@magnolia209 oh I feel ya. I have an almost 3yo and have not gotten a full night's sleep in almost 3 years. My son at least sleeps through the night now, but consistently wakes up before 6am. Now that I'm pregnant, I'm falling asleep on the couch before 8pm while my husband is doing bath time. I used to be an 8+ hours per night sleeper and it's still haaaard not getting that 😴
@scimomma Oh thank you - it’s good to feel seen! I’m so happy your hubby does bath and bedtime! I do bath, bed, all middle of the night wake-ups, and the early mornings (yes also before 6am most days!). Luckily my kid sleeps in a queen bed and I just sleep with him most of the time. That’s how I survive! My husband is amazing though. He does all of the cooking, grocery shopping, and most of the driving. All of the nail clipping and Covid test nasal swabbing, and at home haircuts. I just suffer in the sleep area!
Is anyone else feeling out breath easily? I go up one flight of stairs and I’m breathing hard…is this a symptom or am I just out of shape? Lol
other than that, biggest symptom is heartburn and tender breasts. I’m 6w1d, and as of now no real nausea (but the heartburn does give me reflux). But we’re leaving for a 10 day vacation in a couple days and I’m so scared that the morning sickness is going to hit me right as we land 😳 I’ve already packed unisom, B6, ginger candies, morning sickness tea, and preggie pop drops in preparation 😅
@virgovirgo yes! The shortness of breath is a pregnancy thing! I remember in my first pregnancy I was like, what the heck, I don’t even have a big belly yet, how is this related to pregnancy? I can’t remember the science/reasoning behind it, but it is a thing! (And I experience it too, you’re not alone!)
I am over here feeling nauseous off and on all day and night, I’m so over it. It is not “morning” sickness, it is all day sickness! I’m not actually throwing up (except once so far) but there’s a lot of dry heaving going on haha. The only upside is that despite the random candy I’m constantly eating, I lost 3 lbs this week lol. Maybe pregnancy/nausea was the kickstart I needed lol. One moment the only thing that sounds appetizing is a bagel, then the next I only want fruit. I’m all over the place.
Like others have mentioned, I also get nauseous drinking water. It’s annoying because I know I need to drink tons of water to avoid headaches and I also am still breastfeeding too, so need to be double hydrated. I end up having to take whatever fluids I can get, alternating sips of water with Gatorade, hot tea, etc.
@virgovirgo if you're flying, be aware that because of the pregnancy congestion, you may have a bit more trouble with ear pressurization. You might want to bring hard candy/gum that you can stand.
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
Lol @kboydbowman. I just meant any tips to help with it. I am not functioning at work because I’m so tired. Like I just stared at my computer screen for an hour and a half and couldn’t find the energy to even pick a task to try yesterday. Eventually, my boss is gonna notice the complete lack of productivity.
I threw up last night and then again this morning. I have so much sinus drainage that I can't quit coughing, and it's making my chest hurt. My poor girl (26 months) was scared when I was throwing up just now and said, "Mom Mom get rid of dinner?" Yeah, I guess, honey. I was trying to keep her calm and away from the toilet.
I called my doctor right after taking the test last week, but still haven’t received a call back from my doctor yet and am starting to freak out a little because sometimes I feel pregnant and other times not. According to other things I’ve seen, I’m currently 5w1d.
I was nauseous the first week after finding out I was pregnant, but this week has been so much better. I developed my super power of enhanced smell yesterday, so that was interesting.
I have been dealing with little to no symptoms but woke up at 3am feeling super nauseous. Now I am sitting at work exhausted and nauseous once again... haven't puked yet but part of me feels like it would make me feel better lol.
I'm so proud of myself! I munch on food all day today and other than first thing this morning, I haven't felt sick all day!!!!!🥳🥳🥳 I didn't really think it was going to be possible after the last few days but eating all day really does help! Give me all the pickles, oranges, grapes and carrots with ranch!
@babywiik that's my approach. I keep a range of small munchables at my desk and just grab whichever one looks the most palatable at any given moment. Currently working on a salad.
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
@mamamoomoo12 Yeah, I had my first near throw up last night. I debated leaning over the toilet, or walking around and popping a preggie pop. I’m pretty sure I would have puked if I just tilted my head forward! But it went away.
@kboydbowman I haven’t eaten enough today and am currently shaking like a leaf. I’ve been in nonstop zoom meetings, but this one should end momentarily and I’m off to the kitchen. I should absolutely prep snacks and keep them at my desk. I’m not nauseous but shaking like crazy!
Just when I commented on the fact that I wasn't having heartburn I woke up last night with acid in my throat. Of course I'm also not allowed to get out of bed at night without my 1 year old throwing a fit that I got out of bed and she needs to come with me. I also have to hold her when I pee. I feel like she has an alarm that goes off when I'm not holding her at night and wakes up. She tried getting up for the day at 430 so I'm extra tired today.
@jhysmath that sounds exhausting! Does your 1 year old always sleep with you? (No judgment either way, just asking if you’re a pro-co-sleeper, or just works out that way so you can get some sleep lol, I know mamas need to do whatever works sometimes)
We've been cosleeping since our oldest was 4 months old. Our second ended up in our bed after 5 nights of no sleep when she was born. I cosleep out of necessity. It usually means I get better sleep. When the 3 year old sleeps in her bed all night, I get less sleep because I wake up wondering why she hasn't crawled into bed with us yet 😂.
@jhysmath I so identify! My 3 year old has always been a difficult sleeper. We ended up co-sleeping out of necessity at many points. Since the moment I conceived (which also corresponds with him having just gotten over RSV) he’s been extra clingy and just come gets me to bring me to his bed whenever he wakes up. I’ve had to sneak out of his bed at 4am to pee (which would not have been possible when he was 1, he would have woken up just like you described!). But I’m so tired that half the time I just go back to his bed, half the time I go to mine. I feel like I’m practically just sleep walking in the night! This new baby will be sleep trained, mark my words. I’m not doing this again! I’m planning to bring a friend who is a nanny (and unfortunately lives across the country in NYC), out here for a few weeks to handle sleep training! She’s sleep trained a bunch of babies. We tried last time but clearly caved to our very stubborn and loud baby. We were also in an apartment so it felt wrong to just let him scream loudly. We’re in a house now, and know what happens when we don’t sleep train. All this being said, sleeping with my sweet boy is so special and I can’t imagine not having gotten years and years of cuddles.
hugs to everyone dealing with serious morning sickness that can’t be fun - crossing fingers it passes sooner than the second tri for you guys!
I’ve woken up feeling pretty bleh the last two mornings but if I eat something, it usually passes. I’m hoping it stays like this and doesn’t get worse. I’ll take a dip without plunging in lol
@mamamoomoo12 LOL, throwing up in hopes of feeling better was my hungover trick. I wonder if would still apply 🤣
@mk2022x throwing up does help me feel better but it's short lived. I guess I'm making up for my good day yesterday but so far I've visited the toilet 5 times and it's only 9:45am. I'm good for about 30mins. I can go longer if I'm sleeping
@magnolia209 I just tell myself, they'll only be little so long. I won't sleep train number 3 either. I'm their comfort and I won't take that away from them. They will learn to sleep alone when they are developmentally ready. We encourage them to sleep in their own beds, they have bunk beds, but when they wake up they are more than welcome to come snuggle, they just need to come to us.
@jhysmath That’s exactly how I feel about my son! ❤️ I’m his comfort and don’t want to take that away. I just have some different ideas about what I want to do with number 2. I do think having kids come into our bed will always be a thing. We are looking into getting a king bed so it’s more comfortable. But, I just want to make sure my next is a more independent sleeper from the beginning. We’ll see!
My first never napped on me, except if I was wearing her, but we had the Snoo and I think that helped a lot to get her to be an “independent” sleeper from the get go. I put that in quotes though because she was still getting help from the Snoo haha, but just not from me directly. We just used very gentle sleep training methods, nothing ever like cry it out, and it worked well for us. I totally get both perspectives but for me personally, if my kids needed me to sleep, I’m not going to deprive them of that.
@theblondebump I’m curious to hear more! I want to encourage more independent sleeping because I am exhausted. But I’ve heard a lot about the SNOO. But don’t actually know how it helps!
@magnolia209 the Snoo is worth its weight in gold! It simulates the steps to soothe a baby, based on Dr. Harvey Karp’s book, Happiest Baby on the Block. You put your baby into the bassinet in a specific swaddle and they are like strapped into the bassinet. Then, if they cry, it automatically soothes them in incremental levels. So it uses different types of white noise in different volumes and it uses movement. If your baby cries more or louder, it levels up to the next level of soothing. And then if it gets to the highest level for like 2 or 3 minutes, it will shut off and you get an alert on your phone that you have to go help the baby. But basically it soothes the baby during those times where the baby doesn’t actually need food, a diaper, or anything, they are just a little fussy. So instead of constantly having to go help them, it does it. If they continue to cry, then they probably need a diaper or are hungry or whatever and then of course you go help them lol. Our baby slept through the night by 10 weeks and I absolutely swear by the Snoo.
ETA: because we wanted to get the full benefits of the Snoo, we did all of her naps whenever possible in the Snoo, so she never really napped on me. We followed lots of advice from Taking Cara Babies and started following things like wake windows, feeding schedules, having a routine, etc. to help get on a schedule and encourage independent sleep. Always separated feeds and sleep so we didn’t establish a feed to sleep habit. When we went through a regression, I would still never take her out of the crib or rock her to sleep or feed her to sleep, but I would never leave her alone to cry. I would just sit or stand next to her crib, talk to her, pat her if necessary, and it all worked well and it was a good compromise. I feel like she became an independent sleeper that could put herself back to sleep if she woke up at night, but I also never felt like I neglected her and just let her cry in desperation by herself haha.
@theblondebump That sounds very up my alley! Thank you so much for the explanation! My husband was VERY against cry-it-out and left it all to me and I tried, I really did, but caved. And, we waited too long for all of it. We both now see the downsides of not sleep training. And, really we still did some sleep training. We had consistency, routine, etc. We just never let him cry it out and he never learned to put himself back to sleep, so still comes to get me when he wakes up. So we need to find some balance. I don’t mind at all laying with him when he goes to sleep. I love it actually. But I don’t like that he can’t sleep through the night without me. We’ll look into this and your other suggestions more.
I view learning to fall asleep as any other challenge a child will face. I support my child but essentially, they have to be the ones to figure out how to overcome the challenge. I hate listening to my baby cry but it's either 10 minutes of discomfort for 3 nights (that's what it took for us) or it's months of discomfort because I'm not sleeping and therefore there's a higher chance I don't show up as the mom I want to be. Either way I'm going to be uncomfortable so it wasn't hard to choose. I also know that each child is different and some techniques that work for one kid doesn't work so well for another. 🤞🏼 extra hard that this next kid will let me sleep too!
@babywiik def, every baby is different and every mama has to do what they feel is right for their babe!
I knew from birth that CIO was not for me, so we were crazy strict about schedules, no content naps, etc. from the beginning so that we hopefully would have an independent sleeper from the beginning. A lot of moms live for contact naps though! Haha. Also, my baby is only (almost) 10 months, so ya never know. But so far, she’s been a great sleeper.
@babywiik I agree that every situation is so different! Even within families… my first was an angel sleeper by herself and was able to self-soothe. My second didn’t sleep through the night until at least a year old and it still wasn’t regular until closer to 16 months!
But I am not a good bed-sharer (my own issue haha) so I appreciate them having their own bed and not mine 😂
Sleep has been the biggest struggle with my son. As a baby, he would not sleep unless he was on me or he was in motion. I did everything that other moms I knew swore by, watched so many videos, tried everything. I was so exhausted and started falling asleep with him on me too frequently, so I had to set up my bed so I could safely bed share. I never in a million years thought I'd be sleeping in bed with a newborn but it was the only way for us to both get some sleep. Getting him to sleep on a flat surface took months and for a very, very, very long time he could only sleep after nursing. I'm not saying that I was perfect in providing a the best sleeping routine, but I also don't think it was 100% my fault and my kid just always seemed more needy when it came to sleeping and nursing compared with others I knew. I'm really curious to see how sleeping goes with baby #2. I'd love to try to avoid problems this time around, but I feel like I tried doing everything right last time and nothing ever worked!
@scimomma That’s exactly how I feel. I had a whole plan last time. But the perfect plan and all the books did not account for my unique son. From day one he knew exactly what he wanted and found ways to communicate (seriously, the nurses in the hospital got frustrated because even the most skilled swaddled could not get him to keep his arms in. He kicked off his swaddle for good at 5 weeks. They said he was one of the most opinionated newborns they had ever seen. He’s still that way. Sleep was always a challenge. He was colicky and we just had a rough go and slept when ever and however we could. There’s a lot I could do differently and I definitely want to get some professional help for the newborn days - maybe a night nanny or pp doula. Or the snoo. I’m researching.
Sorry to double post- just realized this is the symptoms thread!
I’m 6+2 and have been feeling nauseous at night for the past several days but yesterday, after declaring to my husband that maybe I won’t feel too sick this time, I got so nauseous! I couldn’t look at my son’s snack. I took a preggie pop and got through it but got the worst headache. I took Tylenol and went to bed. I woke up in the middle of the night with a super sore leg/butt/back situation and feeling nauseous. I didn’t want to take more Tylenol so I took another preggie pop and my pain went away! So apparently I get morning sickness in the middle of the night in my leg. 🙄
The vivid dreams aren't going well anymore. My vivid nightmare is playing on my anxieties right now. Last night I dreamt that I started to miscarry at school, and then I finally miscarried tomorrow which is my birthday. My grandmother died on my birthday 18 years ago, and I've never really liked birthdays since. So this just added to it. I remember in my dream coming on here and having to make my post telling all of you that I wouldn't be around anymore and good luck. It's just really getting to me now that I'm 7 weeks and have had even less nausea than I did at 5 weeks. I know everyone with a prior loss is likely dealing with the same anxieties as I am, but it's not fair that my sex dreams have been replaced with such terrible nightmares.
Today has been rough, I woke up with a migraine but I cannot take my usual migraine medication now that I am pregnant so I had to just tough it out. I am on the tail end of it and reluctantly at work. Not to mention major mood swings are happening. I cried last night because my husband brought me cake and I didn't want it....
Fellow migraine folks- I would love any tips you have that don't include medicine.
@mamamoomoo12 immersing your hands and feet in water that is as hot as you can stand - redirects blood flow
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
I'm starting to think I should just start self catheterizing, since I'm literally going to the bathroom every 15 to 20 minutes.
Also, constipation + hemorrhoids = very bad juju.
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
@jhysmath Sending Internet hugs. I’m so sorry. I also had a dream that I miscarried last night. It’s tough. I’m sorry that you lost your grandmother on your birthday. 😔 We are here if you need to cry/rant/laugh. Here’s a fun picture for you!
TTC History
Me: 38 DH: 52
Started trying June 2018
BFP Jan 2019 DD born October 2019
TTC July 2021 BFP, ended in MMC August 2021
TTC October 2021
BFP January 2022
MMC March 2022
Beginning May 2022 under the supervision of an RE - Benched while undergoing testing
@jhysmath + @elle-0409 I had a horrible, horrible nightmare several nights ago that I miscarried during an apocalypse, but worse than that, I couldn't find my 2 year old and was told she didn't make it. I was completely shattered and woke up in tears.
@mamamoomoo12 I know you asked for non-medication solutions, but I wanted to point out that Excedrin makes a tension headache medicine that only has caffeine and acetaminophen, both in safe levels for pregnancy. If you are already getting your caffeine elsewhere, I'd skip it, but it was a godsend during my last pregnancy and one a lot of women don't realize is available to them.
Re: January symptom thread
other than that, biggest symptom is heartburn and tender breasts. I’m 6w1d, and as of now no real nausea (but the heartburn does give me reflux). But we’re leaving for a 10 day vacation in a couple days and I’m so scared that the morning sickness is going to hit me right as we land 😳 I’ve already packed unisom, B6, ginger candies, morning sickness tea, and preggie pop drops in preparation 😅
I am over here feeling nauseous off and on all day and night, I’m so over it. It is not “morning” sickness, it is all day sickness! I’m not actually throwing up (except once so far) but there’s a lot of dry heaving going on haha. The only upside is that despite the random candy I’m constantly eating, I lost 3 lbs this week lol. Maybe pregnancy/nausea was the kickstart I needed lol. One moment the only thing that sounds appetizing is a bagel, then the next I only want fruit. I’m all over the place.
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
I threw up last night and then again this morning. I have so much sinus drainage that I can't quit coughing, and it's making my chest hurt. My poor girl (26 months) was scared when I was throwing up just now and said, "Mom Mom get rid of dinner?" Yeah, I guess, honey. I was trying to keep her calm and away from the toilet.
I hate nausea so much.
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
I’ve woken up feeling pretty bleh the last two mornings but if I eat something, it usually passes. I’m hoping it stays like this and doesn’t get worse. I’ll take a dip without plunging in lol
@mamamoomoo12 LOL, throwing up in hopes of feeling better was my hungover trick. I wonder if would still apply 🤣
Fellow migraine folks- I would love any tips you have that don't include medicine.
immersing your hands and feet in water that is as hot as you can stand - redirects blood flow
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Also, constipation + hemorrhoids = very bad juju.
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
@mamamoomoo12 I know you asked for non-medication solutions, but I wanted to point out that Excedrin makes a tension headache medicine that only has caffeine and acetaminophen, both in safe levels for pregnancy. If you are already getting your caffeine elsewhere, I'd skip it, but it was a godsend during my last pregnancy and one a lot of women don't realize is available to them.