I’ll add my comments to the poll post as well, but definitely on team private Facebook! Few things frustrate me more than this app, and its just so much easier to contribute and follow conversations on FB!
I feel like whether I do maternity photos or not, I need to get a photographer booked for newborn shots soon because we’ll be in the height of holiday photo shoots! Are you all doing combo holiday/newborn photos? Since I have a 2 yr old I’d love to have family shots this time, but not sure if it would be best to do at home or attempt a professionally-lit studio like we did with DD’s newborn photos.
What are your plans for your pups when you go into labor? I am worried because with COVID theyre saying your support person can't leave or they won't be allowed back in, so MH won't be able to go walk them/take them somewhere/etc. And since I obviously can't plan when I go into labor (unless I end up getting induced or something) I can't exactly line up care. What are you guys doing?
@bserena we don't currently have dogs, but did last time. We had a pet sitter we used and just asked him to be on call. He was ok with it. If I needed help I could also ask a neighbor - of course I don't know your neighbor situation/comfort level.
@teachingbp problem is we are moving like an hour away right now, but I guess I could try to find a new pet sitter to have on call. Thank you for the idea! Maybe we will luck out and have a neighbor we could ask too, we just don't know yet 😬 and are getting close lol!
@bserena I'm asking my Best Friend who lives close by to get our dog when we go to the hospital. If we end up with a scheduled c-section or induction we will drop her off. If not, we have a spare key with our doorman, so it makes the situation pretty easy (and she has a car).
I think I'm going to be team FB for the future. After a few days being off the boards (life has been busy), I'm having trouble catching up and the format of the forums makes it harder for me to respond to previous comments.
At my appt this week, my midwife gave me a paper about whooping cough and the tdap shot. It suggested that people in close contact with newborn, including parents and grandparents, should be vaccinated... Should I bring this up with my immediate family? Also, maybe we've discussed this already (feel free to redirect me), but I'm wondering about how/when everyone plans to allow visitation, especially considering the holiday season and Covid?
@warmwinter we had DH and all grandparents and my sister get the tdap shot, since they’d be visiting in the first month. It’s supposed to last for 10 years so I’m told they don’t need another for baby 2, even though I’ll be getting one.
As for visiting, I’m honestly not sure what to do this time because of COVID. We’re considering waiting till Christmas, which should get us out of the first month, and have one set of grandparents come the week prior and the other stay the week after. I’m not sure they’ll like that proposal, since we cancelled DD1’s birthday party in Aug with the understanding that they could come perhaps at Halloween, but now I’m thinking we need to be in full lockdown so as not to risk an infection in the 2 week window before delivery. It’s going to be a tough decision for sure
As far as visiting, I think we are just preparing everyone for the worst just so they arent in for a shock around the holidays and everyone is on the same page. Discussed with my mom the other day about not getting together for Thanksgiving since we will be sheltering in place, and then possibly just having a Christmas gathering in January? She suggested that she could pick up presents from our house and deliver them to my siblings and vice versa, if that makes sense.
My main concern at this point: my support person (DH) and anyone around baby is supposed to shelter in place for 2 weeks to avoid getting the newborn sick. I've got zero idea what I'm going to do with DS. My mom is a SAHM so she could watch him, but my dad travels for work so I don't know how comfortable I'd be with it. I guess I'm just hoping the situation changes before we welcome baby #2 at the end of November.
@doublestroller I’m planning on doing the newborn and holiday photos at the same time. Although just thinking about it seems stressful. I need to figure out outfits quick. MAybe we could do a pajama theme holiday photo... that would be easier.
@bserena we are planning on having DH brother come and pick up the pups. We have a keypad lock, so it’s not to have to deal with keys. You should get one for the new place. It’s always a good idea anyway to change locks when you move in. Schlage brand is what we have.
We plan on dropping DD off with his other brother who lives close by. Then grandma will come pick her up from there.
@warmwinter I think it’s a good idea to ask close relatives to get the shot before visiting baby. I know a lot of people do. I only recommended them to with DD, I didn’t withhold any one from seeing her.
@warmwinter we had grandparents get Tdap. We don't have big families that were around often for #1 which will be the same for #2.
Our current plan is to have grandparents hunker down beginning of October (just in case we don't make it to 11/1). Cases aren't terrible in either place where they live currently, so we said grocery store is fine, but stay home otherwise. All will be retired by then. As for holidays we are lucky to be in driving distance and have small families 😊 Thanksgiving we will "host" but just the meal and no one is cooking here 😂 we are vegetarian, the grandparents aren't. We will order our meal from a local veg restaurant and grandparents can fend for themselves 😂. Christmas is close to #1s bday so my IL will likely come for the bday (no party I am assuming) and my parents will just come whenever (they are closer and more laid back). For Christmas it historically has been just us and it's important to me Christmas am is just our immediate family. I like one holiday just us 😊
re: holidays - we have been told strictly "no traveling" by our pediatrician for 6-8 weeks which will bring us past Christmas with our 11/20 due date. I will also not feel comfortable hosting.
My parents will be self-isolating prior to the delivery to watch our two girls while we are at the hospital. When we come home we will have them stay away for the first week or so in case DH or myself gets anything during our hospital stay. The plan then is to have my parents help with DD1's remote learning, with the baby, etc. as needed. So we will definitely be able to do some low key holiday stuff with them (they live 10 minutes away). Hopefully we can have my sister, brother, sister in law, and niece and nephew join as well, but it will probably depend on their abilities to isolate for a bit before the holiday...
We will not be seeing any of DH's side for the holidays which is hard for him, but he knows it is the safest for everyone. I suppose if his parents wanted to drive up and could isolate (they both still work) we could figure something out, but I'm not holding by breath about it since they're both in the medical field.
Re: transition to private TB or FB. I voted FB group but the private group makes sense too. FTM so I haven’t had to deal with any switches prior but I seriously will go with the flow (I know in the poll y’all said not to just say you’ll do whatever the group wants lol)
@warmwinter thanks for bringing up shots! I didn’t even think about this yet, but I’ll be asking everyone that plans to visit. My current concern is MIL and SIL plan to visit the week of due date. My MIL is a teacher so I don’t want her to risk exposure before coming to see us, but I can’t ask her to take 3 weeks off for one week of visitation...
in regards to everyone visiting - all the in laws plan to come for Christmas. This was a plan made prior to getting pregnant and as long as Babygirl comes close to her due date, this will put us outside of the first month window.
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@kerriec93 my fear of who will care for the dogs and kids is so high. No family whatsoever nearby. People are often like oh ask your friends. I’m like okay let’s do the math. We moved here recently and then COVID hit. I want to KNOW the person spending the night with our crazy crew. Right now we have two volunteers and I was trying to interview a sitter this weekend. The sitter cancelled day of. So we won’t be using that sitter. I mean 24-36 hours at $20 an hour is a hefty bill. I want that person to — you know — be responsible! I just remembered the dogs😳. In the past DH has just left to take care of the dogs throughout the day. I’m hearing worst case he won’t be able to leave and come back while we have baby #4. So commence finding a dog sitter for our escape artist and also our very old/aging/struggling older dog (who I think is waiting to meet baby 🥰😭).
I do find whatever things I stress over during pregnancy ends up being non-events. However, with our walking people, I want to mess around zero.
@name1109 I couldnt imagine just moving and then all of this chaos happening! It's tough enough dealing with the new policies in place, without throwing a move into the mix. Sorry to hear about the sitter, but at least you got an idea of who they were BEFORE trusting them around the kiddos. Fingers crossed you can find someone reliable and trustworthy!
I think this might have been discussed earlier but i cant find where now so I'll ask again. I've seen a lot of lists outlining what is needed for a new baby, how many pjs, how many onsies, etc. But, none of them say if I need to have that many in each size. So, STM+, how long to babies typically wear a newborn size and how many clothes to I need in that size? I'm guessing there won't be a specific answer because itll depend on the size of the baby but I'm trying to gauge where the happy medium is between too few and too many.
@babywiik it’s really dependent on the size of baby. This time around I have a starter set of newborn stuff so maybe 5(?) outfits that are newborn. And about the same plus some for 0-3 months. My babies have progressively gotten bigger (6lbs to 8lbs) from baby first to baby last. I have a ton of hand me downs but for some reason newborn clothes are triggering for me so each baby nominally has their own set of ridiculously colorful baby clothes. Things I do have that should fit baby baby are the swaddles and muslins. Depending on how close you are to a store or whether Amazon / other platform delivery is reliable...I start small and then go from there.
My question today is has anyone tried Nuun electrolytes? I’m trying to drink more water. Anyone hear anything on them? I’m probably going to call my mid-wife to check. But I’m curious if others have used them.
@babywiik I'll echo what @name1109 said - I would start with just a basic set and add on as needed. DS was pretty big (8 lb 12 oz) and never really fit into any of the newborn stuff. Or only for a couple of weeks. Fortunately I had basically only bought 0-3 mo stuff, and so it was big on him for a few weeks, but that was fine. Also, different babies are more or less messy - if your baby spits up alot, you might have to do a lot more outfit changes. Finally, how often you do laundry really matters too. We were doing laundry daily, so I really could have gotten away with just cycling through a few outfits.
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@babywiik Like @hedgepig said A lot depends on how much you want to be doing laundry and your baby! I have a ton of hand me downs and just checked baby's drawers.... for the newborn size, I have 6 sleep and plays, about 10 onesie body suits (mix of long and short sleeve) and 4 pairs of pants. Both of my girls were in newborn for at least a few weeks, so I'm banking on this little guy being small enough to fit in newborn for a little bit.
@name1109 I haven't tried Nuun but I know a few momma's who swear by LiquidIV electrolytes. I don't personally have any experience as I do fine drinking plain water throughout the day, but my assumption (I know, I know) is that LiquidIV and Nuun are probably pretty similar.
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Thanks @name1109, @hedgepig and @crizz13! I have a few things in newborn size but a lot more in 0-3 month so unless this baby is tiny (I can buy more after she's born) I'll just let her wear a bit too big of clothes if need be.
@crizz13 Thank you! I’m really bad with water. I drank so much water yesterday compliments of the electrolytes and good flavors. I’ve never done this before. I’m glad it’s a thing. I’ve been worried it’s not great for baby girl.
@warmwinter for the dtap myself, husband, grandparents, and any aunts/uncles who were going to be in close contact with the baby in the first 6-8 weeks got the dtap.
If I'm remembering correctly the baby's immune system is really immature and developing the first month. That's why it's important to make sure no one kisses the baby and wash their hands before touching baby. The cold sore virus can kill newborn babies.
For COVID-19 I'm going to talk to our pediatrician at DS's appointment next week for recommendations. But my husband and I are generally planning him working from home through the end of the year starting at 35 weeks pregnant. If any close family wants to come see the baby them doing a strict 2 week quarantine beforehand. We will probably ask my parents or his mom to potentially come stay with us starting in October to help with DD and DS. DH's co-worker has a 6 week old and he said their pediatrician said 6-8 weeks isolation after the baby is born with a minimum of 4 weeks if they couldn't do 6-8 for work reasons.
@kerriec93 could your mom come stay with you starting at 36 weeks? That way she can watch DS when baby arrives. We are thinking of asking MIL or my parents to come stay with us starting in October.
It's been really interesting hearing all of the various recommendations and thoughts on quarantining before/after baby's arrival. I haven't asked my own midwife or DSs pediatrician what the recommendations are here, so I don't have any real ideas yet. The one thing that keeps striking me though is how impossible these time frames seem, especially combined with the conversation going on about the poor maternity leave situation here in the U.S. For me, I'm lucky enough that DH was able to take three weeks off after my son's birth and he'll probably be able to do the same this time. He can also probably swing working from home 2 weeks before. But more than that? I get that's what the doctors are all saying, but...how?? DS will go stay with his grandparents during the birth, but grandpa still works and won't be able to quarantine, so there goes that right off the bat. And 6 to 8 weeks for us to quarantine afterwards? HOW? I can to some extent, sure, but DH still works and there's no avoiding that. I just get so frustrated when time tables are thrown about by doctors like this with no reality check that they're talking to people with lives and jobs. I'd LOVE to be able to follow every recommendation like this, but it's simply not possible and I get irrationally frustrated that it's now something I will feel guilty for not being able to do. Ugh. Ok, rant over!!
@auburnvelvet86 right?! Like I'm already taking 6 weeks unpaid (6 paid through short term disability), here let my husband take 8-10 weeks (2 before, 6-8 after) off too. What?! Craziness. Thankfully cases are super low in our area but I don't understand how they expect people to do that or if they realize the stress/ guilt these recommendations put on families
@auburnvelvet86 I’m right there with you on team how? But I’m not gonna lie, I also haven’t asked OB or pediatrician for recommendations and we already have tons of holiday plans and travel plans. I’m sure many would gasp, but my parents are coming from NY shortly before due date to be here for DD and dog (that answers @bserena’s question). My inlaws will also come up from Tampa to see baby when he’s born - possibly for thanksgiving (though they will stay in a hotel). Then my SIL from CA has just asked if her and her husband can come visit after thanksgiving to visit and see baby. Then for Christmas we had already planned to go to NY (upstate) to be with my parents. We have JUST made the decision that we will be driving - basically taking our time over 3 days for a 16 hour drive with newborn, 5yo, and our pup. It feels very ambitious but I just can’t imagine changing our holiday plans. 🙊
@kelk5 DH and I actually discussed this last night! We dont have a spare bedroom so we will have to get creative, but at this point thinking my MIL could stay with us while we shelter in place. That way, she can stay at our house with DS and dogs while we are at the hospital. DH mentioned this idea to his mom tonight and she is wanting FIL to use 2 weeks vacation so he can also stay down here.... again, not sure where they will plan to sleep but at least we are starting to get a plan made.
@auburnvelvet86 I know, these quarantine procedures have me stressed. I have a week of vacation I could use to cover my 37th week, but then I will be at the mercy of HR on whether or not they will start my maternity leave at 38 weeks. I honestly dont know what I will do if they dont approve it. I havent talked to our pediatrician on her recommendations, but DS has a checkup mid October so I will get her input at that time. And who knows, maybe protocol will change come November. Fingers crossed for that anyways. 🤞
@auburnvelvet86 PREACH IT, GIRL! I'm going to try to NOT let the mom guilt get me before Maggie's even born...we'll do our best with the recommendations, but we certainly won't be following them to a T. Everyone in the family still works (grandparents, DH and I, our siblings) so with no family nearby they have to come from out of state and doing a quarantine prior is just not going to be possible for their livelihood. DH and I may be able to swing the 6-8 weeks of quarantine post-baby but who knooooows...
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So Re COVID quarantine and such. DH is working remotely for 4 of his classes and teaching 2 of his hybrid so he will just keep doing that, he also has to wear a mask and face shield during classes. I am working from home and don't see that changing (Skilled nursing facility consult dietitian and not allowed on site and haven't been since March. We still have a lot of cases so don't see that changing). DD will be 22 months or so when baby is born and goes to daycare full time and keep doing that but they take precautions. We only go to the store 1-2x a week and it is still mask mandate here and I don't see that changing either. I plan to just keep up that routine. The bigger issue is actual birth.. I have 4 dogs plus DD and since DH probably won't be able to leave we will have to figure out that. My labor went FAST last time (8 hours in total from contractions to birth) so I am really nervous. My mother inlaw/sister in law and nephew live in Florida and he is an actual classes and my in laws still live a normal life with masks of course. The plan is for them to come and watch over DD BUT I have a feeling they won't make it in time ( I gave them a 48 hour warning last time and they show up until the day after DD was born). Back up plan is my closest friend down here helping us out with DD and just dealing with dogs some how... As much as I hate to say it, if DH has to split after the baby is born I can deal with it... AS for quarantine after... DH will still be working and DD will still go to daycare, just treat it like flu season like we did with DD. If my in laws don't make I may make them wait and my family as well. Probably take turns running errands if anything and not take baby to store since we will mask up and wash hands and such.
@crystalmir91385 we aren’t particularly religious. So no church community. We’ve established two families who have volunteered but I’ve struggled here finding a sitter. I like people to be fully qualified in CPR etc. so hopefully we can find someone!
Regarding post-baby time off, I’m counting on using all my 2020 vacation/sick/STD and then immediately cashing in on 2021 and hoping I don’t have to wait for it to re-accrue. So even though maternity leave is a joke, having baby at the end of the year may work in our favor by applying two years’ worth of time off. And then you just have to hope that COVID is completely cured and baby never gets sick at daycare forcing you to take a sick day the rest of the year....🙄
And on newborn clothes, this may also depend on your climate. I never fully dressed DD1 in those early days, maybe a kimono side-button top with a diaper, and it’s okay if those are large. But if you’re in a very cold location, maybe stock up on a few days’ worth and then purchase more on Amazon if baby looks like they’ll need newborn sizing for longer.
@auburnvelvet86 totally agree. These start quarantining at 36 weeks and weeks after is ridiculous and not doable for so many especially here in the U. S. With my first my husband was back to work six days after my c-section. My mother is 10 minutes away but had apparently more important things to do ( thank God my mother in law is also near by and came to my rescue). I can't help but roll my eyes when I see people complain about their SO "only" Getting like a month off to help. I'm so thankful I live in a low COVID zone. 🙌
DH had to leave the hospital to go in to work after I had DD. He was working for himself back then. Now he works for a large company. I plan on contacting their benefits team to see if he has any paid paternity leave. He works 7 days on and 7 days off. If it’s not paid, and baby comes while he is off, he probably won’t take any time off. FX baby comes while he is off, because I’m afraid he won’t make it back home in time for delivery.
STM+ question: I’m starting to get worried about how to keep the newborn safe from a raccoon in the house... I mean toddler. 🤣
DD1 will be 21 months when DD2 is born. I kept DD1 in either the baby dome or the infamous rock in play while I ran to the bathroom, threw clothes in the laundry, fed my self. Ill probably give up on bathing myself. 🤣
I’m worried what DD1 will do when I’m not looking, like pick her up, throw something, give her something. Do you keep them separated or out of reach?
@potofgolden That is a GREAT question! I have a rabid raccoon at home as well. She'll be *ALMOST* 2 when the twins arrive (11/9 she turns 2). I haven't even thought about her trying to give the babies something Is babywearing an option for you? Maybe if you have baby constantly on you your raccoon will learn to leave baby be? On one hand I feel like leaving baby out of reach/TOO separate from DD1 would give her more cause to want to investigate what's making all the noise/potentially climb/more curious about baby. But on the other hand giving her full free access when you aren't able to supervise would be unwise also. Do you have a swing you could set baby in that DD1 would mostly stay away from or just look at? Or maybe a bouncy seat that you could set baby in while you're in the bathroom/etc and have DD1 playing nearby?
Not really related, but kind of, I know my mom and a lot of others have suggested to me to include DD in things with the babies, have her be the big helper. When feeding baby read her a book so she's included or have her feed one of her baby dolls. When changing diapers have to put the dirty diapers away or hold the diaper cream for you (so long as she is to be trusted with such a task).
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I feel like whether I do maternity photos or not, I need to get a photographer booked for newborn shots soon because we’ll be in the height of holiday photo shoots! Are you all doing combo holiday/newborn photos? Since I have a 2 yr old I’d love to have family shots this time, but not sure if it would be best to do at home or attempt a professionally-lit studio like we did with DD’s newborn photos.
What are your plans for your pups when you go into labor? I am worried because with COVID theyre saying your support person can't leave or they won't be allowed back in, so MH won't be able to go walk them/take them somewhere/etc. And since I obviously can't plan when I go into labor (unless I end up getting induced or something) I can't exactly line up care. What are you guys doing?
At my appt this week, my midwife gave me a paper about whooping cough and the tdap shot. It suggested that people in close contact with newborn, including parents and grandparents, should be vaccinated... Should I bring this up with my immediate family? Also, maybe we've discussed this already (feel free to redirect me), but I'm wondering about how/when everyone plans to allow visitation, especially considering the holiday season and Covid?
My main concern at this point: my support person (DH) and anyone around baby is supposed to shelter in place for 2 weeks to avoid getting the newborn sick. I've got zero idea what I'm going to do with DS. My mom is a SAHM so she could watch him, but my dad travels for work so I don't know how comfortable I'd be with it. I guess I'm just hoping the situation changes before we welcome baby #2 at the end of November.
@bserena we are planning on having DH brother come and pick up the pups. We have a keypad lock, so it’s not to have to deal with keys. You should get one for the new place. It’s always a good idea anyway to change locks when you move in. Schlage brand is what we have.
@warmwinter I think it’s a good idea to ask close relatives to get the shot before visiting baby. I know a lot of people do. I only recommended them to with DD, I didn’t withhold any one from seeing her.
Our current plan is to have grandparents hunker down beginning of October (just in case we don't make it to 11/1). Cases aren't terrible in either place where they live currently, so we said grocery store is fine, but stay home otherwise. All will be retired by then. As for holidays we are lucky to be in driving distance and have small families 😊 Thanksgiving we will "host" but just the meal and no one is cooking here 😂 we are vegetarian, the grandparents aren't. We will order our meal from a local veg restaurant and grandparents can fend for themselves 😂. Christmas is close to #1s bday so my IL will likely come for the bday (no party I am assuming) and my parents will just come whenever (they are closer and more laid back). For Christmas it historically has been just us and it's important to me Christmas am is just our immediate family. I like one holiday just us 😊
My parents will be self-isolating prior to the delivery to watch our two girls while we are at the hospital. When we come home we will have them stay away for the first week or so in case DH or myself gets anything during our hospital stay. The plan then is to have my parents help with DD1's remote learning, with the baby, etc. as needed. So we will definitely be able to do some low key holiday stuff with them (they live 10 minutes away). Hopefully we can have my sister, brother, sister in law, and niece and nephew join as well, but it will probably depend on their abilities to isolate for a bit before the holiday...
We will not be seeing any of DH's side for the holidays which is hard for him, but he knows it is the safest for everyone. I suppose if his parents wanted to drive up and could isolate (they both still work) we could figure something out, but I'm not holding by breath about it since they're both in the medical field.
in regards to everyone visiting - all the in laws plan to come for Christmas. This was a plan made prior to getting pregnant and as long as Babygirl comes close to her due date, this will put us outside of the first month window.
Started dating: 10/2010 ;; Married 10/2017
Started TTC: 10/2019
BFP: 12/20/19 ;; MC: 12/24/19
BFP: 3/5/20 ;; EDD: 11/11/20
Started Dating: 2003 Married: 2013
Started TTC August 2016
BFP: 2/1/17 MC: 2/8/17
BFP: 3/8/17 MMC: 5/1/17
BFP: 7/23/17 EDD: 4/5/18
BFP: 2/27/20
Started dating: 10/2010 ;; Married 10/2017
Started TTC: 10/2019
BFP: 12/20/19 ;; MC: 12/24/19
BFP: 3/5/20 ;; EDD: 11/11/20
If I'm remembering correctly the baby's immune system is really immature and developing the first month. That's why it's important to make sure no one kisses the baby and wash their hands before touching baby. The cold sore virus can kill newborn babies.
For COVID-19 I'm going to talk to our pediatrician at DS's appointment next week for recommendations. But my husband and I are generally planning him working from home through the end of the year starting at 35 weeks pregnant. If any close family wants to come see the baby them doing a strict 2 week quarantine beforehand. We will probably ask my parents or his mom to potentially come stay with us starting in October to help with DD and DS. DH's co-worker has a 6 week old and he said their pediatrician said 6-8 weeks isolation after the baby is born with a minimum of 4 weeks if they couldn't do 6-8 for work reasons.
@auburnvelvet86 I know, these quarantine procedures have me stressed. I have a week of vacation I could use to cover my 37th week, but then I will be at the mercy of HR on whether or not they will start my maternity leave at 38 weeks. I honestly dont know what I will do if they dont approve it. I havent talked to our pediatrician on her recommendations, but DS has a checkup mid October so I will get her input at that time. And who knows, maybe protocol will change come November. Fingers crossed for that anyways. 🤞
Started dating: 10/2010 ;; Married 10/2017
Started TTC: 10/2019
BFP: 12/20/19 ;; MC: 12/24/19
BFP: 3/5/20 ;; EDD: 11/11/20
@warmwinter grandparents got the trap when DD1 was born. Hubby any I are getting them this time (#3). It's been 6.5 ish years
@name1109 are you part of a church that could perhaps put you in contact with some wonderful sitters? That would be my first go to in a new area.
DH is working remotely for 4 of his classes and teaching 2 of his hybrid so he will just keep doing that, he also has to wear a mask and face shield during classes. I am working from home and don't see that changing (Skilled nursing facility consult dietitian and not allowed on site and haven't been since March. We still have a lot of cases so don't see that changing).
DD will be 22 months or so when baby is born and goes to daycare full time and keep doing that but they take precautions. We only go to the store 1-2x a week and it is still mask mandate here and I don't see that changing either.
I plan to just keep up that routine. The bigger issue is actual birth.. I have 4 dogs plus DD and since DH probably won't be able to leave we will have to figure out that. My labor went FAST last time (8 hours in total from contractions to birth) so I am really nervous. My mother inlaw/sister in law and nephew live in Florida and he is an actual classes and my in laws still live a normal life with masks of course. The plan is for them to come and watch over DD BUT I have a feeling they won't make it in time ( I gave them a 48 hour warning last time and they show up until the day after DD was born). Back up plan is my closest friend down here helping us out with DD and just dealing with dogs some how... As much as I hate to say it, if DH has to split after the baby is born I can deal with it...
AS for quarantine after... DH will still be working and DD will still go to daycare, just treat it like flu season like we did with DD. If my in laws don't make I may make them wait and my family as well. Probably take turns running errands if anything and not take baby to store since we will mask up and wash hands and such.
And on newborn clothes, this may also depend on your climate. I never fully dressed DD1 in those early days, maybe a kimono side-button top with a diaper, and it’s okay if those are large. But if you’re in a very cold location, maybe stock up on a few days’ worth and then purchase more on Amazon if baby looks like they’ll need newborn sizing for longer.
With my first my husband was back to work six days after my c-section. My mother is 10 minutes away but had apparently more important things to do ( thank God my mother in law is also near by and came to my rescue). I can't help but roll my eyes when I see people complain about their SO "only" Getting like a month off to help.
I'm so thankful I live in a low COVID zone. 🙌
DD1 will be 21 months when DD2 is born. I kept DD1 in either the baby dome or the infamous rock in play while I ran to the bathroom, threw clothes in the laundry, fed my self. Ill probably give up on bathing myself. 🤣
I’m worried what DD1 will do when I’m not looking, like pick her up, throw something, give her something. Do you keep them separated or out of reach?
Not really related, but kind of, I know my mom and a lot of others have suggested to me to include DD in things with the babies, have her be the big helper. When feeding baby read her a book so she's included or have her feed one of her baby dolls. When changing diapers have to put the dirty diapers away or hold the diaper cream for you (so long as she is to be trusted with such a task).
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LO arrived 11/9/2018! We have a baby!
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Me: 33 | DH: 41
Married: March 2016
TTC #1/IUD out January 2017
PCOS dx January 2018
Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018
BFP 3/10/2018!
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