@sienna221 I was 10w2d and the OB office had my result at 11w. I called Progenity on 11w1d and they told me my OB had to give me the results (no online portal). I called the office and they gave me the sex and I came in the next day for the rest. Most of the companies I’m familiar with finalize the results within 1-2 weeks. It may have been from a previous post of yours but I remember someone saying that. I got worried but just hoped there was enough DNA to process. It was ok so anecdotally it can work that early.
@cait32 I did the panorama! I’m happy to hear results are posted right away. My doctor said they wouldn’t be posted until after he calls me and I wasn’t having that!
TTC History
Me: 26 DH: 27
TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019
TTC#2 | June '20-February '21 | DS | Due October 27, 2021
Under what circumstances will an OB move up your due date? At the first appointment, baby was 5 days ahead of my LMP; today they're a full week ahead. Wondering if this baby is just big so far, or if there's reason to think my due date should actually be a week earlier.
@noprobalo, I think your question is likely provider-dependent. I'm pretty sure my doctor has said she sticks with EDD based on LMP unless the baby is measuring more than a week in either direction.
@vampirina Fair. I'm only interested because I need to have 12 months of service to qualify for parental leave, and it's gonna come down to the wire. 😬
@noprobalo I know the feeling! I needed to have my daughter on 9/25 (or later) or I wouldn't have qualified and thankfully she stayed put and we delivered on 9/25 😄. Talk about a real nail biter. She was due on the 24th.
My son was 10 days early though so you never know.
@vampirina Wow, what an obliging kid! We won't be that close; I'm just hoping to cobble enough other paid leave together to get over the hump, but we'll see!
I am finding out that I can be a back sleeper. I am not entirely sure how long I'm laying on my back at night.I know it's not good to lay on your back for long periods of time during pregnancy because it can effect the blood flow to the baby. Can anyone suggest what I can use or what you have used in the past? Or am I panicking for no reason yet since I'm 14 weeks today?
@jtayl962 it’s not likely to cause issue now, however, it may in a month or two. A have a pregnancy pillow that I’ll tuck under my butt to keep me slightly tilted to one side if I land on my back.
TTC History
Me: 26 DH: 27
TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019
TTC#2 | June '20-February '21 | DS | Due October 27, 2021
Does anyone get their hair colored during pregnancy?
I do plan to ask my OB at my next appointment. I’ve read mixed things online. Definitely didn’t want to first trimester. I didn’t at all with my son because after 3 losses I was super worried about everything, but I’m starting to go gray (in my late 20s 🙈) so I’d love to get my hair colored BUT obviously baby’s safety is my first priority so just curious what other pregnant people do
@momofmiracles31889 I am also wondering the same thing! I know a ton of women do it, but I’m paranoid. I never did with my youngest. I needed to badly, but didn’t want to risk anything. I had a hair apt for a color and balayage the afternoon I found out I was pregnant so I cancelled it. I was sooooo bummed, I was hoping for one more apt before I got pregnant. My grays are horrible! And my ash gray is turning more orange now. I got some root spray to help, which it does, but kind of makes my hair frizzy the next day. I am such a hair freak and this is killing me! Atleast I don’t see many people right now cause of covid.
@steph-ann I totally understand! I’m a super cautious person during pregnancy because of my losses (I don’t really drink any caffeine, don’t dye my hair, use mostly chemical free products on my body etc) but I know so many women do these things and their babies are perfectly fine so wondering if it’s more my anxiety/ocd driving these decisions! I’ll let you know what my OB says when I ask next week! My grandmother went grey SUPER young so I’m not surprised this is happening to me but I was hoping it wouldn’t get too bad until I was done having kids but I keep seeing more and more pop up 🤣 I have a medium reddish brown color hair sooo the greys really stand out 🙈
I’m still pandemic working from home full time so it’s been easy to keep a secret from them so far. But now that everyone else knows it feels weird to not tell my coworkers.
@purplegoldpirate, I'm in a similar situation with my work. I usually work in a shared office space, but for covid-reasons I'm working in a separate office right now (same building though). I still see my coworkers occasionally, but it's rare enough that I've been able to hide the pregnancy easily thus far. Everyone else in that office is still in the normal space, so I could easily just walk in and tell them all. But I'd feel so awkward barging in to announce, "by the way I'm pregnant! Ok.... back to my temporary office, byyyye!" So I keep putting it off. It feels awkward to tell, and it also feels awkward to keep it a secret much longer. I was going to share this morning and chickened out. Uggggghhh I have no good answers. I think I'm going to tell this week, so I'll be sometime between 13w3d and 14w.
@galentine I’m 14w4d so similar stage. My teammates are all older than me (closest is 18 years older) and I am the age of some of their kids. I’ve worked with them for 10 years (for two different employers) and they worked together even longer. In a Teams meeting a couple weeks ago we were chatting about former coworkers and whose grandchild was due and whose kid was what age this year and it was SO hard to keep zipped. Maybe I’ll announce in our next team meeting so I’m telling them all at once. Or should I tell my boss separately first? Ugh.
@purplegoldpirate I have already formally told work. I now have the lower stakes problem where I am not sure that word is going to get around. Most of my coworkers telework the majority of the time, and when they're in, we all kind of keep to our offices. There is minimal water cooler talk. So I wonder if I'm going to startle coworkers when they finally see me walking around the office like the Goodyear blimp 😆
Just out of curiosity: how do you and your partner go about choosing baby names? Does one of you suggest names and the other vetoes/agrees? Do you each come up with a list separately and then compare? Draw names from a hat? I'm curious how our strategy compares to other couples'.
My H and I have a front runner name for a girl, but are nowhere near consensus for a boy name. So far our strategy is that we each (separately) look through the entire baby name book for boys, mark which names we like (we each have a designated pen color), and then we'll compare to see if there were any overlaps for names that we both liked. From there, assuming there are multiple matches, we'll narrow it down. (We'll eventually do the same for girls names, and then compare them to our front runner to see what we like best.) I'm honestly afraid we might get zero matches for boy names This is easily the hardest part of being Team Green!!
Currently we have a front runner girl name and no idea on boy names so we just shout them randomly to each other as we go about our day and the other either says “no” or “short list it” and we’ll eventually come together with our (long) short list google doc and narrow further.
@purplegoldpirate I told my principals at 4 weeks because I had a sneaky suspicion that this pregnancy would be full of appointments like my last and I didn’t want to keep taking time off and have them wonder.
TTC History
Me: 26 DH: 27
TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019
TTC#2 | June '20-February '21 | DS | Due October 27, 2021
@galentine we each suggest names and then veto or approve. We had a Google Keep list for DS. We had 3 names and decided on one the day he was born. With this little guy, I'm pretty sure we have decided on a name, still working on a middle name. DS' name ends in "on," so I suggested another name ending in "n." I suggested a few which were vetoed haha.
@purplegoldpirate I intended to tell HR and my boss already, but I never see them and rarely talk to them. It seems like an awkward thing to email, but I don't want to schedule a Zoom meeting just for that. I'm really good at putting things off, but I'm already 16 weeks and this is going fast, so I need to do it soon. My employees will figure it out on their own because I don't think I'm going to outright tell them until we start prepping for my leave.
@galentine DH isn't into coming up with names, so I compile a list of names that I like and he vetos any that he doesn't like. Then we discuss and rank the names left over. There is an app where you and your partner link accounts, then you swipe left or right on baby names. I don't remember the name of it, but I feel like you could find it by Googling "Tinder for Baby Names." I like the concept, but the names seemed fairly limited in the free version.
@galentine I put together a list of names, and he went through and vetoed ones he didn't like. Then he added a couple names he had, and we informally ranked them. The list was pretty short, though, because we only wanted to use family names or ones that were very similar. We've picked one, but we're waiting to see if we feel settled on it before making it formal in any way.
@galentine We are constantly discussing names, agreeing to them, and then forgetting about them because we don't write them down. We are settled on a girls' name, we've basically been in agreement to some variation of this name with my prior two boys.
@galentine that is the same strategy my SIL and BIL use. It works really well for them. My husband has no strong opinions so I make a list of names I like and he vetos them. Any name he doesn’t veto stays in the list and then we pick a favorite. We dig through the family tree to find baby names so we did that step together, as well.
TTC History
Me: 26 DH: 27
TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019
TTC#2 | June '20-February '21 | DS | Due October 27, 2021
@galentine that is the same strategy my SIL and BIL use. It works really well for them. My husband has no strong opinions so I make a list of names I like and he vetos them. Any name he doesn’t veto stays in the list and then we pick a favorite. We dig through the family tree to find baby names so we did that step together, as well.
Monday confession: I WISH my husband had no strong opinions! Haha! I have a boy name my heart is absolutely set on, and he hates it. But it's so perfect and nothing g else compares for me 😭😭
@galentine that’s how our girl name was. He hated it and I loved it. I just kept saying it and taught DD how to say it and he totally caved eventually. That’s what happened with DD, too. Her name is Tennyson, which is very out there, and he did not like it, but the more I said it and made nicknames for her, he fell in love. Keep trying!
TTC History
Me: 26 DH: 27
TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019
TTC#2 | June '20-February '21 | DS | Due October 27, 2021
@galentine we will just casually say names out loud and say yes or no. It’s so random. DH will be cooking dinner and be like “Oliver?” or I’ll pause a movie we’re watching and be like “Zachary?” And the other person says no, maybe, or I like that! Once we thought of a first name we liked, we thought of a middle name to go with it.
And that’s just gone on sporadically over the last year and a half since we started trying 😂 we are pretty set on both a girls and boys name. 100% on the girls and like 80% sure on the boys (I am 100% and just need to keep convincing him it’s perfect) But once we find out the sex we’ll really nail it down and decide. We really like to talk about the baby’s name before the baby is born and get used to hearing it and saying it
Is anyone else’s clinic or practice cutting back on prenatal appointments because of COVID? The cancelled my 16 week appointment all together (I can still opt for a nurses only appointment, but no provider) and rather than a 24 and 28 week appointment, they are only doing 26 week appointments. It really bothers me that they are getting back appointments, especially knowing some of the risks I carry in this pregnancy. Am I the only one?
TTC History
Me: 26 DH: 27
TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019
TTC#2 | June '20-February '21 | DS | Due October 27, 2021
@chindimples04, my clinic is still having their usual schedule for pregnant patients. I can see how it would make you nervous to skip appointments if you are high risk. Can you request to be seen on the normal schedule due to your concerns?
@chindimples04 I dont think mine is a different schedule but I would be highly annoyed if only because I'm sure they aren't charging less. My provider bills for a whole pregnancy.
@demimondaine I’m billed per appointment, but I’m only $300 from my deductible so I don’t even care. 🤣 @galentine I’m debating asking to do a 24 and 28 week appointment. I’m with @vampirina that skipping 16 weeks isn’t the end of the world as it’s usually just a doppler appointment, but 24-26 weeks was when all hell broke loose last pregnancy. Maybe I’ll call this week and bring up my concern.
TTC History
Me: 26 DH: 27
TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019
TTC#2 | June '20-February '21 | DS | Due October 27, 2021
@chindimples04 I would definitely want to have the 24 and 28 given what you said about your last pregnancy.
My clinic isn’t cutting back. My OB’s office is steps away from the hospital. I have been going every week since I found out I was pregnant and the HG started. My OB bills per appointment/service and not for the whole pregnancy. I’m not sure if that’s just my personal experience with the practice because of my insurance or if they also bill for the whole pregnancy for other insurance? The hospital I’m delivering at just opened back up to visitors (on a limited basis) for the first time since the pandemic started. I am excited about this because it means that likely they’ll have an in-person “birthing/learn baby basics” class. It’s my SO’s first so I really wanted to go together to include him as much as I can in this whole process.
Re: The Great Big Questions Thread
I called Progenity on 11w1d and they told me my OB had to give me the results (no online portal). I called the office and they gave me the sex and I came in the next day for the rest.
Most of the companies I’m familiar with finalize the results within 1-2 weeks.
It may have been from a previous post of yours but I remember someone saying that. I got worried but just hoped there was enough DNA to process. It was ok so anecdotally it can work that early.
Me: 26 DH: 27
TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019
TTC#2 | June '20-February '21 | DS | Due October 27, 2021
Tbh, due date is kind if a crap shoot estimate anyway.
My son was 10 days early though so you never know.
Me: 26 DH: 27
TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019
TTC#2 | June '20-February '21 | DS | Due October 27, 2021
Me: 26 DH: 27
TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019
TTC#2 | June '20-February '21 | DS | Due October 27, 2021
I do plan to ask my OB at my next appointment. I’ve read mixed things online. Definitely didn’t want to first trimester. I didn’t at all with my son because after 3 losses I was super worried about everything, but I’m starting to go gray (in my late 20s 🙈) so I’d love to get my hair colored BUT obviously baby’s safety is my first priority so just curious what other pregnant people do
@steph-ann I totally understand! I’m a super cautious person during pregnancy because of my losses (I don’t really drink any caffeine, don’t dye my hair, use mostly chemical free products on my body etc) but I know so many women do these things and their babies are perfectly fine so wondering if it’s more my anxiety/ocd driving these decisions! I’ll let you know what my OB says when I ask next week! My grandmother went grey SUPER young so I’m not surprised this is happening to me but I was hoping it wouldn’t get too bad until I was done having kids but I keep seeing more and more pop up 🤣 I have a medium reddish brown color hair sooo the greys really stand out 🙈
My H and I have a front runner name for a girl, but are nowhere near consensus for a boy name. So far our strategy is that we each (separately) look through the entire baby name book for boys, mark which names we like (we each have a designated pen color), and then we'll compare to see if there were any overlaps for names that we both liked. From there, assuming there are multiple matches, we'll narrow it down. (We'll eventually do the same for girls names, and then compare them to our front runner to see what we like best.) I'm honestly afraid we might get zero matches for boy names
Currently we have a front runner girl name and no idea on boy names so we just shout them randomly to each other as we go about our day and the other either says “no” or “short list it” and we’ll eventually come together with our (long) short list google doc and narrow further.
Me: 26 DH: 27
TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019
TTC#2 | June '20-February '21 | DS | Due October 27, 2021
@galentine DH isn't into coming up with names, so I compile a list of names that I like and he vetos any that he doesn't like. Then we discuss and rank the names left over. There is an app where you and your partner link accounts, then you swipe left or right on baby names. I don't remember the name of it, but I feel like you could find it by Googling "Tinder for Baby Names." I like the concept, but the names seemed fairly limited in the free version.
Me: 26 DH: 27
TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019
TTC#2 | June '20-February '21 | DS | Due October 27, 2021
Me: 26 DH: 27
TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019
TTC#2 | June '20-February '21 | DS | Due October 27, 2021
Me: 26 DH: 27
TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019
TTC#2 | June '20-February '21 | DS | Due October 27, 2021
@galentine I’m debating asking to do a 24 and 28 week appointment. I’m with @vampirina that skipping 16 weeks isn’t the end of the world as it’s usually just a doppler appointment, but 24-26 weeks was when all hell broke loose last pregnancy. Maybe I’ll call this week and bring up my concern.
Me: 26 DH: 27
TTC #1 | June '18-August '18 | DD | Born April 21, 2019 | Due May 10, 2019
TTC#2 | June '20-February '21 | DS | Due October 27, 2021
The hospital I’m delivering at just opened back up to visitors (on a limited basis) for the first time since the pandemic started. I am excited about this because it means that likely they’ll have an in-person “birthing/learn baby basics” class. It’s my SO’s first so I really wanted to go together to include him as much as I can in this whole process.