@bridgiebee82@anniemarie887 CVS sucks so hard. I got my flu and TDAP through them this fall and both times it was a hassle because AL doesn’t allow them to do MinuteClinics, so they can’t take medical insurance, but my medical covers vaccines even at pharmacies and my pharmacy (which is CVS CAREMARK?!?!?!) doesn’t cover vaccines because of that. I had to get my med coverage customer service on the phone, and they had to tell them that essentially “no, you’re just being dumb, listen to me, these are the numbers you need to try, and just let me know which one works.” 🙄
I was supposed to go to dinner with another nurse friend tonight and she cancelled. I'm going to dairy Queen even though it's 10 degrees out and going to sign up for Netflix to watch sweet magnolias. I listened to all the books so I've been wanting to start. So bummed about dinner though. I never do anything for myself.
@Katek819 I’m sorry you’re struggling. COVID plays on my anxieties as well.
@leahrnmom Sorry your plans were cancelled. Enjoy the ice cream and the foot rub!
My little guy (2) refused dinner, spiked a fever, and demanded to be put to bed at 6:15pm. He just got over HFMD before Christmas. It’s so hard when they don’t feel well and I’m just so over all these germs!
Omg this CVS pharmacy STINKS! I went in Saturday, was told my prenatal would be ready today. I went in to pick it up and they're still out of stock, and no one has it for 20 miles. Ummm what?! I'm changing pharmacies right this minute.
@bridgiebee82 what!? I'd be livid and would be dropping them as my pharmacy. They should have been honest if they weren't going to get them in by today so you could have gone somewhere else.
My local CVS stopped answering their phone over 6 months ago. After holding for an hour for a few days, I called the front end, who told me I would need to go in person to talk to anyone in pharmacy. No wonder why CVS closed some locations recently. The same for my PCP’s practice, straight to voicemail every time for 6 months. Covid mucked up so much normalcy.
Grateful I was able to switch doctors and my pharmacy and now have both who pick up a phone, every time.
Gah, just got off the phone with the school nurse. Our son was in close contact with someone exposed to covid. I know DS isn't consistently wearing his mask at school (he's 4 and it is a hard ask). Waiting on dates to find out how long we are in quarantine for.
Edit to add the rules for quarantining are apparently still 14 days from last exposure because none of the kids are eligible to vaccinated. So my poor son is probably stuck at home with us until the 31st even if he tests negative.
Edit to add: DS was directly exposed to someone who is covid positive. I'm not good at proof reading first thing in the morning lol.
@betsummerswilliams as someone who owns a business the staffing issues are.... insane.
hang on @darkrose88 he's only a secondary exposure from what you're saying... he was in contact with someone who was exposed, not someone positive... he doesn't need to quarantine unless the person he was in contact with was positive. not to sounds all like oh covid isn't a big deal, but i mean we're all in contact with ppl who were probably in contact with someone by just going to the grocery store.
@darkrose88 That's wild, 14 days for a secondary exposure!? Ours are down to 10 days for a primary exposure at daycare (no vaccines or masks because little kids), and our public schools have a "test and stay" policy, where in the case of primary exposure, if the kid is asymptomatic they stay in school and test daily for 5 days. No quarantines at all for a secondary exposure. I really hope they review those rules at your daycare/school, that is a crazy amount of caution, and what a disruption to schooling for your son and working for you!
@anniemarie887@maggiemadeit I'm going to have to update my previous post because I apparently did not do a good job proof reading before posting. He was directly exposed to someone who tested positive for covid. The classroms are small (10 kids max), and most of the kids don't mask so the school district decided the best policy for preschoolers was to shut down the classroom for 14 days from exposure. Even if he tests negative he still isn't allowed back in the classroom. The K-12 quarantine policy is completely different (similar to the policy @maggiemadeit laid out) because the kids are required to mask and many are vaccinated. Thankfully DH will be home with me and can help but it'll be a long two weeks for us both.
@darkrose88 no worries! i've def typed way too fast and then been like whoops, not explaining that right! i just didn't want to seem like i'm not covid cautious, but at first i was like wait, that seems extreme!! that is interested they are doing a 14 day shut down, but alas, every health dept is running this differently. in maryland it has to hit a % of the classroom for a shut down, even in the under 5/not required to mask at preschool group. our montessori operates on a test to return policy (day 5, can return day 10 if no symptoms and neg test) OR if you don't want to test your child then it's full 14 days.
it is a long two weeks, or even when its 10 days. sadly i've done it twice with our daughter.
@anniemarie887@maggiemadeit thanks for commiserating with me. I definitely think 14 days with no opportunity to go back early if he tests negative is excessive. But all school systems are different.
my trust in my sister in law has always been holding on by a thread but it just snapped and I am so mad/sad because of it. She is so wonderful with my son and she has a daughter they play great but I don't think I can trust her to come over ever.
First, she isn't vaccinated, I dont like it but its her choice so I don't love when she comes over but the kids have so much fun its like the worries melt away. HOWEVER, she got covid last week, she had a fever but otherwise "Felt fine" I was surprised she tested at all but she did and her daughter who can be vexed but isn't was negative. Kinda odd but whatever this think is weird, I believed her. Then I find out she lied about her daughters negative test, Luckily we have not been around her but she sent her to her fathers house, who would have sent her to school and then to daycare completely oblivious to the positive test. Somehow my father in law found out and made her go pick her up and keep her home but how the hell am I ever supposed to believe her again. I just think it was so selfish. Everyone knows she lives for the days her daughter is with her dad so I know she just didn't want to have to keep her home. We are all so pissed at her. I just can't believe she would put so many others in danger.
@Katek819 Wow! I mean, I get being vaxxed is a personal decision. But there is a big difference between choosing not to get vaccinated and lying about getting a positive covid test. I wouldn't trust my SIL either if I were in your shoes. That is really shady.
@Katek819 omg!!!! So I'm not vaccinated because my dr originally advised me not to get it due to other health concerns and allergies. I'm careful, I wear my mask, respect others who ask me to wear a mask near them, etc. I even had a friend ask me to get a rapid test done to be around her daughter who is in cancer remission. Of course I did! Because that's what you do when you care about people. I'd be absolutely LIVID with anyone if they pulled that crap. I know she's fun and awesome with your son, but what a dangerous thing to do!! I didn't know I was positive and I brought it over to my family. Thankfully, my 75 year old father didn't catch it. But sheesh! I'm so sorry that happened.
I draw a pretty hard line on the Vax stuff @katek819 and that would piss me off. It’s one thing when your dr doesn’t recommend you get vaxed, that I completely understand, but I am assuming she’s just choosing not to. And that is someone I wouldn’t want to spend time with.
Quick vent about my fiancé. He just had his wisdom teeth out. My vent is that he’s so stubborn and didn’t want to take his meds then was in terrible pain. He’s been a champ and apologized quite a few times but I’m frustrated bc I have had several teeth out and more surgeries than I care to tell anybody about. I KNOW WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT 😤. end rant.
@wigglyicecream i don’t understand people who won’t take pain meds! Opioids can be scary i get it ( did you see Dopesick on Netflix. Really good) but when you truly need them and aren’t someone with addiction problems, I just don’t get it. Why suffer.
@Katek819 I think he was trying to be tough? There’s no need, even though I know opioid addiction is very real and there’s lots of stories of how people got hurt then hooked. I haven’t seen that but I might have to check it out. He told me he took them once before when he hurt his back and didn’t like how they made him feel. I’m guessing those may have been stronger than the ones he has now
@wigglyicecream I never even filled the prescription for the opiods when I got my wisdom teeth out. I knew too many people who had bad side effects from them. I also know a bunch of other people who wouldn't take them when they got their wisdom teeth out. The big ibuprofen should make the pain manageable if there aren't any complications with the surgery.
About 9 months ago we got a bad hail storm. Most of the houses in my neighborhood got new roofs afterwards. It was a very very loud couple of months. I thought we were done with that nonsense. Nope. Someone around the corner is finally getting theirs done today so yet another day of banging alllllll dayyyy longgggg 🤯
@itsme215 oh nooooo hopefully they get it done quickly. My dad just had a new roof put on because he is getting solar. The guys totally messed up all of the gutters and haven't been back to replace them.
I know I keep complaining about the heat at my school, but this is ridiculous. We have to keep at least one window open for ventilation because of covid. I get it. But the heat isn't even kicking on in my building. We are all wearing coats and gloves. I have on a tank top, a t-shirt, a sweater, my scarf, my coat, and 2 pairs of pants. This is nuts! When the temperature is above freezing we are supposed to take the kids outside for recess. We may as well have been outside all day. I closed my window (at the janitor's direction), cranked up the air purifier, and am putting on the tiny space heater in my room. If the kids are cold, they can gather around and do their work. This sucks.
ETA: I thought that heat rises, and I'm on the top floor of the building. I'm just really cranky when I'm cold.
@bridgiebee82 I'm sorry that sounds frustrating and really uncomfortable. They need to get that heat working! If they're so concerned that you need the window open I can't imagine they want to be necessitating gathering around a portable heater. I hope they turn on the heat soon.
@geshem and @leahrnmom thanks ladies! The heat actually kicked on yesterday. I saw the head of maintenance in the morning and was all bundled up. He went and cranked it up fornme and the kids were super grateful! I even took my cardigan off at one point. Hopefully today it works. It's only just my floor of the building. Everywhere else it works fine. It's just a really old, outdated system. I know I would not be okay sending my kids to school in that environment and my mother would have raised Holy hell that she's spending close to what is now 5k a year per child for the 5 of us to sit and freeze all day. I'm hoping it works again today.
Ugh so my mom has the home I grew up in a rents it out because several years ago she couldn't get what she owed. She owes a bit less now and with the market I think she should try to sell again. The problem is that every time something goes wrong she needs to spend more money or needs either my H or my sisters FI to go fix it. My H always says "I don't know why she didn't call me" if she pays someone to fix it, but then gets mad when she asks him to help. Today as soon as we got home from Pittsburgh she asked him to go change the toilet seat. When he got there the tenet said "by the way it's leaking". He then gets mad at me and it's now been 3 hours and he still isn't home. It's snowing and the kids are asking when he is coming home. I don't know what to say to my mom because she has two jobs but spends money she doesn't have and doesn't have anyone else. I want her to get rid of the house. We told her this last time there was something wrong and my H spent the whole day fixing it. She won't take the steps to try to sell again. I don't know how to create the boundaries that this situation needs because I feel like my mom gave me so much growing up and she doesn't have anyone else. I'm just so frustrated.
@leahrnmom that must be so frustrating. Is your mom open to sitting down and talking with you and your sister? Maybe you could talk to her about how it would be easier for the entire family if she sold the house. I know it's hard to break away from a house that has so many memories attached to it, even if you're renting it out.
@leahrnmom is a property manager an option if she doesn’t want to sell yet? That sounds so frustrating. Also, I would probably talk to MH and ask him why the mixed signals—like being mad if she doesn’t call and also not wanting to really help? I’d let him know that those two opposing reactions aren’t very fair.
So, I'm irritated right now. I was in an abusive relationship over 10 years ago for about 4.5 years. I still talk to his daughter on occasion. She has a 3 year old son who currently lives with his father, over an hour away. She never sees him, and does not prioritize seeing him. She is too busy smoking pot, but then complains that his father doesn't let her see him. Well, you're consistently high. I know that sounds super judgey, and to each their own, but when you consistently smoke weed, you don't make sound choices. Take that from a former complete stoner. She just texted me to tell me that she is 5 weeks pregnant. I'm annoyed because now what's a special time for me, is kind of overshadowed by her. I'm just really annoyed by my ex's daughter's news. I know I should be excited for her, but I was the last time, and she is so irresponsible as a mom. She expects everyone to take care of her and her needs, and doesn't give a crap about her own kid's needs and well-being. She doesn't even pay child support. IDK, I know hormones make you nuts, but I'm really irritated.
@bridgiebee82 nah I get it. It is so hard to watch people who don’t treasure their children have more children when I know so many who desperately want children and cannot have them. Vent away. Maybe this will inspire her to get herself together. Hopefully she’s not going to smoke for the next 9ish months??
@bridgiebee82 obviously a complicated situation but you don’t need to feel overshadowed by her news. Your news is JUST as important.
And definitely not my place to tell you what relationships to maintain but it seems like it may be toxic for you. If you can’t communicate with her in a positive way, distance might be a good thing.
You need to focus on your health (mental and physical) and should never feel bad about removing yourself from a situation that doesn’t elicit positive energy.
@and_peggy@mdfarmchick thanks ladies. I spoke to my cousin for like an hour, and she basically said the same thing as you. I am happy foe her, but at the same time, I feel sorry for her babies. And that's just not a healthy place for me mentally and physically right now.
@bridgiebee82 I know that feeling and totally understand. It's so hard to see people who aren't good caretakers become a parent again and again. When I was going through secondary infertility, it hurt so much. It felt so unfair. Your feelings are definitely valid, here.
@leahrnmom boundaries can be so awkward and hard to bring up, especially with family. My therapist helps me word things effectively when needed, otherwise I try to figure out a way to bring it up without being ambiguous. Sorry you have to experience this!
So I started feeling crappy on Wednesday (body aches, foggy head, sore throat, runny nose) but Mh worked through Friday so I kinda just had to tough it out. I was looking forward to Saturday SO MUCH because I could finally have a full rest day. Well. NOT. MH woke up feeling terrible on Saturday so HE got the rest day while I still took care of the house and kids. I AM PISSED. I know it's not his fault but I haven't gotten any rest days and he's gotten two so far. I let him know that I felt overlooked and he promised me at least a full weekend of rest next weekend but that's not when I needed it most. I'm just....burned out.
Re: Venting Thread
My little guy (2) refused dinner, spiked a fever, and demanded to be put to bed at 6:15pm. He just got over HFMD before Christmas. It’s so hard when they don’t feel well and I’m just so over all these germs!
Omg this CVS pharmacy STINKS! I went in Saturday, was told my prenatal would be ready today. I went in to pick it up and they're still out of stock, and no one has it for 20 miles. Ummm what?! I'm changing pharmacies right this minute.
My local CVS stopped answering their phone over 6 months ago. After holding for an hour for a few days, I called the front end, who told me I would need to go in person to talk to anyone in pharmacy. No wonder why CVS closed some locations recently. The same for my PCP’s practice, straight to voicemail every time for 6 months. Covid mucked up so much normalcy.
Edit to add the rules for quarantining are apparently still 14 days from last exposure because none of the kids are eligible to vaccinated. So my poor son is probably stuck at home with us until the 31st even if he tests negative.
Edit to add: DS was directly exposed to someone who is covid positive. I'm not good at proof reading first thing in the morning lol.
hang on @darkrose88 he's only a secondary exposure from what you're saying... he was in contact with someone who was exposed, not someone positive... he doesn't need to quarantine unless the person he was in contact with was positive. not to sounds all like oh covid isn't a big deal, but i mean we're all in contact with ppl who were probably in contact with someone by just going to the grocery store.
it is a long two weeks, or even when its 10 days. sadly i've done it twice with our daughter.
my trust in my sister in law has always been holding on by a thread but it just snapped and I am so mad/sad because of it. She is so wonderful with my son and she has a daughter they play great but I don't think I can trust her to come over ever.
First, she isn't vaccinated, I dont like it but its her choice so I don't love when she comes over but the kids have so much fun its like the worries melt away. HOWEVER, she got covid last week, she had a fever but otherwise "Felt fine" I was surprised she tested at all but she did and her daughter who can be vexed but isn't was negative. Kinda odd but whatever this think is weird, I believed her. Then I find out she lied about her daughters negative test, Luckily we have not been around her but she sent her to her fathers house, who would have sent her to school and then to daycare completely oblivious to the positive test. Somehow my father in law found out and made her go pick her up and keep her home but how the hell am I ever supposed to believe her again. I just think it was so selfish. Everyone knows she lives for the days her daughter is with her dad so I know she just didn't want to have to keep her home. We are all so pissed at her. I just can't believe she would put so many others in danger.
ugh
ETA: I thought that heat rises, and I'm on the top floor of the building. I'm just really cranky when I'm cold.
And definitely not my place to tell you what relationships to maintain but it seems like it may be toxic for you. If you can’t communicate with her in a positive way, distance might be a good thing.
You need to focus on your health (mental and physical) and should never feel bad about removing yourself from a situation that doesn’t elicit positive energy.
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@leahrnmom boundaries can be so awkward and hard to bring up, especially with family. My therapist helps me word things effectively when needed, otherwise I try to figure out a way to bring it up without being ambiguous. Sorry you have to experience this!
So I started feeling crappy on Wednesday (body aches, foggy head, sore throat, runny nose) but Mh worked through Friday so I kinda just had to tough it out. I was looking forward to Saturday SO MUCH because I could finally have a full rest day. Well. NOT. MH woke up feeling terrible on Saturday so HE got the rest day while I still took care of the house and kids. I AM PISSED. I know it's not his fault but I haven't gotten any rest days and he's gotten two so far. I let him know that I felt overlooked and he promised me at least a full weekend of rest next weekend but that's not when I needed it most. I'm just....burned out.
Bright side: u/s appointment on Tuesday. Hurray.