Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )

Stace0616

Doctor just called to tell me my white blood cell count is elevated at a 16. Since I'm not fighting off an infection (to my knowledge), they want to test me monthly and keep an eye on it. I hate when they tell you not to worry about something, because then you ALWAYS worry about it!

BiggerinRealLife

DH said he would have been open to taking mine if he didn't hate my dad so much. Which I believe and totally get. But it was super important to him when we got married that we have the same last name, because of some baggage he has with his family of origin. So I took his, which was a huge deal to me. But I wanted to honor him by doing so. And I never got used to it. So I told him about a year ago that I wanted to change mine again and have two last names. Not hyphenated, but two just the same. Mine and his. I have yet to do it and won't start getting it done until after the baby gets here for simplicity's sake. But he's come around too, and when we get our family name tattoos after the baby's born he'll get both names tattooed, as will I. He and I both feel like the baggage we have with our old families is over now, and we've not only given our last names a new meaning, but a new legacy as well. We're rerouting our family trees, as it were.

Megczapla

@stace0616 yea, I'd tell them easier said than done! Sheesh! Well for now I guess you just need to listen to them and try to forget they even mentioned it. Just focus on the home stretch we are in!!!!!

Mamamonzo

I guess I'm really old fashion in the sense that I was thrilled to take DH's name. It made me feel very connected to him. I like hearing Mrs. Monzo. I found myself correcting people if they said Miss or Ms. I never had any issues with changing my name at the DMV which I did right away and then doing my SS.

kseccomb17

A cow just ran through my yard.. oh Montana.

KatieGummow

kseccomb17 said:

A cow just ran through my yard.. oh Montana.

What.  They just... go where they want when they want?

Mamamonzo

kseccomb17 said:

A cow just ran through my yard.. oh Montana.

You win the best RTT trophy for the day just because of the awesome visual!!!!

kseccomb17

Well I live in a town with a good amount of people (35000) so I was actually surprised to see it. I guess it escaped and ran throughout town. I've never seen a cow in the neighborhood before, but we occasionally get moose and had a bear not too long ago.

snmetz7

kseccomb17 a bear!! now that I could not handle!

snmetz7

@colleenswerb, it was me1 50% off through her site or amazon? were you able to check to see if your boy kit said "boy" anywhere?

J&NL

I feel like a total nerd because of how pumped I am about our new budget plan. I feel a little less helpless about our finances. 

Also, we've had cows in our yard too. My parents live in the country in FL and we had to heard them off the road into the other side of the road because there are no lights outside and we were scared they were going to get hit. 

Tferr02

My elementary school had a cow pasture next to it and the whole school would stop classes and go outside to watch cows give birth. I also remember watching my principal chase goats around the school. The weird part...I lived in a really expensive beach retirement community in FL.

Lindsay808

I really need to see Clue. I've never seen it!

snmetz7

lia619 said:

@colleenswerb, it was me1 50% off through her site or amazon? were you able to check to see if your boy kit said "boy" anywhere?

The sale is through amazon. You can go on her site and it links to amazon. Pretty good deals!

I'm not seeing it link because I'm dumb?

Tferr02

So I don't know what to do and I need advice. My DH is military and he will be going to training on May 5. He will be gone for 6 weeks and will be about 4 hours away. He might be able to come home on the weekends occasionally. We moved here not long ago and I have literally no friends here, I suck at making friends. We will be moving to a new house about 2 weeks after he gets out of training. My family is 11 hours away. My c section will be March 28 or a little earlier. Do I stay here by myself with a 2 year old, a 5 week baby and 2 dogs or do I pack my house into storage, go down to FL and stay with my family. My family has a 500 sq ft guest house in their backyard, but me, 2 little ones and 2 dogs might be pretty tight. My DH wants me to go to FL but it sounds like so much to do with a newborn. But I'm also worried about losing my mind being here by myself.

snmetz7

thanks

Bluebird2318

Mamamonzo said:

I guess I'm really old fashion in the sense that I was thrilled to take DH's name. It made me feel very connected to him. I like hearing Mrs. Monzo. I found myself correcting people if they said Miss or Ms. I never had any issues with changing my name at the DMV which I did right away and then doing my SS.

I am the same. It certainly didn't hurt that my maiden name is German and people have difficulty spelling/pronouncing it, whereas DH's last name is simple and English. Personally I was never very attached to my maiden name. Like you said, I'm very old-fashioned and get more "feeling" from being a Mrs. and taking DH's name. Oddly enough, despite having so many siblings and cousins (seriously, they're everywhere), he's the first male to have a male child and pass on the last name without any hyphenation. 

janice9821

KendraColeslaw said:

Finally getting around to changing my last name to my husband's. I've been at the social security office for almost 2 hours and it looks like I've got one more to go. All these things I do for my husband...

I still have a couple things in my maiden name even though I got married 2 1/2 years ago because it's just not worth the energy to have them changed.  Blah.

Bluebird2318

ColleenSwerb said:

I'm wrong. Only the neutral core kit is on sale, but the papers for boy and girl and neutral are also on sale. I'm def snagging a neutral for this price. Project Life Core Kit - Baby Edition https://amzn.com/B0095Z7RGQ

That looks awesome! I'm woefully inadequate at scrapbooking, but I'm pretty sure I'd jump on the girl and boy versions. Someone take away my debit card please. 

irisheyez7

I never changed my last name and I wanted to but it just seemed like a huge PITA. I was going to before LO got here but now with being on unemployment I don't want to complicate things any more. It's funny when people call me Mrs. pope because it makes me think of DH's mom ;-)

pineconey

One of you said something about the zulily sale- you cost me $30. :P

I want in on last names! My maiden name was very unique and Italian, and DH has a very plain last name (think jones, miller, etc.) so I dropped my middle name, made my maiden name my middle name, and took DH's last name! Confuses the hell out of people.

Stace0616

Can I get some female advice? So I think I mentioned my friends who got divorced last year--DH and the husband were besties and the wife and I were good friends too. We originally met through the wife but only hung out once or twice without her husband there. Anyway, the divorce was about as 50-50 as it could be: she started ignoring him to hang out with her friends, he felt alone and neglected, and he was the one who asked for the divorce. She played the victim card the entire time and refused to take any blame in the matter--basically villainized him to all of their mutual friends including us.

Flash forward nearly a year and it seems like they've both moved on. He has his own apartment and is getting pretty serious with his new girlfriend. And she is living with her gay best friend and has been in casual relationships with mostly women (and a few men) since a month after they split up. She refuses to go to stuff he is invited to, and it's to the point where she was telling me about defriending a mutual friend because the girl had the gall to invite both of them to a house party.

Now, I think this is completely unfair, as is expecting mutual friends to choose a side. We hang out with each of them separately, don't talk about the ex, and never invite both to the events we host. We even sent the wife a $50 gift card to a company that prepares meals out of sympathy. Well, today she goes on a total rampage about my amazing DH still being friends with the ex and when I stick up for my husband and say we won't be picking a side, she informs me that by telling her that , we just did. Then writes this passive aggressive status on Facebook about bad friends and posts a link to "You Outta Know". Also started bad-mouthing me to our mutual gay best friends which is totally uncalled for.

I have been trying to be understanding and sensitive to her, and I fail to see how I've been the bad guy here. I always let her vent to me, offered countless girls nights and shoulders to cry on, even though it is never returned. She spent my bachelorette party dissing marriage, my wedding talking about how she hoped DH and I got a pre-nup, and even after I confided in her about feeling lonely during pregnancy and losing my job, there has been no offer of support. No "we should grab coffee" or "that sucks" or even any excitement over our baby.

I guess I just don't know how to end the friendship without it turning into a dramatic scene. Clearly, it's not a healthy friendship if she is putting down my husband and only taking emotional support. It drains me, but after her dramatics thus far, I don't know how to proceed gently. I feel like if I stopped talking to her and froze her out it would cause even more of an issue. Ideas?

pineconey

Stace0616 said:

Can I get some female advice? So I think I mentioned my friends who got divorced last year--DH and the husband were besties and the wife and I were good friends too. We originally met through the wife but only hung out once or twice without her husband there. Anyway, the divorce was about as 50-50 as it could be: she started ignoring him to hang out with her friends, he felt alone and neglected, and he was the one who asked for the divorce. She played the victim card the entire time and refused to take any blame in the matter--basically villainized him to all of their mutual friends including us.

Flash forward nearly a year and it seems like they've both moved on. He has his own apartment and is getting pretty serious with his new girlfriend. And she is living with her gay best friend and has been in casual relationships with mostly women (and a few men) since a month after they split up. She refuses to go to stuff he is invited to, and it's to the point where she was telling me about defriending a mutual friend because the girl had the gall to invite both of them to a house party.

Now, I think this is completely unfair, as is expecting mutual friends to choose a side. We hang out with each of them separately, don't talk about the ex, and never invite both to the events we host. We even sent the wife a $50 gift card to a company that prepares meals out of sympathy. Well, today she goes on a total rampage about my amazing DH still being friends with the ex and when I stick up for my husband and say we won't be picking a side, she informs me that by telling her that , we just did. Then writes this passive aggressive status on Facebook about bad friends and posts a link to "You Outta Know". Also started bad-mouthing me to our mutual gay best friends which is totally uncalled for.

I have been trying to be understanding and sensitive to her, and I fail to see how I've been the bad guy here. I always let her vent to me, offered countless girls nights and shoulders to cry on, even though it is never returned. She spent my bachelorette party dissing marriage, my wedding talking about how she hoped DH and I got a pre-nup, and even after I confided in her about feeling lonely during pregnancy and losing my job, there has been no offer of support. No "we should grab coffee" or "that sucks" or even any excitement over our baby.

I guess I just don't know how to end the friendship without it turning into a dramatic scene. Clearly, it's not a healthy friendship if she is putting down my husband and only taking emotional support. It drains me, but after her dramatics thus far, I don't know how to proceed gently. I feel like if I stopped talking to her and froze her out it would cause even more of an issue. Ideas?

Drop that drama queen!!! You don't need that in your life.

jennypenny1014

katieharpiceland said:

Really just horrible. Even more horrible that I laughed. Now, it will probably happen to me. Seriously, anyone with episiotomy have this happen??

https://gawker.com/opera-singer-cant-stop-farting-after-surgery-loses-jo-1509793293?utm_campaign=socialflow_gawker_facebook&utm_source=gawker_facebook&utm_medium=socialflow

OMG poor woman. Though I have to say that I'm cringing at the comments...other than the "funny guys", for example the man who says that natural tearing can be worse and more difficult to heal than an episiotomy is just blatantly wrong - it's actually the exact opposite, because tearing triggers your body's natural healing response and it goes to work trying to heal the wound right away. Then the woman who says "just one more reason on the list of why I refuse to have children" makes me want to TP a kitten...I mean, really?! Oy vey.

kseccomb17

Stace- it's hard, but at some point you have to realize if you're emotionally drained that is time to let go. I've had to let friends and family members go that were constantly taking my emotions and spreading toxins throughout. You want to try and stop it before it effects any other relationships. Sorry you're dealing with this. It's hard to let go, but better in the long run.

Bluebird2318

@Stace0616  I would probably just stop attempting to contact her myself for any reason. If she approached me about it I would just be honest and say that we (husband and I) don't appreciate the way we've been treated and don't intend to take part in the "friendship" if that's the direction it's going to continue in. She can take that how she wants. If she decides to step up and act like a human being, great. If she doesn't, she knows where you stand and the ties can be cut. It would be no great loss if she's not willing to recognize that her behavior is harmful and unacceptable. Just my two cents. 

tamaraaaa

GD test in the morning, so I ate a Butterfinger after dinner.  It was DELICIOUS and I'm not ashamed.. 

J&NL

Tferr02 said:

So I don't know what to do and I need advice. My DH is military and he will be going to training on May 5. He will be gone for 6 weeks and will be about 4 hours away. He might be able to come home on the weekends occasionally. We moved here not long ago and I have literally no friends here, I suck at making friends. We will be moving to a new house about 2 weeks after he gets out of training. My family is 11 hours away. My c section will be March 28 or a little earlier. Do I stay here by myself with a 2 year old, a 5 week baby and 2 dogs or do I pack my house into storage, go down to FL and stay with my family. My family has a 500 sq ft guest house in their backyard, but me, 2 little ones and 2 dogs might be pretty tight. My DH wants me to go to FL but it sounds like so much to do with a newborn. But I'm also worried about losing my mind being here by myself.

Idk about packing the house into storage for just 6 weeks but I would definitely go home if I was in that situation. DH went to training for a month so I packed up myself, DD and the dog and went home! You will appreciate the help.

deidremaria

First of all, Stace, I'm sorry your "friend" is being such an asshole. Based on what I comprehended from the whole situation she sounds like one of those "friends" you simply have to tell you don't want to be friends with them anymore. I may come off as cold but I have gone back to the KG way of handling bitchy friends who aren't good for me by simply saying "we can't be friends anymore" when they ask why I tell them. This usually happens after we've had too many differences for me to consider them a friend.

deidremaria

I really like cocoa puffs but they always cut the roof of my mouth :-(

J&NL

@stace0616 - my advice is just to drop her as a friend. Don't make an effort to be her friend if she is going to put you in that position. It's not worth having people in your life that bring that kind of negativity. It doesn't even sound like she was a good friend to you anyways. I would just keep my distance, if I were you.

Tferr02

J&NL said:

Tferr02 said:

So I don't know what to do and I need advice. My DH is military and he will be going to training on May 5. He will be gone for 6 weeks and will be about 4 hours away. He might be able to come home on the weekends occasionally. We moved here not long ago and I have literally no friends here, I suck at making friends. We will be moving to a new house about 2 weeks after he gets out of training. My family is 11 hours away. My c section will be March 28 or a little earlier. Do I stay here by myself with a 2 year old, a 5 week baby and 2 dogs or do I pack my house into storage, go down to FL and stay with my family. My family has a 500 sq ft guest house in their backyard, but me, 2 little ones and 2 dogs might be pretty tight. My DH wants me to go to FL but it sounds like so much to do with a newborn. But I'm also worried about losing my mind being here by myself.

Idk about packing the house into storage for just 6 weeks but I would definitely go home if I was in that situation. DH went to training for a month so I packed up myself, DD and the dog and went home! You will appreciate the help.

Packing the house is because we are going to be moving on post as soon as we got back. If we did the family one, my DH would come to FL for a week or two after training and then drive back up with us and our lease would end during that time. It just sounds exhausting right now.

SoulTermination

@stace0616 Agreed with all the people who say to get that negativity out of your life.  I was in that kind of energy-vampire friendship (my best friend from high school), and when I finally stopped to think and realized that my health problems were mostly due to worrying about HER, I realized I had to make it stop.  Losing weight, losing sleep, all of that is no bueno.  Hardest thing I ever did, telling her that it was over, but after the initial few weeks of waiting for her to burst into my workplace and make a scene (she's like that), I felt like the heaviest weight I'd ever carried had fallen off my shoulders.

Of course, now I have all-new weights to stress and cry over, and I'm sure not having the money to pick up my antidepressant for about a week is a major contributor to that... *grumble, grumble*

MrsL13

Lower back pain has started. Great.

Mamamonzo

I love sitting in the baby's room and just looking around. I can't even begin to imagine the adventures that will take place in here.

deidremaria

I need help girls! I didn't think id ever need help with making a decision on the bump but i do. In an attempt to be frugal I've decided that I'm going to wear the same dress for both my maternity shoot and my baby shower. I need help choosing a dress from the three options.
Option 1 is my favorite for the shower while my best friend says it's too clubish.
Option 2 will be in white and may be easiest to wear at both 32 and 38 weeks (I hope)
Option 3 is my favorite for the shoot as well as the easiest to accessorize in different ways, but I don't LOVE IT like I do the other two.

HELP!!!
Let me know if I should just start a poll

BiggerinRealLife

@deidremaria I like the first two way more than the third. The one in the middle is my favorite; I think you'll look like a goddess in all that drapey fabric! I live the lace on the first one, but I tend to stay away from sheath dresses as a rule because my figure looks better in a dress with some structure. If sheath dresses looked good on you pre-baby though it may not be an issue. #2 is my total fave though!

cgoldian

Lower back pain has started. Great.

Same here

deidremaria

BiggerinRealLife said:

@deidremaria I like the first two way more than the third. The one in the middle is my favorite; I think you'll look like a goddess in all that drapey fabric! I live the lace on the first one, but I tend to stay away from sheath dresses as a rule because my figure looks better in a dress with some structure. If sheath dresses looked good on you pre-baby though it may not be an issue. #2 is my total fave though!

Thanks so much!!! That's so sweet!

I'm really leaning toward the second one @jbug88 the reviews aren't that great but every body type is different and what ever needs fixing can be done by my tailor I guess

deidremaria

BiggerinRealLife said:

@deidremaria I like the first two way more than the third. The one in the middle is my favorite; I think you'll look like a goddess in all that drapey fabric! I live the lace on the first one, but I tend to stay away from sheath dresses as a rule because my figure looks better in a dress with some structure. If sheath dresses looked good on you pre-baby though it may not be an issue. #2 is my total fave though!

Sheath dresses looked good on me pre preg because I've always had a small waist and big hips and ass but a baby bump added to that may look a little ridiculous.