We were planning on circumcising our son until a few weeks before he was born. My husband is circumcised so it just seemed natural for our son to be as well, but we did some research on the topic and decided against it.
Here is an article from the Evidence Based Birth website that gives a lot of information about circumcision. It’s a pretty long article, but it explains it very well and provides information on both sides of the topic.
@carrotsandpeas3 I’m not sure where else to put it other than in the basement bedroom, but I don’t think it would get used in there since it’s just a guest room. Yeah I thought about buying cushions instead of making them but like you said I don’t think it’s going to be ideal for feedings. But at least in the early months we will have the Bassinest in our bedroom so I won’t have to worry about it for a while at night since I’ll just nurse in bed... it can be something we can change later on I guess 🤷🏼♀️
@mamahosch I think this is an uncommon opinion, but I could not nurse comfortably in bed. I needed better back support and was so scared I would fall asleep if I laid down while nursing. I moved the rocking chair into our bedroom even when my daughter was in there with us.
@glupglup that's so sad, where are you from? I feel like the Bump should really have an international version, especially with other countries having such different laws etc, I can barely stand the articles and I live in the US, I can't imagine how dumb it is for those not from here 😂
I signed up for a few of the birthing classes at our birth center last week (Understanding Childbirth, Breastfeeding, Newborn Care, and Car Seat Safety), and today I got an email saying they've officially decided to cancel two of the classes. But we have the option of getting the book, or doing the class online. Both free. I chose online because it has videos, etc. and DH can still do it with me. I'm still waiting to hear about the two I signed up for that are in July so I'm guessing they're just doing a month at a time since Understanding Childbirth and Breastfeeding were both in June.
Also our birth center has us pre-register at 18-20 weeks, so I'm working on getting that filled out currently now that I'm 18 weeks! It's starting to seriously feel real...
I'm having a moment. My anatomy scan is next week at a MFM office (standard practice for my OB with all IVF pregnancies) and the obviously have a no visitor policy currently. It's been eating at me that my intended parents have not been to any ultrasounds and that they're not allowed to come to this one either, so I called the MFM office and basically begged them to let me bring one of the parents. I understand that everyone is in the same boat, but I'm not the biological parent of this child and it sucks that not even one of the parents can come to such a huge appointment. The mother didn't make the choice to not be able to carry her child and I feel so sad/fired up that she's having to sacrifice all of this stuff too.
The MFM office is discussing it in their staff meeting this afternoon so hopefully I'll have an answer later today or tomorrow. Please please keep your fingers crossed that they'll make an exception!
@kalesix3 I am from Europe but have been living in Canada for 6 years. Living here has given me some exposure to the US culture so it's not that shocking but I still have my European mindset on so many things that most articles are a nonsense for me.
Even comparing Canada to US in terms of maternity leave, laws, benefits, health insurance, stores(no Target here!), car seat regulations... So many different things!
Sometimes a Canadian article pops up but the following one is something in line of "the most common baby names by state".
Hoping DH isn’t going to be too mad when he sees me bring home a glider chair for the nursery since he doesn’t seem to want me to get rid of the wooden rocker that he will probably never ever use. I ended up getting the one I found on Facebook marketplace for $20 🤷🏼♀️ And it actually matches our nursery. I just don’t think he understands the comfort level I’m going to need that a wooden rocker can’t give me (even if I found cushions for it).
@mamahosch I’m glad you did! We received a beautiful rocking chair that has been in my husband’s family for generations. My FIL refinished it and my MIL reupholstered it. The first time I sat in it with the baby I thought, “oh no, I will never be able to use this!” It is too small for me and has no armrests. My husband does not understand (which is actually rare for him, to his credit), and I do feel bad because it’s a very special gift. I wish I could get something more comfortable this time around, but I don’t dare approach the subject.
@baseballismyfavoriteseason can you talk with the in-laws? Maybe express how much you love the gift but blame it on your body shape or something and ask if they can pass it along to another relative it might be a better fit for?
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
@profmcgonagall I haven't started leaking yet, but I've had several dreams about it and I always wake up like, "WTF?" I'm a FTM, so maybe I have some fear/hesitations in the back of my mind about breastfeeding. I know we get assigned a lactation coach and I already have my breast pump, but it's just something I'm still wrapping my head around because generally that area has been reserved for pleasure instead of utility.
@profmcgonagall I'm starting to fell a lot more full so I'm sure it's coming for me too. I leaked as a FTM too but not until 36ish weeks. Ended up collecting some prenatal colostrum though so that was cool. ETA--definitely get some ice cream! 80 without AC sounds awful. @babyodo I had a lot of anxiety about it as a FTM too. Mostly because I wanted to do it so badly and was so nervous things wouldn't go well. Now my anxiety is mostly about how much work it is and how much I hate pumping and dread doing that part again. What pump did you end up getting?
I got the Spectra S2 through my insurance company. I was torn between that and the Medela, but the reviews for the Spectra were better. I read that it's quieter, which is big for me. I've unboxed it twice now in an attempt to familiarize myself with it, but got overwhelmed and put it away, haha.
@babyodo I used a Spectra S2 last time and will probably get a second one this time. Don't worry, I don't think I even unboxed it until I was past my due date last time because it overwhelmed me. No need to stress too much about it yet! I can also help you figure it out if you want when the time comes! 😊
@babyodo I have the same pump. It’s really pretty easy to use, you just need to make sure you have the correct size flanges. Definitely get yourself a pumping bra though. That’s part of why I hated pumping was holding the flanges to my boobs for half an hour. I’m top heavy so they definitely weren’t staying put just by suction alone 😂. I had anxiety about breastfeeding and ultimately chose not to do it. I already had so much stress caring for a preemie that I just wasn’t even going to try to take on breast feeding too. Ultimately I didn’t make much milk anyway and she had about a 70/30 ratio of formula and milk until my milk dried up all together. Your anxiety about milky breast’s is common I’d say from talking to other moms. It’s a huge change. They get huge and veiny. They leak. It’s just a lot going on with them in addition to everything else with your body and baby. Be kind to yourself.
@mamahosch and @baseballismyfavoriteseason We have two rocking chairs that have been passed down on my MIL‘s side of the family that we got when we moved in together a few years ago. My MIL is very attached to them and has been excited for us for years to have a baby and rock them in these chairs. However, they’re not very comfy and the arms aren’t well situated for me (I’m short so they’re up too high). My compromise is that both of these chairs are in the living room for guests to sit in and I’ll have a glider that I pick out in the nursery. That way I can rock the baby in the living room while she’s here, then use the glider in the nursery when she’s not. Maybe there can be a compromise where you have your glider in the nursery while the family chair is somewhere where you can still use it, just not all the time?
@kboydbowman I wish I could, but nope! They specifically held on to it when my SIL started having babies because they wanted to pass it on to the firstborn, because that’s been the tradition. Also, they gave it to us when we were having our first, two years ago. So I DEFINITELY can’t say anything now. 😂 @ccstlln1 I kind of did something similar. Kept the rocker in the nursery for looks, and just sat in the comfy rocking recliner in the living room for nursing. But that was when we were in an apartment, now we’re in a split level house and the recliner is downstairs. I kind of want something new for upstairs, because if hubs and bubs are hanging out up there, I don’t want to be banished the the basement for nursing. But again, my husband doesn’t understand, so if I try to suggest it, his response is “you have a perfectly good rocker already.”
@baseballismyfavoriteseason maybe you should wake him up at 330am and have him sit in it for 30 minutes every night for a week... perfectly good becomes dreadful so fast at 3am.
@aefsparrow 🤣🤣 I just mentioned it to him again, inspired by this conversation. He was bewildered. Apparently he doesn’t remember any of the prior conversations. “I had no idea it wasn’t comfortable for you!” So we’re going to look into some options. 😜
Ugh, the MFM office will not make an exception for my IPs, not even one of them, to be present for the anatomy scan. I'm so bummed for them. I can still FaceTime them but it's so dumb that most, if not all, of their ultrasounds will be via FaceTime. I'm thankful that they have a child already and have gotten to experience all of that, but I wish they could be there.
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
@themoonandme Bummer!!! 😞 I guess from a totally pragmatic way of thinking, if they’re not letting a second person from the same household at the appointment, they wouldn’t want to let someone from a separate household... but it’s such a different situation so I was hopeful for you!
@baseballismyfavoriteseason yeah, I definitely understand them not wanting additional people there, it just sucks. I was so hopeful because the people I spoke with sounded so sympathetic to the situation, but I'm sure they didn't get to make the end decision.
@kboydbowman This was me too. And this is baby #4 for us which was a surprise/shock enough. I have 2 boys and a girl and I knew if we were having a third boy, I would need time to grieve not having another girl. I’m thrilled we are having a girl, 2 of each, but mostly because i love my daughter so much and I really want her to have a sister.
@aefsparrow@kboydbowman@ccstlln1OMG that was easy! He gave me the go-ahead to order a glider, I think in large part due to the Target deal I posted about it the registry thread! 😂
@baseballismyfavoriteseason score! Life lesson - don't assume the discussion is done and over if it's been awhile since you revisited it.
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
@baseballismyfavoriteseason haha so glad you were able to get one!!! I think the wooden rocker will go in the basement bedroom for a while. I just picked up the one I bought. But DH thinks my classroom associate found it online for me thinking I didn’t have one but I had to be the one to pick it up. 😂 She even gave me the $20 for it! So it’s our little secret 😉 DH didn’t even bat an eye, it was hilarious. It matches our nursery perfectly and it will even match our classic Winnie the Pooh decor I have in my registry 💕
Any suggestions for cleaning the cushions? They’re in great shape but have some stains and it just feels a little grimy!
Yay @mamahosch and @baseballismyfavoriteseason for the new rockers! All this rocker talk makes me want to shop for my new one, but I was wanting to wait until I could go sit in all the displays at buy buy baby! I think our store reopened this week, but I don't feel safe doing that kind of shopping yet. Maybe in another month or two.
I have a Poang from IKEA that was great for rocking and looked nice but terrible for nursing. I need to replace it for this go around. @mamahosch do you have a carpet shampooer? Mine has an upholstery attachment that’s good for that kind of cleaning. You can rent a rug doctor with attachments.
I had a DAY today. Somehow the lab got an authorization for my anatomy scan today from insurance I haven’t had in months, and when I showed up they told me to reschedule for next week while they got the correct authorization. I was able to call and request it myself though so I got to have it and everything looked good.
Then after we got home, my 3yo got a huge gash in his head. Had to take him to urgent care, who sent me to the ER because they didn’t think it could be glued... and then the ER doctor said they were wrong and ended up just glueing it 🤦♀️ I asked my 3yo what treat he wanted for being so brave, expecting ice cream or candy and his choice was a big salad with bacon and cucumbers 😅
@themoonandme got my Fix today...your name isn't Marcela, is it? Lol.
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
@babyodo totally register for a high chair. We did with DS and unfortunately don't love the one we have (joovy) it's apain to clean. I was eyeing the Tripp trapp but hesitated bc of the price tag, but we may still end up with it at some point. And thats so hard about your MIL. In-laws are so tricky! If they really want to girly up the stroller- the 7am enfant sleeping bag type things are amazing and attach to the stroller and you can pick the print you like!
@jgrodo thanks! I wound up putting the Graco Blossom 6-in-1 on our registry. I also added some infant/toddler feeding stuff (silicone suction plate, rubberized spoons, spill-proof snack bowl, fruit feeder pacifier), to our registry as well.
And yes, my MIL is still getting under my skin. I think this quarantine is giving her nothing better to do than obsess over her first grandchild. She actually facetimed MH the other night to tell him that she found the perfect spot in her yard for her and LO to have tea parties, and she started getting choked up as she described it to him. I know she has the best intentions, but it's getting to the point where I'm concerned that she has WAY different expectations about this child than we do. She and FIL live an 11-hour drive (without traffic) away, it's not like they live just around the corner. As it is, we visit them once, maybe twice per year, and they come to visit us once per year, but she's acting like we'll be shipping her off to spend every school vacation and summers with them, etc. No. Just no.
And I don't know how to bring that up to MH without seeming like I'm trying to cut his parents out, but this is our first child. Let's figure this whole parenting thing out first before we start making all these big plans for her to spend significant amounts of time away from us four states away, okay?
@themoonandme it was a great fix, but I'm cancelling them from this point forward until after the baby is born. I'm just too big already and I don't want to pay that much for maternity clothes when a) I have plenty, and b) I will only be able to use them for a few months.
Current pregnancy - First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Four prior losses, no living children - 1 first trimester miscarriage, 1 blighted ovum, 1 chemical, and one extreme premature live birth daughter who died at 15 days old.
Re: May Randoms
Also our birth center has us pre-register at 18-20 weeks, so I'm working on getting that filled out currently now that I'm 18 weeks! It's starting to seriously feel real...
The MFM office is discussing it in their staff meeting this afternoon so hopefully I'll have an answer later today or tomorrow. Please please keep your fingers crossed that they'll make an exception!
Even comparing Canada to US in terms of maternity leave, laws, benefits, health insurance, stores(no Target here!), car seat regulations... So many different things!
Sometimes a Canadian article pops up but the following one is something in line of "the most common baby names by state".
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
Married 6/15/13
BFP #1 5/8/16, EDD 12/31/16- DD born 9/10/16 at 24 weeks
~In our hearts forever~
BFP #2 10/14/17, EDD 7/1/18
Due with baby #2: Feb 2022
Due with baby #2: Feb 2022
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
@kboydbowman 🤞
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
@mamahosch I am needing new cushions/covers as well! I’m thinking I’m going to attempt to buy fabric and make covers.
@Kurtni sorry for the extra trip, but great news it could be glued!
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.
@Kurtni aww what a rough day! Glad you were able to get the scan at least and glue no stitches! Wow a salad that sounds like a huge win!
And yes, my MIL is still getting under my skin. I think this quarantine is giving her nothing better to do than obsess over her first grandchild. She actually facetimed MH the other night to tell him that she found the perfect spot in her yard for her and LO to have tea parties, and she started getting choked up as she described it to him. I know she has the best intentions, but it's getting to the point where I'm concerned that she has WAY different expectations about this child than we do. She and FIL live an 11-hour drive (without traffic) away, it's not like they live just around the corner. As it is, we visit them once, maybe twice per year, and they come to visit us once per year, but she's acting like we'll be shipping her off to spend every school vacation and summers with them, etc. No. Just no.
And I don't know how to bring that up to MH without seeming like I'm trying to cut his parents out, but this is our first child. Let's figure this whole parenting thing out first before we start making all these big plans for her to spend significant amounts of time away from us four states away, okay?
Due with baby #2: Feb 2022
First BFP on 1/4/22. Due date 9/13/22.