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ToasterCat said:

FrecklesInside said:

E woke up at 5 and was a mess. She kept me up for two hours until I was weeping about being a pregnant woman with no space of her own, who already has heartburn and is starting to be so uncomfortable sleeping...yada yada. Poor K, I was a mess. So he's been up with her and I slept in.

I had my first M15 bumpie dream. @toastercat , @Peledreamsofrain‌ , and @bostonalison came over. Although they live nowhere near each other, they had carpooled. As they pulled up I was pulling off my walking pants (guise, I don't own fucking walking pants) because I was SO hot and so they saw my ass cheeks in little boy short undies???? We didn't even really address it when they came in, I was just like "sorry, I was exercising..."

Pele was like 7 feet tall because she keeps telling me she is a giant and I was like "no, you're not that tall, pele"... Awkwardly using her bump name instead of IRL name. Then Moaster wouldn't leave the cat alone and I tried to offer drinks but I was a terribly unprepared hostess and only had water. Then Moaster was getting her greasy paws all over the couch. Why were they paws you ask? Because she was turning into a cat. Why were they greasy? Because this terrible hostess served them fucking hash browns...yep.

Next dream?? A free Mexican food buffet where everything went wrong despite how badly I wanted all the food

No way! I had my first M15 dream too! We were all on a retreat/vacation together and it was a BLAST! I had such warm gooey feelings for you all that I went on etsy to have custom made friendship bracelets made. I put in my order but for some reason didn't notice that they were $167 each! So I had to cancel the order and the lady was pissed.

TLDR: you guys aren't getting friendship bracelets

I'm pretty sure I'm worth that much...but fine.

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FrecklesInside

And @ToasterCat‌ I'm glad you aren't upset with my brain for turning you into a ROOD cat that leaves greasy paw marks on my couch...

BostonAlison

FrecklesInside said:

E woke up at 5 and was a mess. She kept me up for two hours until I was weeping about being a pregnant woman with no space of her own, who already has heartburn and is starting to be so uncomfortable sleeping...yada yada. Poor K, I was a mess. So he's been up with her and I slept in. I had my first M15 bumpie dream. @toastercat , @Peledreamsofrain‌ , and @bostonalison came over. Although they live nowhere near each other, they had carpooled. As they pulled up I was pulling off my walking pants (guise, I don't own fucking walking pants) because I was SO hot and so they saw my ass cheeks in little boy short undies???? We didn't even really address it when they came in, I was just like "sorry, I was exercising..." Pele was like 7 feet tall because she keeps telling me she is a giant and I was like "no, you're not that tall, pele"... Awkwardly using her bump name instead of IRL name. Then Moaster wouldn't leave the cat alone and I tried to offer drinks but I was a terribly unprepared hostess and only had water. Then Moaster was getting her greasy paws all over the couch. Why were they paws you ask? Because she was turning into a cat. Why were they greasy? Because this terrible hostess served them fucking hash browns...yep. Next dream?? A free Mexican food buffet where everything went wrong despite how badly I wanted all the food

No way! I had my first M15 dream too! We were all on a retreat/vacation together and it was a BLAST! I had such warm gooey feelings for you all that I went on etsy to have custom made friendship bracelets made. I put in my order but for some reason didn't notice that they were $167 each! So I had to cancel the order and the lady was pissed. TLDR: you guys aren't getting friendship bracelets

I'm pretty sure I'm worth that much...but fine.

I will come stalk visit you!  Some day....  With brownies.  *steeples fingers*  

cinderella105

FrecklesInside said:

@cinderella105 I'm going to be the blunt one. He sounds like an immature asshole and it sounds like you weren't really in all that of a committed relationship in the first place. I hope you can get help for your depression but I'm not going to jump on the bandwagon for counseling and stuff to save your relationship. The things you say you hate about him tell me the relationship was never very mature or serious. Sorry but I have to be honest with you.

I appreciate your input, but with all due respect you're wrong. I have been nothing but committed to this man and I fell deeply in love with him. I was able to look past the annoyances because the love I had for him came out on top and he was so good to me. Now since my depression has reared its ugly head again he refused over and over to take into consideration what I was going through mentally and emotionally, and he took everything personally which led to him being distant or playing the victim with me. I kept communication up and always reassured him I love him, because I do, but that was never good enough. The more he got this way, the more things bothered me. I would have never guessed this would ever happen to us because we were so close and so good together. Now it's done a 180 and I'm blown away.

I know you mean well, but I'm trying to show what our situation is and just how bizarre this is and why I need to make this decision. If there are issues now with inappropriate behavior from alcohol, I don't want to see what COULD happen. I did that for 5 years and I refuse to go through that again or put my kids through that. This was a very committed relationship, but I have to do what's best for me and my kids.

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@ToasterCat

Besides!  We can totally rock friendship bracelets like these!

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cinderella105 said:

FrecklesInside said:

@cinderella105 I'm going to be the blunt one. He sounds like an immature asshole and it sounds like you weren't really in all that of a committed relationship in the first place. I hope you can get help for your depression but I'm not going to jump on the bandwagon for counseling and stuff to save your relationship. The things you say you hate about him tell me the relationship was never very mature or serious. Sorry but I have to be honest with you.

I appreciate your input, but with all due respect you're wrong. I have been nothing but committed to this man and I fell deeply in love with him. I was able to look past the annoyances because the love I had for him came out on top and he was so good to me. Now since my depression has reared its ugly head again he refused over and over to take into consideration what I was going through mentally and emotionally, and he took everything personally which led to him being distant or playing the victim with me. I kept communication up and always reassured him I love him, because I do, but that was never good enough. The more he got this way, the more things bothered me. I would have never guessed this would ever happen to us because we were so close and so good together. Now it's done a 180 and I'm blown away.

I know you mean well, but I'm trying to show what our situation is and just how bizarre this is and why I need to make this decision. If there are issues now with inappropriate behavior from alcohol, I don't want to see what COULD happen. I did that for 5 years and I refuse to go through that again or put my kids through that. This was a very committed relationship, but I have to do what's best for me and my kids.

Except that's not the behavior of a mature man in a committed relationship. You can tell me what it is to you, and you're right, I'm not there, I don't know you, but when you put it all out there, I will tell you how it looks, and despite what you say, it still doesn't look like a very mature and committed relationship.

Again, I hope things work out for the best for you.

cinderella105

wendyld said:

FrecklesInside said:

@cinderella105 I'm going to be the blunt one. He sounds like an immature asshole and it sounds like you weren't really in all that of a committed relationship in the first place. I hope you can get help for your depression but I'm not going to jump on the bandwagon for counseling and stuff to save your relationship. The things you say you hate about him tell me the relationship was never very mature or serious. Sorry but I have to be honest with you.

I'm going to have to agree. I do think you should still go to counseling yourself, to help figure out why you have put yourself into a very similar situation as with your previous relationship and to figure out how to not do that again.

He showed absolutely no signs he would turn into this for the longest time. If I knew it was going to be like this or he acted like this when he got really drunk I would've backed out a long time ago. These things have been coming out only the past few months. But I DO want counseling.

ngolimento

FrecklesInside said:

E woke up at 5 and was a mess. She kept me up for two hours until I was weeping about being a pregnant woman with no space of her own, who already has heartburn and is starting to be so uncomfortable sleeping...yada yada. Poor K, I was a mess. So he's been up with her and I slept in.

I had my first M15 bumpie dream. @toastercat , @Peledreamsofrain‌ , and @bostonalison came over. Although they live nowhere near each other, they had carpooled. As they pulled up I was pulling off my walking pants (guise, I don't own fucking walking pants) because I was SO hot and so they saw my ass cheeks in little boy short undies???? We didn't even really address it when they came in, I was just like "sorry, I was exercising..."

Pele was like 7 feet tall because she keeps telling me she is a giant and I was like "no, you're not that tall, pele"... Awkwardly using her bump name instead of IRL name. Then Moaster wouldn't leave the cat alone and I tried to offer drinks but I was a terribly unprepared hostess and only had water. Then Moaster was getting her greasy paws all over the couch. Why were they paws you ask? Because she was turning into a cat. Why were they greasy? Because this terrible hostess served them fucking hash browns...yep.

Next dream?? A free Mexican food buffet where everything went wrong despite how badly I wanted all the food

Squeee! I feel so honored to be in my first bumpie dream! I would like to point out that I behaved like a lady, despite the hashbrowns and giantness.

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cinderella105

@FrecklesInside‌ no I agree he is very immature. I intended for it to be a mature, committed relationship, but he became very selfish with it. I know, I put it out there, this is what I get, but I will still try to explain the situation. I made a big mistake committing to this when it all comes down to it and now I'm beating myself up for bringing a poor baby into this.. But I'll handle it to the best of my ability and life will go on.

FrecklesInside

Peledreamsofrain said:

FrecklesInside said:

E woke up at 5 and was a mess. She kept me up for two hours until I was weeping about being a pregnant woman with no space of her own, who already has heartburn and is starting to be so uncomfortable sleeping...yada yada. Poor K, I was a mess. So he's been up with her and I slept in.

I had my first M15 bumpie dream. @toastercat , @Peledreamsofrain‌ , and @bostonalison came over. Although they live nowhere near each other, they had carpooled. As they pulled up I was pulling off my walking pants (guise, I don't own fucking walking pants) because I was SO hot and so they saw my ass cheeks in little boy short undies???? We didn't even really address it when they came in, I was just like "sorry, I was exercising..."

Pele was like 7 feet tall because she keeps telling me she is a giant and I was like "no, you're not that tall, pele"... Awkwardly using her bump name instead of IRL name. Then Moaster wouldn't leave the cat alone and I tried to offer drinks but I was a terribly unprepared hostess and only had water. Then Moaster was getting her greasy paws all over the couch. Why were they paws you ask? Because she was turning into a cat. Why were they greasy? Because this terrible hostess served them fucking hash browns...yep.

Next dream?? A free Mexican food buffet where everything went wrong despite how badly I wanted all the food

Squeee! I feel so honored to be in my first bumpie dream! I would like to point out that I behaved like a lady, despite the hashbrowns and giantness.

You were such a lady! And so was @BostonAlison‌ ...it was a certain uhhh cat...that was ROOD. Also, Pele, your hair looked stunning.

psychbear

Good Luck with the appointments today!

@cinderella105 I am so sorry you are dealing with so much relationship stress. Ultimately you know your relationship and can decide what is best for you and your family, but as you know, what is going on is just not working. You're on the right path of seeking help and professional support. Just know you have our support too. Positive vibes and hugs!

My random is my clinical supervisor emailed me yesterday that she would be reviewing my reports (that have been sitting in her inbox untouched all summer) and have them done by the end of the day. I came to campus two and a half hours early today to make the suggested edits so I can get these files closed. She did not review my reports! WTF.

BostonAlison

FrecklesInside said:

E woke up at 5 and was a mess. She kept me up for two hours until I was weeping about being a pregnant woman with no space of her own, who already has heartburn and is starting to be so uncomfortable sleeping...yada yada. Poor K, I was a mess. So he's been up with her and I slept in. I had my first M15 bumpie dream. @toastercat , @Peledreamsofrain‌ , and @bostonalison came over. Although they live nowhere near each other, they had carpooled. As they pulled up I was pulling off my walking pants (guise, I don't own fucking walking pants) because I was SO hot and so they saw my ass cheeks in little boy short undies???? We didn't even really address it when they came in, I was just like "sorry, I was exercising..." Pele was like 7 feet tall because she keeps telling me she is a giant and I was like "no, you're not that tall, pele"... Awkwardly using her bump name instead of IRL name. Then Moaster wouldn't leave the cat alone and I tried to offer drinks but I was a terribly unprepared hostess and only had water. Then Moaster was getting her greasy paws all over the couch. Why were they paws you ask? Because she was turning into a cat. Why were they greasy? Because this terrible hostess served them fucking hash browns...yep. Next dream?? A free Mexican food buffet where everything went wrong despite how badly I wanted all the food

Squeee! I feel so honored to be in my first bumpie dream! I would like to point out that I behaved like a lady, despite the hashbrowns and giantness.

You were such a lady! And so was @BostonAlison‌ ...it was a certain uhhh cat...that was ROOD. Also, Pele, your hair looked stunning.

A lady like this:

Or a lady like this:

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BostonAlison said:

FrecklesInside said:

Peledreamsofrain said:

FrecklesInside said:

E woke up at 5 and was a mess. She kept me up for two hours until I was weeping about being a pregnant woman with no space of her own, who already has heartburn and is starting to be so uncomfortable sleeping...yada yada. Poor K, I was a mess. So he's been up with her and I slept in.

I had my first M15 bumpie dream. @toastercat , @Peledreamsofrain‌ , and @bostonalison came over. Although they live nowhere near each other, they had carpooled. As they pulled up I was pulling off my walking pants (guise, I don't own fucking walking pants) because I was SO hot and so they saw my ass cheeks in little boy short undies???? We didn't even really address it when they came in, I was just like "sorry, I was exercising..."

Pele was like 7 feet tall because she keeps telling me she is a giant and I was like "no, you're not that tall, pele"... Awkwardly using her bump name instead of IRL name. Then Moaster wouldn't leave the cat alone and I tried to offer drinks but I was a terribly unprepared hostess and only had water. Then Moaster was getting her greasy paws all over the couch. Why were they paws you ask? Because she was turning into a cat. Why were they greasy? Because this terrible hostess served them fucking hash browns...yep.

Next dream?? A free Mexican food buffet where everything went wrong despite how badly I wanted all the food

Squeee! I feel so honored to be in my first bumpie dream! I would like to point out that I behaved like a lady, despite the hashbrowns and giantness.

You were such a lady! And so was @BostonAlison‌ ...it was a certain uhhh cat...that was ROOD. Also, Pele, your hair looked stunning.

A lady like this:

Or a lady like this:

The first. Obvs.

BostonAlison

estamos_tomamos said:

@BostonAlison I love Downton so much.  Why can't it be on Netflix?

Stuck in the quote boooxxxxxx

Get Thee Amazon Prime, my friend!  It's worth it!

ngolimento

FrecklesInside said:

BostonAlison said:

FrecklesInside said:

Peledreamsofrain said:

FrecklesInside said:

E woke up at 5 and was a mess. She kept me up for two hours until I was weeping about being a pregnant woman with no space of her own, who already has heartburn and is starting to be so uncomfortable sleeping...yada yada. Poor K, I was a mess. So he's been up with her and I slept in.

I had my first M15 bumpie dream. @toastercat , @Peledreamsofrain‌ , and @bostonalison came over. Although they live nowhere near each other, they had carpooled. As they pulled up I was pulling off my walking pants (guise, I don't own fucking walking pants) because I was SO hot and so they saw my ass cheeks in little boy short undies???? We didn't even really address it when they came in, I was just like "sorry, I was exercising..."

Pele was like 7 feet tall because she keeps telling me she is a giant and I was like "no, you're not that tall, pele"... Awkwardly using her bump name instead of IRL name. Then Moaster wouldn't leave the cat alone and I tried to offer drinks but I was a terribly unprepared hostess and only had water. Then Moaster was getting her greasy paws all over the couch. Why were they paws you ask? Because she was turning into a cat. Why were they greasy? Because this terrible hostess served them fucking hash browns...yep.

Next dream?? A free Mexican food buffet where everything went wrong despite how badly I wanted all the food

Squeee! I feel so honored to be in my first bumpie dream! I would like to point out that I behaved like a lady, despite the hashbrowns and giantness.

You were such a lady! And so was @BostonAlison‌ ...it was a certain uhhh cat...that was ROOD. Also, Pele, your hair looked stunning.

A lady like this:

Or a lady like this:

The first. Obvs.

Since I don't have any alcohol right now, it's sadly the first option.

psychbear

ToasterCat said:

@BostonAlison I love Downton so much.  Why can't it be on Netflix?

They used to have the first season

I think it's on Amazon Prime now isn't it?

CoozieInMyPurse

Sitting in a hotel room in the middle of nowhere halfway to my grandmother's house waiting for J so we can get a move on. Much like you lawyers, no real time off for him. His company even paid for an international calling plan for his Blackberry so he could take work calls on our honeymoon in Spain. I can't stand his job!

marissalucia

@cinderella105‌ I have to agree with @FrecklesInside‌, as long as you've felt this way for a while, it's not worth trying to save something that you're not into. Especially if that means possibly having to fake feelings if you try to fix it. I mean I can somewhat relate, lately everything my SO does annoys the crap out of me, and for some reason I can't tolerate his "smell" unless he showers, puts cologne, brushes teeth, uses mouth wash and then a mint on top. I'm pretty sure it's all just the hormones, especially since this started only the last couple weeks. So I would say, if you've felt this way for a while, saving the relationship isn't worth it, if it's a more,recently having problems thing, then you try to see what you could do, but he would have to cut the being an asshole drunk thing. If you don't think he'll ever stop that then don't bother. clearly a difficult situation. Follow your instincts. Good luck!!

almeyer2013

@megaugust10‌ my snoogle should be coming in today!!!! I cannot wait!

ngolimento

estamos_tomamos said:

Here's a random; I hatched a chick with crossbeak last year and named her Lady Edith.  Poor Lady Edith.

How is the poor girl doing? Do you file her beak to help her? Crossbeak can be so devistating for chicks .

cinnamonlatte

I am so excited it is Friday and a three day weekend. I am going to go buy my daughter her fall/winter wardrobe. Carter's is having a great sale and I am really excited. I love shopping. I will probably also go to Old Navy for some maternity clothes since they are next door.

marissalucia

One more random.. I'm so annoyed with ABCs daytime lineup for this fall. Daytime jeopardy? An extra half hour of the news? Why can't they just bring back my soaps!?!? OLTL & AMC should be replacing these stupid filler shows (even though I do like jeopardy, I rather watch it at night). On the other hand I'm glad "Katie" is gone. She annoyed the hell out of me. :-q

cinderella105

marissalucia said:

@cinderella105‌ I have to agree with @FrecklesInside‌, as long as you've felt this way for a while, it's not worth trying to save something that you're not into. Especially if that means possibly having to fake feelings if you try to fix it. I mean I can somewhat relate, lately everything my SO does annoys the crap out of me, and for some reason I can't tolerate his "smell" unless he showers, puts cologne, brushes teeth, uses mouth wash and then a mint on top. I'm pretty sure it's all just the hormones, especially since this started only the last couple weeks. So I would say, if you've felt this way for a while, saving the relationship isn't worth it, if it's a more,recently having problems thing, then you try to see what you could do, but he would have to cut the being an asshole drunk thing. If you don't think he'll ever stop that then don't bother. clearly a difficult situation. Follow your instincts. Good luck!!

Yeah I definitely see where you and Freckles are coming from. Like I said, it's never been such an issue that I would leave him over it and I used to constantly be attracted to him. He's just become more of a selfish asshole with a shitty attitude and being possessive when he's drunk. Maybe the hormones play a big part, but there are some underlying issues. You ladies have me thinking maybe we just need a break, have him stay with his mom where he is already for a while, go to counseling, and see if this is something we can work through. I most of all want counseling just for myself so I can get everything out and have the therapist focus on me and what I need to do to get better. I still wonder if come second trimester (when I usually feel completely normal again) I start feeling better and things don't get to me so much..

I hate breaking up our family, but I also don't want to fake anything or be miserable. I know counseling will help us figure this out..

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cinderella105  I am sorry you guys are having a hard time. I hope you can work it out.

alexandria22489

I'm fuming and laughing about a situation at the same time. These hormones are funny funny thing. Sorry this post is long, it's a bit of a vent. 

A bit of background, my SIL began dating my H's friend (who is a complete and total asshole that loves to take digs about my weight. It's not too bothersome because I'm better at being a bitch than he is and I'm better with words). H's friend just broke up with SIL. My SIL is VERY naive. very. 

 

We moved to Lancaster County, PA two years ago. We bought our house on July 13th, and I found out I'm KU on July 14th. SIL decides she is going to get a big girl job and is applying. I find out she is applying in Lancaster which is an hour and a half from her house. So of course, I'm amused. I ask  her where she's planning on staying. "Oh, with you in the extra room." ummmm. No. Not a chance in hell. Her reasoning is that she can stay with the baby while she is trying to find a job, and I won't have to take maternity leave because she can babysit the baby...

Yes, I am going on maternity leave just so I can "babysit" my child. I swear. I cannot handle people. So ridiculous it's amusing. 

I had a nightmare last night that SIL got back together with POSEB (Piece of shit ex boyfriend) and he moved in with us too, then SHE got pregnant. 

cinderella105

@meladoriestar‌ that made me feel a little better. It's true, sometimes it's better to raise the child alone, that was the case with my ex. He's not even in their lives anymore. But SO is a wonderful man and would be a wonderful father. I just don't know if we can make it work together or not.

@south_myst‌ I'm sorry you suffer from that also. How have you managed for 7 years? Just keeping up with counseling or medication? I hope this is just a phase that can go away with professional help. Plus I didn't really consider all the stressors in our lives... We have been going through a lot of change, family issues, financial stress, and so much more. Thank you for your support and I'll keep you in mind to pm since you're in a similar situation!

@Michelgesen‌ he is definitely freaking out a little about his first child. He's never been around a pregnant woman it seems like, so he doesn't understand anything I'm feeling or going through. He's been trying to read about it, but he still doesn't know how to react.

suzyq0525

There was a 5 week old baby at my work today that was crying. Made me cry too. Wow hormones. Just wow.

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MrsLaurenandDan

Ugh. I've been ignoring the birthday party thing. Owen's birthday is between out 16w and 18w ultrasounds. I am so terrified we'll get bad news again that I am afraid to plan. Plus the HG will just be letting up, so I have no idea what I'll be up for. .

We never had a party last year. I planned to, and had tons of decorations. But I was so sick I thought I would put it off a few weeks until the anniversary of when he came home from the NICU. Then the ultrasound where we first found out there was an issue with Noah's brain was 3 days after Owen's birthday. And the anniversary of him coming home from the NICU was the day before I went to the hospital for the induction.

I feel really guilty, but just thinks about planning a party ups my anxiety level.

MrsLaurenandDan

@alexandria22489‌ umm, what? Yeah, that would be a huge no. Please tell me that you told her no way in hell.

alexandria22489

Darbie914 exactly!!! At first I thought H told her it was okay but after he said absolutely not I was furious. I told her there's no way. we just bought a house, just found out i'm KU, and, as rude as it may sound, H is my family now. Mine. Just because he is her brother doesn't mean she can assume we will let her live with us