My hubby and I have shared the news with our immediate families but don’t plan to officially announce on FB for the extended families until 2nd trimester. Probably a cute Halloween themed photo shoot to let everyone know😄 I’ve been looking on Pinterest for inspiration.
My side of the family has been great! I’m still annoyed with how I had to share the news with my Dad and Grandpa but that’s a long story talked about below and they’re excited nonetheless. My older Brother had a loss early this year, so I wanted to be sure he and his wife were apart as much as possible so not to hurt any feelings. We talked about trying around the same time, it’s taken us longer and they lost the baby shortly after telling everyone. It’s been great with them although, I know it must still be hard as they’re still trying again and there’s times I can tell, I just try to be supportive of their journey and inclusive of ours with them. My younger Brother has been the best reaction I would say, he freaked and called dibs on getting the envelope to plan a surprise gender reveal. Haha. Never saw that coming! We weren’t going to find out at first since we’ve got one of each but with his excitement I’m grateful for his enthusiasm and if I’m being honest, I wanna know! 🤣 We have a rather large age gap and he was very uninterested with my previous two, so this was extremely fun this time! My mom was equally as excited as my little brother but has since stressed me out with saying TWINS TWINS TWINS every 5 seconds because she was one and believes it’s skips a generation. I have to take her in moderation until I get confirmation there’s only one or in fact two babies. Lol.
My husband’s family has been difficult. His Dad had an opinion of we shouldn’t have been trying during a pandemic. His Mom and Sister all of a sudden decided they haven’t liked me since I was pregnant with our son due to differences we had back then.. like not wanting them in the delivery room with barely knowing them at the time or them telling me what my kid’s name will be, “like it or not”. This sprung up literally 5 seconds before we were planning to tell them I was pregnant, which he still did, and then they wanted to get all nicey nice. But I’m not feeling nicey nice anymore.
I ended up sharing the news with my Grandpa and Dad (who both raised me) after all this drama unfolded and my hubby and I ended up in a spit spat. Things are fine now but I’m still annoyed I didn’t get to surprise them the way I planned to as this is our last baby and the previous two were already a surprise in a different way with being unplanned and me very young.
Geez, this turned into a rant! Sorry ladies, maybe we need a rant thread?🤣
@juliebird6@forevertired@theblondebump and @goldpolkadot add me to the excited about stocking group too! Mine all have the same one from PB. If DH and I can get it together enough to come up with a name, I’ll order this year
We are torn on when to tell our families. My mom already knows because I freaked out when I got a positive test. I would like to tell my parents a little earlier than my husbands. I am thinking around 10-12 weeks for my family and sometime after for his. I have been telling friends here and there because I feel less pressure if something goes wrong!
I made this sign after my ultrasound. I think I’ll have DS hold it outside both grandparents houses and we can ring the doorbell and surprise them. I don’t know if I can wait as long as I was planning to for extended family now that I’ve seen the little squish!
Hubby & Me: Born 1993 Married: August 2013 Son: December 2018 Baby in heaven: February 2020, was due Sept
@bluey101321 thank you for the kind words! We are trying to remain happy, and DH and I definitely are. We know FIL will be happy as it will be his first grandchild, but we want to wade through this other drama before we tell him. The drama specifically has to do with him putting his very new relationship and her family before DH and me, without even talking to us about it. We very bluntly found out "They are included, and you're not. They have kids and you don't". Which stung even more because we had been TTC for over a year. Covid could be partly to blame because we have had to reduce our social contacts significantly. But FIL should have had the decency to talk to us about his decision rather than informing us so bluntly. I'm still not over his complete lack of respect shown toward us, and concerned about situations in the future where he may show the same poor judgment again.
I'm so sorry for all your family drama too. Sounds like you are handling it very well, probably better than I would!! I hope your inlaws have a little more consideration towards you in the future. I can't believe those were the issues your MIL and SIL had that they decided to bring up now!! What part of YOUR child and YOUR decisions do they not understand?!
@mommeleon That's rough! I get the same way when I feel like my feelings aren't being considered or we're purposely left out. Considering how long you guys have been TTC, the insensitivity they're showing you guys really stinks and I'm sorry you're going through that. The first pregnancy is so special and I can imagine even more so since it's been a long road for you guys to get here. Hugs! Perhaps it's a blessing in disguise especially with the pandemic ongoing. I hope your situation works out soon and you're able to completely soak in all the happiness and joy!
We've have had similar issues with my in-laws over the years but then they get offended when we don't include them on something. Always a lose-lose situation. The double standards drive me crazy and we have actually cut them out for the time being for peace of mine. The irony isn't lost on us. We were trying to include them more this time to avoid the drama like last time and yet, here we are. Oh well! If all goes to plan, this is our last baby so we chose to enjoy it and drop the haters! Lol.
We told direct family and I had to tell work because I had SCH and had to work from home for a while. A nurse friend of mine knows because I asked for advice on injections, so she knew about the IUI.
I'm 11 weeks now, but I'm having the NIPT because I'm high risk. So when I get the results from that, we'll get two big pumpkins and a little one and carve a heart in one and put the little one inside. Paint the whole one with Coming April 2021. Maybe go to a pumpkin patch and take pictures with them, if anyone has one. Probably post around Halloween.
We did a mini family photo shoot and I bought 3 mini pumpkins. DD and DS each held one and DH and I held the other. Planning to post a pic and say something cheesy like “adding a pumpkin to our patch, April 2021” but not going to post it on social until mid-October.
Man yall are making me want to start thinking about how we're going to announce! Right now we're still thinking about waiting until Thanksgiving for family - we always go around & say what we're thankful for before eating & we're going to be totally cheesy and one of us say "baby #4!" (or maybe we'll have the kids say it, i dunno!). But I do love a good FB announcement so I think I need to go browse pinterest lol
I'm not ready to share with the world on social media yet, though I am about to burst with excitement over getting our photos back from our little session! Have to share with someone, so you guys are pretty good someones to share with!! (In case you missed it, we're not finding out the sex of the baby and my husband and I met on the dating app Bumble, so our nursery is going to be "bee" themed, hence the bees in there!)
We are mailing personalized announcements to our families because of Covid. For my brother (who is a gamer and a general goofball) we got him a T-shirt that says "Nacho average uncle" and has nachos on it. I made him a little card that says "Congratulations, you're leveling up!" and putting the card on top of the shirt which is under some tissue paper.
For my mom we are sending her 3 things...a bouquet of baby's breath, a box of Chicago foods with "Grandma Special" on the box and a shirt that says "Let's eat, grandma". We are trying to plan it out so that she gets the things spread out over one day.
For MH brother and wife (who love pictionary) I made a pictionary clue for them, and put that on top of a funny uncle T shirt and a bottle of wine with a custom label, both under a lot of tissue paper.
Ideally we wanted to tell them in person, but I think we did pretty good with these ideas. Now just waiting for October 20!
I am 12 weeks and we just told my dad last week ( I told my mom immediately). I think we are going to tell my husband's parents at 13 weeks and his sister at 15 weeks. I have been gaining weight like crazy so I feel like its not going to be easy to hide much longer. Before I get too disgusting, I want to take some pictures in the park to officially announce with my husband. We will see if I ever get to that!
@theblondebump Your photos turned out SO cute and the bee theme is adorable! Love it!
@juliebird6 I loved that idea for an announcement too! We wanted to do a pumpkin theme announcement too. October is my favorite with my birthday and Halloween going on and that was one of the options we thought saw but ended up going a different route because I didn’t feel like being in a pic this week.
We just did our official announcement a couple days ago. I’m thrilled with how it turned out and the fun my little family has making it but ended up being a week earlier than I was planning thanks to a couple family members not keeping it to themselves.. at least got it out the way we wanted to without the surprise getting totally ruined. This has been a tough week with people in my life, struggling I guess. Probably need to jump over to the vents thread. Ugh.
@bluey101321 I’m sorry that your announcement ended up being sooner than you had planned - that’s frustrating that your family members couldn’t follow directions. I love your picture though!! It turned out great!
I was thinking of doing something similar with the girls - one pumpkin for each with their names on it, and then a “baby #3” pumpkin!
@bblair24 Thank you I’m just glad it wasn’t entirely spoiled. It was beyond frustrating though, they did it the last time too which made it so much worse this time around since it was already a big ordeal before, but the responses have been great. Everyone loved the pumpkin idea, so I definitely think you’re idea will be a hit too! Seems to be lots of people’s favorite time of year.
Thank you @theblondebump@goldpolkadot, @cagncoo12 Pinterest is where I saw it! I love all their ideas on there, makes it hard to choose! Lol. Definitely boo on people spoiling news that’s not theirs. So annoying.
I’m not sure when I’ll post it, but I made this today for whenever we’re ready to announce! And I’ll probably include a picture of the girls too, but I haven’t taken one yet. Maybe with them holding pumpkins or something else autumnal. ☺️
@bblair24 that is a super cute graphic. Maybe you could take the picture at a pumpkin patch.
I had my husband take a picture of our kids plus my belly with number balloons. My oldest was with a number 1 balloon, my youngest with a number 2 balloon, and me holding a number 3 balloon by my belly.
I'm looking for a unique way to tell my 8yo he's getting a new sister...His 3rd. Last year, we sat him down and gave him a peach and when he asked what he was supposed to do with it, we told him, "That's the size of your new baby brother." His response was asbolutrly adorable, and it was fun. I just don't want to do that again.
@aisukurimsarang would maybe a little scavenger hunt around the house be good for him? Maybe give little clues he has to find for a stuffed animal, a baby blanket, a baby spoon, etc and then the final find is a card or if you have a copy of the first ultrasound he could handle be fun for him? You could even include the other kids if you wanted to make it a whole family event, but it could be something special just for him too. Just trying to think of ways an 8 year old boy would have fun getting to find out about another sister!
Re: How/when are you planning to announce?
Married: August 2013
Son: December 2018
Baby in heaven: February 2020, was due Sept
I'm so sorry for all your family drama too. Sounds like you are handling it very well, probably better than I would!! I hope your inlaws have a little more consideration towards you in the future. I can't believe those were the issues your MIL and SIL had that they decided to bring up now!! What part of YOUR child and YOUR decisions do they not understand?!
We've have had similar issues with my in-laws over the years but then they get offended when we don't include them on something. Always a lose-lose situation. The double standards drive me crazy and we have actually cut them out for the time being for peace of mine. The irony isn't lost on us. We were trying to include them more this time to avoid the drama like last time and yet, here we are. Oh well! If all goes to plan, this is our last baby so we chose to enjoy it and drop the haters! Lol.
I'm 11 weeks now, but I'm having the NIPT because I'm high risk. So when I get the results from that, we'll get two big pumpkins and a little one and carve a heart in one and put the little one inside. Paint the whole one with Coming April 2021. Maybe go to a pumpkin patch and take pictures with them, if anyone has one. Probably post around Halloween.
@mamasnek Adorable!!
Man yall are making me want to start thinking about how we're going to announce! Right now we're still thinking about waiting until Thanksgiving for family - we always go around & say what we're thankful for before eating & we're going to be totally cheesy and one of us say "baby #4!" (or maybe we'll have the kids say it, i dunno!). But I do love a good FB announcement so I think I need to go browse pinterest lol
For my mom we are sending her 3 things...a bouquet of baby's breath, a box of Chicago foods with "Grandma Special" on the box and a shirt that says "Let's eat, grandma". We are trying to plan it out so that she gets the things spread out over one day.
For MH brother and wife (who love pictionary) I made a pictionary clue for them, and put that on top of a funny uncle T shirt and a bottle of wine with a custom label, both under a lot of tissue paper.
Ideally we wanted to tell them in person, but I think we did pretty good with these ideas. Now just waiting for October 20!
@bbrahmbhatt such thought into how to tell your family, I love it!
I just ordered this shirt for DD to wear for an announcement. Halloween is her favorite holiday so I'm glad that it has worked out this way!
Married: August 2013
Son: December 2018
Baby in heaven: February 2020, was due Sept
I'm looking for a unique way to tell my 8yo he's getting a new sister...His 3rd. Last year, we sat him down and gave him a peach and when he asked what he was supposed to do with it, we told him, "That's the size of your new baby brother." His response was asbolutrly adorable, and it was fun. I just don't want to do that again.