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Re: *READ FIRST* Board Organization
Also, this is just food for thought but I feel like there are SOOOOO many check ins and it's excessive. Do we really need that many check ins if we have weekly check ins plus a few that really do warrant extra talk (like PGAL) in addition to randoms and symptoms threads? At that point, it seems like you're going to be reading the same thing over and over again and it'll make it harder for folks to keep up.
ETA- that reads harshly.... but it's NBD when it's all said and done. I'll participate where I feel like I have new info to add. Just wanted to put it out there that it seemed that we could condense quite a bit here.
Keep:
- PGAL Check-In
- Due Date Week Groups
- Symptoms Thread
- AMA Check-In
- High Risk
- Moms of Multiples
- Appointments Thread- though, personally, I still think it's excessive and could be discussed during weekly check ins, I'm fairly certain I'm in the minority here.
Get rid of:- plus size mom check in: I would leave that up to whatever the majority of the people want. I don’t personally qualify but I know I’ve seen it on a lot of other boards.
-TTGP check in: sorry, no, this isn’t one I would say we can get rid of (unless there’s like no one from TTGP besides me and @coffeeandcookies84 on here). I assume the grad board you’re talking about is the TTGP grad monthly check in thread for any graduates of TTGP, regardless of BMB. This would provide a space from anyone who formed relationships over in TTGP to keep interacting throughout their July pregnancies
- FTM/STM check in- I see what you mean about the FTM thread. I know I’ve seen on other BMBs some sort of “ask a STM anything” that FTMs ask questions. Or I might just be thinking of the “questions” thread? I think STM+ thread would be good for ladies to discuss how they’re going to handle the transition from 1 to 2, 2 to 3 etc but that’s just my opinion.
-single moms- I agree with your opinion. As more people join the board we can just see it that would apply to anyone. I can see it being really helpful to have
-milestone - I agree. I think the main appt thread is fine.
- PAIF- I think this is good to keep. Some people who went through infertility / treatments may struggle with participating in the weekly check in threads with those with surprise pregnancies or those who had easy conceptions. I know I’m not 100% sure at this point if I’ll participate in the weekly check ins for that reason. Not sure how others feel though.
Edited for clarification
Just wanted to add my two cents...
I agree with all the KEEP threads @blaf322, and would maybe add a monthly or overall Questions thread.
I do feel like there could be some check-ins that could be condensed, but I also think we need a month or so to feel it out, and determine with ones are quite active, and which ones we can eliminate.
For example - if we from the get go eliminate the TTGP check in, but then we end up having a bunch of ladies join us from TTGP, they'll feel left out. (I only participated in this group for 1 month, but I know how much these ladies have grown to love each other and would like to stay close)
Also - might be a good idea to have a FTM ask STM+ Question board. Although there might also be some STM+ specific questions that would only pertain to them (ie: what are you doing to get toddler ready for baby, etc)
Hope that makes sense! I really only hope for a board that is organized and provides support and builds relationships. I've lurked the BMBs enough over the years, and can see how some months get totally out of control
I will say I’m not sure how much we need a “weekend randoms” thread vs just the normal weekly randoms but that’s about the only opinion I have on the other threads.
Just giving my two cents? Honestly we have/had a lot of the same threads. Sometimes it's nice to refer back to these to get some conversations going at first. I know for me especially it was nice to connect with some of the girls on the boards if the usual threads didn't have us crossing paths. We all have our journeys and some of these threads really help connect some of us going through similar things. We started with a lot of those threads and as we noticed some that weren't getting much traction we just stopped creating those threads in the future.
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Hormones have taken away all my tact so I'm putting too much energy into trying to not come off as a total B so that might be best for all!
I only start the threads that apply to me that I want to participate in if someone hasn't already started one for the week. For example, I don't start the FTM thread, but if there is a FTM who wants to start it and use it, then great. Some weeks, we miss threads all together. The way I operate is if you don't see it for the week and you have something applicable you want to talk about, then go right ahead and start it. That way, if no one is interested in a Plus Size thread, then one just doesn't get started.
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020