Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )

lokimau

RedDawnsRevenge said:

@dani+california‌ so far no spray paint for us, just dead lawn

DH is mad that I don't like Will and voiced my opinions and suspicions. Now he says he might not come home. I hope he doesn't. I'm thinking the only real way to move forward is to divorce. I'm not moving to NC. Also to MIL I am most likely divorcing her son. I wish DH would let me know his plans so I can get rid of his cat and move in with my parents as look for work down south or stay here and suffer with no income. Been crying a lot these past 2 days. I hate how everything is "my fault" "O haven't been looking for work". I think the worst will be if I fill for divorce I'll have to pay him spousal support since I make a lot when I work. He also asked what I thought being a SAHM was going to be like. Because even if he was home it's not his job to help because he works and kids/house is a SAHMs responsibility. I tried to remind him when he was SAHD that I still did all of everything else but he not listening. HR manager finally called me back but said it's nursing ed week at their hospital so the department managers haven't even looked at apps yet. Did manage to drop off a resume at a children's dental sx however, I hate teeth, but I'd do anything.

If the kids are with you, couldn't you get out of spousal support since he would have to pay you child support??

RedDawnsRevenge

Since he's not working if I went back to work I think I'd have to pay him spousal even if I have the kids? No I don't have a bank account. And we have credit cards he opened in my name.

eireyes

@RedDawnsRevenge I'm sorry things are so crappy for you right now. ((Hugs)) You are an awesome lady, and deserve to be treated as such.  Whatever happens, I hope it works out the best for you and the girls!

Twirple

@RedDawnsRevenge it sounds like you need to be the one to put your kids first, no matter what that means for your marriage.  Your H needs to get his head out of his ass, and maybe you talking to a lawyer will do that for him, whether or not it comes to divorce.

J&NL

@RedDawnsRevenge‌ from the sound of it, you'll most likely be better off without him. He sounds immature and unreliable. People like him will do anything to place the blame on someone else rather than take responsibility so there's no use in trying to reason. It's time for you to think of you and your baby. That's it. Obviously he is too focused on himself and his fuck buddy so screw him. I wouldn't depend on him.

J&NL

Sorry, I just get heated thinking about it. He sounds a lot like my ex husband lol

ambarnett1

I just looked at double strollers online. I'm officially very scared.

tamaraaaa

:-h

tamaraaaa

AprilMay9 said:

Latex I really hate that guy. Where did he come from. He just reminds me of a giant ass pimple. I want to crawl out of my skin at the sight of him.

I have no clue.  I just had to throw a shout to the not banned lurkers that are still around... 

edoliesmom

AprilMay9 said:

I just yelled at a girl for being an idiot in my parking garage. I have no idea if she works at my work (public garage attached to my building) probably since I don't recognize anyone since I came back from my mat leave. Looking forward to sitting face to face with her in a meeting. Oh well she looked very young so I'm definitely senior to her.

What was she doing?

RedDawnsRevenge

I just need to make it through this week. DH says he's going to come home. I feel that I should start making arrangements in secret to get out. MIL said after 10 years of marriage I would have zero prospects ever again so I'm best to stay in the marriage. I'm so tired.

Dahlia414

Holy shit red dawn your story keeps getting worse and worse! It make me sad to hear how badly you are being treated. You are a great mom to make such sacrifices for your girls. I'm sure "prospects" are the last thing from your mind, but what a bitchy thing for you MIL to say! You deserve better.

J&NL

Just because her bat cave is unoccupied doesn't mean yours would be! What a whore.

ambarnett1

J&NL said:

Just because her bat cave is unoccupied doesn't mean yours would be! What a whore.

I just spit out my lemonade. That's exactly what I was thinking.

RedDawnsRevenge

Lol. I told her I'd become a lesbian: 1. A clean house 2. Less PMS and 3. I could wear her(my partners) cloths. I think she thought I was kidding... Though truthfully I'd likely become an asexual.

J&NL

Whatever you decide, I'm sure you'll have no issues in that department. 

J&NL

Just took a bath/shower, turned in my re-entry form to my old school and both kids are napping. Now, all I need to do is relax while I can and wait for a reply from my school. 

J&NL

Is the mom stutter a thing?? I thought I was losing my mind! 

RedDawnsRevenge

Mail just came. And I'm confused. I applied for medical in April and was denied. We've talked about this in the past. Well I just got this in the mail. There's one for May, June, July and September. They got my income wrong it was $400(VA disability payment) not $117 but still below their allowance. There's no insurance cards or anything. No instructions. What does it mean? Does this mean I can take the girls to see a doctor?

AcaAwkward

@RedDawnsRevenge‌ I'm so sorry you're going through all this. I definitely ditto speaking with an attorney. If you are planning on moving to NC, you might even try to get a phone consult with someone licensed in NC and see what resident requirements are for filing there. It could end up being a big ol' mess to file in CA and then try to move...especially with custody, etc to consider. And perhaps NC has more favorable laws on spousal support (it's almost nonexistent / impossible to get in TX). Good luck!

Twirple

@poru, sending job juju your way!

This just popped up on my FB feed.  These are some fancy nipple shields!

https://www.thedairyfairy.com/for-mom/silver-nipple-shield/

RedDawnsRevenge

Twirple said:

@poru, sending job juju your way!

This just popped up on my FB feed.  These are some fancy nipple shields!

https://www.thedairyfairy.com/for-mom/silver-nipple-shield/

Have you ever seen the episode of 3rd rock from the sun where he buys his human GF a thimble and it turns out to be an ancient nipple shield? Reminds me of that.

michaelad3

@RedDawnsRevenge‌ it looks like you were approved for Medi-Cal. Did they provide a Medi-Cal number for you and the girls? If so, I'd imagine you can use the number until a card comes. Otherwise, maybe try to call, but I know that could mean waiting on hold for ages. Good luck!

michaelad3

@poru good luck! I originally read your post as shitting not sitting. I was thinking wow she is sharing a lot! Lol

RedDawnsRevenge

There's only a case number. And a number to call, which is automated and pretty much reads you the letter.

snowbound

Why is the dentist office always so effing cold!!

Dahlia414

@RedDawnsRevenge‌ I bet the cards will follow in the mail when they are printed.

Teresa1896

@RedDawnsRevenge‌, the letter says you were approved. Yay! You will need your coverage number to make appts but I wonder if a pediatrician's office could look it up for you?

ETA: or a med office that treats Medicaid and low-income sliding scale families. Here the ones that determine Medicaid eligibility can also look up policy numbers.

RedDawnsRevenge

Made the girls apt at the county clinic tomorrow afternoon. I have to try to get Mo's shot record from the doctor in Vtown.

Tferr02

I'm so tired of my family. Less than 2 weeks until we are gone and I can't wait. Their fake help is almost worse than no help. My mom is way to addicted to Facebook, no one cares that much about what you write on it.

Ashleypixie

@RedDawnsRevenge‌ I'm probably not adding much more than everyone else has but you've been a SAHM and he's worked out of state so at anytime during the divorce process, even if you were to get a well paying job in the meantime, he does not qualify for any spousal support. And if he doesn't come home that is considered abandonment and will also work in your favor. It would also be awesome if you had some kind of proof that he was offered his job back and declined. I would collect every bit of paperwork you have for anything, bills in either of your names, tax returns, pay stubs. Etc.

J&NL

mamrotu73 said:

The news really confused me tonight. They are playing clips about evacuations, showing hurricane stuff... And I'm all "uhhh. It's a little cloudy here? Wouldn't it be at least raining if was that shitty on the coast? How did I not know a hurricane was coming?!"

And then they play a clip of a lady with giant hair who says "Ivan" and I realize it is the 10th anniversary of Hurricame Ivan.
But all the clips had "Live" tags in the corner and shit with no other indication that is was 10 years old.

Ok.. Now I understand why people were posting about it. I was really confused. Ivan sucked.

J&NL

I'm watching cloudy with a chance of meatballs 2 with J right now. This movie is seriously hilarious. I urge all of you to watch it.

J&NL

So funny

tamaraaaa

@Vinny424‌ totally cute and useable!

GUYS! I got my contraband package and it's amazing!! Pictures to come once my sick kid stops being a hot mess. THANK YOU @lia619‌! It probably came yesterday but I worked late coaching so I missed it... Saw it when I got home today and I love it!

snowbound

@Vinny424‌ I think its perfect and he is so adorable!

tamaraaaa

mamrotu73 said:

A friend of a friend on FB just posted about her "stitch and bitch" group. I want to be in such a group. I assume it is ladies sewing and complaining about shit. I enjoy both of those thigs.

That is seriously my life calling... Stitching and bitching, all day long.

deidremaria

swerbtastic3351 said:

I have missed so much! Big hugs @RedDawnsRevenge‌, it sounds like you need them. And of course I go MIA and @deidremaria‌ comes back! Sounds like you're in tough spot too, big big hugs lady. I'm sure I missed people, so lots of big hugs for everyone who needs them.

Missed you, gitl

Emily041285

@mamrotu73‌ my mom's teacher friends did that in the summer. Every week we'd go to a different teacher's house, the moms would bitch (towards the end that's all they did) and the kids played, usually there was food. It was fun!

rtv3

Hugs @RedDawnsRevenge what a sucky situation You are an awesome mom!

Good luck and much job juju @poru! And good luck with the school situation @J&NL!

@vinny424 your kid is adorable. Perfectly appropriate for a baptism invite. And I'm like the most straight-laced conservative ever, so I know

And happy birthday @AllyxCore85 <:-P