Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )

Lindsay808

mamrotu73 said:

Just toured the child care facility on our base today. I guess we are behind the power curve on this, but I've been trying to separate from the Air Force and didn't expect to keep getting denied this whole time. So, still trying hard to get fired... but figured we need a back up plan JIC.

Pro's: It is on base, so it is super convenient. The infant room is separate, has learning goals even though they are all under 1 year, and I can visit throughout the day on breaks to breastfeed if I want. Or I can send pumped milk or formula, whatever ends up working best. Plus, it is cheaper than off-base care.

Con's: They are full right now, so I got on the waiting list. 

The lady in charge said in May, there is usually a big shift of kids to older rooms though. That would line up nicely for when my maternity leave ends, so hopefully we have a viable care plan now!

If only we could line up our next assignment for something where we live together and I don't deploy. It won't be pretty if they try to deploy us at the same time.

You're being denied from separation? I thought if women got pregnant, they have the right to separate? (DH prior AF, navy brat). I'm sorry you're going through that stress.

snmetz7

poru said:

nikki912 has your DS started playing with his yet?  Mine doesn't really, except occasionally in the bath.  His BFF is constantly tugging at it though through his diaper in public, and stripping his diaper off and tugging on it.  I wonder if every boy goes through that stage or not.

I don't have a boy so my experience is just 2nd hand, but all my friends with boys, all the boys have gone through the stage of "finding themselves." You just need to sit them down and explain that you don't do it in front of people and that if he wants to play with it he has to go to his room and shut the door. seems to work. Though it is pretty funny when out of nowhere they get up run to their room and shut the door.

Sisimama10

Back in L&D getting more terbutaline. Really hate this drug and how it makes my heart want to beat out of my chest.

Emily041285

@Sisimama10‌ thinking about you!

Lindsay808

Sisimama10 said:

Back in L&D getting more terbutaline. Really hate this drug and how it makes my heart want to beat out of my chest.

((Hugs)) Hold tight a bit longer, little man!

rockstarlaw

Emily041285 said:

I had an employee give her two weeks today....three weeks before I'm due. Like I have time for this. :-w

Yowzer. That's rough! Good luck!

rockstarlaw

Holy cow. I had never contemplated little boy penis issues before. I don't know that I'm ready for this!

nikki912

@poru I've only noticed some unconscious pulling in the bathroom but nothing I'd consider "finding himself" yet. I've dealt with this a lot in behvioral therapy so I'm pretty prepared when the time comes. The most important thing is not to make them feel ashamed or that its a big deal. Teaching them polite behavior is of course important too.

It's so sad that some parents freak out and deny that it's happening. They call it disgusting and not what their child is doing. It's totally normal and making kids feel bad about it only sets the tone for sex discussions in the future.

fourthnlast

Sisimama10 said:

Back in L&D getting more terbutaline. Really hate this drug and how it makes my heart want to beat out of my chest.

Sending T&P's!

Lindsay808

@mamarotu73 Reading that brought me back to DH's AF days. Just the waiting around to be told if you will be approved or denied...and pretty much always getting the opposite of what you wanted. Again, I'm sorry for the added stress you're going through. The guard looks like a great option to avoid double deployments. I really hope it all works out and you get some answers soon. 

Just another example of nonsense BS: DH had only one year left in the AF (already turned down the opportunity to reenlist) and was happily stationed at Hickam (where we met). AF decided to waste money and move him to Minot for his last year. Seriously? Does that make any sense? By the time he actually got there, it was less than a year left. 

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chichi589

Woke to this from a friend this morning could not stop laughing!

natpirt

My 3 yr old GIRL is finding herself. It scares me to thinking she has seen something inappropriate, but I know she is just curious to the sensations she gets when she plays around down there. We've had the talk so I now catch her alone with her panties down. She is 3 so there is only so much explaining I can do, hope sooner rather than later it gets old to her...lol

hlm184

mamrotu73 said:

@Lindsay808‌ I find that the AF, especially AFPC, rarely makes sense. A lot of rumors have gone around saying that AFPC is trying underhandedly screw people over (like deny voluntary separations now while targeting those people for involuntary separation later with fewer entitlements) but I don't think they are smart enough to pull off something that clever. I think it is just incompetence and poor policy guidance. It's a management system that treats people and items without looking at mission impact other than filling holes on paper.

That's exactly what they are doing though.  They did it the last time they had a big RIF, too.

Lindsay808

mamrotu73 said:

@Lindsay808‌ I find that the AF, especially AFPC, rarely makes sense. A lot of rumors have gone around saying that AFPC is trying underhandedly screw people over (like deny voluntary separations now while targeting those people for involuntary separation later with fewer entitlements) but I don't think they are smart enough to pull off something that clever. I think it is just incompetence and poor policy guidance. It's a management system that treats people and items without looking at mission impact other than filling holes on paper.

That's what my dad has always said when people try to come up with such rumors - they're just not smart enough for that and are far too lazy. 

KatieGummow

I thought HDBD counted as maternity photos?

@Sisimama10‌ t&p heading your way, momma. You just love the hospital, don't you? (That's supposed to be a funny comment and not mean...)

snmetz7

KatieGummow said:

I thought HDBD counted as maternity photos? @Sisimama10‌ t&p heading your way, momma. You just love the hospital, don't you? (That's supposed to be a funny comment and not mean...)

@katiegummow ugh you're so mean! she was just looking for support! :-P

sisi I seemed to have missed your original post but sorry that you're back in L&D and I hope things calm down for you!

Sisimama10

KatieGummow said:

I thought HDBD counted as maternity photos?

@Sisimama10‌ t&p heading your way, momma. You just love the hospital, don't you? (That's supposed to be a funny comment and not mean...)

I guess so! I'm so sick of coming here! It would be worth it if I got to leave with a healthy baby, but it's annoying coming here and going home.

I was working this morning and started crying because the cramping and contractions were so painful. I am a tiny bit dilated now, which I wasn't last weekend, so the contractions are actually doing something now.

I had a really bad reaction to the terbutaline, so I won't be getting it again. They're hoping to send me back home again today if they can get the contractions to stop again.

BiggerinRealLife

poru said:

nikki912 has your DS started playing with his yet?  Mine doesn't really, except occasionally in the bath.  His BFF is constantly tugging at it though through his diaper in public, and stripping his diaper off and tugging on it.  I wonder if every boy goes through that stage or not.

My "Boy Mom" friend would give you an emphatic yes, with many stories to back it up.

BiggerinRealLife

@Sisimama10‌ Thoughts and prayers for you!

chichi589

@Sisimama10 t&p that's no fun:(

nikki912

@poru at this age that's all I'm going to say. As they get older they may need more info but if they never felt shamed before they shouldn't be worried about coming to you and asking any questions they may have.

Just a heads up some kids dont stop doing it in public with the simple "just in private" statement. If that happens a more in depth conversation is needed. And possibly some behavior intervention.

KatieGummow

@snmetz7‌ you wouldn't understand what I am going through. I am just so hormonal and cannot control my thoughts and actions.

@Sisimama10‌ I can so appreciate that. I would not be a fan of what you've been going through either without having the benefit of being able to come home with a squish or two.

BiggerinRealLife

natpirt said:

My 3 yr old GIRL is finding herself. It scares me to thinking she has seen something inappropriate, but I know she is just curious to the sensations she gets when she plays around down there. We've had the talk so I now catch her alone with her panties down. She is 3 so there is only so much explaining I can do, hope sooner rather than later it gets old to her...lol

No hon, this is normal and likely not the result of her seeing something inappropriate. All children go through phases of "sex play" before adolescence, starting around the time they start to notice that their bodies are different from Mommy and Daddy's. They start to wonder why, and start to explore. I've gotten "patted down" by friends children giving me hugs, and have seen little kindergartners sitting on their heels rocking during story time because it feels good. It's a big part of why kids play "house" and undress their barbies because they're trying to figure things out and sometimes explore through playing with other kids. Before hormones enter into the picture it's not sexual; it's not about attraction or orgasams, it's about curiosity and comfort. Pp said it well, teaching societal boundaries and politeness is important, as is not shaming them and having open conversations so they can learn that it's safe to come to you to talk about sex in the future.

KatieGummow

This is about how far I am going to get with laundry today....

natpirt

BiggerinRealLife said:

My 3 yr old GIRL is finding herself. It scares me to thinking she has seen something inappropriate, but I know she is just curious to the sensations she gets when she plays around down there. We've had the talk so I now catch her alone with her panties down. She is 3 so there is only so much explaining I can do, hope sooner rather than later it gets old to her...lol

No hon, this is normal and likely not the result of her seeing something inappropriate. All children go through phases of "sex play" before adolescence, starting around the time they start to notice that their bodies are different from Mommy and Daddy's. They start to wonder why, and start to explore. I've gotten "patted down" by friends children giving me hugs, and have seen little kindergartners sitting on their heels rocking during story time because it feels good. It's a big part of why kids play "house" and undress their barbies because they're trying to figure things out and sometimes explore through playing with other kids. Before hormones enter into the picture it's not sexual; it's not about attraction or orgasams, it's about curiosity and comfort. Pp said it well, teaching societal boundaries and politeness is important, as is not shaming them and having open conversations so they can learn that it's safe to come to you to talk about sex in the future.

Thank you, I know she is just curious. Thankfully she doesn't do this in public, mostly when it is just me and her home alone. I don't shame her, just tried to explain to her she shouldn't play down there or it could make her sick or sore. 

BiggerinRealLife

Britt had her baby! So crazy!!!

Also, two more weeks until maternity leave!!! Not that I'm counting or anything.

KatieGummow

@poru, I just adore you. How is baby girl doing? Moving more??

fourthnlast

chichi589 said:

Woke to this from a friend this morning could not stop laughing!

LOL- My sister makes those! 

nikki912

Got the TDap booster today. Holy crap my arm hurts. Waaay more than flu. And they told me I got it just in time- you can't get it after 36 weeks until baby is born. I had no idea!

snmetz7

@poru it is set up in the front seat

kseccomb17

@Sisimama10‌ sorry about the terb. I hope it's able to get things calmed down, though.

kseccomb17

+2 protein again.. ugh.

KatieGummow

poru said:

 @KatieGummow she has given me a little more movement. I am feeling better about it and not worrying. 

Also -- just a warning -- my water broke a week early picking up a laundry basket.  So I consider that a "high risk activity" at this stage in the game.    Take it easy over there.

I am screen shotting this and sending it to Ryan!!!

Glad she is resuming her activity for you. I can't wait to see what she looks like. DS is just so cute.

FyI those iron pills do the same for me. I don't know how I haven't lost weight since taking them.

snmetz7

snmetz7 said:

@poru it is set up in the front seat

am i right?

danamarie421

A co-worker just asked me if I'm getting excited... The sad thing is that my initial reaction was "About what?".....

eireyes

Cheap thrills - GBS negative! 

Funny part about the test? My office has you do your own swabs... Talk about some freakin' gymnastics...

danamarie421

toothpastechica said:

danamarie421 said:

A co-worker just asked me if I'm getting excited... The sad thing is that my initial reaction was "About what?".....

I find that an awkward question...when it comes up at work I usually say "about getting out of here? Hell yeah!"

Yeah it definitely is awkward.... I've gotten the question before and have wanted to say ... "No, not really." just to mess with them...this was just the first time where I legit didn't know what she was talking about....

Twirple

@Poru I'm glad your LO is moving more.

@Sisimama10 I hope they get the contractions stopped.

So, my boss just came out of his office, cracking up laughing, and announced that he has a new nephew!  Apparently his brothers girlfriend didn't know she was pregnant and thought she had to poop.

They all heard her screaming from the bathroom and rushed in, thinking she had fallen down.  She was screaming "There's a baby in the toilet!"

Mom and baby are both doing well.  Baby boy is being monitored to make sure there are no complications stemming from his lack of prenatal care and unorthodox entry into the world.

Twirple

I know @ColeenSwerb, I feel the same way!  I waddled over to where he was telling this story and stood there, in all my pregnant glory, thinking "How could she not know?!"

pineconey

so many skipped posts. BOOOOO.
such is life in the RTT.


i'm effing miserable today- got my TdAP on saturday and i'm so exhausted.  all i've done is sleep.  i have a bump on my arm from the injection that's warm to the touch and the size of my hand.
LOVE that this is an immunization recommended for pregnant women- as if we aren't miserable as hell already at this point.
i plan on having kids pretty close together and i can't say that i'll bother re-immunizing if i'm birthing again in 2 years. the damn thing is supposed to be a 10 year immunization, right?
all i know is i'm crabby and that i now have to work a full day some other time this week since i'm not working my 1/2 today.
friday's my last day of work.
and then i intend to sleep until the baby arrives....