I wouldn't typically bring this up now, but since there are so few of us, I figure we can at least start talking about it. When do we think we want to move platforms? Facebook is the obvious choice, but I'm up for other options if anyone has any suggestions.
The way we did it in our last bump group:
1. Voted for FB Admins
2. Members would send a private message to one of the FB Admins with their email address and a picture of themselves holding up a piece of paper with assigned word written on it showing their face and their bump.
3. The FB admin would friend them on FB and invite them to the FB group.
4. If a members participation/identity was called into question, the FB admins would discuss.
Thoughts?
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*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
Re: Thoughts about our future? (Moving platforms)
That process sounds very similar to how my BMB did it. Just one thing... FB does not require you to be friend with someone to add them to a group. You can also do it by using their email. Not sure if that would make people more or less comfortable, but that's how my last BMB did it, so it wasn't awkward if you didn't want to be friends with the admin.
Also, for the people whose participation was so/so the admins created a poll in the FB group that was then deleted before they were invited in. So all the members could discuss whether they would be comfortable with that person in the group.
The Facebook group could be set to private (unsearchable) and by invite only. The established group would be approved, based off of initial screening requirements we could agree on. Admins should indeed be selected.
Some examples of eligibility:
We could close our board permanently by April 30, 2021. Any requests made to join after that date would be denied. 🤷♀️
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
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*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
I have been trying to think alternatives because I really don’t want to lose you all but I just can’t think of another platform that is as accessible that everyone always uses. I think Slack could be great, but there’s a learning curve there for folks who don’t already use it. I can research other online forums but I’m not on any other message boards so I dont know a lot of software or sites for this rn.
ETA: I hate FB because I know too much about how they work, since I work in adtech. They can use any and everything I share there for ad targeting despite what I opt out of and they have an abysmal track record for respecting user privacy in general.
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
@ec1212 I actually created a FB account just to move with my previous BMB. I had resisted making an account for over 10 years, and then I couldn't stand the thought of loosing touch with all those woman. After that I became way to addicted to FB, and was really active in that group. It blew up in October when half the group accused the other half of being racist. It was really ugly, and I am now part of a much smaller spin-off group, and no where near as active. It makes me really nervous for our move. But unfortunately it really is just a much easier to use platform, and one that it easy for almost everyone.
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
That said, I don't think we moved to FB until the babies started to be born which was a little early for us because we had two 26 weekers.
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to Reddit, I just don’t like the format as much.
I have never heard of Signal, but if its like Telegram its one more app I don't have space for on my phone. As much as I like Whatsapp, these app styles don't really seem to be as flexible with threads as Facebook and I assume Reddit.
As to moving, I've gotten used to how this site works, so joining the Reddit now for fun and moving in April/May sounds like a good idea. But it will definitely take me a while to get over to the reddit, I'm not in a rush and a little overwhelmed by social media right now.
BFP #1 January 28, 2016
Felicity Joy, born September 2, 2016
My Chart
BFP #2 September 11, 2020
EDD May 23, 2021
As for timing, where ever we end up moving, I think after the babies come is pretty late. It does take time to remember who is who, and connect real names to FB names, and that would probably be hard when also in the newborn fog.
For those who say they have facebook but don't really use it. I use the desktop and the mobile site (not the app) and there is a way to bookmark a group, so you can go straight to that group, and skip your main feed... If that's something that may make FB more attractive.
BFP #1 January 28, 2016
Felicity Joy, born September 2, 2016
My Chart
BFP #2 September 11, 2020
EDD May 23, 2021
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
BFP #1 January 28, 2016
Felicity Joy, born September 2, 2016
My Chart
BFP #2 September 11, 2020
EDD May 23, 2021
BFP #1 January 28, 2016
Felicity Joy, born September 2, 2016
My Chart
BFP #2 September 11, 2020
EDD May 23, 2021
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
I 100% agree
BFP #1 January 28, 2016
Felicity Joy, born September 2, 2016
My Chart
BFP #2 September 11, 2020
EDD May 23, 2021