Preemie...not strong enough to suckle without burning more calories than he is taking in; therefore I have to feed pumped breast milk in a bottle...so after his very slow and sleepy feedings, a brief snuggle time, and changing his diaper, I have to sit and pump and then clean the pump parts for the next time...vicious circle...the entire fiasco leaves me with very little time to sleep before the next feeding rolls around...hubby snores through it - I'm feeling really annoyed since he basically told me that I am not working so I have time to get things done during the day and there is no reason why he should have to take charge of a nighttime feeding because he goes to work. He was helpful for a short while and it is catching up to him so now he makes excuses...I get it - he is tired - but he refuses to acknowledge that I am too...and I do this around the clock. On top of this, Baby has had a rough few nights and won't go down no matter what...the only time he is not screaming is if he is being held...and again, hubby is refusing to pick him up unless I am on the pumps. $&@&)&@¥%#!!!!!!!!
Can you make some adjustments to your pumping area?
I have my pump set up next to the couch, and a boppy on the couch next to me. I feed the baby while I'm pumping. Cuts out the extra step.
My baby monitor connects to my phone and I must have accidentally turned it off at some point in the night. Not sure how long he was crying for, although I don't think it can have been that long as he calmed down when he saw me, but I'm feeling really guilty now.
It's 830 and we've had a rough day. LO couldn't poop for 2 days and was miserable..... Listened to him a scream til noon then drove to town and got a suppository. It worked immediately. And I immediately felt like a horrible parent for not doing it sooner....... But all the websites say that 2 days doesn't necessarily mean constipated.so it's 830 and I'm exhausted.... Haven't drank enough water nor ate enough today........... To go to bed ? Or stay up and take care of my other needs?! Bah
Is anyone else doing the e.a.s.y schedule in an attempt to get some sleep? Just started it and he seemed to sleep better last night but it could have been a total fluke. I don't want to get my hopes up for tonight (especially since I pretty much screwed up the schedule most of the day).
^^^^^ I looked at this online just now. I already do this pretty much. Now whether or not he actually follows the nap schedule......oh also. I'm pissed now because my LO is awake already......just laid him down at 8. Ugh
I realized when getting ready for my nighttime routine that all 3 of the swaddle mes that I own are in the washing machine, ready to be thrown in the dryer... Damn. Luckily I bought a halo sleep sack with the swaddle option. But, it hasn't been washed. Ugh. Going to try the halo sleep sack and hope LO does not get some weird rash.
Just when I thought that whole 'put her down in her bassinet when she's drowsy, so she learns it's time to sleep' thing worked.....nope!!! She fussed for a little bit but then woke up really mad that she fell asleep. WTF!? Her not wanting to sleep until 2am is killing me!!
Is anyone able to put their LO down drowsy and they actually fall asleep? Ours has to be completely out for us to put her down. Ugh so I went to bed at 8 after a long day and LO wakes up around 11 grunting so hubby takes her and feeds her so I can continue to sleep. Well of course he can't use the swaddle me correctly and she gets out of it, wakes up and starts screaming. So here I am at 1 am trying to rock her back to sleep. Everytime he swaddles her she gets out. How hard is it to swaddle when they have Velcro for crying out loud?! I wish he could do it right! I'd be sleeping right now
We were able to do the "drowsy but not asleep" with DS but not LO. And I need my sleep, so we're not even trying. If it's any consolation, we still had to sleep train DS. Which is why I'm not stressing about it - we'll be dealing with it again no matter what.
Is anyone able to put their LO down drowsy and they actually fall asleep? Ours has to be completely out for us to put her down. Ugh so I went to bed at 8 after a long day and LO wakes up around 11 grunting so hubby takes her and feeds her so I can continue to sleep. Well of course he can't use the swaddle me correctly and she gets out of it, wakes up and starts screaming. So here I am at 1 am trying to rock her back to sleep. Everytime he swaddles her she gets out. How hard is it to swaddle when they have Velcro for crying out loud?! I wish he could do it right! I'd be sleeping right now
I was the inept velcroer tonight. Ugh. It really is so important. I think LO thinks it's a game... "How fast can I get out of this straight jacket". I'm so tired.
Is anyone able to put their LO down drowsy and they actually fall asleep? Ours has to be completely out for us to put her down. Ugh so I went to bed at 8 after a long day and LO wakes up around 11 grunting so hubby takes her and feeds her so I can continue to sleep. Well of course he can't use the swaddle me correctly and she gets out of it, wakes up and starts screaming. So here I am at 1 am trying to rock her back to sleep. Everytime he swaddles her she gets out. How hard is it to swaddle when they have Velcro for crying out loud?! I wish he could do it right! I'd be sleeping right now
We are able to put her down when she is not completely asleep. I think it's because we use the swing. We put her in it when she's totally awake but I know it's time for her to take a nap. I turn it all the way up and she learns to fall asleep without me (even though she is using the motion). She has learned how to fall asleep without being held. I can now put her in her crib when she's half asleep and she falls asleep without me and without the motion. Maybe that will help? Worth a try anyway.
Well, as soon as I picked DD up to soothe her and try to get her to sleep, she made this awful sound and projectile vomited all over herself and me...twice! It scared the crap out of me. It seems like she needed to just throw up, and only had a few hiccups after that. She doesn't have a fever and she wasn't crying or upset, but I'm still worried she's sick. We are both cleaned up now and I think she's trying to drift to sleep. Poor thing
I am pretty sure my husband is faking being a horrible swaddler so he doesn't have to do the night changing. Every time he swaddles (with a dummy proof swaddle me) LO is out of it in like 30 minutes and awake. For all of you whose SOs are terrible swaddlers, it's time to get suspicious. It's Velcro damn it!
I've just accepted that I won't be sleeping in my bed again for an indeterminate amount of time in favor of the recliner in the nursery with LO on top of me. Acceptance is the first step. Somehow, if I don't think there's any chance of seeing my bed, the recliner becomes more palatable. I'm over transferring her to the pnp only for her to wake up as soon as I fall asleep. It's causing too many breakdowns.
Just to remind all you wonderful mommies, (and myself), all babies have "reflux" to some sort, as their anatomy is not fully developed... Remember that they will grow out of all this.. Don't jump to soon to start meds, or worry something is really wrong. Don't change formulas constantly (which is not good for them)..and will ultimately make things worse... You are all doing a great job and remember for those who's LOs having a tough time, this too shall pass ETA.. Unless baby is projectile vomiting chances are they are doing just fine
We had 3 good nights and tonight we're back to our old schedule. Oh well, she was overtired when I tried to put her down. I had a feeling it would be a long night.
So tonight's already not going so well. Our AC just stopped working and we live in hot Texas. Then late night visitors came over (luckily they were DH family from overseas who he hasn't seen in years) woke LO up, and messed up our nighttime routine. Now LO is wide awake in his crib making hella noise. Hopefully he talks himself to sleep! Arghhh
Working so hard to transition from the napper part of the pack n play to the actual mattress part. I've been trying for weeks but always end up sticking him back in the napper because I want sleep. He's officially outgrown it though. He didn't sleep well last night. We just woke up (me from the couch, LO from his rock n play), and he's changed, fed, and seems to be out. Fingers crossed....
I have found that Woombies are DH swaddle proof since they zip up LO is also a fan because she can bring her hands midline and towards her face and finds that very soothing - but can't startle herself and still gets pressure. From 7-7 I have to feed usually twice and I just unzip the top so she can use her hands ( but it stays on her torso) then when she's done zip right back up. Game changer for us!
She slept from 9:30 to 1:30, what a great stretch, then after a decent feeding she fell back asleep fast. Up again screaming/cry at 3:50, diaper change and maybe a 4 min feed, fell asleep. Then she was up again with same scream/cry at 5 but fell back asleep so fast. Then again at 7 but I just stuck a paci in and she's out.
Anyone know how I can cut out that third feed/wake time that is so damn short? I mean I'm okay getting up when it's only for 10 minutes but imagine if it wasn't there!
LO decided to sleep through the night last night. Would have been great, except our power went out at 12:30. I was a worried mess, constantly checking to make sure she wasn't overheating without the AC, so I didn't really sleep. After 6 and a half hours I was engorged, so I woke her up. On top of that, pretty sure I'm getting a cold or something. I hope LO doesn't get it.
So for the last week (could have sworn it was two but was told otherwise) LO has been up every 1.5-2 hours to feed even through the night besides the 6-10pm nap that I always miss to sleep myself. I have been exhausted. Fortunately my mother is here to help but I haven't been letting her do night time feeds because she's been such a wonder and has been cleaning for me and feeding me I don't want to bother her with it.
Well, LO has been really gasy and I read about how to feed while lying down with baby on top. Works wonders. She usually drifts right off to sleep and is really quiet and content while feeding. We both love it. Anyways two nights ago I put LO down at 11 and went sleep. I woke up at four with her on me and I don't even remember doing it!!! Talk about scared out of my mind! She was ok though. That boob was deflated and she had a humongous wet diaper and when I offered her the other boob she was full and refused it.
I didn't know what I was going to do. Thought about getting up an feeding in the nursery but I don't even remember waking up to move her! So fortunately mom offered to take her for the night and feed the first feed and then to me for the next one and then she took her again. Whef! What a relief. I got to turn completely off! The first time in eight weeks! Hallelujah thank you God!!! Most importantly, thank you mom!!
Anyone know how I can cut out that third feed/wake time that is so damn short? I mean I'm okay getting up when it's only for 10 minutes but imagine if it wasn't there!
Have you tried a dream feed? It's where you feed them right before you go to bed. The goal is hardly wake them up (so don't change their diaper). It tanks them up so they sleep a longer stretch.
@aliciac2008 is that for right before bedtime? I feed her right before bedtime and she sleeps like a champ but it's the early 3am/4am wake times that are short that I'm trying to cut down. She doesn't eat a whole lot at the 1:30 am wake time since she's still so full from the 9pm go to bed feed.
@slr1229 gosh, I would be SO happy to get rid of that 3-4 am feeding. My LO will be 8 w/o on Friday and is now sleeping 3-4 hour stretches and is eating typically at 11pm, 3am and 6am. Maybe increasing the amount she eats at 11pm will help her sleep through the 3am feeding or at least extend it 1-2 hours? I'd be happy with that.
@aliciac2008 is that for right before bedtime? I feed her right before bedtime and she sleeps like a champ but it's the early 3am/4am wake times that are short that I'm trying to cut down. She doesn't eat a whole lot at the 1:30 am wake time since she's still so full from the 9pm go to bed feed.
Ya, it's right before you go to sleep, not her. So if you go to bed at 9pm, then that works. But my husband and I go to sleep at 11, so we feed her her normal meal around 8 or 9, then do a dream feed at 10:30. We try and convince her to eat as much as possible so she won't wake up early. It can be tough to keep her awake long enough to eat, but we can usually get 6 hours out of her if she finishes the whole bottle. As for only eating a little bit at 1:30, maybe just try to keep her awake to eat enough and maybe that would hold her over until 7. That's what I would try anyway. I'm no expert though.
In the "it gets better" category, LO has done a 6-7 hour stretch every night this week! We just now need to get it to start at the right time! (8-3 is no bueno!)
We just moved into a new house and LO's room is still being painted, as is ours. We originally were going to sleep in the guest room with her across the hall in another guest room but I got panicky thinking about her not being in the same room with me. She's all out of whack today being in a new place so I didn't want to add on to that not hearing me and sensing me. I'm going to have trouble cutting the cord.
TTC: 1/2014
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EDD: 6/8/2015
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@aliciac2008 thanks for the tips. However this kid has terrible reflux lately and bad gas- if I squeezed in a later feed before bed then she'd be so pissed ha. I aim to finish feeding her by 945 and we both in bed by 10
Re: Nighttime sucks. That is all.
I have my pump set up next to the couch, and a boppy on the couch next to me. I feed the baby while I'm pumping. Cuts out the extra step.
Haven't drank enough water nor ate enough today........... To go to bed ? Or stay up and take care of my other needs?! Bah
Ugh so I went to bed at 8 after a long day and LO wakes up around 11 grunting so hubby takes her and feeds her so I can continue to sleep. Well of course he can't use the swaddle me correctly and she gets out of it, wakes up and starts screaming. So here I am at 1 am trying to rock her back to sleep. Everytime he swaddles her she gets out. How hard is it to swaddle when they have Velcro for crying out loud?! I wish he could do it right! I'd be sleeping right now
ETA.. Unless baby is projectile vomiting chances are they are doing just fine
Anyone know how I can cut out that third feed/wake time that is so damn short? I mean I'm okay getting up when it's only for 10 minutes but imagine if it wasn't there!
Well, LO has been really gasy and I read about how to feed while lying down with baby on top. Works wonders. She usually drifts right off to sleep and is really quiet and content while feeding. We both love it. Anyways two nights ago I put LO down at 11 and went sleep. I woke up at four with her on me and I don't even remember doing it!!! Talk about scared out of my mind! She was ok though. That boob was deflated and she had a humongous wet diaper and when I offered her the other boob she was full and refused it.
I didn't know what I was going to do. Thought about getting up an feeding in the nursery but I don't even remember waking up to move her! So fortunately mom offered to take her for the night and feed the first feed and then to me for the next one and then she took her again. Whef! What a relief. I got to turn completely off! The first time in eight weeks! Hallelujah thank you God!!! Most importantly, thank you mom!!