FFFC...step right up and see our shit show folks

TheyCalledHerKate

Holy shit at spanking a 5 month old. Babies don't have the cognitive ability to be manipulative or "bad" or understand punishment. That is messed up in a major major way no matter how hard or soft it was.

eroplane

mishy2006 said:

My FFFC: I am a glutton for good old crazy MIL stories. Mine is so overbearing and annoying I love hearing about other ladies who deal with similar things. The DIL society website is a frequent hit on my browser.

I will have to check this out!!

[Deleted User]

tarynleann said:

well i feel about this big >.< 

Good. You're fucking gross to allow your h to hit your 5 month old baby. If I knew you irl I would report your asses to CPS for that shit.

watuzzigal

mishy2006 said:

My FFFC: I am a glutton for good old crazy MIL stories. Mine is so overbearing and annoying I love hearing about other ladies who deal with similar things. The DIL society website is a frequent hit on my browser.

Yes! Yes! Yes! I used to search the boards for these stories.

NotSharknado

I can not believe someone thinks it's okay to spank a 5 month old. What bothers me the most is most in this thread don't seem too ragey about it. Posting a tinker bell gif wouldn't be my initial response.

NotSharknado

laxminavkar said:

We're at 103 comments and only 4 pages. how does A14 do it?

Well for starters, when someone mentions they spank their 5 month old that usually, ALMOST ALWAYS, sparks up a conversation. Somehow this info doesn't seem to put a fire under your asses.

NotSharknado

maymomNY said:

shanado said:

I can not believe someone thinks it's okay to spank a 5 month old. What bothers me the most is most in this thread don't seem too ragey about it. Posting a tinker bell gif wouldn't be my initial response.

Really? You're seriously complaining about a tinker bell gif?

You're missing the point. I'm not surprised.

jayro10

shanado said:

maymomNY said:

shanado said:

I can not believe someone thinks it's okay to spank a 5 month old. What bothers me the most is most in this thread don't seem too ragey about it. Posting a tinker bell gif wouldn't be my initial response.

Really? You're seriously complaining about a tinker bell gif?

You're missing the point. I'm not surprised.

*yawn*
Go back to where you came from. Kthxbai.

TradeMama

I have had a hard time coming up with a response to the whole spanking a baby thing since I can't fathom why anyone would think it was okay ever to "discipline" an infant. And "throwing a fit for no reason"? A baby doesn't need a reason...it's a baby. At this age it's our job as parents to meet our child's needs--not to discipline a child for doing something it doesn't have the capacity to understand is wrong. I think I am most surprised by the fact you let your husband do it even though your visceral reaction was that it was wrong. Your instinct should be to protect your child. Now that LO is mobile he can be really frustrating... Especially during meals, diaper changes, clothes changes, etc. So I get wanting to tell them "no". But we have to find constructive ways of showing our little ones boundaries without forgetting that they can't misbehave at this age. If a LO yanks a necklace off or earring out, knocks a drink over, or breaks something guess who's fault it is that it was there to begin with? If LO cries for no reason it's our job to find out why-- LO has a reason.

LaxMOM44

shanado said:

maymomNY said:

shanado said:

I can not believe someone thinks it's okay to spank a 5 month old. What bothers me the most is most in this thread don't seem too ragey about it. Posting a tinker bell gif wouldn't be my initial response.

Really? You're seriously complaining about a tinker bell gif?

You're missing the point. I'm not surprised.

Ummm so not sure why you are here, but we did have a pretty strong reaction on various threads on this board. Since we know her as a regular poster we all just assumed we were misinterpreting what she had written and were letting her explain herself. Thanks so much for getting involved though we totally were all for 5 month old discipline before you showed us the light. K bye!!!

NotSharknado

I'm so offended by Tinker Bell. That HOAR!

jayro10

@hilarityensued read a few comments up, specifically the one from @shantxtell. She explains it perfectly. Then read a few pages back and you'll see where people realized she was talking about her infant and their horrified reactions.
Funny how you accuse us all of not being able to read when clearly you have missed out on a lot.

LaxMOM44

Ugh A14

Eta: sorry a14, I am
Mobile bumping.

ILoveSnacks

Random people - Maybe, just maaaaybe, regular May 13 moms are not posting about it now because it's obvious that random people from other boards have swooped in.

@HilarityEnsued - Thanks for hurling insults at all of us. You are super duper rad.

ILoveSnacks

HilarityEnsued said:

@ilovesnacks your first response makes no sense.  Are you trying to say you are closing ranks around "one of your own" that admitted to hitting a 5 months old.

Second... thanks... you're uber neato yourself

The key word in my response was "now." Don't assume that just because May 13 moms are not posting in this obviously volatile thread that we condone anything about it. I want to talk about it later with May 13 moms I kind of "know" and I imagine we will soon, just not in this thread. And probably with less profanity.

ETA: changed "corporal punishment" to "anything about it" to better convey my sentiments.

LaxMOM44

Oh good god @hilarityensued please try and read what I wrote. I'm going to need you to read ALL the words.

I said we knew her as a regular poster not because I felt like we were best buds and our AF synced up but because we wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt that she was perhaps talking about an older child or hadn't explained herself properly since she has done this in previous posts.


Also I was asking why you were here not because I think the bump needs to tighten security and not allow mothers who birthed outside of May 2013 on this board but because I actually can't fathom why you felt it necessary to add anything to the extensive flaming she has already received. Especially since now you are not even flaming her you are flaming us for not flaming her. Which is ridiculous. As you said this is a public forum and I am not morally obligated to make her feel like a peice of shit anymore than I think we already have so to come here and try and make us feel bad for not having the same visceral reaction that you did is going to make me question why you are here. We handled the situation, we even calmly explained to her why what she and her husband did seems very wrong and you showed up a day later to beat the shit out of the rotting equine corpse.

Finally if she is a troll who had been convertly hanging out with us for a fucking year the way we handle trolls is to not give them the attention they seek. I get that the ish show over on A14 hasn't figure that out yet but trolls just want attention. Which is probably what you are doing so I've said my peice.

Now I'll end this like a lady. GL with your pregnancy hope it's H&H!

thetheisens

I don't understand how her post could have been "misinterpreted". Her 5 month old was "throwing a fit" and she thought it was neato that her dh spanked the baby and won't mind him doing it in the future, because it totally helped. This post should be on fire with flames, IDGAF is she is a regular on here. She does not deserve a nice gentle, "Just don't do it again" or a chance to backpedal. 

colliebabe

Seriously side-eyeing the lack of outrage

HilarityEnsued said:

jayro10 said:

*yawn*
Go back to where you came from. Kthxbai.

Interesting reaction to someone trying to point out why hitting a 5 month old is not ok. 


This was my thought as well. I've never thrown out an "I feel sorry for your children" before but I think it might be warranted on this board.

(Minus Shanxtell who seems to be the only one who gets it.)

Shoegal36

You guyzzz next time we flame someone remember we need more swearing and more CAPS! We're doing it wrong. That will teach her. If you don't say FUCK enough times it means we think it's ok to hit babies!!

AllieAGame

*whispers* Guys...guys...who are these people?

Also, HI @LexiLupin! Long time no see. Hope things are going well.

Another also, @Tarynleann, thanks for not being all defensive and explaining yourself away. We all make mistakes in thought and deed and this is how we ALL grow as mothers and people. Regardless of if we admit to it publicly or not, we will all make major mistakes. It's easy to justify a tap because it didn't hurt and it fixed what you perceived as a problem, but the mentality of you and your H knowing that what occurred was a spanking (not a tap or bump), is, in my opinion, the problem. One that I think you already realize. If your H sees that a spanking "works" on a 5 month old, then there is a high probability that physical punishment will be his go-to solution in the future. I hope he can see past that and understand why spanking a baby, no matter how much force is used, is not just inappropriate, but dangerous. No love lost here Taryn, but I hope you and your H will be able to chalk this up as a one-time mistake and move on.

NotSharknado

Lol at "extensive flaming"

Lolalipsy

AllieAGame said:

*whispers* Guys...guys...who are these people?

Also, HI @LexiLupin! Long time no see. Hope things are going well.

Another also, @Tarynleann, thanks for not being all defensive and explaining yourself away. We all make mistakes in thought and deed and this is how we ALL grow as mothers and people. Regardless of if we admit to it publicly or not, we will all make major mistakes. It's easy to justify a tap because it didn't hurt and it fixed what you perceived as a problem, but the mentality of you and your H knowing that what occurred was a spanking (not a tap or bump), is, in my opinion, the problem. One that I think you already realize. If your H sees that a spanking "works" on a 5 month old, then there is a high probability that physical punishment will be his go-to solution in the future. I hope he can see past that and understand why spanking a baby, no matter how much force is used, is not just inappropriate, but dangerous. No love lost here Taryn, but I hope you and your H will be able to chalk this up as a one-time mistake and move on.

You are always the voice of reason and your responses tempered.

Bumpie crush

LaxMOM44

Shantxtell said:

Well this is a shit show. I was disappointed at the lack of flaming- I thought, when I read it, that the next page would be her getting flamed to a crisp. Then imagine my shock when only one person addressed it.
Who cares who is coming here and flaming her? The point needs to hit home.

Fair but as I've said I kept thinking I was missing something. Because honestly who hits a five month old? I don't care if they come here and flame her, I care that they are flaming us for not flaming her when I think you, beaubecca, botanical and trademama also now Allie have said what needs to be said. I don't care for beating a dead horse she will either understand what he did is completely wrong or nothing we can say will get through to her.

I think eventually we all made rational pleading posts about why a 5 month old can't be disciplined and why no matter the force that was used she was in the wrong and I think the message was clear that no one was agreeing with her.

But then this ridiculousness of trying to make us feel guilty to the crime
Because we didn't continue flaming her for 14 pages seems like they are just looking for drama.


Edited to fix quotes (seriously shank I hate doing this but I do it because I love you)

Boo0512

To the randoms who showed up, why would 50 people repeat what has already been said? Did I think spanking a 5 month old was messed up? Hells yeah. However, what affect does it have if I just spew back what has already been stated several times?

Gtfo.

Lolalipsy

laxminavkar said:

laxminavkar said:

tarynleann said:

watuzzigal

Shantxtell said:

Well this is a shit show. I was disappointed at the lack of flaming- I thought, when I read it, that the next page would be her getting flamed to a crisp. Then imagine my shock when only one person addressed it.
Who cares who is coming here and flaming her? The point needs to hit home.

Fair but as I've said I kept thinking I was missing something. Because honestly who hits a five month old? I don't care if they come here and flame her, I care that they are flaming us for not flaming her when I think you, beaubecca, botanical and trademama also now Allie have said what needs to be said. I don't care for beating a dead horse she will either understand what he did is completely wrong or nothing we can say will get through to her.

I think eventually we all made rational pleading posts about why a 5 month old can't be disciplined and why no matter the force that was used she was in the wrong and I think the message was clear that no one was agreeing with her.

But then this ridiculousness of trying to make us feel guilty to the crime
Because we didn't continue flaming her for 14 pages seems like they are just looking for drama.

To add to this, I read it and cringed but then I thought no that can't be right. I didn't take it seriously. I d

telicious2

May 2013 Moms:

 

LaxMOM44

Boo0512 said:

To the randoms who showed up, why would 50 people repeat what has already been said? Did I think spanking a 5 month old was messed up? Hells yeah. However, what affect does it have if I just spew back what has already been stated several times?

Gtfo.

Amen sister



See what I did there instead of repeating what she said with different words I just showed my support for what she said.

Also that gif has two of my pet peeves in it. Randomly misspelled words and crocs.

Edited: gif, spelling, grammar, syntax ain't nothing right about my OP

ILoveSnacks

HilarityEnsued said:

ILoveSnacks said:

HilarityEnsued said:

@ilovesnacks your first response makes no sense.  Are you trying to say you are closing ranks around "one of your own" that admitted to hitting a 5 months old.

Second... thanks... you're uber neato yourself

The key word in my response was "now." Don't assume that just because May 13 moms are not posting in this obviously volatile thread that we condone corporal punishment. I want to talk about it later with May 13 moms I kind of "know" and I imagine we will soon, just not necessarily in this thread. And probably with less profanity.

Um... this is exactly what I, and most others reading this thread, are assuming.

LOL at the rest of that, though.  Unless you start a thread off-board, everyone can see it.  And trust and believe that any thread about corporal punishment will get XP'd all over TB.  You can't dictate who posts where, and what they say.

If you are trying to shame me or make me feel bad for intruder posting in here and tell you all that your responses in this thread are ridiculous, sorrynotsorry.

And as far as "knowing" people... well... again... this internet and you'd be wise to assume you don't truly "know" any of these people.


Yes, I know how The World Wide Web, or "Internet," works. But thanks.

Boo0512

laxminavkar said:

Boo0512 said:

To the randoms who showed up, why would 50 people repeat what has already been said? Did I think spanking a 5 month old was messed up? Hells yeah. However, what affect does it have if I just spew back what has already been stated several times?

Gtfo.

Amen sister



See what I did there instead of repeating what she said with different words I just showed my support for what she said.

Also that gif has two of my pet peeves in it. Randomly misspelled words and crocs.

Edited: gif, spelling, grammar, syntax ain't nothing right about my OP

Lax, my little Canadian friend, you complete me

LaxMOM44

CTGirl30 said:

maymomNY said:

Trolls ladies, trolls. And unfortunately we gave them exactly what they were looking for, myself included. We have always prided ourselves on being able to discuss crazy topics intelligently without flying off the handle. The point was made that spanking an infant is wrong and we strongly disagree. Shit shows don't make boards more valid.

Lol.

Sorry about the covered in hair part

RoxZ32

colleenb262 said:

Seriously side-eyeing the lack of outrage

HilarityEnsued said:

jayro10 said:

*yawn*
Go back to where you came from. Kthxbai.

Interesting reaction to someone trying to point out why hitting a 5 month old is not ok. 

This was my thought as well. I've never thrown out an "I feel sorry for your children" before but I think it might be warranted on this board.



I've kept out of this but...seriously? Gtfo.

@AllieAGame - this is exactly what I wanted to say but I could not put it into words.

@Tarynleann - I don't think you are an abusive mother. I think it was either a very poor decision on your Hs part or it was really nothing that you accidentally made to be a bigger deal with the words you posted in your FFFC. I honestly don't think the May 13 ladies here hate you and I hope you understand why such comments were made above. We all love these innocent babies and want to see them safe from harm and is hard not to react strongly.

Now to the other random posters here - back off. We can handle our own. Thanks.

Edited to fix taryns name

[Deleted User]

Back off guise. They can handle their own. By sweeping it under the rug. @HilarityEnsued @LexiLupin

Shoegal36

Shantxtell said:

Well this is a shit show. I was disappointed at the lack of flaming- I thought, when I read it, that the next page would be her getting flamed to a crisp. Then imagine my shock when only one person addressed it. Who cares who is coming here and flaming her? The point needs to hit home.

laxminavkar said:

Well this is a shit show. I was disappointed at the lack of flaming- I thought, when I read it, that the next page would be her getting flamed to a crisp. Then imagine my shock when only one person addressed it. Who cares who is coming here and flaming her? The point needs to hit home.

Fair but as I've said I kept thinking I was missing something. Because honestly who hits a five month old? I don't care if they come here and flame her, I care that they are flaming us for not flaming her when I think you, beaubecca, botanical and trademama also now Allie have said what needs to be said. I don't care for beating a dead horse she will either understand what he did is completely wrong or nothing we can say will get through to her. I think eventually we all made rational pleading posts about why a 5 month old can't be disciplined and why no matter the force that was used she was in the wrong and I think the message was clear that no one was agreeing with her. But then this ridiculousness of trying to make us feel guilty to the crime Because we didn't continue flaming her for 14 pages seems like they are just looking for drama. Edited to fix quotes (seriously shank I hate doing this but I do it because I love you)

Totally agree. A few people addressed it and just because we didn't go all BSC for 20 pages doesn't mean we condone the actions. I was a little surprised at first that it took a while for more of a reaction but it makes sense now that people were confused about her post. She clearly got the point judging from her "I feel this big" comment. Why go on and on? She probably stopped reading at that point anyway. 

Boo0512

Ok, I'll continue to indulge the blood thirsty drama hounds because its Saturday and the board is usually slow.

What would it have accomplished to have the entire board flame her to hell and back? Seriously, I want to hear your thoughts on this. What good would it have done to just repeat that hitting a 5 month old is wrong or quoting what someone else wrote and stating "This."

I'm assuming I'm just going to get snark and Gifs thrown at me but ah, what the hell? Enlighten please. I'm dying to know your thoughts and feelers

LaxMOM44

So the surgical extraction chick quit her cult and is allowing medical intervention...hallelujah flaming works!!!

Boo0512

HilarityEnsued said:

Boo0512 said:

Ok, I'll continue to indulge the blood thirsty drama hounds because its Saturday and the board is usually slow.

What would it have accomplished to have the entire board flame her to hell and back? Seriously, I want to hear your thoughts on this. What good would it have done to just repeat that hitting a 5 month old is wrong or quoting what someone else wrote and stating "This."

I'm assuming I'm just going to get snark and Gifs thrown at me but ah, what the hell? Enlighten please. I'm dying to know your thoughts and feelers

The offense in question (hitting a 5 mo old) is outrageously disgusting.  What feels worse and drives the point home more than this is a universally awful act?

A) 2-3 posters make (relatively) mild statements that this is not a wise choice

5+ pages of flaming happen?




::writes down in The Bump notebook for future reference on flaming posters::

Thanks a mill!!!!111!!!!

ETA: I figured my questions wouldn't get answered.

LaxMOM44

Boo...there are no words. I may have taken Allie to the coat check but there's room for you in my naughty tryst.

Lolalipsy

And the "hilarity ensued" show is over folks.

LaxMOM44

laxminavkar said:

Boo...there are no words. I may have taken Allie to the coat check but there's room for you in my naughty tryst.

Ooh and Lolalipsy cause she'll make it classy with that accent.

KLJ3

HilarityEnsued said:

Boo0512 said:

Ok, I'll continue to indulge the blood thirsty drama hounds because its Saturday and the board is usually slow.

What would it have accomplished to have the entire board flame her to hell and back? Seriously, I want to hear your thoughts on this. What good would it have done to just repeat that hitting a 5 month old is wrong or quoting what someone else wrote and stating "This."

I'm assuming I'm just going to get snark and Gifs thrown at me but ah, what the hell? Enlighten please. I'm dying to know your thoughts and feelers

The offense in question (hitting a 5 mo old) is outrageously disgusting.  What feels worse and drives the point home more than this is a universally awful act?

A) 2-3 posters make (relatively) mild statements that this is not a wise choice

5+ pages of flaming happen?




Frankly, I think being told that you made a mistake is more effective when it comes from people you recognize and have an established relationship with (as much of a relationship as can exist on a board full of random people that have banded together for a year). When "strangers" show up and start off with name-calling, it's just evidence that people have nothing better to do. Who needs 5+ pages of that?