@carrotsandpeas3 my niece was the same about standing in a chair and eating (she didn't run around while eating, though, my sister shut that down quick, lol). She did it for a long time, until she was tall enough to be able to see while she sat and ate at the table.
@carrotsandpeas3 you basically are describing my toddler to a tee. She sits at a table to eat now and she’s almost 4. Back then, I didn’t care as long as she would eat food. I agree. Prepare to be flexible.
@babyodo the idea of shutting something down with an completely illogical 13 month old (which is totally something I would have planned to do originally), now makes me laugh. We'd get home from work/daycare at 6 and bedtime was 7, so I didn't have the time or ability to have a 30+ minute meltdown as part of the dinner routine. If a little bit of running around at least led to her eating, I had to deal and change my expectations. Luckily, once I let her stand in a "big girl" chair, she stopped the running around. Plus, now that she can understand and be reasoned with a little more, it's easier to control that sort of thing. @babycakesday solidarity. It's funny how much my expectations of what I would let my kid do has changed now that I'm actually doing it.
@carrotsandpeas3 my little one is the same way. He will be 2 in June and has been standing on a regular chair at our kitchen table for probably 6 months now, because it's the only way to get him to actually stay at the table and eat. Whatever works!
@carrotsandpeas3 my 3 year old also started hating being strapped in at about 2 years old. So now she just sits on her booster seat on a chair. For the most part she’s good about sitting and eating her dinner but most nights she’ll get up mid way through the meal and run around. It is what it is. It’s not a battle I want to fight every night. She’ll sit in her seat at a restaurant and be just fine so I really don’t worry about it at home. My daughter is extremely stubborn and strong willed so the notion of shutting something down or forcing her to do something is comical. That’s simply not how she works.
@babyodo oh definitely. It was so frustrating for me because our daycare has cameras, so I could see how nicely she sat for meals/snacks when there. What a stinker! Now I just bribe her with the promise of getting to watch baby shark or let it go after dinner if I have to. 🤷
@carrotsandpeas3 similarly, my son stopped wanting to be in the Ikea chair around the same age. We got the Stokke because it sat a bit higher and also could be used at the table. For the most part it works...but he also wants to use our regular chairs, and he's too short ...he sits on his knees but that's uncomfortable. We tried a booster and a he wanted to do was buckle it and unbuckle it. I completely agree there is no "shutting it down"... especially when all you need them to do is eat and go to bed. Of course, the nanny never has these issues...he's an angel with her!
We got a picnic table from Ikea since we plan on eating outside from now on and hopefully he will like that! He uses it at the other family's house (we nanny share)...
I just pulled a client to style and she's in my maternity section. She left a note stating that she's expecting twins and already has a noticeable bump...at 4 weeks pregnant. Insert eyeroll.
@themoonandme she's probably not use to being super bloated and is calling it a bump instead... my bloat made me bigger than my bump does now lol. I couldn't fit comfortably in my jeans from 5 weeks because of it, but I was of the... yeah I'm bloated whatever camp lol.
@themoonandme someone should start a first trimester comfort line that look normal but fit super comfy and have extra padding in the knees in case of sickness lol...
@themoonandme I know there are situations where someone might at least sort of know, but my first thought was, "how does she know it's twins at 4 weeks?!" 🤔 ETA-That's right on the edge of even being able to see the gestational sac. Maybe it was a typo and she meant 14?
@carrotsandpeas3 she would have had to select the date on a pop up calendar when she filled out her profile. Maybe she did IVF and has been heavily monitored? I don't know, but I had the same thought!
I am SO excited! I had a great a/s yesterday and we found out we're having a GIRL!!! AH! Now I can finally go through all my SIL's hand-me-downs. They had two boys and a girl, so lots and lots of boxes to sort through. But ohmigosh that girl had no shortage of clothing. A lot if things still have tags!! She was born in Dec in TN and I'm in NH so the seasons should match up pretty well since it gets colder here sooner. This is just NB and 3MO that I've found so far... there might be more! Also, my other niece who is 4 was born on Oct. 4th and I will be getting some more hand-me-downs from them, too. I will never have to buy clothes for this kid...
@ginevere Wow that’s awesome! We had a boy after my SIL had 2 girls. We got a handful of hand-me-downs in size NB from friends at church because babe came three weeks early and was way smaller than we were expecting, so we had bought exactly 0 NB clothes. I also had a very small baby shower and received very few items of clothing, so every time we have changed sizes, we have basically had to buy our kid a brand new wardrobe. 😩🤑 Thankfully my parents helped a lot. I am thankful we’re having another boy just so I don’t have to go through that whole process again!
@ginevere congratulations!!! 🎀 Our a/s is in two weeks and I’m getting so impatient... if we have a girl my neighbor across the street has some little girl stuff ready to pass on to me since she was an October baby too! Lol
DD lives the first year off hand me downs. It was great. It helps so much. After that they tend to last a little longer in clothes and I would hit up resale places for any outdoor clothes. I have my a/s in one week. I’m super nervous and I have no idea why.
@ginevere congratulations and that's awesome. I have a niece who is 5 months older than my daughter so we inherited 80% of what she wore for the first year. It was so great. Now, we have both caught up in size a bit and the seasonality of the clothes is finally off enough that I just had to buy her a whole summer wardrobe.
Thanks guys! I was low key freaking out about my a/s too all last week, @babycakesday. Ended up taking about 10-15min total for the ultrasound part, baby was squirmy but very cooperative! It was so exciting to see (what I could) of all her little limbs moving and organs and stuff- she's a real baby!!! Definitely eased my worries SO MUCH! It was especially nice since I haven't had any in-person prenatal care since March 13th so I felt so much tension dissapear afterward! I'm really glad they were able to squeeze me in on the early side rather than weeks from now.
@ginevere congratulations!!! Hand me downs are AWESOME! I got SO MUCH with my son! And then a lot of people got me clothes bigger in size per my request since I knew you tend to be so ready for the newborn stage and then run out of clothes by 9 months. Now I got an equally crazy amount of hand me downs again...I am keeping some of my son's more neutral stuff but baby girl needs some new clothes too! Too bad I can't share the gender with H or anybody except from you guys, although it's making it a bit more special at least . Can't wait for my A/S on Tuesday.
Random question: what is the etiquette for sharing registry info? I was a knottie way back in the day, and I know it was considered poor etiquette to print the registry info on the invitations, and were cautioned to instead create a wedding website where that info would be listed. Now that we're possibly having to face doing a virtual shower, I don't know if it would be considered tacky to put our registry info on a regular post on social media, to do a virtual event invite on Facebook and put that info there, etc. We both have older relatives who aren't as tech savvy or rarely get on social media, too. As it is, my best friend is planning to have our shower over Labor Day weekend (kind of late in the game, but better chances of having an in-person shower), so maybe it's too early to be talking about this, but with all this time at home it's been on my mind.
@babyodo I wouldn't stress about this and would include it in your invite. Then again, I included it in my wedding stuff without a second thought, but my older relatives would have been hopeless if I hadn't included it to guide them. I had a friend who just had a baby this week (yay!) and didn't have a shower because they live so far from family and friends plus covid. They ended up just doing a social media post basically saying that they had had a lot of people asking to help or what they needed and included the link to their registry. They were very clear that people should not feel obligated and we're very gracious about it, and I thought it was fine!
On a different topic entirely--Had my first dream about baby last night and was a girl in my dream! I had 3-4 dreams I was having a girl with my last pregnancy and that ended up being right. Then again...I'm pretty sure I was hoping for a girl subconsciously, so not sure if that's where the dreams came from and it was just coincidence. I'm team green so I'm doing all the speculating. 🤔
Thanks for the advice, @carrotsandpeas3. I'm sure I'm overthinking this...I tend to do that, lol.
And before I even found out I was pregnant, I had a dream during the TWW that I woke up and took a pregnancy test except that I actually peed on my BBT thermometer lol and in my dream it was pink and I knew it was a girl. I know that it was WAY too early to tell, but for some reason that was the starting point of me thinking that this baby is a girl, and I was correct. I tried to entertain the idea of this baby possibly being a boy, but those thoughts were always quickly dashed because my intuition for some reason always told me, "Nope. It's a girl." I even accidentally referred to her as "she" a few times in the first trimester before we got our NIPT results when describing her making me nauseated or causing my insomnia.
I say put it on your invite. I didn’t for my first baby shower with my moms side of the family and I got tons of Phone calls and texts asking for it. I put it on our baby shower with my husbands side and we didn’t really have any of those questions. Plus some people may just choose to not ask you and get you whatever if they don’t see a registry.
@babyodo any time I’ve had an invitation for a baby shower in the past it always has registry information on it. My bridal shower was the same. I think for showers it’s pretty common to include it, even virtually! That way they’ll know where to look if they want to shop your registry 😊
I hate when I mark “allow substitutions” on my pickup order and they don’t substitute anything. Orange juice and blueberry yogurt... I’m confident there is some other brand of both those products 🤦♀️
@Kurtni that happened to me this week with a couple of things! But even though they said the paper towels I picked were out of stock and they weren’t on the receipt, they still substituted them and were in our grocery bags so we got them for free 🤷🏼♀️ Lol
@carrotsandpeas3 I am with you on team GREEN! My husband and I are both hoping opposite lol, but I keep having dreams about a little girl. He keeps calling bump he/him all the time lol! I think he's just terrified of it being a girl because he will be so whipped. I try to remind him that no matter what bits it's born with it could still be a boy. I do still kinda love responding to sex questions with fun answers like... "well I'm hoping its human" or "a Democrat"...
@aefsparrow yay for team green! I wasn't sure there was anyone else here who was doing it. People seem so flabbergasted at why I would wait to find out. After saying we didn't know and weren't planning on finding out to someone the other day, they felt they needed to inform me "you know they can figure it out at your ultrasound right? You don't need any extra testing." Uh duh. 🤦 There are very few true surprises in my life, and I love that this is one of them.
DH was sure DD was going to be a girl. This time he's sure it's a boy. I never had a mother's intuition either time, aside from the first time I just told myself it was a boy because I wanted a girl. I'm guessing boy because my husband is and he was right last time. 😂
I don't know a ton of people in real life that have/are having babies, but of the ones I know it seems to be a pretty even split of finding out sex and waiting for birth. It's weird to me that people are so shocked when people don't find out.
@carrotsandpeas3 I am with you on team GREEN! My husband and I are both hoping opposite lol, but I keep having dreams about a little girl. He keeps calling bump he/him all the time lol! I think he's just terrified of it being a girl because he will be so whipped. I try to remind him that no matter what bits it's born with it could still be a boy. I do still kinda love responding to sex questions with fun answers like... "well I'm hoping its human" or "a Democrat"...
Before we found what we're having, I always responded with, "I don't care either way, I just hope it's a healthy, happy puppy." We have four large dogs, so people know we're crazy dog people and that kinda suits us.
This may sound awful (maybe it's a FFFC response), but I wanted to know because I have always desperately wanted a girl and only a girl (the boy person also really wanted a girl, but not with the same fervency). If it was a boy, I would have wanted the time to come to terms with that well before he was born so I could grow into the idea and give him all the love he would deserve right from the beginning.
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
I finally got my NIPT test results. This has been so stressful waiting for a second test since the first one was invalid due to insufficient fetal dna. We’re having a healthy baby boy! This will be the first boy on my husbands side. He and all of his siblings have all had little girls and this is the last baby that will be born out of he and his siblings. The rest of them are all done having kids.
@kboydbowman honestly DH and I are both team girl as well, because there are literally no girls on either side of our families. The little boy chaos at holidays needs to be calmed!!! Lol. We are fully okay with having a boy though, as our odds are fairly high with all the XY chromosomes on both sides!!
@kboydbowman I think a lot of people have this sort of preference. I feel like you get it or you don't. I think in the past it's been a hot UO/FFFC topic on both sides (i.e. expressing the preference or disappointment or the other end saying, "I don't understand this disappointment"). I think it's totally valid and doesn't mean in any way that someone doesn't appreciate the pregnancy or anything like that. I wanted a girl with my first, but I think this time around I want a girl even more strongly than the first time. Luckily this whole pandemic has been a distraction so I haven't been dwelling and also we've made more progress on boy names I don't hate so hopefully if this one is a boy, it won't be hard to get used to.
Re: May Randoms
Due with baby #2: Feb 2022
@babycakesday solidarity. It's funny how much my expectations of what I would let my kid do has changed now that I'm actually doing it.
Due with baby #2: Feb 2022
We got a picnic table from Ikea since we plan on eating outside from now on and hopefully he will like that! He uses it at the other family's house (we nanny share)...
@carrotsandpeas3 she would have had to select the date on a pop up calendar when she filled out her profile. Maybe she did IVF and has been heavily monitored? I don't know, but I had the same thought!
Also, my other niece who is 4 was born on Oct. 4th and I will be getting some more hand-me-downs from them, too. I will never have to buy clothes for this kid...
Due with baby #2: Feb 2022
On a different topic entirely--Had my first dream about baby last night and was a girl in my dream! I had 3-4 dreams I was having a girl with my last pregnancy and that ended up being right. Then again...I'm pretty sure I was hoping for a girl subconsciously, so not sure if that's where the dreams came from and it was just coincidence. I'm team green so I'm doing all the speculating. 🤔
And before I even found out I was pregnant, I had a dream during the TWW that I woke up and took a pregnancy test except that I actually peed on my BBT thermometer lol and in my dream it was pink and I knew it was a girl. I know that it was WAY too early to tell, but for some reason that was the starting point of me thinking that this baby is a girl, and I was correct. I tried to entertain the idea of this baby possibly being a boy, but those thoughts were always quickly dashed because my intuition for some reason always told me, "Nope. It's a girl." I even accidentally referred to her as "she" a few times in the first trimester before we got our NIPT results when describing her making me nauseated or causing my insomnia.
Due with baby #2: Feb 2022
I don't know a ton of people in real life that have/are having babies, but of the ones I know it seems to be a pretty even split of finding out sex and waiting for birth. It's weird to me that people are so shocked when people don't find out.
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020
Due with baby #2: Feb 2022
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
DD - 12/28/17
TTC #2 3/2019
BFP 5/2019 || MC - D&C 5/2019
BFP 2/2020 || EDD 10/10/2020