sucky.
Many adoptees find the term "gotcha day" offensive. We do celebrate the day we met our son as a family day. I would probably give a book, but I'm sure anything will be appreciated!
I'm trying to get to sleep early but I am so uncomfortable. Between the pressure on my pelvis, pain on my left side from sciatica and trouble breathing, even my snoogle isn't helping. Does anyone else have a hard time breathing when you're lying down? My H got in bed with me just to help me relax and rub my back but of course fell asleep immediately.
I'm thinking some peanut butter toast might be in order...
@LadySamLady yes I feel like at night a lot of times baby crawls up and crowds my ribs and it's impossible to take a deep breath. I have been propping myself up on pillows (mainly to combat the reflux) but it also helps stretch everything out in the ribs/lungs area. Maybe it's worth a try?
So I was just thinking, since I'm due May 30 there is a good chance that I may end up with a June baby. This kind of made me sad because I love my May Mama's in here... I think even if babygirl comes in June I may stick around with the May board. I adore and have become attached to some of you mama's. Even though I'm not as involved in the board all the time as some other mama's.
My CS date got moved up to April 20th, but I am still hanging around here. I haven't even lurked April '16. I probably should, but I just love the May Bumpies so much!
Ummmm, you both BETTER plan on hanging around, even if your babies aren't born in May!
My baby is due on May 9th- although at one point they threw around May 3rd. He could be born last week of April but il gunna stay here. These are my mamas!!
I'm trying to get to sleep early but I am so uncomfortable. Between the pressure on my pelvis, pain on my left side from sciatica and trouble breathing, even my snoogle isn't helping. Does anyone else have a hard time breathing when you're lying down? My H got in bed with me just to help me relax and rub my back but of course fell asleep immediately.
I'm thinking some peanut butter toast might be in order...
I've been having headaches pretty much every day this week it seems - last night was especially terrible. Of course, my brain immediately goes to pre-eclampsia... I don't have other symptoms though, so it's probably not that. Regardless, I have my next appointment on Wednesday (GD test yaaaay), so I might call up on Monday and ask if they're going to have me give a urine sample that day (I have given maybe one since I started OB appointments).
Sorry this is kinda long but I need some place to rant and get it out...
Just found out no one from my immediate family will be around when the baby is born and I'm actually kinda disappointed. I wanted a little space but I didn't think that no one would care enough to even show up just once. My mom I kinda knew bc she's in a different state and we had planned on having her come later since obviously we don't know when baby will come. But my sister keeps making excuses that she 'can't' take time off. And my dad... The worst of everyone at this point took a job assignment that will have him traveling to the Bahamas for 7 weeks starting the first week of May. He won't be back until almost July. He knew when the due date was... He didn't just forget. He planned on being there as soon as the baby was born. We all excitedly talked about this at Christmas time.
Now the only people who will be there are DH(obviously), my in laws, and maybe my step mom (who tbh I really don't want there if my dad isn't there bc I'm sure she told him to take the work assignment). He was there the day both of my step sister's kids were born. Guess it was too much to think he might want to give his first blood granddaughter the same courtesy. Now she'll be at least a month old before he sees her.
He obviously knew this would be disappointing to me bc he told DH instead of me. I found out from DH who is now pretty much furious bc he knew how much it meant to me that my dad would be there... Hope he enjoys his trip to the Bahamas... Honestly I guess they need the money that bad they would he would say yes to this when there are multiple other people who could go in his place. Guess I probably won't be getting that 'surprise' shower after all since I've obviously done something to piss someone off.
And they wonder why I don't take the time out of my day to call them....
@dsmith211 I kind of understand how frustrating this is! I may or may not have my mom and dad there when we have LO. They are going to AZ the week after my EDD. My mom has already told me, more than once, that if I don't have baby before they leave, they are still going because the trip is for their anniversary. Even though my older sister and her family are going with! Even though this is my first baby, and they dropped everything for BOTH of my sisters births (who lives two states away) so they could be there, she told me it's not negotiable so I better just have her before they leave. Because this is something I can control?! i would be very upset too, if I were in your shoes. Even with DH/SO being there you still want your close family once baby arrives. And the step sisters would be the point I would throw in his face. It doesn't seem fair.
I need some advice, especially from the lawyers/paralegals or anyone with past jury duty experience. I got called for jury duty next week and while I'm happy to do my civic duty, I don't want to be placed on a jury because I'm taking off Friday to go home for my baby shower and really need to be in the office the rest of the week. Will being big and pregnant help me get excused? Anything else I can do or say to lessen my chances of being put on a jury?
In my jurisdiction, you have the option on your jury duty summons paperwork to mail in an attached card, requesting to either be excused permanently (if you are over 65 years old or have a disability that would make it difficult for you to attend) or temporarily (if you have a pre-scheduled trip, a temporary disability, etc.). Here, if you contacted the clerk and requested to be excused for the duration of your pregnancy, they would excuse you. If the paperwork with your summons did not give you the option to make a written excusal request, try calling the telephone number listed on the summons and discuss it with the clerk. If you explain your circumstances, they will likely excuse you - especially if you explain that you aren't just trying to get out of it and are willing to serve at a later date.
I need some advice, especially from the lawyers/paralegals or anyone with past jury duty experience. I got called for jury duty next week and while I'm happy to do my civic duty, I don't want to be placed on a jury because I'm taking off Friday to go home for my baby shower and really need to be in the office the rest of the week. Will being big and pregnant help me get excused? Anything else I can do or say to lessen my chances of being put on a jury?
In my jurisdiction, you have the option on your jury duty summons paperwork to mail in an attached card, requesting to either be excused permanently (if you are over 65 years old or have a disability that would make it difficult for you to attend) or temporarily (if you have a pre-scheduled trip, a temporary disability, etc.). Here, if you contacted the clerk and requested to be excused for the duration of your pregnancy, they would excuse you. If the paperwork with your summons did not give you the option to make a written excusal request, try calling the telephone number listed on the summons and discuss it with the clerk. If you explain your circumstances, they will likely excuse you - especially if you explain that you aren't just trying to get out of it and are willing to serve at a later date.
I almost got called for jury duty awhile back. Thankfully they didn't call me but they don't usually pick pregnant women, especially for longer trials. If you haven't used your one year deferment you can use it now!
I just need to vent and I have a shower rant and it's quite long so I apologize in advance!
MH and SIL got into an argument back in December which still hasn't been resolved. SIL (not her first time) called my sister and started making up BS about me and how my in laws don't like me and all that jazz and so she doesn't want to be part of my baby shower. My in laws have spoken to her about apologizing which she is not having so MH isn't going to apologize either (which I agree with b/c she involved my sister for no reason in this drama).
a friend of mine rsvp'd yes to my shower but then two weeks before the shower realized it's her husband's bday the next day and so is having a family dinner the day of my shower and decides to change her rsvp from yes to no. Upon hearing this from my baby shower host I'm appalled that someone can't just attend for the sake of showing up since you're my friend and a close one at that even for just an hour. The shower is during the day if I remember correctly.
I can't post this on Facebook b/c it would get back to my mom and I just really don't want to deal with that right now (my mom knows about it, but God forbid any of the people she goes to church with finds out). Plus there is a lot of drama involved with this (in regards to the tat specifically) that I am not wanting to get into if I were to post it on FB. Today is officially the one year anniversary of our loss last year. Got this (first one ever) tattoo in honor of that angel baby; got it done on Mother's Day last year (which also happened to be my birthday last year which made it super duper double hard) but I have never shared it with anyone other than family; I just felt like sharing it today in honor of that baby. I did not want to be a special snowflake and start my own post just about a tattoo, so I figured I would put it on the random page b/c random means pretty much anything ya know. I can't decide if I want to get the date added to it or not and then get the date of the new baby added to it with a small rainbow beside it. Not sure.
Anyway, getting this tattoo last year helped me a lot with getting a sense of closure. I know I will never really truly have real complete closure, but this tattoo helped a lot. Sounds weird I know.
Edit: I posted this and had added an image to it. I'm not sure why the image is not showing up. Ugh. when i click edit the file shows there and shows in the text but when i hit submit it no longer shows! I tried to re-upload it but the bump won't let me. It says the file is already in the discussion and won't be uploaded again. Even when i try to delete it and start over. I hate technology sometimes.
I can't post this on Facebook b/c it would get back to my mom and I just really don't want to deal with that right now (my mom knows about it, but God forbid any of the people she goes to church with finds out). Plus there is a lot of drama involved with this (in regards to the tat specifically) that I am not wanting to get into if I were to post it on FB. Today is officially the one year anniversary of our loss last year. Got this (first one ever) tattoo in honor of that angel baby; got it done on Mother's Day last year (which also happened to be my birthday last year which made it super duper double hard) but I have never shared it with anyone other than family; I just felt like sharing it today in honor of that baby. I did not want to be a special snowflake and start my own post just about a tattoo, so I figured I would put it on the random page b/c random means pretty much anything ya know. I can't decide if I want to get the date added to it or not and then get the date of the new baby added to it with a small rainbow beside it. Not sure.
Anyway, getting this tattoo last year helped me a lot with getting a sense of closure. I know I will never really truly have real complete closure, but this tattoo helped a lot. Sounds weird I know.
Edit: I posted this and had added an image to it. I'm not sure why the image is not showing up. Ugh. when i click edit the file shows there and shows in the text but when i hit submit it no longer shows! I tried to re-upload it but the bump won't let me. It says the file is already in the discussion and won't be uploaded again. Even when i try to delete it and start over. I hate technology sometimes.
That's so beautiful. I thought about getting a tattoo after my loss, but I have a huge fear of needles. I was going to get a necklace, but MH thought it was weird (especially after we got pregnant again). I'm happy that was able to help you get closure.
I was reading on another board (maybe April or March bmb) about how some of the girls are choking when eating and drinking since hitting third tri. I laughed thinking "yeah right". Well I seem to have forgotten how to eat and drink this week and choking all the time. Anyone else??
Ok so I know we've had random threads about this over the months, but wondering now that we are closer to the end if anyone has experience with this....my doctor hasn't mentioned doing kick counts, just said to call if I don't feel the babies move. I have been feeling them move the last 2 days, but it's just not as strong or as frequent. Do we think it's another growth spurt? I think I may call the nurse line anyway and just ask specifically what they consider alarming, and I'm sure feeling them at all is a good sign. But I can't help but worry.
My doctor hasn't mentioned this either but I've read about kick counts... most of what I read says pick a time in the beginning and end of the day and try to count 10 moves in an hour. If you don't get to 10, drink some juice, change positions, try again. I also have been feeling less movement this week but I think it's because the baby is getting bigger and running out of space to flip around so the movements are less than they have been.
If you call, let us know what the nurse says
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FWIW, My Dr. has me doing kick counts. I choose a two-hour time frame and am supposed to feel 10 kicks in that time.
I was reading on another board (maybe April or March bmb) about how some of the girls are choking when eating and drinking since hitting third tri. I laughed thinking "yeah right". Well I seem to have forgotten how to eat and drink this week and choking all the time. Anyone else??
Yep! I've been a total mess when it comes to eating and drinking, mostly drinking. I find things "going down the wrong pipe" way too frequently.
I was reading on another board (maybe April or March bmb) about how some of the girls are choking when eating and drinking since hitting third tri. I laughed thinking "yeah right". Well I seem to have forgotten how to eat and drink this week and choking all the time. Anyone else??
Yes, choking and spilling everything all over myself. It's like I've completely forgotten how to eat.
I was reading on another board (maybe April or March bmb) about how some of the girls are choking when eating and drinking since hitting third tri. I laughed thinking "yeah right". Well I seem to have forgotten how to eat and drink this week and choking all the time. Anyone else??
All the time, especially while drinking. And DH gives me this look like 'Really? You've forgotten how to eat now too?'. I've found I have to slow down significantly while eating or drinking or it happens like every time.
Re: **The Everything Random Thread for May 2016**
If you call, let us know what the nurse says.
I think that there should be professional jurors. To @laurenmdrn16 point some people really enjoy going. My mom is one of them. This should be a full time job, and only level headed, intelligent people can apply. It would end a lot of the horrible decisions (Casey Anthony anyone??) that comes out of jury deliberation.
I love that!!! Maybe a toy for the child and a growth chart wall sticker. I think they'll be touched by the meaning of the sticker. I also love that if they move in the future, the family is able to move the chart to the new house.
"Montessori saw that children learn best by doing and that happy self-motivated learners form positive images of themselves as confident, successful people. She created specially designed resources to foster independence and a love for learning from an early age.
The Montessori approach is holistic and aims to develop the whole child. Fundamental to the approach is the belief that a child's early years from birth to six are the period when they have the greatest capacity to learn."
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
I'm thinking some peanut butter toast might be in order...
Just found out no one from my immediate family will be around when the baby is born and I'm actually kinda disappointed. I wanted a little space but I didn't think that no one would care enough to even show up just once. My mom I kinda knew bc she's in a different state and we had planned on having her come later since obviously we don't know when baby will come. But my sister keeps making excuses that she 'can't' take time off. And my dad... The worst of everyone at this point took a job assignment that will have him traveling to the Bahamas for 7 weeks starting the first week of May. He won't be back until almost July. He knew when the due date was... He didn't just forget. He planned on being there as soon as the baby was born. We all excitedly talked about this at Christmas time.
Now the only people who will be there are DH(obviously), my in laws, and maybe my step mom (who tbh I really don't want there if my dad isn't there bc I'm sure she told him to take the work assignment). He was there the day both of my step sister's kids were born. Guess it was too much to think he might want to give his first blood granddaughter the same courtesy. Now she'll be at least a month old before he sees her.
He obviously knew this would be disappointing to me bc he told DH instead of me. I found out from DH who is now pretty much furious bc he knew how much it meant to me that my dad would be there... Hope he enjoys his trip to the Bahamas... Honestly I guess they need the money that bad they would he would say yes to this when there are multiple other people who could go in his place. Guess I probably won't be getting that 'surprise' shower after all since I've obviously done something to piss someone off.
And they wonder why I don't take the time out of my day to call them....
i would be very upset too, if I were in your shoes. Even with DH/SO being there you still want your close family once baby arrives. And the step sisters would be the point I would throw in his face. It doesn't seem fair.
MH and SIL got into an argument back in December which still hasn't been resolved. SIL (not her first time) called my sister and started making up BS about me and how my in laws don't like me and all that jazz and so she doesn't want to be part of my baby shower. My in laws have spoken to her about apologizing which she is not having so MH isn't going to apologize either (which I agree with b/c she involved my sister for no reason in this drama).
a friend of mine rsvp'd yes to my shower but then two weeks before the shower realized it's her husband's bday the next day and so is having a family dinner the day of my shower and decides to change her rsvp from yes to no. Upon hearing this from my baby shower host I'm appalled that someone can't just attend for the sake of showing up since you're my friend and a close one at that even for just an hour. The shower is during the day if I remember correctly.
I don't understand people sometimes.
I can't post this on Facebook b/c it would get back to my mom and I just really don't want to deal with that right now (my mom knows about it, but God forbid any of the people she goes to church with finds out). Plus there is a lot of drama involved with this (in regards to the tat specifically) that I am not wanting to get into if I were to post it on FB. Today is officially the one year anniversary of our loss last year. Got this (first one ever) tattoo in honor of that angel baby; got it done on Mother's Day last year (which also happened to be my birthday last year which made it super duper double hard) but I have never shared it with anyone other than family; I just felt like sharing it today in honor of that baby. I did not want to be a special snowflake and start my own post just about a tattoo, so I figured I would put it on the random page b/c random means pretty much anything ya know. I can't decide if I want to get the date added to it or not and then get the date of the new baby added to it with a small rainbow beside it. Not sure.
Anyway, getting this tattoo last year helped me a lot with getting a sense of closure. I know I will never really truly have real complete closure, but this tattoo helped a lot. Sounds weird I know.
Edit: I posted this and had added an image to it. I'm not sure why the image is not showing up. Ugh. when i click edit the file shows there and shows in the text but when i hit submit it no longer shows! I tried to re-upload it but the bump won't let me. It says the file is already in the discussion and won't be uploaded again. Even when i try to delete it and start over. I hate technology sometimes.
First Pregnancy
Second Pregnancy
- BFP: 09/11/2015
- EDD: 05/25/2016
Baby Born04/15/2016
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DS: Born 5-17-16