Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )

eireyes

I graduated HS in 2002, BCE in 2007 (yeah victory lap...  ;-)) Kids I babysat for are now in college, and one was recently on AGT! God does that make me feel old...

Teresa1896

Graduated from HS in 1999. Our song was, of course, Party Like it's 1999. College grad in 2003.

You all make me feel like a freaking dinosaur. Damn kids. Get off my lawn!

Tferr02

So proud of DH!

NaNaNarwhals

Vinny424 said:

Hello @Vinny424‌ forgive me, only my second post. need to learn to gif

Twirple

I graduated HS in 1996, BA in 2001. 

DS has a cold and was up 4 times on Tuesday night, until I put Baby Vicks on his chest, then he slept the rest of the night.  Last night I put it on him before bed, and he slept all night long.  I'm just going to start putting it on him every time he gets a cold.

Dahlia414

Baby Vicks is the best. DS1 always slept better when I put it on him during colds. This is reminding me to stock up for fall.

edoliesmom

jellysparkles said:

As of today, after years of swimming in it - zero credit card debt!

How exciting!! That must feel like a huge weight lifted off of you. <:-P

Roufi

That's amazing @jellysparkles‌! Congratulations!!!

pineconey

GOING ON A DATE TONIGHT!

tamaraaaa

 I was HS in 2004, BS in 2008 and MS in 2011.  For not being SUPER old, I sure feel it sometimes.  If I had the option, I would be a student forever.  I love school and being in fun classes.

We had open house for the local Mother's Day Out this morning.  My kid had an epic blow out in the carseat and meltdown to go with it within the first 5 minutes of being there.  I don't think they were impressed, and I really wanted to go.  I'm seriously kinda embarrassed to go back...

edoliesmom

pineconey said:

GOING ON A DATE TONIGHT!

Funnn!!! What are y'all going to do?

allyandmike24

@jellysparkles that is awesome!!!!!!!!! We started snowballing our student loans and have paid off about half. Its a magical feeling. 

...ps: we got an apartment!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Thanks so much for the A14 juju- it's a powerful thing. Twice the space, $200/month less than we're paying now and this is our view: 

We're across the street from an amazing park on the waterfront here in Boston. One block away from the T. Next door to a gorgeous community garden. 

ambarnett1

Congrats Jelly! We only have about 2k in debt, so I'm hoping to pay it off by Christmas. Of course, once I graduate college we will have that to pay off.

Emily041285

That's awesome @jellysparkles‌! Fortunately DH is a stickler for paying off our credit cards every month. I used to hate it but it really keeps us in our budget.

edoliesmom

Jelly, did you want to make the Siggy poll?

pineconey

edoliesmom said:

pineconey said:

GOING ON A DATE TONIGHT!

Funnn!!! What are y'all going to do?

Going to a movie- not my first choice, but since DH initiated, I'd be ok with ANYTHING.

RedDawnsRevenge

When you say "debt" do you only look at credit card debt or cars and house loans?

edoliesmom

RedDawnsRevenge said:

When you say "debt" do you only look at credit card debt or cars and house loans?

I would say anything you owe money on to someone/something else is debt, so yes, cars, house loans, etc.

Sorry you're having a rough time, Dani.  >:D< I know it's hard when you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, but I promise there is one! I hope the meds work for you and help you find some peace and patience until everything starts looking up.

Tferr02

Oh @dani+california‌ come to Venice and we will lay on the beach and get drunk together.
I'm sorry it's going so rough right now. You are the mom, not a super hero. You are doing the best you can and days will get easier. G is having a really HORRIBLE time sleeping right now too and I was losing it this morning. However I have DS1 to look at now and be like oh yes these nights and days sucked but it doesn't last forever. Now I have an incredibly independent/smart 2 year old and G will outgrow this stage too.

speechie517

macgrs said:

purespark said:

I can't nurse with a cover anymore.  LO freaks right the hell out.  I don't mind, I'll NIP without one, but it sure made my in-laws uncomfortable when they were visiting. 

I've never used a full cover, but I usually drape a burp cloth or receiving blanket over my shoulder if I'm not doing the one up/one down thing with my shirts. Lately O has been tearing everything off which is going to be interesting on Monday when I have to nurse her mid-flight. Boobs on a plane! Supposedly JetBlue is good about NIP, but we shall see...

And I graduated high school in '03.

I nursed 5x this past weekend on planes. I don't think anyone even noticed, so I'm sure you'll be fine. People are either sleeping, phone playing, or complaining about flight cost, leg room, luggage allowances, etc.

katess84

dani+california said:

Just when I feel like I'm getting shit under control, my whole world crumbles. LO has been sleeping like garbage, and even his trusty midday nap that I could always use to collect myself has gone to shit. I feel like there's no end in sight, and it's causing DH and I to argue which we never do. We just can't agree how to handle it. I just walked out the door and went to the walk in clinic and got anti-anxiety meds. I've never medicated myself before and I'm so scared. How did it get to this? I feel like the worst wife. DH does so much and he handles everything with unending patience. Why is this so hard for me? I'm the mom, I'm supposed to be better at this. I'm just crying in my car and I don't want to go home. Good God I need to be drunk on a beach somewhere. Ahhh

I know I'm new here, but I just want to say that I don't know how many times I have had these same thoughts.  I swear my DH is a saint with his patience and I just freak out over everything.  I realized he does struggle and just hides it better than me!  Good luck, you are a good mom and wife!

kseccomb17

Hi guys :-h

I started my first week back to school. Holy.shit. I may have bitten off more than I can chew. I am seeing my doctor for anxiety @Dani, and it's going to be the 4th time in 3 weeks. Atleast you found the courage to get help, and hopefully your meds can pull you through this difficult time. Know that it doesn't have to be this way for ever and won't be if you're motivated.

Dahlia414

Hang in there Dani, many of us are right there with you. It seems like these babies push us to our breaking points with the regressions before they finally turn a corner. It will get better!

Emily041285

@dani+california‌ you have always been such a great support system for everyone here, myself included. Lean on us girl!

I've had a few nights when I could honestly say I could see how shaken baby syndrome happens. And I did what you did and walked away.

Sounds like it might be a wine night for you!

fireflygirl12

All the hugs @dani. I think that moms are especially hard on themselves around this time post-partum because you feel like you should have all your shit together by now. But obviously it's not the case since hormones are usually still out of whack and babies keep changing things. I think it's great that you recognized there is an issue and that you're getting help. No shame in medication for these sort of things. Most people fail to recognize PPD or PPA this late pp, but it's actually a really common time for it to show up.

fireflygirl12

Just got back from a few days at the lake with family and no wi-fi. I was irritated not to have the interwebs at first, but it meant no excuse to work and all the time for my family, which turned out to be great. Also enjoying my first pumpkin spice latte of the year this morning. Mmmm.

AcaAwkward

You're doing an awesome job @dani+california‌ !!! Give yourself some grace, and remember:

Bluebird2318

Hugs, Dani. It's so hard when you feel overwhelmed with so much to do and there's no agreement on how it should be done. DH and I have gone through that on occasion with him working outside the home and me being a SAHM. There are ups and downs along the way, but overall it gets better. I'm glad you're doing what you can to take care of yourself! And seriously, take a nice long shower if you need it, or go out and get a mani/pedi! Fuck tha police!

Roufi

@Dani+california I'm so sorry you're going through this.Being a mom is hard, but you deserve to feel like yourself and happy. Be kind to yourself.

Congrats on the new place @Allyandmike24! Sounds awesome

H survived skydiving, now I need to survive today. Really looking forward to getting away for our friend's wedding this weekend. I could really use a change of scene.

kimberpoo

random thought for the day: I wish I kept up with this thread. HA! I just can't. but I try to pop in on occasion.

2nd random thought: I hate my secretary and can't wait to fire her. I'm not the 'boss' yet, but OH when I am............................................she is currently smoking in the lobby and it's floating into my office. and yes, smoking is illegal here. the real boss does it too. ug.

she also is a drama queen, talks about everyone, is rude to clients, and makes herself physically sick in the bathroom every day. I wanna punch her >:( but on the bright side, she makes everyone else look really good!

deidremaria

Oh Dani, I'm so sorry. Motherhood is hard. No one is perfect at it. Don't beat yourself up

Bluebird2318

dani+california said:

Wow you ladies sure know how to make a gangsta tear up! Thanks for all the kind words, it means a lot.

Emily041285

Totally just called @mamrotu73‌ by her first name on fb, felt kinda weird. Almost typed her bump name....

Twirple

poru said:

I don't know, @poru‌, but I'm dealing with the same thing. D just won't eat if his super interesting brother is in eyesight. I feel like I'm feeding him in 5 minute snatches a million times a day.

Yeah the main problem is I can't escape the super interesting toddler who frequently wants to sit next to us and talk (we apparently just started the jabber mouth phase) and DD just looks at her brother and giggles. Sigh. I don't know why it drives me so crazy though!!

DD is doing this too.  It is latch, pop off, latch, pop off, latch, pop off... My nipples are starting to hurt from this.  It is especially difficult when I am trying to make dinner or keep DS distracted.  I might try wearing a necklace and see if it keeps her more focused on the task at hand.

AcaAwkward

Can you direct her attention to a nursing necklace by moving her hands (and thus, her eyes) to the necklace? Or try playing soothing music or white noise while you nurse? @poru‌

We went to Meet the Teacher day at L's "school" (YEP. SCHOOL!) I think it went well. She can be really timid around new people and I think she was bummed she doesn't get to go back to her old teachers / room. But Mr Potato Head warmed her right up. Yay taters!

fireflygirl12

I've been working from my laptop in the kitchen since we haven't set the office back up yet, which means I've been eating all the food. I finally switched to our regular office, which doubles as the guest bedroom, so now I just took a 2 hour nap. Can't win. 

J&NL

Dani I've been there before. There is no shame in feeling the way you do because this shit is hard. If I wasn't breast feeding I would try to get back on anxiety meds.

ambarnett1

Hugs Dani! I know how it is. I struggle with it everyday. It'll get better! I'm only a week in on restarting my meds and I feel much better.

lokimau

poru said:

Dani lots of hugs girl!! You are a great mom!!

I have been getting irrationally frustrated while nursing lately because LO is sooooo distracted. Pops on and off and cranes her head to look at everything. She has been barely eating from me she just likes lying against my boob and checking the world out. And for some reason (usually because I am on a time schedule to get to work or get the toddler dinner) this makes my blood boil. I have had to hand her to DH I get so worked up. WTH is wrong with me and how can I get her to not be so distracted? Covering doesn't work. Not does dark room (and not realistic).

DD does the same thing. Gets so frustrating when we need to be somewhere. If I just say fuck it and leave she wails within 30 minutes like I am star in her. Just eat when the boob is out kiddo.

lokimau

Also as far as debt, I have never had a credit card up until last month. DH has tons of debt, most from before we ever got together. No car debt since we lease and we rent.