TW Spotting/Bleeding/Threatened Loss Support

mindyb2019 · October 2020

I saw this on another BMB and thought this was an important thread to have for all of us.

This thread is to support anyone experiencing spotting and/or bleeding.

All conversation surrounding these issues should go here. The TW in the title applies for the whole thread. Please beware of reading ahead if you think you might be triggered by conversations about spotting/bleeding.

Finally, remember that most of us are not medical professionals, and even if we were, it's always best to call/visit your doctor with questions or concerns. Feel free to ask questions and voice concerns, but please do not expect anyone here to be able to offer you anything but support. The most important thing to do is to call your doctor. They can offer answers; we can offer support.

ramzlau · October 2020

@mindyb2019 Thank you for starting this! I was going to do the same. I hope no one needs it, but if so, it helps to have a safe space to find support.

mindyb2019 · October 2020

@ramzlau your welcome. I figured it would be a good thread to have. I really hope no one here will need it. FX

MelissaMay82 · October 2020

Yesterday I had pink tinged discharge throughout the day, it wasn’t a lot but a little several times while wiping. I also had low back pain and lower abdominal pressure/discomfort. This morning after a BM I had quite a bit of brownish-reddish/pinkish blood when I wiped. Last pregnancy, I had an SCH but the bleeding did not start this early (that I can remember). I am preparing myself for a mc/cp. I think this is exactly how my 2nd mc started. I’m really hoping that it is just implementation bleeding and/or cervical irritation. But with my history my PGAL brain is not letting me be too positive.

wendy838 · October 2020

@MelissaMay82 sorry to hear you are going through this - sending positive thoughts! Every pregnancy is different so it could be normal bleeding. Fx for you.

mindyb2019 · October 2020

@MelissaMay82 I'm so sorry your going through this right now. Ive had 2 losses myself so i know how scary bleeding can be and PGAL brain is the worst. Im sending you all the positive vibes. Im praying that baby is ok and that it's just implantation bleeding etc.. FX. Do you get an U/S soon to make sure all is ok?

ramzlau · October 2020

@MelissaMay82 Hopefully when you see your OB today at work she can get you in for a beta. Best wishes!

MelissaMay82 · October 2020

Thank you all. On and off bleeding has continued throughout the day. It’s only when wipe. There has been tiny bits of stringy tissue in the toilet.

sorry, I accidentally posted before I was done typing.

The rest of the day it has just been a little bit when I wipe. I still have lower abdominal pressure/discomfort that comes and goes, my back pain has been better today.

I will hopefully see my OB or one in her group tomorrow at work. I think that I am in gyn robot All day (I’m an OR RN).

jaztastic · October 2020

@melissaMay82 thinking of you.

MelissaMay82 · October 2020

I just texted my ob. She said to just wait it out for now and will probably do an u/s in 2 or 3 weeks.

mrs_massie · October 2020

@melissamay82 i hate that answer. I wish they would just give us the peace of mind. FX for you and wishing lots of stickyness

mindyb2019 · October 2020

@MelissaMay82 that answer is legit the worst. Im sorry. FX for you for a good healthy U/S.

klj0228 · October 2020

@MelissaMay82 sorry that is the answer your provider gave. It is not very reassuring and doesn’t provide immediate answers which would be nice.

inthewoods23 · October 2020

I am really struggling here.

Went in for my US with the RE and she said I'm only measuring 5+5 when I'm 6+5. No heartbeat (which makes sense for 5+5). It implanted in the upper corner of my uterus. I don't know if this means there's risk to losing my tube or what. I didn't ask before she left. She also said the sac was squished and she couldn't tell if something was a squished yolk sac or the start of a fetal pole. Now that I've consulted Dr. Google like an idiot I'm not in a good headspace now.

I'm really worried

sgrn18 · October 2020

@inthewoods23 google is the enemy! Early ultrasounds can be off by +or- 5 days I believe and also the location being so high in your uterus may make it more difficult to get a better look. When is your follow up?

@MelissaMay82 I hope you get some better answers soon. I feel like every time I went to the dr for bleeding with my last pregnancy I got the “it could go either way” or “it’s 50/50”. Those are never answers we want to hear and they really aren’t helpful. I switched OBs after that who really understood my anxiety.

Praying for healthy and sticky beans for you all and for good news at follow up appts.

inthewoods23 · October 2020

@sgrn18 I got back next Monday on the 19th. It was weird because depending on how she had the wand positioned, sometimes it was a small circle, but at some other angle it was long and flat. So idk if it's trying to grow into my tube or what.

jaztastic · October 2020

@inthewoods23 NOOOOOOOOO. Im so so sorry. There is the optimistic side of me that just wants to give you all the positivity and hope for the best speeches. With a natural BFP Ive got my fingers crossed that maybe, just maybe the dating is off and you really are 5+5. Had you done a FET I would be much more frightened and a realist with you. I know that headspace you are in right now and its the worst. When is your next appointment?

ps... stay off Dr Google

inthewoods23 · October 2020

@jaztastic I'm really annoyed about this because I was only at 177 HCG 2 weeks ago and even then they thought late implantation, "maybe a chemical" so like wtf did you really expect me to be showing as 6+5?? 5+5 totally makes sense if I ovulated 4 days past the typical CD14 and implanted 6-7 days after ovulation. Idk what to think about the squished sac part and the positioning, that's really where my worry is. I've heard plenty of people be told they're measuring behind and then when they go back later they say they're caught up.

mindyb2019 · October 2020

@inthewoods23 noooo friend no!! I’m so so sorry to hear that. I’m trying to stay positive for you and have faith that it will all be ok. Sending you so many hugs and love today ❤️ I hope your appt on the 19th will be good news.

klj0228 · October 2020

@inthewoods23 I’m sorry you received information that contradicts with your expected timeline. Will she do another us soon? Could you maybe message her through a portal and say, “I was very overwhelmed this morning and now that I am home I have several questions/concerns.” Then list off what you want to know. I am sure she would be happy to answer any questions you have,

sgrn18 · October 2020

@inthewoods23 1 week should be plenty of time to be able to see more. I hope you get better answers then.

I agree with @klj0228 message your RE! I feel like REs are more responsive than a general OB with these situations

pickle-chips · October 2020

@inthewoods23 I’m so sorry. Is there any chance the RE would answer a question about the position of the sac by phone? Just to clarify and hopefully put any concerns to rest? I hope that they were simply making the comment to say that’s why they were having a tricky time, but to not clarify that it’s something to be concerned/not concerned about is frustrating.

I agree with others, stay away from Dr Google (I know way easier said than done).

inthewoods23 · October 2020

@mindyb2019 thank you

@klj0228 I got back next Monday so hopefully things do progress. I'll message them later this afternoon and ask. I feel like if there was that huge of a concern the RE would have said to watch out for XYZ and notify them immediately if anything happens before the next US. My RE definitely doesn't have the best bedside manner.

*TW for MC related story*

One of the days I had gone in for a beta (can't remember which at this point), she must have been doing a Zoom consult at the time I was in the alcove to have my blood drawn. I'm pretty sure her door was closed but there's no soundproofing it seems. Anyway, I hear here basically berating a woman who had a MC in February and then again in May of this year. I heard her yell something about not waiting the appropriate or recommended amount of time after the MC in February. I'm not sure if she was blaming her as the reason why she MC in May? I think this must have been a new patient because I think they were seeking answers for her MCs but my RE was basically like "you can get pregnant just fine, there's nothing more I can really do for you". It was super awkward to hear and basically the nurse drawing my blood and I were pretending it wasn't happening.

So yeah.... not the best at speaking with patients.

inthewoods23 · October 2020

Oh great, my progesterone is only at 7. I'm so f*cked. Going on suppositories starting tonight. This day blows. Boooo

artsiefartsie · October 2020

@inthewoods23 I'm so sorry you are having to deal with all of this. Sending you all kinds of love and comforting energy!

DoubleUp8 · October 2020

@inthewoods23 I'm sorry you are going through all of this. Sending you big hugs.

@MelissaMay82 I'm sorry that you are having bleeding and your doctor is not being helpful.

wendy838 · October 2020

@inthewoods23 Sorry that you're dealing with this added stress, wishing you all the best for your appt on the 19th! I feel you have a great chance of getting your beta levels on the right track since you caught it so early.

asf0613 · October 2020

lurking...
@inthewoods23 i will be keeping you in my thoughts. i hate that the earliest they will check again is the 19th, but i do suppose thats better than going back too soon and not seeing enough progress for comfort. in the meantime, best thing you can do is be kind to yourself and try not to give yourself undue stress from google.

ramzlau · October 2020

@inthewoods23 Take a deep breath girl! I am holding out hope for you for a lot of reasons! 1) I think your dating is off because your beta was low but has been doubling nicely! 2) I think her commenting about it being upper, just means it was hard to get a good image (remember it is like the size of a lentil seed and trying to see it with this wand) and the fact that it isn’t near your cervix, which is actually good! 3) Progesterone changes a lot throughout the day, so it takes a series of them to actually show that it is low, but going on suppositories is default because it doesn’t hurt anything to be on them and they are cheap. So better to go with the easy route.

Stay away from Google and hang on! You aren’t spotting or bleeding, which are good signs. ❤️

MelissaMay82 · October 2020

Thanks everyone! My OB is actually really awesome and supportive. Sorry I typed that update quick while I was on lunch and should have added in more of the convo. My OB and I have a close working relationship so she knows me pretty well. We texted back and forth for a while this morning. Last pregnancy she wasn’t big on getting betas either, she feels like it would actually stress me out more. She said she would order whatever I wanted but if it were her she would wait a little longer and see how it goes, then do an u/s in a few weeks. She said that this scenario results more in viable pregnancies than miscarriages, so that was nice to hear.

I have been spotting on and off all day but just a little bit when I wipe. It has actually seemed to have stopped now so we will see what tomorrow brings.

@inthewoods23 I am sending you lots of positive thoughts. I hope your u/s next week has better news!

mamakate2011 · October 2020

@MelissaMay82 that is so great you have such a close relationship with your OB! I’m so glad she was able to put your mind at ease a bit more. 🙏🏻🤞🏻 For you and hope the days go by quick until your next scan.

@inthewoods23 hugs!! I think it truly does sound like you’re just behind due to later ovulation. I know the lower progesterone can be scary, but I had success using suppositories with one of my babies - you got this!! 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 For you!

mrs_massie · October 2020

Hi friends. I started having some spotting last night into today. I had a miscarriage that started this same way 2 months ago, so I really fear I am heading down the same road. I had really good feelings about this pregnancy and I just feel so hopeless right now. Prayers and sticky vibes would be appreciated.

pickle-chips · October 2020

Thinking of you @mrs_massie sending creepy internet hugs and lots of positive, sticky baby vibes your way. I’m sorry you’re feeling hopeless right now, so sending lots of hope your way, too. ❤️

wendy838 · October 2020

@mrs_massie Sending you lots of good and sticky vibes! Our PGAL brains are wired to worry, but hoping things will be just fine.

klj0228 · October 2020

@mrs_massie sending you positive and very sticky vibes right now. 🤞 for you!

mindyb2019 · October 2020

@mrs_massie Thinking of you and sending so many positive vibes your way today. Hang in there girl. ❤ I know spotting is scary.

ramzlau · October 2020

@mrs_massie Sending sticky vibes your way!

MelissaMay82 · October 2020

@mrs_massie oh no 😔 Sending your positive vibes. FX for a sticky bean!

jaztastic · October 2020

@mrs_massie all the sticky vibes to you and everyone who needs them.

inthewoods23 · October 2020

@mrs_massie sending lots of positive and sticky vibes!

DoubleUp8 · October 2020

@mrs_massie sending you lots of hugs and positive sticky baby vibes,

Want a personalized experience?

TW Spotting/Bleeding/Threatened Loss Support

Re: TW Spotting/Bleeding/Threatened Loss Support

Choose Another Board

Search Boards

Want a personalized experience?

*TW* Spotting/Bleeding/Threatened Loss Support

Re: *TW* Spotting/Bleeding/Threatened Loss Support

Choose Another Board

Search Boards

TW Spotting/Bleeding/Threatened Loss Support

Re: TW Spotting/Bleeding/Threatened Loss Support