I was told last week to stop working and self quarantine at 36 wks,I felt that extreme and the fact that I have a c section means no work from last week of October to beginning of January,I’m self employed so we’ll see if I have a business left after that,I understand the importance but it does seem like a bit much to me,hopefully things get a bit better by delivery time.
Unfortunately FFCRA (the Covid relief fund) runs concurrently with FMLA so it's 12 weeks total, not in addition to FMLA. I actually had to talk about that because if I have to do a mandatory COVID quarantine due to exposure from one of my students they were trying to tell me they'd pay me out of FFCRA and I was like "HELL NO" I need my FMLA. Now the union is trying to work something out. I have all the sick time in the world (plenty to cover my maternity leave plus the three weeks before) but HR is very strict and says that as soon as I'm out for pregnancy it's FMLA. When I pushed back about PWFA she said it "may" be covered depending on the wording of my letter. So now I'm going to have to figure out what key words she needs my ob to include to get it PWFA covered. What a pain. Especially since it may not even be an issue if schools are closed again and I'm teaching remotely.
My place of birth has news coming to them if they think I'm being tested for no. apparent reason. Nor will I be wearing a mask once I am in my room. <------- This is my unpopular opinion of the week. 🤷♀️
@crizz13 I hope you get it covered without going into your FMLA. It's so frustrating how it's so different depending on where you work. And the headache trying to get everything setup, like no one needs that additional stress.
@bserena Photos will range significantly, depending on your photographer. I had planned on using a photographer who would do a maternity shoot, and newborn photos for us, but scrapped that plan when I was laid off. What I was going to do instead, we take the pictures ourselves. We bought a new camera when we first found out we were expecting and DH has decent photography skills. Fortunately, one of my good friends is a professional photographer (works for Bobbi Brown) and offered to do both for us as a gift! I also second what @potofgolden said and make sure you factor in hair/makeup/clothing to your photography budget.
Asked MFM if there are any precautions or guidelines I need to follow regarding covid predelivery. Their answer was wear a mask, covid screening like everytime I go to appts, and a test if needed 🤷🏻
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Are many providers suggesting self quarantine prior to delivery? This is the first I am hearing of this! I haven't thought to ask my provider, but they have said anything either!
I talked to my OB last month about when to go on mat leave and she said any time up until my due date... So I imagine there's no guidelines here. I'm planning on going on leave 2 weeks prior, and will pretty much be self isolating at that point.
@teachingbp my doc says per CDC guidelines, they are pulling everyone out of work at 36 weeks with instructions to self quarantine so who knows! I have a feeling we will all be back on lockdown in our area by then anyway
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married 11.11.17 mama. epicurean. plant lover. wine enthusiast.
For everyone checking with your provider, make sure you also check with your pediatrician as well. I thought it was interesting that my pedi had more to say about the baby and keeping him protected (he said 6-8 weeks) as opposed to my ob who's advice was more centered around labor/delivery and the immediate pp.
@crizz13 such a great suggestion about asking the pediatrician. I have DS's 15 month appointment this month and am adding it to my list for his appointment.
I'm also curious about safety if someone has already had the virus (confirmed mild case) and are no longer taking precautions (not social distancing or wearing masks). How big of a risk is it to be around them. Or if someone tests positive for having antibodies. I feel like we don't know enough yet but I'm wondering if they are relatively safe to be around or if I should continue to follow the same precautions around them (i.e., they need to quarantine 2 weeks prior to meeting baby).
@kelk5 I've heard conflicting reports about getting it a second time, vs. a relapse and being contagious months later. Definitely something to check with your provider about!
@bundleofjoy4iluvu I think we decided as a group to go to a private group here first and then transition to FB. I know we were waiting a bit longer though. If others are ready to start discussing it again im up for it!
@bserena I spent $250 on maternity photos with DS! We are always due for family photos in the fall so I'll probably just have our photographer (who is also a good friend) snap some shots of me and my belly! Ill probably do them at the beginning of August.
I plan on starting to self isolate around 37 weeks. DS's birthday is at the end of October so I think I'm going to throw his birthday party a week early so it isn't too close to the due date of this baby. Last I had talked to my OB she said that they test you upon arrival at the hospital. If you test positive they separate you from the L&D floor and recommend isolation from the baby for 14 days. You can obviously refuse but I don't want to take any chances.
@dumbledoredies I can't imagine being isolated from my baby for 14 days!! Of course if it would put baby in great danger then I'd want to do what's best for baby but still...! Definitely a reason to self isolate beforehand!
I need to ask my midwife what sort of practices are here. There was only a handful of cases total where I live and no new cases recently but that could change quickly.
Is there a way to search people in our specific group? I feel like people keep bringing up Facebook and I don’t want to always be the b!7(h being like “who even are you??” 🤣 but also will call out stranger danger where I see it lol
ETA - @bundleofjoy4iluvu not directing this at you btw, I’ve seen you around before! Not that I’m the end all be all of who is considered a stranger 🙃
I will start a poll/ discussion thread re: FB in a couple of weeks. I think there were plenty of pros and cons both ways. I would hate for this group to split in to two but unfortunately have seen that happen regarding facebook and private groups.
Sorry I’ve been MIA for a while ladies - we had my sister inlaws visiting and tons going on with trying to get ready for back to school for DD (she’s going into K so we are new to it all).
My OB hasn’t said anything about self isolating prior to delivery.... though another expecting mom I know who goes to the same OB said they told her that they will make us get tested for Covid prior to due date.
Re maternity photos - I really want to get them done this time. I didn’t do any with DD, primarily because it was an unplanned pregnancy and a) I kind of felt like I wasn’t allowed to celebrate as much because of that and b) because money was a bit tight since we moved to another state when I was 8 months along. I think it would be so awesome to have DD and MH involved in the photos so that it is a family thing but at the same time, I am not looking to pay a fortune either. I should probably start shopping around to get an idea of cost.
@bundleofjoy4iluvu I am kind of hoping our group stays on TB for a bit longer. @bserena I like the idea of private group and then migrating to FB.
@Ecat504 if you are on an actual computer it's way easier to search people by name or to click on a certain person's name and look at post history/etc.
@crizz13 thanks for starting the poll! My preference is a private group then transitioning to FB. I'm also hoping it won't split either because losing people like that always sucks.
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@Ecat504 I do the same as @lurvleybunchococonuts. I click on the person's name and then check their replies/discussion history.
I thought waiting til September to have an actual discussion about it will give us a couple more weeks and then keeping the poll open for a week or so? I'm happy to pull the pros and cons out of some other threads too. I would also say that this board would always remain open and people could comment here in addition to/ instead of the other option.
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@potofgolden I haven't either, but I believe it is formatted exactly like this, just you have to be a member of the group to access the posts. I have seen a lot of other BMBs go to a PG here first where everyone can verify that they are who they say they are and get a bit more comfortable before making the jump to FB. I also lurked the October and September moving threads, lol, and yes it got a bit tense!
@potofgolden I'm on the March19 private group currently. The format is pretty much exactly the same. The only real difference is that Bump groups aren't moderated by The Bump the way the public forums are. It's more on the group itself to establish and regulate guidelines. IMO it's been nice to be part of the private group and Facebook. In some ways, Facebook feels like starting over as you don't recognize any names for a while and it is a pretty different format. So it was nice for me to have the private group too where I could more easily connect people by their comments on both platforms and keep track of who was who. Not to mention that, even without drama, we did have a minor split bewteen those who either didnt have Facebook or still wanted the added privacy of the Bump group.
I'm a little torn. I like the idea of migrating to a PG here on TB, but I have significant tech issues with the interface on my laptop and every mobile device, which actually makes participating a bit of a PITA. The way discussions/posts are threaded in Facebook's UI is so much more user friendly. I'm happy to go either way since I'm private AF on all social media and would love to get to know you all even better in the coming months. I don't think there is any reason for things to get tense; we should all go with what the majority agrees upon and take the privacy precautions we are each comfortable with!
I know I've posted it before, but I might as well say here, for transparency sake, I am much more inclined to participate more often via a private facebook group than here. I honestly don't know how often I'd log in to TB during the craziness of pp, but that could just be me. If your profile is locked down on facebook, the only thing group members can seen on facebook vs. here would be your profile photo and your name.
I am in private groups for both my N14 baby and my J18 baby. Honestly, the usability of facebook is SO much better for me. I also know that the randoms threads on those pages (especially early on) completely saved me during MOTN feedings or when I was feeling like I just needed someone to connect with during the throws of those early newborn days.
I'm not saying it's not possible on the bump, but I just don't feel that it's as immediate or user friendly...and doesn't seem as "real" if that makes sense?
Whatever way the group goes, there will have to be privacy/security standards and making sure people are "vetted" to the greatest extent possible before joining.
I’m a FTM so I have no prior experience with the private bump vs facebook. However I’d be comfortable doing either! My biggest concern I guess is how it’s decided who gets accepted into a private group? I know before it was mentioned that it depends kind of on how much you interact in our current group. I’ve been trying to up my participation in the past few weeks because I’ve loved getting to know everyone and the support this group offers! I’m just worried about what qualifies as “enough” participation. But regardless, I’m happy with whatever the group decides.
Alright, just posted a poll. Not intending to make any movement though for a couple of weeks. I keep thinking we have longer being pregnant then we really do.... these babies are coming SOON!!
@BabyL52716 same! I wouldn’t use the app if it weren’t for the group and the weekly baby is the size of a ... Maybe I’m just an entitled millennial, but the way they hid the community chat group area really annoys me. I feel like people in the monthly groups use this app the most, And aren’t here for all the articles and other little ads they have. They should cater to their everyday user not the fly bys. 😝
Also a FTM here, so not sure how the private bump groups work, but I have to admit that I'm not a huge fan of the app! I like the idea of a facebook group, but am happy to do whatever the group decides
I’m all about team FB because the bump app is awful and this mama ain’t got time for that! It’s soooo much easier to stay engaged and participate in a private FB group and I’ve really loved it with my 018 group! Alas, I’ll go with the flow - but I do hope the flow goes to FB 😂
me 32 | dh 45
married 11.11.17 mama. epicurean. plant lover. wine enthusiast.
@1sttimemomma98 Don't worry, I think it's safe to say that your participation is plenty. I know your story, you're here being supportive of other people and actively trying to participate. You definitely count!
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LO arrived 11/9/2018! We have a baby!
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Me: 33 | DH: 41
Married: March 2016
TTC #1/IUD out January 2017
PCOS dx January 2018
Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018
BFP 3/10/2018!
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mama. epicurean. plant lover. wine enthusiast.
I'm also curious about safety if someone has already had the virus (confirmed mild case) and are no longer taking precautions (not social distancing or wearing masks). How big of a risk is it to be around them. Or if someone tests positive for having antibodies. I feel like we don't know enough yet but I'm wondering if they are relatively safe to be around or if I should continue to follow the same precautions around them (i.e., they need to quarantine 2 weeks prior to meeting baby).
I plan on starting to self isolate around 37 weeks. DS's birthday is at the end of October so I think I'm going to throw his birthday party a week early so it isn't too close to the due date of this baby. Last I had talked to my OB she said that they test you upon arrival at the hospital. If you test positive they separate you from the L&D floor and recommend isolation from the baby for 14 days. You can obviously refuse but I don't want to take any chances.
I need to ask my midwife what sort of practices are here. There was only a handful of cases total where I live and no new cases recently but that could change quickly.
ETA - @bundleofjoy4iluvu not directing this at you btw, I’ve seen you around before! Not that I’m the end all be all of who is considered a stranger 🙃
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@crizz13 thanks for starting the poll! My preference is a private group then transitioning to FB. I'm also hoping it won't split either because losing people like that always sucks.
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LO arrived 11/9/2018! We have a baby!
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Me: 33 | DH: 41
Married: March 2016
TTC #1/IUD out January 2017
PCOS dx January 2018
Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018
BFP 3/10/2018!
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I thought waiting til September to have an actual discussion about it will give us a couple more weeks and then keeping the poll open for a week or so? I'm happy to pull the pros and cons out of some other threads too. I would also say that this board would always remain open and people could comment here in addition to/ instead of the other option.
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LO arrived 11/9/2018! We have a baby!
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Me: 33 | DH: 41
Married: March 2016
TTC #1/IUD out January 2017
PCOS dx January 2018
Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018
BFP 3/10/2018!
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I lurked in October and September boards and they did it what seems like forever ago. And it got a little nasty.
I am in private groups for both my N14 baby and my J18 baby. Honestly, the usability of facebook is SO much better for me. I also know that the randoms threads on those pages (especially early on) completely saved me during MOTN feedings or when I was feeling like I just needed someone to connect with during the throws of those early newborn days.
I'm not saying it's not possible on the bump, but I just don't feel that it's as immediate or user friendly...and doesn't seem as "real" if that makes sense?
Whatever way the group goes, there will have to be privacy/security standards and making sure people are "vetted" to the greatest extent possible before joining.
ETA - So much for waiting til September, ha!
Nothing against anyone here it's the app/website itself. I find it annoying to navigate.
Maybe I’m just an entitled millennial, but the way they hid the community chat group area really annoys me. I feel like people in the monthly groups use this app the most, And aren’t here for all the articles and other little ads they have. They should cater to their everyday user not the fly bys. 😝
mama. epicurean. plant lover. wine enthusiast.
@crizz13 I like the way you think!
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