Is it ok to do your own babyshower instead of having a family member/friend throw you one?

MariahOBrien

RainNFyre said:

I might need to make new poll about cake. I'm torn between yellow cake with chocolate frosting (has always been my go to bday cake) vs white cake with lemon curd/raspberry filling and a cream cheese frosting vs my newest discovery of lemon meringue cheesecake from Cheesecake Factory.

I want all the cake.

None of the above. I've found the most breathtaking carb specimen and I think it truly beats all of the desserts you mentioned:

RainNFyre

But what is underneath that delectable looking Ronald Reagan?

J1D

RainNFyre said:

I might need to make new poll about cake. I'm torn between yellow cake with chocolate frosting (has always been my go to bday cake) vs white cake with lemon curd/raspberry filling and a cream cheese frosting vs my newest discovery of lemon meringue cheesecake from Cheesecake Factory. I want all the cake.

White cake with lemon curd/raspberry filling and a cream cheese frosting!!!! Give it to me NOW!!! Layer that b*tch cause I want both the lemon curd and the raspberry filling! Make it happen and put it in my belly!!!!

@intheversa I want your tasty treats!!!

intheversa

J1D said:

White cake with lemon curd/raspberry filling and a cream cheese frosting!!!! Give it to me NOW!!! Layer that b*tch cause I want both the lemon curd and the raspberry filling! Make it happen and put it in my belly!!!!

OMG this, this exactly!

@intheversa I want your tasty treats!!!

@J1D Don't hate me but they're easy.

Pre-heat oven 350, brownie mix (follow instructions on box) mix in one bag milk chocolate chips (I'm a Tollhouse kind of girl), break up and add graham crackers and marshmallows to the mix (use your best judgement but I would do like 6 graham crackers and 20-30 marshmallows). Bake in a 9x13 for 20 minutes. 

Once out of the oven layer more broken up graham crackers, marshmallows, and Tollhouse chocolate chunks (looks like firewood) and layer it until the whole pan is covered. Bake another 8-10 minutes until marshmallows are brown. 

Can't take credit for this one, my mom thought this up. She might have stolen it who knows. They're so rich though!

MariahOBrien

RainNFyre said:

But what is underneath that delectable looking Ronald Reagan?

RainNFyre said:

But what is underneath that delectable looking Ronald Reagan?

I cannot say what the actual cake is. I think the surprise element is part of the allure.

Also, is it bad that I think movie star/pre-politician Reagan is hot as f**k?

RainNFyre

To reference an earlier discussion - movie star Reagan is significantly hotter than Channing Tatum. So there's that.

Also, I just got GD from @intheversa .

MariahOBrien

Damn it, ladeez. All this talk of treats and badde manors is making me want travel back in time and convince yung hot Ronnie to feed me cake and give me presents.

intheversa

@RainNFyre sorry!

MandahGirly

My mom is making my baby shower cake and it is going to be a lemon cake with raspberry frosting and I AM SO EXCITED! She made some cupcakes a few weeks ago and they were glorious. I'm hoping my Dr will let me have a cheat day for my baby shower (GD) but if she doesn't I'm still having a big ass piece of cake!

leighann1

I'm heading to a "sprinkle" for a friend's 3rd baby. There better be some damn cake! My mouth is watering after all this.

leighann1

@MandahGirly I may put that in the "don't ask, don't tell category."

angela_angel

In my humble opinion, I do think it's a little tacky to throw yourself a shower. With that being said, I don't think there's anything wrong with throwing a "Meet the Baby" type get together after baby is born, with food and cake. That way, your friends and family can come snuggle your new LO (with no mention of gifts). Then, if they decide to bring something for your baby, it's up to them, but it doesn't look like a gift grab.

MamaOwl15

Here's the thing:
People who want to give you gifts, whether off your registry or not, will buy you gifts whether or not they're invited to a party in your honor. If you don't happen to have a group of friends or family locally to throw you a shower, as is/was the case for many of us, you will still have family who are excited to buy your baby stuff.

If you don't have anyone offer to throw you a shower, no one will side-eye a late summer BBQ. There's nothing wrong with grilling some meat (and/or veggies) and saying its in baby's honor. Just make sure you have balloons and cake so it's etiquettes.

EllioCor

I was going to throw myself one because half of our relatives live in another state and wanted to be invited with ample notice, (and no one invited any of my friends to my surprise bridal shower 6 years ago), my work schedule is not exactly conducive to surprise things, and no one had offered to throw one. I don't like surprises so I just told my relatives I was going to throw it and my mom said "absolutely not!".

They let me pick the theme and date, and add to the guest list, but said I was not allowed to throw it myself.

ETA: I had been asked about when my baby shower was going to be and which friends would love to be invited repeatedly. The in-laws (12 hours away) had specifically asked to be invited, my work friends had specifically asked to be invited, but since no one had offered to throw one I had no answers to give people. Being type A, i'm also REALLY not a last minute kind of girl- especially when people might be coming from another state.

(I didn't want a final 4 weeks shower since babies can come early, which meant an August shower, which meant inviting out of state people a month in advance which meant invites needed to go out early july, which meant needing to be in planning stages in late june which was 3 months before due date and early to most people)

leessshhh

my mother , my MIL and my sister is throwing my baby shower with my sister hosting it . but they involved me in on almost every detail to where i feel like im throwing it myself . tacky ? maybe . but thats just how we roll . 

naka92

Opened this to get my daily dose of drama-reading.. Leaving hungry for cake.

Goddamnit. 

)

intheversa

I know, I couldn't find cake so I found White Castle instead. Should have had cake... (

leighann1

Update: the sprinkle did in fact have cake, although it was plain cheesecake. I really had my heart set on lemon and raspberry thanks to you ladies. Also, no Ronald in sight. All in all, not a total waste. Could have used way more balloons.

krisgriffin8277

I'm throwing my own shower because all off my close friends just had babies this year! My other friend is paying for fertility issues. I think it's kind of selfish to ask them to throw me one, even though I have thrown theirs. I'm also the party planner out of the group and very detailed oriented and actually enjoy throwing parties. I want my friends and family to celebrate without feeling obligated.

MandahGirly

leighann1 said:

Update: the sprinkle did in fact have cake, although it was plain cheesecake. I really had my heart set on lemon and raspberry thanks to you ladies. Also, no Ronald in sight. All in all, not a total waste. Could have used way more balloons.

PLAIN cheesecake!? Like they didn't even bother with fruit or ANYTHING!? Lame-o

momming247

I'd say sure. Anyone who loves you will come and not care about all that etiquette crap. Throw you shower girl, you DO deserve one

MamaOwl15

leessshhh said:

my mother , my MIL and my sister is throwing my baby shower with my sister hosting it . but they involved me in on almost every detail to where i feel like im throwing it myself . tacky ? maybe . but thats just how we roll . 

But you're still technically not throwing your own shower, and they asked for your input, so I think we can let this one slide. :-)

maiatene

I know I'm late to the party but I'm glad to see its still popping

J1D

Can I just point out that we are 3 pages into a baby shower thread and while there have been all the typical yes vs no arguments, things haven't gotten nasty. You know what I think it is? I think it's our mutual love of cake being stronger than any hateful feelings that might be aroused by disagreeing about the etiquettes!!!! I think there's a valuable lesson here- cake, I mean love conquers all!!!! CAKE, I mean LOVE WINS!!!!

gabrielleld

I am a control freak. My mom I s "throwing" the shower but I've done everything from pick out invites, location, food, decor and games. She's paid for things and I've paid for things.

Do whatever makes you stress less. It's not about gifts it's about celebrating babies.

By the way I haven't seen such an immature group of ladies on here in a long time!

I hope I helped!

leighann1

gabrielleld said:

I am a control freak. My mom I s "throwing" the shower but I've done everything from pick out invites, location, food, decor and games. She's paid for things and I've paid for things. Do whatever makes you stress less. It's not about gifts it's about celebrating babies. By the way I haven't seen such an immature group of ladies on here in a long time! I hope I helped!

Ummm...??

@J1D did you speak too soon?

gabrielleld

I wasn't being "nasty" just saying calling it tacky, and taking the conversation into a cake debate seems... Off.

Remember we are here to support.

J1D

Ah, damn it

J1D

gabrielleld said:

I wasn't being "nasty" just saying calling it tacky, and taking the conversation into a cake debate seems... Off.

Remember we are here to support.

How is calling everyone immature not being nasty?
Eta: how is calling everyone immature supporting?


And for the record the cake thing was a deliberate ploy to keep things from going ugly like they always do on baby shower threads.

Sigh. Anyone else feel like you can't freaking win?

Mamabeagle

gabrielleld said:

I wasn't being "nasty" just saying calling it tacky, and taking the conversation into a cake debate seems... Off.

Remember we are here to support.

You mean it's strange that a board full of pregnant women are talking about food and cravings?

The topic has been discussed so many damn times, it was explained, everyone was civil, and then we got hungry. Get outta here with your nonsense, unless you have a family buttercream frosting recipe to share before you go.

leighann1

Not a bunny, but close. Perhaps this will do the trick anyway?

gabrielafrnqyepez

MandahGirly said:

Update: the sprinkle did in fact have cake, although it was plain cheesecake. I really had my heart set on lemon and raspberry thanks to you ladies. Also, no Ronald in sight. All in all, not a total waste. Could have used way more balloons.

PLAIN cheesecake!? Like they didn't even bother with fruit or ANYTHING!? Lame-o

I dont know if you guy know but plain cheese cake is A-OK....something like Juniors cheesecake !!!! o bbooiiiii

gabrielafrnqyepez

gabrielleld said:

I am a control freak. My mom I s "throwing" the shower but I've done everything from pick out invites, location, food, decor and games. She's paid for things and I've paid for things. Do whatever makes you stress less. It's not about gifts it's about celebrating babies. By the way I haven't seen such an immature group of ladies on here in a long time! I hope I helped!

clearly you are new here .... but this is a pretty mature group when we need to be...the reason we are all trying very hard to not let this thread get too serious is because we have had past discussions on this topic that have ended not to nicely or like u say in a "immature" manner. This topic is just like vaccination and circumcision threads....plus why does everything need to be so serious?!!??

 

gabrielleld

If I was the woman who started this thread I wouldn't want to sift through cake cravings and memes to get an answer. I'd like an opinionated, educated, answer.

I'm sorry you took offense that you thought I was specifically calling the cake commenters immature. People who bring up these "sensitive" questions are because they feel a certain way about it to begin with.

I'm not looking to bicker back and forth.
Continue on with your cake and craving rant. there are threads for that though!

J1D

gabrielleld said:

If I was the woman who started this thread I wouldn't want to sift through cake cravings and memes to get an answer. I'd like an opinionated, educated, answer. I'm sorry you took offense that you thought I was specifically calling the cake commenters immature. People who bring up these "sensitive" questions are because they feel a certain way about it to begin with. I'm not looking to bicker back and forth. Continue on with your cake and craving rant. there are threads for that though!

The OP posted a poll. A yes or no question. Which 100+ people have answered and it's right there at the very top of the page. No sifting required. ANYTHING that ANYONE added beyond voting yes or no was superfluous and added something to sift through, including your comment. Also, the OP hasn't even been back to check on or comment on her thread, the first and only thing she has ever posted on this site, so I don't think we are ruining her day. I do love that your very first post on this site is to criticize and berate a group of people who have been supporting each other for months now -for not being supportive. Thanks for your support! 

jamieknowlton8

We had our baby-q co ed shower yesterday. My hubby and I hosted it ourselves and we wouldn't have done it any other way! I'm picky about things like that so I didn't have to worry about someone else planning things I wouldn't want to do.

LiveNLove44

gabrielleld said:

I wasn't being "nasty" just saying calling it tacky, and taking the conversation into a cake debate seems... Off. Remember we are here to support.

@gabrielleld, no worries! I don't think anyone is upset with you for your comment. You have every right to post your thoughts just as each of us does. Please introduce yourself and join in with your own support. It seems that you are new here and we like to know our BMB! You are right in saying that we are here to support and be supported, but people are also here for other reasons. Touting the reason for us being here as "support" but not offering any seems a bit "off" to many people, too.

kfry22

This thread caused me to purchase a peanut butter chocolate cake at the grocery today. It was $10 and not in our budget. I'm eating a piece now. No regrets!!!

J1D

kassyfry said:

This thread caused me to purchase a peanut butter chocolate cake at the grocery today. It was $10 and not in our budget. I'm eating a piece now. No regrets!!!

OMG! That sounds amazing! And hear, hear! No regrets, indeed! Enjoy that cake  

:-bd

MandahGirly

Who gets mad when a thread turns into a talk about cake!?