Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )

KatieGummow

I can't wait to see picture of everyone's buddy boxes!

I am pumping while driving and driving aimlessly until I am done so I can get drive thru coffee. Too embarrassed to go up and order while pumping.

KatieGummow

@purespark‌ hahaha @ fem bot show! You're hilarious. If I could guarantee they wouldn't ask me questions I wouldn't care as much.

ambarnett1

Okay, I'm guilty! I've been dirty lurking the past few days. So, Hi RTT!  :-h 

I've been so tired lately that I can hardly function. My brain is working in slow motion, so I have nothing good to contribute. I just feel like death and morning sickness is starting already (kill me).

To my buddy, I'm sorry. I only have one thing for your box so far. I promise it will be done sometime this week. 

Tferr02

Bought everything for my box! I just need to ship it. Probably a stupid question but are we supposed to put anything in it so they know who it's from?

eireyes

I don't even have the box for my contraband box yet... Hoping to go shopping today and get some or most of what I wanted to get.

knotty-girl

I would have liked to participate in this exchange thing but I totally missed out since I wasn't paying attention.

LaBelle0412

We loved the magnificent baby sleepers especially in NB size. Magnets are the best ever for MOTN changes. They are pricey, but high quality.

allyandmike24

Just mailed my contraband! Too scurrred to include booze, though- sorry buddy! 

Ashleypixie

I stuff all the things in my box.

Twirple

stgeist said:

@MrsW26 @Emily041285 You are both making me wonder if I should take DS in for a weight check. He had a big drop down to the 5% between his 2 month and 4 month appointments, but his doctor wasn't too concerned because he grew in length quite a bit. It has been bothering me, though; so, we started solids a little earlier than I had otherwise planned to. Hmm...

This is DD to a 'T', she is also at less than 5th percentile for weight, but between 25th and 50th for height.  My pediatrician isn't concerned, so I'm not going to worry.

Despite this, she still has a double chin and thigh rolls!

Ashleypixie

This weekend kicked my ass and I'm so exhausted today! I wanted to lay down and finally got this stinking baby to take a nap and the school calls, my 9yo missed the bus! How do you forget to leave school? So I had to wake up LO and go pick her up. This poor baby can't get a break, every nap gets interrupted.

stgeist

Twirple said:

stgeist said:

@MrsW26 @Emily041285 You are both making me wonder if I should take DS in for a weight check. He had a big drop down to the 5% between his 2 month and 4 month appointments, but his doctor wasn't too concerned because he grew in length quite a bit. It has been bothering me, though; so, we started solids a little earlier than I had otherwise planned to. Hmm...

This is DD to a 'T', she is also at less than 5th percentile for weight, but between 25th and 50th for height.  My pediatrician isn't concerned, so I'm not going to worry.

Despite this, she still has a double chin and thigh rolls!

DS is just starting to get some thigh rolls! I love me some chunky baby legs!   :x

Twirple

Contraband is purchased.  I will be shipping it this week!

RedDawnsRevenge

I'm thinking I might drive down to SB and go job hunting. I feel so lost in life right now. I just don't even know what to do. DH is an idiot. I am contemplating other drastic changes as well.

Xxlilies

Sorry guys I'm out of the loop and three million posts behind so just jumping in as I'll never catch up. Loving interacting with everyone on Instagram though . I'm addicted . My username is the same over there

Red dawn - I'm not sure what's up but I hope you re okay

My baby is having epic naps today
One three hour one and is working on a two hour
Growth spurt ? He took zero naps yesterday and went to bed an hour late
Who knows

Making homemade tomato sauce to go with dinner I have tomato overload going on
Wish I could give away some to someone

Xxlilies

Ooh what happened with poppy? Page number ?
Last I read she was depressed and going to mental ward
Was there further developments ? Please to be enlightening
This is what I get for hanging out on Instagram

J&NL

allyandmike24 said:

Just mailed my contraband! Too scurrred to include booze, though- sorry buddy! 

So I looked up the video of taylor swift and the prince singing with bon jovi (from your gif) and I must say I HATE the way taylor was dancing when she first walked on stage. She makes me so stabby.

J&NL

However, I do love how the prince is dancing all awkwardly lol 

RedDawnsRevenge

Have you ever felt the best thing you could do was leave? I am contemplating leaving DH. I don't feel he has our children's best interests at heart. For over 10years now I have followed him through everything. But I'm not sure I can anymore. I don't want my parents raising my daughters but unless I go down there I have no child care to go back to work. And know he doesn't want to go back to his old company because they won't offer his friend his job back? I am so irrationally mad.

avidkeo

dani+california said:

My box was successfully delivered today!! Just checked the tracking. EEEEEEE

This makes me want to run to the shop to check my post!!! lol.

avidkeo

Hugs @RedDawnsRevenge sometimes men just can't see the wider picture. DH and I call it "going into his cave" when he retreats into himself. He hasn't done it for a while, thank god, but we were within inches of divorcing last time he really retreated. 

I am home sick, not fun. But DH and LO are both asleep and I'm on the couch bumping and working on an assignment. Its actually very peaceful!

J&NL

@reddawnsrevenge do whats best for you and baby. That's all that truly matters. 

hordol

RedDawnsRevenge said:

Have you ever felt the best thing you could do was leave? I am contemplating leaving DH. I don't feel he has our children's best interests at heart. For over 10years now I have followed him through everything. But I'm not sure I can anymore. I don't want my parents raising my daughters but unless I go down there I have no child care to go back to work. And know he doesn't want to go back to his old company because they won't offer his friend his job back? I am so irrationally mad.

I don't think you're being irrational. If he's holding a grudge against this company because his friend lost his job but it's where he needs to be to support his family, he doesn't have his priorities in order. Hope you two can talk it out soon.

ambarnett1

@RedDawnsRevenge‌ if he's continually not making good choices for your family then he needs to know that the end is near and he better shape up or you're leaving. Of course, if you are very unhappy then leaving will be the best for meadow and ryver. Take care of yourself first and it will all fall into place.

RedDawnsRevenge

@aprilmay9 so in March DH went to work for a traveling wind company. They climb towers work on wind turbines, that sort of thing. And they were going from job to job all over the states. Well a couple months ago his friend Will got a call from an old friend wanting him to go work for him in NC selling life insurance for a brokerage. Will went on ahead of DH and DH became his companies lead tech. So finally DH joins Will in NC and goes through the process of getting his license and everything to sell out there. Well it's not all roses out there as promised. And they only make money when they sell, there's no base pay and you get paid months after the policy is sold. So MIL has been paying our bills. I have been telling DH it's a scam this whole time, but I know nothing and he doesn't listen. MIL agrees with me, this is a first. So last week he decided he would go back to work in wind as things aren't working. Well they will only give him $23 an hour, not the 30 he wants. Also if he wants FT and benefits he must relocate to IL. And the 3rd thing: they don't want Will back. So DH has refused their offer. He's crazy. Diesel mechanics only make $16 an hour with their own tools. Which are all here. So no tools= minimum wage. Then he says he'll take it until I can come out there and go back to work. I don't have a license in NC. And they aren't free, and I have no one here to watch my kids while I go and get my paperwork to send off for NC license. It takes 3-4m to get a license, it's not quick. I want to go back to work, that's not the issue. But refusing a job because they don't want to hire your friend back while your family suffers is insane. So next weekend I'm going down to my parents, my mom who is also a nurse is going to watch my kids while I go hunting. But no one can ever know we are related as it's not allowed in her company.

Am I crazy? Sorry this was so long

allyandmike24

Man, @reddawnsrevenge I'm so sorry that you're at this point. I don't have anything to add to PP's, but I wanted to send a hug. It sounds like this situation is so exhausting and frustrating and I'm hoping that you and DH can work things out. 

Ashleypixie

@RedDawnsRevenge‌ I feel for you. It's a difficult thing to go through. And you are not irrationally mad, that sounds stupid. I don't understand why he's sticking up for his friend at the expense of his own livelihood. It sounds like he needs a wake up call. I don't mean to trivialize the whole ordeal by saying that, but sometimes you're own wake up call happens when you get proactive. Having both stayed and left a marriage I can say that both situations are the biggest struggle a person can face. If you ever need to talk I'm here for you.

RedDawnsRevenge

dani+california said:

RedDawnsRevenge said:

@aprilmay9 so in March DH went to work for a traveling wind company. They climb towers work on wind turbines, that sort of thing. And they were going from job to job all over the states. Well a couple months ago his friend Will got a call from an old friend wanting him to go work for him in NC selling life insurance for a brokerage. Will went on ahead of DH and DH became his companies lead tech. So finally DH joins Will in NC and goes through the process of getting his license and everything to sell out there. Well it's not all roses out there as promised. And they only make money when they sell, there's no base pay and you get paid months after the policy is sold. So MIL has been paying our bills. I have been telling DH it's a scam this whole time, but I know nothing and he doesn't listen. MIL agrees with me, this is a first. So last week he decided he would go back to work in wind as things aren't working. Well they will only give him $23 an hour, not the 30 he wants. Also if he wants FT and benefits he must relocate to IL. And the 3rd thing: they don't want Will back. So DH has refused their offer. He's crazy. Diesel mechanics only make $16 an hour with their own tools. Which are all here. So no tools= minimum wage. Then he says he'll take it until I can come out there and go back to work. I don't have a license in NC. And they aren't free, and I have no one here to watch my kids while I go and get my paperwork to send off for NC license. It takes 3-4m to get a license, it's not quick. I want to go back to work, that's not the issue. But refusing a job because they don't want to hire your friend back while your family suffers is insane. So next weekend I'm going down to my parents, my mom who is also a nurse is going to watch my kids while I go hunting. But no one can ever know we are related as it's not allowed in her company.

Am I crazy? Sorry this was so long

You're not crazy. Your husband is a selfish asshole. He has kids and a wife to provide for...I don't give a fuck if it's shoveling horse shit on a farm and working nights at Burger King. Tell that man to smarten the fuck up or you're outie 5000. You're already doing everything on your own anyway, what's he contributing? His friend Will is more important than you? What the fuck. I'm so mad for you!

I even sold my beloved '69 VW so we would have an income. And funny thing I just got done telling my mom I'd go back to working at BK if it would save my family. Honestly DH has never ever had a job he's ever gotten for himself, he has always depended on a friend or his mom for work. I e worked my ass off for every job I've ever had. When I was working as a nurse he used to call me a glorified maid. I'm sorry trauma nursing is hard. It is so hard and so demanding. We have to have all the knowledge and training ICU does plus tons more certifications. The burn out rate is so high, and I am burnt out, but I'm willing to go back to save my babies from living in a cardboard box on the side of the freeway.

baileymama3

Aaaaagh I am so bad at keeping up!!! I got so nauseous yesterday and even threw up....but I still like coffee so I think I am ok.

@Poru- I feel phantom kicks all the flipping time. creeps me out

@AprilMay9 so glad you said it....I definitely forget I have a baby sometimes...

As for HPV etc, it sucks and I hate the slut shaming too. I had a friend have to get a LEEP recently and called and asked me all the questions (since I am the ONE person she knows has it/has admitted it) and she was so embarrassed- I was like, "80% of people have it and the others probably just weren't susceptible."  Her boyfriends response, "I don't have it, how did you get it?" A-hole- he doesn't even know if he has it!  As for it being scary, anytime you go in for a procedure to remove cancerous cells and wait for the results-- even a mole, is scary. Your future rests on that phone call.

Working is good- pumping is hard. I am tired. Andrew has been in our bed for a week due to rolling and screaming every 2 minutes in his crib. I need more sleep...

just popping in to say hi bummer about missing the contraband exchange--- you guys work to quick for me!!

RedDawnsRevenge

Vinny424 said:

um @reddawnsrevenge a glorified maid? fuck that. That would induce a rage. what. an. asshole. As far as work goes... could you work for a college doing online courses?

No I don't have an MSN nor am I in school anymore working on it so not qualified to teach nursing. Because getting a masters is hard and expensive so I stopped.

RedDawnsRevenge

@celticlullaby‌ id really love to be a MH nurse and was once offered a position at an inpatient facility but turned it down. I wish I hadn't.

I want to see you in a Viking hat. Just thinking of it makes me laugh.

RedDawnsRevenge

Vinny424 said:

RedDawnsRevenge said:

Vinny424 said:

um @reddawnsrevenge a glorified maid? fuck that. That would induce a rage. what. an. asshole. As far as work goes... could you work for a college doing online courses?

No I don't have an MSN nor am I in school anymore working on it so not qualified to teach nursing. Because getting a masters is hard and expensive so I stopped.

if you were enrolled online and took one class at a time would the income out weigh the cost of the program?

I was doing western governors university and their program is unlimited units for a solid price. So 3 units or 19units it all costs the same. Fresno state no longer offers an online MSN so id have to do in class.

ambarnett1

Fuck your husband @RedDawnsRevenge. He's a dick. I will go cut off his dick for you if you don't. He is so selfish. It's ridiculous.

RedDawnsRevenge

Now he says he's coming home on the 22nd. I asked him what the game plan is. He doesn't have one. So it's all up to me. So much for my plans to go job hunting. He might just have to eat it and come with me and look for jobs or stay here by himself while I take the girls down south with me.

Twirple

@RedDawnsRevenge, I'm sorry that you have to deal with that crap from your husband.  I really hope that you can talk some sense into him, for the sake of your family.

thomas930

Lots of hugs @RedDawnsRevenge‌. I have no advice but I hope it works out for the best for you and the girls.

Twirple

So, this was my Friday night/Saturday morning...

DS has a cold, that is causing his asthma to flare up which makes him cough like crazy.  I put him to bed, and 5 minutes later he comes out of his room (typical for a toddler) but rather than coming to talk, he drops to his knees right by his door and looks at my pitifully.  I open my arms to ask him to snuggle, and he slowly makes his way over and climbs into my lap, gives me a hug, then pulls back and coughs...

and throws up...

on himself...

and me...

multiple times...

So, I do the only think I can do, and laugh, then hug him to me (sandwiching the mess between us) and carry him into the bathroom to strip us both down.  He goes to bed and sleeps until about 3:00 in the morning, when I hear him calling for me.

I stumble up into his room in the dark and he is asking for his lovey, so I start feeling around on his bed and put my hand into cat poop...it was still warm.

I had missed cleaning the litter box by 1 days and cat was pissed, so he pooped on DS's bed.  DS doesn't like to be covered with a blanket at night, so I strip the blanket off and leave the sheets.  Next morning we all get up and rush out to take DS to the doctor.  When I get home I find out that cat thinks I didn't get the hint, since I haven't had time to clean the box yet, and he's peed on DS's bed too.

Have I mentioned that our washing machine isn't working?  And DH is out of town?

By the way, anyone want a cat?

RedDawnsRevenge

OMG @Twirple‌ that sucks

RedDawnsRevenge

Sorry for all the drama guys and thanks for letting me vent and the support. So here's a cute baby in the bath.

JessieAlbin

DH just sent me out to get junk food and his McFlurry came home untouched. That is freaking will power. And love. I have lost 3 pounds though, I wanna get a move on this baby weight! Maybe my back won't hurt so bad if I'm carrying around less weight.