@carrotsandpeas3 if I could of responded sooner I would - TB wasn't working for me either- Id totally be team don't go and that there was no ticket available great reason not too
Happy almost bday to all you July birthday ladies! And happy almost anniversary
@kboydbowman totally thinking of you and sending virtual support and hugs
Hey everyone. The Bump locked me out for about 4 days but I've been trying to follow allow - attempting to figure out my place in posts everytime was less than exciting.
I've just been packing like crazy and trying to sleep a reasonable amount. Oh! And I bought a new car. I was still driving the same car I bought when I was 17. It's still a used car but it lets me make phones calls through it and play my music via Bluetooth so I'm pretty pleased. Plus significantly better safety features.
@carrotsandpeas3 I'm glad you ended up not going. My dad lives in Texas and it's pretty worrisome. He's not going to be able to visit for a while.
@babycakesday in my family on my grandpa’s side, August is the popular month! including me I actually came home from the hospital on my grandpas birthday! We always celebrate together since I’m the 18th and he’s the 20th.
We have no July birthdays in my family but a ton of January birthdays. DH and I actually have the same birthday and now our girls will share a birthday— we’ll be a family of four with only two birthdays 😂 I was so excited when I realized becoming parents meant we would finally get our own days to be celebrated
I don't know if this is *actually* why, but when I was TTC DS, I remember a lot of mamas planning 'back to school' kids, wanting to be due at the beginning of summer. Which could easily turn into a July baby if timing doesn't quite work out. Apparently J/A/S are the most common birth months.
I was just guessing beginning of cold weather, stuck inside more... And things happen. 😂 I actually wish DD didn't have a late summer birthday because it will make the starting school vs cutoff decision more difficult! I got held from kindergarten an extra year because of my July birthday (and cutoff was June back then) and was so bored in an extra year of preschool. My mom said I used to steal my sister's 1st grade homework. Not sure what we will do with DD yet but we have a few years to decide.
@carrotsandpeas3 I am with you on that! My son's birthday is 08/27 and cutoff where we live is 09/10. I was super young in school (09/29 birthday but where I started school it was 10/01 and then we moved here in 1st grade) and ended up skipping a couple of grades. I really don't want DS to get bored, but I also don't want to push him if he's not ready. 🤦🏻♀️ Most parents I know with kids with birthdays around the cutoff are holding them back but that seems so odd to me. I am glad we still have a couple of years too.
@carrotsandpeas3 as a 4yo preschool teacher I get this question from about every summer birthday parent! Honestly it’s up to you what to do in the end, but if a child is ready academically and socially, send them to kindergarten. I am one of those kids who is a late August birthday and I went to Kindergarten because I was reading. Every child is different. Our cutoff in Iowa is September 15. We are lucky in my district because we have a transitional kindergarten program for those kiddos who are not ready academically or socially for kindergarten. And they cannot stay in preschool another year because we are state funded. So struggling kids either go to TK or K, depending on available space in the TK program, and they just end up getting extra support along the way which is our job as educators! Our preschool team and our principal firmly believe that a child’s birthday has nothing to do with their abilities in school. It was a huge discussion with kindergarten team this spring.
Yes, totally agree. If they are ready, they should go, if not, waiting a year is fine! That's what sucked about the June 1st cutoff when I was a kid. I was 100% ready to go as a July birthday but couldn't. They are pushing to move cutoffs in Indiana from September 1st to August 1st (and DDs bday is Aug 14th), so I hope the same thing doesn't happen to her!
It's so interesting to me bc im a dec birthday and growing up I was always the youngest in the grade. The cut off was Dec 31st where I started kindergarten and Dec 1 when we moved. Summer cut offs was something I had no idea about til moving to VA. Well and the cutoff here is actually Sept 30.
@jgrodo I would CRY if our cutoff was December 31st! In preschool those kids are just babies! Some people in our district wish the cutoff was May 15. I usually end up with one or two early September babies coming in at 3 years old for about two weeks of school since we start August 24. and the difference in their maturity versus the older kids is glaringly obvious.
Our cutoff is September 1st, so I'm glad I won't have to worry about it for DD or this one (most likely). My birthday is 10/26 and I was always one of the oldest in school. We had four in my grade born September 4th (the year after me) who were the youngest. It looks like the cutoff has been 9/1 since at least 1990, so I wonder if they got special permission?
@carrotsandpeas3 I'm flying in just a few days, but headed to the middle of no where with no one but my mama lol. If it were a bunch of people and in a high residential area I would be saying no too! As it is my doctor gave me a bunch of instructions for safety while flying, but he thinks its safer to fly that far rather than driving and having to stop at potentially sketchy gas stations to pee every 2 hours.
I think TB had a tantrum or something. It locked me out of community for the last few days too!
I justgjust an email back from TB support that they were aware of the glitch and just released a patch to fix it. If anyone is reading this and can't access it still, they also said you may have to log out, clear cookies, and log back in.
Anyone in a really bitchy mood from pregnancy these days? We had told my IL that we had two names for this baby, I like both for now but I am not 100% sure we will even use one of them. Yesterday my MIL said "I'll bring this box for you guys next week when I visit so you can use the stuff for Claire". Today my friend (the one who had a MC) requested a bump pic and said "I'm so glad to see Daph is growing" - Dafne (with an F) has always been my favorite name but my H vetoed it. I know I am just being bitchy but it really irks me when people do that especially when we don't announce the full name for the baby until birth anyways (I know some people have a full name picked out and use it throughout pregnancy, but we've never done that).
I am also annoyed at H. Yesterday I read yet another article from the CDC about new studies on Covid and pregnancy and got a bit upset, I KNOW, I KNOW that risks are still low and I need to chill but it just made me a bit mad because his parents are visiting from Covid-ville TX (and California is on the way to be that too!) next week. They didn't even tell us that they were not taking the motor home, instead they are driving and stopping at 2 hotels along the way. THEN THEY BOOKED A HOTEL HERE. Like, we have a guest bedroom. It's not super organized but it's something...they are only here 3 nights. I am worried they are not taking things very seriously...they also booked a CRUISE, like a FLIPPING CRUISE, at the end of November. We will have a NEWBORN with no shots...I know a lot of it is my FIL who loves to travel and he probably just gave a deposit and is not really expecting that it will happen, but still...it seems really dumb to me.
Anyways back to the visit, so now I keep thinking of all the hotels they'll be staying at and my H didn't seem to blink and never told them anything. Now we had a fight because he said he can tell them they can stay here at the house at least while they are here, but to me they have already exposed themselves anyways...H keeps saying yes but that would lower the risk...I can see it rationally but it still annoys me that I can't have it the way that makes me feel the most comfortable. And he is the type to not show what worries him so even when I showed him the article with new recommendations he was all level headed...ugh...I know it's good but sometimes I really just want him to empathize a bit more with me ...ok, rant over, sorry it was long.
Add me to the list of people that the bump booted! I got locked out for four days as well, just as everything was going down with moving groups and everything, it was like I had gotten reported but I haven't said anything inappropriate or offensive so it was just a really rude bug. I emailed support twice and never heard back from them. I uninstalled the app, logged out and in about 50 times and nothing. I feel really bad to seem like I totally bailed. I hate TB so much lol
@morethanamama That sounds so frustrating, I'm sorry, people just don't think... At all.
@morethanamama I have been super grumpy for a solid week. But regardless that would tick me off about the names too. It’s why we don’t tell anyone even what we’re thinking. My mom is the kind of person who if I said, “well, we’re thinking Bubba but we haven’t decided,” would hear, “We’ve picked Bubba for his name, 100% sure, please tell everyone.” 🙄 I am also struggling with in-laws visiting... they were planning to come at the end of May and my FIL kept saying “I don’t see anyone dropping dead in the streets, so it can’t be that bad!” So I told my husband that we would not be allowing his parents in the house or even seeing them, because I could not trust them to take any precautions at the airport or on the plane. My FIL is an insurance salesman and has been having appointments in people’s homes and has not worn a mask ONCE. Even as cases continue to rise in their county, he still refuses. But now they’re saying they’re going to drive out here in October... that way they don’t have to worry about airport germs and the confined space of the airplane... except that means they’ll spend the night in at least one, probably two hotels, before showing up where we have a brand new baby. I am not pleased.
This birthday convo is interesting, in our families—both sides—all birthdays are spread out. April is the only month we don’t have any birthdays, but the most we have in a month is two. We’ll see if this baby breaks that... if he actually does arrive in October, we’ll have 3 family birthdays but if he comes early enough to arrive in September, he’ll join grandma as Sept birthday #2. Also, if you’re planning for summer birthdays for any future babies, please know my sister would vehemently argue against it. She was born the middle of July and growing up her friends were always on vacation during her birthday, so her parties were always very small (though for mom this might go in the “pro” column).
I mentioned to MH that I might see if my parents want to come visit next weekend since he will be gone on his trip and it's a long weekend plus being my birthday. The look of shock on his face made me laugh so much. He replied very hesitantly, "yes... your birthday...is when I will be gone..." He clearly completely forgot. We don't make a big deal about gifts or anything but usually try to do something special for each other (food or something). I'm letting him off the hook because we've had a ton going on and it's not a big deal. Still funny though.
I'm also struggling with IKEA to try and get some furniture for DDs big girl room. I've had my eye on a dresser that has been out of stock. Went back in stock yesterday and I was going to go after work today. They are already down to only 1 left in stock like 12 hours later and I don't even know if it's the right color. Grrrr. @babycakesday didn't you just have an IKEA fail too? So frustrating!
@carrotsandpeas3 Yes, I went in person and everything I wanted was out of stock. It’s like they knew I needed those things. I mean I know they don’t deep down inside I really truly know it. I want the Hemnes 8 drawer dresser and just waiting for it to get back in stock. I refuse to pay $50 for shipping. It is in stock in a store 2 hours from here in the city where my SIL lives so I may wake up at 3am and do a curbside pick up if it doesn’t come back in the next month.
@babycakesday I'm trying to get the songesand 6 drawer dresser. Just went out of stock at my local store AGAIN. I tried to buy it on click collect last night but there weren't any pickup spots available so was planning on going after work. It's available to ship but wouldn't come in until August. 😳 The store is 10 min from my house, so I guess I will just keep watching and waiting!
@mamahosch may 15?!? Wow hahaha,here I've been having a hard time wrapping my head around that this lil guy will be the oldest or one of the oldest in the grade hehe. Yah, my mom was done and won the push fwd/hold back "discussion" with my dad. I guess the later cut off dates is an NY thing, I don't think the cut offs have changed. That has to be pretty hard with preschool though! My friend from home is going to push her not yet 2 yr old (bday end Nov) to start preschool in Sept.
My family‘s birthdays are all within 3 weeks of each other, and my parents and I are within 3 days of each other. It’s quite interesting to celebrate my birthday, and then the next day it’s my mom’s. I agree with @baseballismyfavoriteseason in that having a birthday in the middle of summer means smaller parties. On top of people being on vacation it was also hard to get ahold of anyone, although it is probably easier with social media now. Other than that I love a summer birthday.
For those of you looking at IKEA furniture, please watch “Broken” on Netflix. They have an episode titled “Deadly Dressers”. As someone with Swedish heritage, I love IKEA, but it opened my eyes. I also just saw a story online where someone bolted a bookcase and it still fell. I just want you to be informed on what could happen before you buy. It’s scary though because it can happen with any cheap furniture, they just mainly highlight IKEA.
That being said I’m now scared about even the furniture that we have that’s hand me downs, and not pressed wood. I’m planning on testing all my pieces just to make sure.
@carrotsandpeas3 I paid $50 for expedited shipping and got stuff the next day but my total was high (outdoor furniture) so I was ok with the charge. I have actually gone into the store (I also have one super close) and they had none of the things I needed either. They really suck at e-commerce, and I think they've really been imacted by Covid as far as inventory goes. Additionally, it seems that despite the crisis everyone has $$ to buy a ton of furniture!!!!
I also paid for expedited shipping (it ended up being the same price as regular shipping?) and got it the next day, but that was back when I had no idea when the store would reopen and any other dressers I could find at other retailers that I liked cost more with free shipping than the ikea dresser plus shipping.
@baseballismyfavoriteseason I’m having a similar issue of people using the name or telling other’s the name when we haven’t made it official.
My other issue right now is with my parents. We refused a crib that was in the family from at least the 1950s!!! We also have a cradle that my grandpa built from the 1930s. I have always wanted to use it. My friend however went off on me that she can’t condone using it because who knows if it’s safe. I discussed it with them, and they both said how disappointed they would be if I didn’t use it. My brother didn’t use it for his kids because they were adopted through the foster system, and they weren’t allowed to use it, so it’s up to me. My boyfriend and I are working out a solution that works for us. And my parents live next door, so not using it, and lying about it isn’t an option.
So fast forward to Father’s Day. They got my boyfriend a Baby Bjorn carrier. They then said they planned on using the carrier they used with us from the 80s, unless there’s some safety issue. It might not sound too bad on here, but the tone was, nothing we used on you is good enough for you. I didn’t even have a reply.
Early July is like a family tradition for us: me on the 2nd, my mom on the 5th, my brother on the 9th.
I always hated having a summer birthday as a kid, because other kids would get a party at school. If summer kids get a party, it's for all the summer kids on the same day, not near their birthday. Has been much better as an adult because the people we know are only around in summer (biologists), so I've had some fun parties the past few years.
@animalandplantrescuer Personally I would use the cradle for naps if you do your own research and are right there. But no, I wouldn't use a 1950s crib and I wouldn't use a 1980s carrier. Yes, the things they used are not good enough. Measure have changed. And even if not, time has passed, fabric wears, things become more fragile. I've been really lucky with my dad listening to me easily about safety rules. But it just gets worse as kids get older, especially if you don't set those boundaries early. Sorry if I'm preachy, and I don't totally get having nearby family with strong opinions, but I've seen with friends, with my in laws, and with people talking on big mom groups on FB how it just grows. I've seen the difference with how our parenting is respected by my in laws versus my siblings in laws who haven't been firm about things too. Good luck with that. It's not fun to have that type of stress.
I got off work early and ran to IKEA anyway and at least got her bookshelf thing. They had the brown 4 or 6 drawer songesand but not the white, as expected. Darn. @babycakesday there were open click collect spots weirdly at like 11am today (but not when I checked at 6 am) but it was sold out again by then. Ughfkrfhbghhhh. @morethanamama@baseballismyfavoriteseason it doesn't even give me an option for expedited shipping! Not sure if they are that backordered or something.
Ohhh @carrotsandpeas3 come to think of it, I think it was an option because it was in stock at my local store... but, you can check stock on the website!!
@baseballismyfavoriteseason ahh that makes sense. I've been checking the stock online like 3+ times a day. 🥴 Was finally back in stock yesterday evening so I figured I'd just go in person today and it sold out again in less than 12 hours! Going to drive me crazy.
@wineren That’s somewhat our plan. We are thinking if we decide to use a bassinet to get one of those that opens to your bed. Then we can explain that this is for my sanity at night. I’m already dreading having to get up so much, so this will cut down on that, and the safety of not cosleeping.
I think they have gotten over us refusing the crib. But every time I bring up the possibility of lead in the varnish of all the older items, they exclaim it doesn’t have it. Even though I’ve been doing research into it. 😒
The problem is my mom becomes emotionally attached to everything. They have 5 rockers/gliders around their house because they have meaning to her for example, we were rocked in them at the nursery at church. And that would be fine if they had room for 5 of them. So it’s a tricky subject.
@animalandplantrescuer is the crib a drop-side? If it is there is plenty of information out there on why you can’t use it/why they were outlawed you could share with them. And my argument for anything with our baby is that safety comes before family feelings!
Uhhh @carrotsandpeas3 where in Texas is your husband going? (You don’t actually have to be that specific) Just heard Houston is shutting back down. I am glad you’re not going but very anxious about him going now. 😬 (I get why he’s going, but I’m still anxious about it.)
Re: June Randoms
Happy almost bday to all you July birthday ladies! And happy almost anniversary
@kboydbowman totally thinking of you and sending virtual support and hugs
I've just been packing like crazy and trying to sleep a reasonable amount. Oh! And I bought a new car. I was still driving the same car I bought when I was 17. It's still a used car but it lets me make phones calls through it and play my music via Bluetooth so I'm pretty pleased. Plus significantly better safety features.
@carrotsandpeas3 I'm glad you ended up not going. My dad lives in Texas and it's pretty worrisome. He's not going to be able to visit for a while.
Married 6/15/13
BFP #1 5/8/16, EDD 12/31/16- DD born 9/10/16 at 24 weeks
~In our hearts forever~
BFP #2 10/14/17, EDD 7/1/18
With my hubs family we have a ton of Dec bdays
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
I think TB had a tantrum or something. It locked me out of community for the last few days too!
I am also annoyed at H. Yesterday I read yet another article from the CDC about new studies on Covid and pregnancy and got a bit upset, I KNOW, I KNOW that risks are still low and I need to chill but it just made me a bit mad because his parents are visiting from Covid-ville TX (and California is on the way to be that too!) next week. They didn't even tell us that they were not taking the motor home, instead they are driving and stopping at 2 hotels along the way. THEN THEY BOOKED A HOTEL HERE. Like, we have a guest bedroom. It's not super organized but it's something...they are only here 3 nights. I am worried they are not taking things very seriously...they also booked a CRUISE, like a FLIPPING CRUISE, at the end of November. We will have a NEWBORN with no shots...I know a lot of it is my FIL who loves to travel and he probably just gave a deposit and is not really expecting that it will happen, but still...it seems really dumb to me.
Anyways back to the visit, so now I keep thinking of all the hotels they'll be staying at and my H didn't seem to blink and never told them anything. Now we had a fight because he said he can tell them they can stay here at the house at least while they are here, but to me they have already exposed themselves anyways...H keeps saying yes but that would lower the risk...I can see it rationally but it still annoys me that I can't have it the way that makes me feel the most comfortable. And he is the type to not show what worries him so even when I showed him the article with new recommendations he was all level headed...ugh...I know it's good but sometimes I really just want him to empathize a bit more with me ...ok, rant over, sorry it was long.
@morethanamama That sounds so frustrating, I'm sorry, people just don't think... At all.
I'm also struggling with IKEA to try and get some furniture for DDs big girl room. I've had my eye on a dresser that has been out of stock. Went back in stock yesterday and I was going to go after work today. They are already down to only 1 left in stock like 12 hours later and I don't even know if it's the right color. Grrrr. @babycakesday didn't you just have an IKEA fail too? So frustrating!
Good luck with that. It's not fun to have that type of stress.