Ease on Down the Road

nomnommama

I'm back and I'm making a random thread.
Yeah for The Wiz!

nomnommama

We are in our last week of vacation and now we are in DE with my inlaws. My patience shall be tested. Calm yourself, pregnancy rage!

woollywhelk

I'm going to spend the weekend away at a rented house for my friends 30th bday and bachelorette party, with a bunch of people I barely know, and all I can think about is that I hope I don't wake my roommate up with all my nighttime farting...

Figuring out how to excuse myself to go to bed at like 10:30 should also be fun.

Skrittens

Woke up H to take me to breakfast at the diner. mmmm pancakes, bacon and coffee. And rocking out a maternity shirt and bra to make room for the food baby. A good start to today.

I hope all you ladies have a good day!

hydrangeablue

My nausea is gone (for now)! I went to Pilates, the chiropractor, and the salon this week! it's nice to feel "normal" for a second. I say "normal" because I'm an emotional basket case and crying about any and everything!

nomnommama

I heart birthday cake!

chaysefaith

I don't even start work for another hour and I'm already counting down the hours between me and a 3 day weekend.

S was super bitchy when he got home from work this morning. I have half a mind to lock his ass out. He bitched at me for not putting the grill cover on the grill last night before it rained...except it wasn't supposed to rain. And he could have done it his fucking self before he left for work last night. And I made him fucking breakfast which was timed perfectly for when he got home and he still bitched at me. I wish he would take his crabby ass back to work.

MissyCee

I'm so excited my H has a 3 day weekend! We're hoping to get in a cookout at a lake nearby and if the weather is nice, maybe take DD in to splash around a bit.

And holy cow is DD keeping me busy, she keeps crawling off into places she shouldn't be. I've been holding off on buying more baby gates because of the cost, but I think it's time to give in and get them!

I hope everyone has a great day full of eating, pooping, and bumping!

marissalucia

I just want to sleep. That is ALLL I want. (Oh and a puppy) But doesn't look like it will be a relaxing weekend...more of a "hurry up let's go, on to the next thing" type of weekend..and I just want to sleep for like 3 days straight.

cinderella105

This is a P&R until I feel like getting up, but I just had to tell you ladies this..

TL;DR: SO got stupid drunk last night, made a scene while we were with friends celebrating his college graduation because I wasn't paying all my attention to him, and left me there to go to his mom's. I want him gone.


Pretty sure it's over for me and SO. Yesterday was his last night of college and he has his graduation ceremony in October. While I was at school he began celebrating and drinking way too much. I didn't know this until I got home to pick him up because I had planned to take him out to celebrate, but noticed he was a mess when he stumbled to the car and was slurring his words when he got in. He told me he had been with his friends celebrating and I asked if he was ok to go do our plans which he insisted he was. I should've just kept him home.

We went to a bar our friends were waiting at and hung out for a while. When he gets drunk he gets super clingy and doesn't stop touching me or kissing me. I was trying to socialize because my best friend was there as well as other friends I haven't seen in a while. He kept staring at me with this glazed over creepy look and pulling me to him by my arm to shove a kiss on me or hold me tight. When I wasn't all lovey dovey he would turn his back to me and stand by himself away from us. I kept telling him to come join in and he would just stare...

Basically that escalated to him coming up to me later saying "I'm leaving". I asked what he meant and he said he has already called his mom to come get him...... It was fucking midnight by then! I told him how inconsiderate to her that was and didn't understand why he was doing this when he was going to ride with me, and he whined that I wasn't giving him enough attention and I was being mean.... Even though I kept trying to include him.. Then he would walk away and come back to cause more drama (did this over and over) and I'm just sitting there with my head in my hands humiliated. He finally left for good and his mom texted me to assure me he got to her place safe.

He made a fool of himself and of me, and pretty much ruined the way I see him. I talked with my best friend last night and the thought of raising all my kids by myself sounds better than this shit any day. I did it with my first 2, I can do it again with this one.. I may still try counseling for us (but definitely for me alone!), just waiting on them to call with an appt date, but what I feel right now is I'm done and I don't want this relationship.

I called in to work and will go in later.. I can't think straight or focus or get in a work mindset right now. Sorry for the novel. Please just pray/send good vibes/whatever you do.

almeyer2013

I was sleeping so well, and then my mom calls me!!!! Wtf! Now I am awake, and I want to punch my mom in the tit.

alexandria22489

@cinderella105 So sorry that happened. That has to be extremely frustrating to have to experience that, especially in front of friends. sending positive thoughts!

alexandria22489

My H comes home tonight at around midnight. I offered to pick him up from the airport, but he said his work hired him a limo service to bring him home. He thinks he's fancy.

 I'm excited to see him, however, it will probably be tomorrow morning because my bedtime is approximately 8:30 these days. Can't hang. 

almeyer2013

@cinderella105‌ alcohol and mixed emotions do not go hand in hand. I do not drink very often (non now) because I was kind of a wreck when I did drink. H witnessed it once and one time only. Completely embarrassing.

Your so needs to grow up and realize he is on the verge of losing it all.

chaysefaith

So I'm watching the news and ALL of the roads to O'Hare airport are shut down from a bus accident. People are getting out of their cars and walking miles to get to the airport. And I'm crying. Wtf? Why am I crying over people walking to the airport because of an accident?



Also, @meladoriestar‌, I know you're leaving on vacation soon (today?) if you're leaving from O'Hare today leave yourself TONS of time.

ngolimento

@Cindarella105 I'm so sorry, your SO does sound immensely immature. That is so stupid he called his mommy instead of getting a cab or going home with you. What a child.

As for me, I finally FINALLY had a night where I didn't have to fight hurling all night! Woohoo! It's been like a month of intense nightly nausea. Here's hoping it keeps that way.

sjep922

@cinderella105‌ I'm so so sorry you had to deal with that. I would be embarrassed and pissed off as well! Sending you all the positive vibes and good thoughts that I can!

@SNLT1012‌ I've got 2 hours until work and I'm counting down the same thing!! Come on 3 day weekend.

sjep922

Also, I'm 12 weeks 2da!! Less than a week until our next appointment!

I used the Doppler to try and find the heartbeat last night. My little nugget must be movin' and groovin' in there! When I found the heart beat it would be really strong and clear and then without moving the Doppler it would get really light or go away. Then I would find it again if I moved it just a bit. So cool!!!

nomnommama

@cinderella105‌ yuck. That sounds so frustrating. Sending positive thoughts for whatever you decide to do.

cattledogmama

@cinderella105 sounds like you were put in a bad situation. whatever you decide is going to be right for you 

I'm just really excited to have a 3 day weekend where I'll be able to nap every time I want to. Napping at my desk at work is typically frowned upon. 

Lark425

@cinderella105 so sorry to hear that! Sending good thoughts your way!

I didn't sleep at all last because I kept having to go to the bathroom and then when I would come back to bed, DH was rolled up in the blankets like a burrito and his arms were sprawled out onto my pillow. Now I have a headache and I'm crabby and I am counting down the minutes until I can go home from work and take a nap.

I hope everyone else has a great day!

cinderella105

Of course I call in and then can't go back to sleep..

Just read all of your comments, ladies. Thank you so much for the support. I'm devastated over the idea of putting him through single parenting, because he's one of those who prayed for having kids with the woman of his dreams, and now everything is crashing down. I do want to talk this out when he's awake and sober, but I know I've been miserable for a while and losing it for him every day. Last night was the kicker.. It has a lot to do with the fact that I dealt with my kids dad for 5 years, who was an alcoholic and a drug addict which resulted in physical and mental abuse, and I refuse to deal with any more substances in a relationship.

I guess I'll get up now and shower. Really don't even want to face the day, but I need the hours at work. :-<

kecoff01

@cinderella105, I hope everything works out for you and SO!  I have a low tolerance for that type of behavior too.  I'll be thinking about you!

kellbell1982

@cinderella105‌ I hope things get better. I have a bit of an AW but since TB is a special womb sharing safe zone here goes: because I'm a recovering H addict I go to a methadone clinic at veterans hospital cause I'm also a vet oooo ain't I special;) anyway, my clinic is closed on Sundays and all holidays which is unheard of and I have take home bottle for Saturdays so I love it there. Here's the problem: they have never had a pregnant woman at my clinic because there aren't many female vets that go there so they are freaking out and trying to send me to a special mommy clinic at a non va hospital where I'd no longer have my take home and would have to go seven days a week and holidays. My DH goes to my clinic (that's where we met tres romantic, no?) and therefore it would put a huge financial and family strain on me to have to go somewhere else. My question is: anybody know about patient rights laws like do I have to go there or am I allowed to refuse? Sorry so long I've been literally losing sleep over this, yeah I know first world problems

wendyld

tunnel said:

@cinderella105 - I too hate drunk clingy, AW types. So annoying. Hopefully you guys are able to talk about your issues sober and come to the right decision for you guys as a couple. Good luck 

 My random- I hate that as an attorney your days off are totally not respected (unless you go out of the country). I'm supposed to be off all day today, but instead have already had to field a ton of emails and calls and it's only 9am. Leave me alone people 

 Eta to add my random #2: I got my lady bits waxed for the first time this pregnancy and it felt the same

Do you get billables for that?

shootznladrz

@cinderella105‌ I'm sorry, my H is an immature drunk too. It's so irritating.

@mamachancey‌ are they sending you somewhere else because they aren't equipped to deal with a pregnant patient? From what I understand being on maintenance and pregnant needs special attention. Maybe they don't want to be liable if god forbid something happens? Maybe you could talk to a hospital administrator or someone about the situation?


I got up and made myself breakfast of waffles and bacon and ate it ALL. I am not ashamed!!!


EDIT: forgot to add my random!!!

nannabee21

@cinderella105 T&P's to you. Hopefully your H comes to his senses.

I'm 11 weeks 2da!! Celebrated by waking up 30 minutes before my alarm to vomit. Happy Friday.

almeyer2013

I am venting. My sister in law is also pregnant and having her baby in February. I am so excited for our babies to be close in age!
Anyway, her sweet mother passed away a few years ago, and since her passing, her dad has become the biggest slime ball ever.
I just talked to my mom on the phone and apparently even after my sil's attempt to reconcile with her dad, he still is not making any attempts to fix things with her.
I am completely heart broken for her, and I just pray her father changed his tune before it's too late and the relationship is completely severed.

finallyourturn2

I think the crazy pregnancy dreams have begun. I had a dream last night that my dog was trying to kill me. One of the things he did was pull knives out of the butcher block and throw them at me (all with his mouth). it was because I wouldn't share my graham crackers with him.

Second, I had an elective u/s yesterday and got to hear a loud clear healthy heartbeat of one of the babies for the first time. The other was hiding behind so we couldn't get a clear heartbeat. We did see both and they were both very active.

janda426

I had a dream that I just had leaves in my mouth and I couldn't get them all out no matter how many I pulled out. Fucking gross

@cinderella105‌ if it makes you feel any better, my H is super clingy when he's drunk too. He wasn't always that way- his tolerance has just gone way down since college and apparently he doesn't know his limits on the rare occasion he drinks now. I still really think you guys need counseling. Right now you're overwhelmed and you shouldn't make relationship ending decisions until you've exhausted ALL other options. You should give it a fighting chance for this baby and for yourselves. Tbh I haven't heard anything that sounds so completely devastating that it can't be worked through. It's depression and it's getting to you and if you work through it I really think you both can come out winners on the other side. Hugs lady I know this must be so difficult

augustpetals

Cried last night thanks to the hormones. Slept only 2.5hrs, and had to get up for work this a.m. Had a few days where the nausea subsided, but as soon as i got work, ka blammy! The worst I've seen it - puked four times and saw my breakfast. Putting up a decor install at work and now my hands are glued to my phone and I'm hiding out in the bathroom - can I just go back to the beach already and listen to waves break while I nap?

cinderella105

Thanks everyone. I'm reading as I get ready so I'm not quoting everyone, but I am definitely still seeking counseling. I got an email from them just now asking what days I can come in.

The reason I'm so ok with just letting go is because a lot of my depression was due to issues I've been having with him. Last night and this past week has shown me what I've been feeling isn't just due to hormones. There have always been little things he does that annoy the shit out of me or turn me off, but I was able to look past them before. Now it bothers me so much I can't stand being around him. I'm talking like the way he breathes, he hardly ever brushes his teeth which disgusts me, how he smacks all the time, the way he kisses me and has to make the worst smacking noise with it, how he touches me too much, the way he misspells texts and writes the longest run on sentences so his texts are hard to read, how he always misconstrues texts, how sensitive he is, and his attitude. He's one of those who exaggerates situations or stories to be way cooler than they really are, or he'll turn any conversation to being about himself and his experience, or he brags all the time about stupid shit. I'm sorry I could go on and on, but last night really did it for me. I've lost all attraction for him and could never imagine or want to have sex with him again. I see him as a best friend and nothing more. I HATE that things have turned to this and that I'm bringing another baby into a broken home... I live with so much guilt.

kellbell1982

jcar2 said:

@cinderella105  I'm so sorry.  I really hope things work out for the two of you.

@mamachancey Would they pick up the bill if they sent you somewhere else?  My dad is getting treatment for his disease and most of it is through the VA.  There is one part of it that they can't cover (I think his neurologist or something like that) but I believe they still pay for it but he goes to a regular doctor, not the VA.  I could be wrong on this, but I'm pretty sure they're covering it.

Yes they are going to cover it but the issue is I don't want to leave the VA

4RingCircus

@cinderella105‌ ((big hugs)). Sending lots of T&Ps!

 I'm so bummed, I woke up with a sore throat again this morning. I really thought I was getting over this cold & was going to be able to enjoy the weekend.

FrecklesInside

@cinderella105 I'm going to be the blunt one. He sounds like an immature asshole and it sounds like you weren't really in all that of a committed relationship in the first place. I hope you can get help for your depression but I'm not going to jump on the bandwagon for counseling and stuff to save your relationship. The things you say you hate about him tell me the relationship was never very mature or serious. Sorry but I have to be honest with you.

kellbell1982

finallyourturn2 said:

I think the crazy pregnancy dreams have begun. I had a dream last night that my dog was trying to kill me. One of the things he did was pull knives out of the butcher block and throw them at me (all with his mouth). it was because I wouldn't share my graham crackers with him.

Second, I had an elective u/s yesterday and got to hear a loud clear healthy heartbeat of one of the babies for the first time. The other was hiding behind so we couldn't get a clear heartbeat. We did see both and they were both very active.

That's great that you heard the heartbeat! I'm also having weird dreams including one last night where I was told that my daughter had died seven years ago which is strange because that's when she was diagnosed with autism. I woke up crying and have been holding her close all day

kellbell1982

cinderella105 said:

Thanks everyone. I'm reading as I get ready so I'm not quoting everyone, but I am definitely still seeking counseling. I got an email from them just now asking what days I can come in.

The reason I'm so ok with just letting go is because a lot of my depression was due to issues I've been having with him. Last night and this past week has shown me what I've been feeling isn't just due to hormones. There have always been little things he does that annoy the shit out of me or turn me off, but I was able to look past them before. Now it bothers me so much I can't stand being around him. I'm talking like the way he breathes, he hardly ever brushes his teeth which disgusts me, how he smacks all the time, the way he kisses me and has to make the worst smacking noise with it, how he touches me too much, the way he misspells texts and writes the longest run on sentences so his texts are hard to read, how he always misconstrues texts, how sensitive he is, and his attitude. He's one of those who exaggerates situations or stories to be way cooler than they really are, or he'll turn any conversation to being about himself and his experience, or he brags all the time about stupid shit. I'm sorry I could go on and on, but last night really did it for me. I've lost all attraction for him and could never imagine or want to have sex with him again. I see him as a best friend and nothing more. I HATE that things have turned to this and that I'm bringing another baby into a broken home... I live with so much guilt.

This made me think of my exhusband so much! The not brushing his teeth shit and coming home all sweaty and stinking from playing softball and just jumping in our bed without a shower. I felt like he took me for granted because he totally stopped even trying to the point of ignoring basic hygiene once we got married, like I'm not worth it??

FrecklesInside

E woke up at 5 and was a mess. She kept me up for two hours until I was weeping about being a pregnant woman with no space of her own, who already has heartburn and is starting to be so uncomfortable sleeping...yada yada. Poor K, I was a mess. So he's been up with her and I slept in.

I had my first M15 bumpie dream. @toastercat , @Peledreamsofrain‌ , and @bostonalison came over. Although they live nowhere near each other, they had carpooled. As they pulled up I was pulling off my walking pants (guise, I don't own fucking walking pants) because I was SO hot and so they saw my ass cheeks in little boy short undies???? We didn't even really address it when they came in, I was just like "sorry, I was exercising..."

Pele was like 7 feet tall because she keeps telling me she is a giant and I was like "no, you're not that tall, pele"... Awkwardly using her bump name instead of IRL name. Then Moaster wouldn't leave the cat alone and I tried to offer drinks but I was a terribly unprepared hostess and only had water. Then Moaster was getting her greasy paws all over the couch. Why were they paws you ask? Because she was turning into a cat. Why were they greasy? Because this terrible hostess served them fucking hash browns...yep.

Next dream?? A free Mexican food buffet where everything went wrong despite how badly I wanted all the food

wendyld

FrecklesInside said:

@cinderella105 I'm going to be the blunt one. He sounds like an immature asshole and it sounds like you weren't really in all that of a committed relationship in the first place. I hope you can get help for your depression but I'm not going to jump on the bandwagon for counseling and stuff to save your relationship. The things you say you hate about him tell me the relationship was never very mature or serious. Sorry but I have to be honest with you.

I'm going to have to agree. I do think you should still go to counseling yourself, to help figure out why you have put yourself into a very similar situation as with your previous relationship and to figure out how to not do that again.

FrecklesInside

And ermagherd NOMZ is back!!!!!! Heyyyy @nomnommama . @toastercat only got like ten extra lovers in your absence...but I'm not a tattle or anything...

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