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cafecreme

MrsLaurenandDan said:

Here's an AW if my current project since I haven't seen a crafty check in lately. It's a preemie blanket that I'm working on. It's only about a 1/4 done. NB would be at least half again as wide. But I am loving the colors.

That's beautiful!! 

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nomnommama

ToasterCat said:

@Frecklesinside wait wait wait, when @Peledreamsofrain gets a harem she is a "free woman" who can't be "boxed up" but when I get a few wives I am a TOASTERSLORE? >:(

It's the anal beads. People don't understand how classy they can be...

jurassicrabbit

just made the last minute decision to drive to Albuquerque to visit the folks and tell them about the jurassicbunny in person. It's about a 6 hour drive from here, so I'll have plenty of time to figure out how the heck to tell them, right? ...Right?

Background, they didn't know we were trying, and don't know we live together, and are very religious (we're not, at all) and so they will probably have "opinions" about the whole thing. But babies are a blessing, right?

Gah. 

Maybe I'll just give them the ultrasound picture from our NT scan Monday so they can see how cute it is already and they'll be so instantly in love they won't say anything? If only...

jordanbohr

I just scheduled a sex determination ultrasound, which I'm really excited about. The 3D/4D ultrasound place by us does 2D after 15 weeks to determine the sex. The thought hadn't really crossed my mind to do it, but I've been trying to come up with something to do for my husband's birthday and this seemed perfect. It's only $50 (which is what we agreed to spend on birthdays this year) and he's so excited about the baby, I know he's going to be thrilled. Now comes the hard part, keeping it a secret!

MrsLaurenandDan

jurassicrabbit said:

just made the last minute decision to drive to Albuquerque to visit the folks and tell them about the jurassicbunny in person. It's about a 6 hour drive from here, so I'll have plenty of time to figure out how the heck to tell them, right? ...Right?

Background, they didn't know we were trying, and don't know we live together, and are very religious (we're not, at all) and so they will probably have "opinions" about the whole thing. But babies are a blessing, right?

Gah. 

Maybe I'll just give them the ultrasound picture from our NT scan Monday so they can see how cute it is already and they'll be so instantly in love they won't say anything? If only...

Wait - are you in NM too????

createmagic14

MrsLaurenandDan said:

Here's an AW if my current project since I haven't seen a crafty check in lately. It's a preemie blanket that I'm working on. It's only about a 1/4 done. NB would be at least half again as wide. But I am loving the colors.

@MrsLaurenandDan That's beautiful!  I've tried to crochet things, but all I've managed is half a blanket, half a hat, and half a slipper.  Damn ADHD.

@StellaMakes3 I'm glad you're feeling a little better!

@nomnommama So jealous of beach days! I hope you're having a great time.

We are having a big Labor Day cookout tomorrow and I'm nowhere near ready.  On top of that, my DH is super cranky today, so not helping the getting ready.  He's actually been off the past week or two--he struggles with depression, and knows it, and will at least verbalize that he "just feels off", but it's hard watching him deal with it not knowing how to help him.  And I try to remember its that when I get mad when he hides in the office on the computer all afternoon, but it often feels like rejection when he doesn't come out of that room until bedtime, or esp after I go to bed.  We've talked about it, and he tries, but I think as happy as he is about this baby, it's also a major stressor for him. He is also a little OCD, and I have pretty significant ADHD, so while the mess that accumulated this summer at times while I dealt with m/s doesn't much bother me, it frustrates him greatly.   We just put him on my health insurance (he hasn't had ins or seen a doctor since he was a kid)  and he sees the doctor in October, and he's planning to ask about seeing a therapist at that point.  

Those of you who struggle with depression:  what is the best thing that your SO can do when you are suffering?  I do not struggle with depression personally, so it's sometimes difficult for me to relate/know how to approach it.

Anyway, I had not intended for that to be a post like that, but apparently it's bothering me more than I realized.  I was going to erase it all, but maybe I'll look to you amazing women for support instead.

BostonAlison

Guys serious decision time. At a bakery. Cupcakes or cannolis????

createmagic14

BostonAlison said:

Guys serious decision time. At a bakery. Cupcakes or cannolis????

Cupcakes.  But the filled ones.  Now I need Dutch kitchen cupcakes.  Thanks.

BostonAlison

@createmagic14‌ the bean counter in Shrewsbury. Amazing.

https://www.beancounterbakery.com

almeyer2013

I am already looking forward to dinner tomorrow night with my parents. We are going to my favorite steak house, and I am going to EAT EVERYTHING in front of my mom who started a diet. 

BostonAlison

jcar2 said:

@bostonalison both! Or if you have to choose, cupcakes!

Both is a good plan. And maybe the thumbprint cookies with raspberry.

createmagic14

@BostonAlison‌ like I need more ideas! Lol. Have you been to Dutch Kitchen in Fitchburg? They're to die for. They made my wedding cake too.

@Stellamakes3 Yikes! I don't think I could touch that with a ten foot poll!

cinderella105

Darbie914 said:

Aren't some of the posters here on D13?  What is up with the poster who confessed to keeping her hand on her baby's leg so he'll stay asleep while she's having sex?  

Whaaaaat?

almeyer2013

@bostonalison thumbprint cookies sound soo good right now. 

suzyq0525

Darbie914 said:

Aren't some of the posters here on D13?  What is up with the poster who confessed to keeping her hand on her baby's leg so he'll stay asleep while she's having sex?  

What!?

janda426

Okay yet another reason I think many (not all, before anyone gets riled up) photographers are scammers. This woman on my FB who's been a photographer for maybe a year now is trying to put together a workshop to teach how she does what she does. Um, she's still a beginner. She wants 10 people at $100 a pop. $1,000 for what? To get professional advice from a beginner photographer? Come on.

I think photographer workshops are such a joke. H and I modeled for one where the photographer charged FIVE HUNDRED DOLLARS a person and literally just posed us and had everyone line up and take our photo. She would be like "anyone have questions?" And then move on. There must've been 20 people there. $10k for 2 hours of work. She told everyone the cost was to cover the expenses of all the vendors involved, come to find out these vendors all donated their service for free because they weren't well known. They didn't get any money. Scammer.

MrsLaurenandDan

@createmagic14‌ I started with micro preemie hats. They are done so quick!

createmagic14

MrsLaurenandDan said:

@createmagic14‌ I started with micro preemie hats. They are done so quick!

@MrsLaurenandDan‌ What a great idea! Maybe I'll pick up some yarn soon and try that. Thanks!

Edited because quote boxes are dumb.

cafecreme

Dude, seriously?

https://nationalreport.net/casey-anthony-pregnant-twins/

kaydedid

@createmagic14‌ #1 thing you can do is offer unconditional, non-judgemental support. One of the hardest things for depressed people is to be open and let others see what's really going on. When/if he opens up, acceptance and love are the best responses for healing. I know the ms is a bitch, but if you can, do things to try and reduce his stress level. You mentioned the cleaning - that might be a good place to start. That can be a huge stressor, and depression is one of the ways our minds ans bodies react to stress-an overloaded fuse that blows out. But the biggest thing is to have him know that it's OK to have depression, that you still love him just as much, and that you've got his back. Guys can be harder to get this across to (for most girls words and/or hugs do it). For my DH, physical affection is huge-hugs, patting his back, holding him etc.

janda426

cafecreme said:

Dude, seriously?

https://nationalreport.net/casey-anthony-pregnant-twins/

A reality show? Are you fucking kidding me?

BostonAlison

Loooveeee

createmagic14

kaydedid said:

@createmagic14‌ #1 thing you can do is offer unconditional, non-judgemental support. One of the hardest things for depressed people is to be open and let others see what's really going on. When/if he opens up, acceptance and love are the best responses for healing. I know the ms is a bitch, but if you can, do things to try and reduce his stress level. You mentioned the cleaning - that might be a good place to start. That can be a huge stressor, and depression is one of the ways our minds ans bodies react to stress-an overloaded fuse that blows out. But the biggest thing is to have him know that it's OK to have depression, that you still love him just as much, and that you've got his back. Guys can be harder to get this across to (for most girls words and/or hugs do it). For my DH, physical affection is huge-hugs, patting his back, holding him etc.

Thank you.  I really appreciate you taking the time to respond.  That's definitely been part of it I'm sure.  This week has been hard, in particular, because school started so I'm back to work, in a new position, SUPER exhausted and in bed by 8, and I've gotten nothing done, not even dinner made, at home.  Thank you for the reminder to step up--this gets better for me, but will only get worse for him without some help and support. 

Edited:  fixed wording

PuppyLove84

Hi friends.  Just wanted to say hi.  My therapist recommended that I stop thinking about being pregnant 24/7 to see if it would help with my anxiety, so I took a little bump break.  (And didn't use my doppler, didn't read baby books, didn't watch hours of videos comparing strollers, etc.)  It was actually pretty nice and I went hours at a time without worrying.  But I couldn't quit y'all, so I did a little lurking, but didn't read much.  Hope everyone is doing well!  We have a bunch of people staying with us this weekend going to the Alabama football game, so it looks like I'll be busy.  But hopefully I can bump a little more.

Also, I am supposed to go to my friend's dog's birthday party this evening, but I don't want to.  Yes, you read that right, it's her dog's party.  She is so excited and even bought a cake that is supposedly dog-and-people friendly.  I am suspicious, but I do like cake.  And my dog is very bored, so I'll probably take her out of guilt.  (My therapist also says I need to work on feeling less guilty in general.  I'll work on that tomorrow.)

@cinderella105 I'm so sorry you're having trouble with your SO.  I hope you're able to make the best decision for you!

@createmagic14 When I am struggling with my depression, it helps when my husband is there for me but doesn't try to fix me.  He can try to talk me out of it all he wants, but it's not going anywhere.  Foot rubs, hugs, etc. usually make me feel a little better.  I don't know... it's really tough.  He tries to help, but sometimes there's just not much he can do, and I know that is frustrating for him.

kaydedid

@createmagic14‌ major hugs. It will get better, for both of you. Even if it takes a while for his depression to be dealt with, he will still have good days. Cherish them, and take care of yourself too. It sounds like stress central at your place - take it easy on both of you.

cinderella105

@Darbie914‌ oh my dear lord.... That mom who has sex while touching her baby... Just no.

@cafecreme‌ WTF?? Please don't be real.... Oh god...

kcbizme

cafecreme said:

Dude, seriously?

https://nationalreport.net/casey-anthony-pregnant-twins/

We all make mistakes, but everyone deserves a second chance, according to the article in this post.

So you mean to tell me that I can murder my baby and get away with it, get "benefactors" to pay my living expenses, and then get KU with twinsies so I can have my own reality show? I'm apparently in the wrong business..

:-O

ETA: everyone deserves a second chance because "this is America"

chaysefaith

cafecreme said:

Dude, seriously?

https://nationalreport.net/casey-anthony-pregnant-twins/

This quote rubs me the wrong way:

"She is a free woman now, and this show is going to allow her to make a great life for her new little angels."

Because she had a chance to make a great life for Caylee and instead she made her an angel.

kaydedid

@luckystarz‌ so glad LO is doing ok. How are you - are the pain meds ok? Fingers crossed for a non - fractured pelvis.

jurassicrabbit

MrsLaurenandDan said:

just made the last minute decision to drive to Albuquerque to visit the folks and tell them about the jurassicbunny in person. It's about a 6 hour drive from here, so I'll have plenty of time to figure out how the heck to tell them, right? ...Right?

Background, they didn't know we were trying, and don't know we live together, and are very religious (we're not, at all) and so they will probably have "opinions" about the whole thing. But babies are a blessing, right?

Gah. 

Maybe I'll just give them the ultrasound picture from our NT scan Monday so they can see how cute it is already and they'll be so instantly in love they won't say anything? If only...

Wait - are you in NM too????

I'm in Denver, now, but all of my family is in NM and that's where I'm from. I moved up here for grad school, then I found a job and stuck around.

I actually miss it a lot and since we're so close I get home any time I can. Looking forward to my mac and cheese from Flying Star, cinnamon roll from Frontier, and rellenos from Sadie's. And if it weren't for the little nugget, I'd be going to the wine festival this weekend, too!

And aside from the food, I like the people, too.

Nice to meet a fellow New Mexi!

kecoff01

@MrsLaurenandDan‌, I love to crochet too!! I can't wait to start on a project for my own bean since I've made blankets for others!

My AW: I made this blanket for my baby cousin who was born in May!

MissyCee

Sex with your baby right next to you? NOPE. Sex while actually touching your baby who is right next to you? Hell to the NO! That's just messed up....

kcbizme

@cinderella105 I hate that you're going through that! I really hope you are able to figure things out and get some help. Counseling is really helpful if you can find the right person.

@chilibeansm0m we had my SO's DD's birthday at a local pool/aquatic center. She turned 2 last month and we just invited a bunch of people with kids and got there super early so we could grab tables. SO's sister brought food and we brought a cookie cake and drinks. It turned out great and the kids had a blast. All with minimal planning. All she (DD) cared about was "fimmin" (swimming).

@alexandria22489 your SIL sounds like a responsible young woman with her head screwed on straight.. LOL it's a good thing you have no problem telling her how it is. Also, clearly she needs a reality check on what maternity leave is actually for..

@jurassicrabbit we haven't told my father yet. He randomly called me yesterday morning and said it's about time to go to lunch again, so I guess that's my universal hint to go ahead and spill the beans. It'll be 2 more weeks before I actually see him and I'm pretty sure he'll be able to tell something by then. People at my office have noticed I've gained some weight..

@janda426 we are lucky SO's grandma is a photographer - and a really good one at that. She does all of our special occasion photos for free and even said she would do maternity photos for us. She's excited and wished us the best.

kcbizme

kcbizme said:

cafecreme said:

Dude, seriously?

https://nationalreport.net/casey-anthony-pregnant-twins/

We all make mistakes, but everyone deserves a second chance, according to the article in this post.

So you mean to tell me that I can murder my baby and get away with it, get "benefactors" to pay my living expenses, and then get KU with twinsies so I can have my own reality show? I'm apparently in the wrong business..

:-O

ETA: everyone deserves a second chance because "this is America"

Never mind. I take back my sarcastic and snarky response. Thank goodness it was fake!

cinderella105

Teehee! I just love that I learned how to gif on my phone. Now to wait for the trolls.....

kcbizme

My totally random is from yesterday, actually.

One of my coworkers who is also a friend pulled me into her office yesterday and told me our boss spilled the beans. Then she said, "I'm so glad you're pregnant because I was starting to think you needed to lay off the snacks!"

Coming from some random person this would be completely tacky and offensive, but she is such a sweet person all I could do was laugh when she said it. She's just very blunt and direct. Of course, she never would have told me that but she had started to notice my tummy getting bigger and thought I was gaining weight. Now she knows my little secret! 

:-$

jurassicrabbit

@kcbizme I think the hardest part of this for me is that I've always been super close with my parents. Especially my mom, who has been my best friend my whole life. I've just been absolutely terrified to tell them anything about this because I know they won't agree with the choices I've made. But, I do know it'll be fine in the end. I just have some anxiety to get over about disappointing them or whatever. 

Good luck with your reveal to your dad! Funny, your comment about gaining a little weight. Last time I saw my mom I was in the worst stage of my bloating (oh man, it was terrible for a while), and she asked why I looked so "plump." Haha.

Edit: I forgot how to words. 

Second ETA: I'm 30. I realized I sound like a 18 year old with my parent-anxiety. lol.

selena61307

cinderella105 said:

Can I just have a laugh with you guys on how I just looked at Groupon and there were 2 vibrator specials?

) Awesome.

I am getting on Groupon now. Thanks. DH yelled at me lady night for having a one track mind and said he just wants to cuddle. Blah.

MrsLaurenandDan

createmagic14 said:

MrsLaurenandDan said:

@createmagic14‌ I started with micro preemie hats. They are done so quick!

@MrsLaurenandDan‌ What a great idea! Maybe I'll pick up some yarn soon and try that. Thanks!

Edited because quote boxes are dumb.

That's actually why I started crocheting. I donate them to Hospitals for other micro preemies who are stillborn. And then blankets. I've only done a handful for preemies or rainbow babies.

@jurassicrabbit‌ I'm actually from Michigan, but we moved here last spring. My mom is actually driving down from Fort Collins today.