I’m get UTIs frequent enough and they’re just AWFUL for those who have never had one . It’s not something that just goes away it goes into my kidneys if I don’t treat it . I have another one and my doctor put me on keflex antibiotic which he said is safe during pregnancy ( category . I’m still afraid it may cause problems with the baby. Anyone have a UTI while pregnant? What did you do ? Was the baby ok?
@jennygirl5899 I also get UTIs pretty frequently and they suck. You’re more prone during pregnancy and they absolutely need to be treated. If your doctor says it’s safe then you should trust them and take it. You already have a history of it migrating to your kidneys which can be bad news while pregnant. Any type of backup or infection left untreated can result in a need for stints to drain the kidney. I would rather take a low risk antibiotic than be put under anesthesia while pregnant.
I’m get UTIs frequent enough and they’re just AWFUL for those who have never had one . It’s not something that just goes away it goes into my kidneys if I don’t treat it . I have another one and my doctor put me on keflex antibiotic which he said is safe during pregnancy ( category . I’m still afraid it may cause problems with the baby. Anyone have a UTI while pregnant? What did you do ? Was the baby ok?
I had UTIs during pregnancy, took the meds and all is fine.
Please TRUST your doctor.
The risks of NOT medicating the UTI to fight it is far greater than the risks of taking the antibiotics.
The only UTI’s I have ever gotten were during pregnancy. It is really bad for a pregnancy (and your body) to not treat a UTI. And while the meds for one are pretty safe, they are definitely worth any risk they may have.
I’m get UTIs frequent enough and they’re just AWFUL for those who have never had one . It’s not something that just goes away it goes into my kidneys if I don’t treat it . I have another one and my doctor put me on keflex antibiotic which he said is safe during pregnancy ( category . I’m still afraid it may cause problems with the baby. Anyone have a UTI while pregnant? What did you do ? Was the baby ok?
So you couldn’t wait to see your doctor in 2 weeks because lack of symptoms. Now you get to see the doctor and you don’t trust their medical advice?! Listen to your doctor, there are so many antibiotic options out there, they wouldn’t prescribe one that wasn’t safe for pregnancy.
FWIW, I had bronchitis early on last pregnancy and my doctor had trouble finding a safe antibiotic for me because I’m allergic to Keflex. Thus, I assume that Keflex is the obvious choice in these situations.
But, I’m not sure you will be back to read this, so I’m really just leaving it here for posterity.
@dpchickens ouch, I don't know about hoping or wishing that on anyone because that's no way to teach anyone a lesson, troll or not. But you're right, this chick needs to calm her tits before she gives herself an ulcer.
kiki047 Eh, I'm a terribly bitter person. I've survived 5 of them, pretty sure OP would survive her one, especially with 2 kids at home to console herself with... Wish the universe was a bit more fair. I'd love to have been able to say I just had 4 with a beautiful baby arriving next month, instead of 5 with no living children in sight. So as terrible as it may make me, I'm OK with spreading it out a bit instead of having the majority of the burden on a very small few...
@dpchickens I'm sorry for your pain. I really am. and I'm not defending OP because I also have my concerns about idiots populating our planet. There have been a few drive-bys in the past that deserve it. I dunno about this one.
TTC History:
Me: 36 MH: 39, TTC since Dec 2017
Aug '18: PCOS dx
Nov '18: MH SA - 19mil
Dec '18-Mar '19: Letrozole + TI - all BFN
Apr '19: Letrozole + TI, - BFN. Repeat SA (27mil) & DNA fragmentation test (17%)
kiki047 Understood. I personally have issues with people freaking out about MC when they are in one of the lowest risk categories for it. It REALLY rubs me the wrong way. Especially because it's apparently OK in society to just go around "freaking out" about how 'scared' you are to MC. Like it's the end of the world. And it IS terrible. I know. RPL is freaking awful, especially unexplained RPL. But it's just NOT ok to EVER go around freaking out about it, especially not to anyone who has suffered from it. To me, it'd be like freaking out about how scared you are of getting cancer. IF you have risk factors for it or a lot of your family has had it, etc, then I totally get it and it is well within your rights to mention your worries about possibly getting cancer. BUT if it doesn't run in your family and you have no risk factors or reason to expect you'll ever end up with cancer, it is NOT ok to go around freaking out and telling people how you think you're going to get cancer, and especially NOT OK to go up to cancer survivors or those currently living with cancer and tell them how you're freaking out that you could get cancer. It's just NOT. OK. EVER. But for some reason, this is an OK thing to do in our society when you're trying to have a child... and it's really not. It is NOT ok for someone to freak out about something they have a very low chance of having happen to them, as though it's the worst thing in the world, when I am currently living through it. It's as though my life is incomprehensible to them and my pain feels trivialized. I really wish I could freaking explain this way better than I just did... but it really REALLY irks me and I wish it would change. It's the reason I don't use many TWs and I don't hide my feelings or my experiences. It's my LIFE and it's hard to feel shoved in the corner beneath a blanket while everyone else freaks out over 'possibly' ever having even a small percent of what you've felt...
@dpchickens nah, I hear you girl. I partly blame society in general for ingraining that fear in everyone that MC is this crazy thing that only happens to people who announce before the end of 1st tri, and anything they say and do wrong in that time is going to cause it. The fear is real. And from what I've learned about you over my many, many months of being here, the pain is real too. I don't think anyone here is trying to minimize or trivialize your pain. I've never had a MC, or any BFP for that matter, so I don't know what that feels like. But I do know that when my uncle had a massive heart attack a few years ago (and has since never come out of his coma) it took a long time before the phrase "OMG, you just gave me a heart attack" stopped feeling like a personal attack.
Unfortunately, even with all the education in the world, this is just going to keep being a thing. I hate the idea of "normalizing" MC because I hate that it happens at all, but in changing the culture of pregnancy and the way we, as women, talk about it and support each other through the highs and lows of pregnancy (and thereafter), I hope someday this won't have to be so much of a "thing", y'know?
TTC History:
Me: 36 MH: 39, TTC since Dec 2017
Aug '18: PCOS dx
Nov '18: MH SA - 19mil
Dec '18-Mar '19: Letrozole + TI - all BFN
Apr '19: Letrozole + TI, - BFN. Repeat SA (27mil) & DNA fragmentation test (17%)
kiki047 Sorry about your uncle. That's terrible! I think these phrases just sort of became common vernacular and are now things people say without really thinking about them.
I'm super glad more people are talking about MC, and I'm a huge advocate for that. But like you said, I also fear it's becoming too 'normalized' sometimes as well. I wish the message would be more like "This happens and sometimes it's for these (X, Y, Z) reasons and sometimes it's unexplained." and would lay off of the "she went running 5 miles in early PG" or "she was too stressed at her job" as reasons for MC. Just like I wish they'd stop having shows where people DTD one or a precious few times and end up SURPRISE PG and never have any complications... or if they do it's later in PG and it's because "she was trying to exercise too much" or some baloney.
@dpchickens You know I love you, but I can't get behind saying you'd like to spread your 5 losses out onto someone else, regardless of who they are. I've *only* had 2 losses, and I am completely, genuinely terrified of another one right now. Telling myself that my pain is less than other people's pain because I have a LC and I haven't had as many losses as others have doesn't make that anxiety go away. I simply can't get behind ANYONE wishing a MC on ANYONE, regardless of the experiences on either end. I wouldn't wish that pain and experience on my worst enemy. This person is likely just a troll, but you never know who else might be reading this and struggling with similar invasive thoughts. This isn't the first time I've seen you (or your friend Jennifer) insinuate wishing a MC on someone here, so I felt like I needed to speak up. I trust that you can respect that. Again, I'm so very sorry for everything you have had to endure, and I hope that somehow, someday, you come out the other side of this.
**TW**
Me: 35 | H: 40 Married Sept. 2013 DS1: Nov 11, 2016 MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d) CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d) BFP! 8/24/19 DS2: May 10, 2020
shamrocandroll No hard feelings, I totally can respect what you're saying. I personally just wish life were more 'fair' and that awful things didn't have to happen to anyone. But I really do feel like I got the short end of the stick by a LONG shot here. The 5 MCs, all the testing, no results, being denied clomid because of a few pounds, no help from society for IVF or adoption... basically being told to just 'try again' with doctor's throwing out these MC percentage rates as if they're not talking about my children. All the while knowing if I get PG again I feel in my heart that I'd need a MIRACLE to not have another MC. It's a lot. I know it's an UO (and it's not even THURSDAY!?)... but personally, unless someone has been through IF or other serious reproductive issues, I wish they would have a MC for their first PG... because A ) in my little 'perfect world' the number of MCs would stay the same and there wouldn't have to be as heavy a burden by such a smaller number of us and B ) most everyone would then know how to talk when TTC and the 'inadvertent' hateful statements wouldn't be as much of a thing...
That's how I feel. And I'm VERY well aware that makes me an unpopular/hatred type of person. I'm working on that. But it's not going to come overnight. I've got a very bitter pill I'm still trying to swallow and I can't help how I feel. Being on the very short end of statistics, abandoned by society, and walking away empty handed from your dreams does not a pleasant dpchicken make...
I mean, ideally if people who wanted and were able to take care of kids were the ones to have them, and unintentional 'oops' PGs and whatnot would never happen, and IF/MC never existed... the world would probably be a lot beetter off.
@dpchickens I honestly had to sleep on this because I needed to calm down before I addressed you. I cried on my way out to my car yesterday because of your last post. That is the first time I've ever shed tears in a sad way as a result of something someone said to me on here. I thought about just not saying anything and just moving on with my life, but I want you to hear why what you said (in bold) affected me so much, so that maybe next time you might think twice before you say something like that to someone.
shamrocandroll No hard feelings, I totally can respect what you're saying. I personally just wish life were more 'fair' and that awful things didn't have to happen to anyone. But I really do feel like I got the short end of the stick by a LONG shot here. The 5 MCs, all the testing, no results, being denied clomid because of a few pounds, no help from society for IVF or adoption... basically being told to just 'try again' with doctor's throwing out these MC percentage rates as if they're not talking about my children. All the while knowing if I get PG again I feel in my heart that I'd need a MIRACLE to not have another MC. It's a lot. I know it's an UO (and it's not even THURSDAY!?)... but personally, unless someone has been through IF or other serious reproductive issues, I wish they would have a MC for their first PG... because A ) in my little 'perfect world' the number of MCs would stay the same and there wouldn't have to be as heavy a burden by such a smaller number of us and B ) most everyone would then know how to talk when TTC and the 'inadvertent' hateful statements wouldn't be as much of a thing...
That's how I feel. And I'm VERY well aware that makes me an unpopular/hatred type of person. I'm working on that. But it's not going to come overnight. I've got a very bitter pill I'm still trying to swallow and I can't help how I feel. Being on the very short end of statistics, abandoned by society, and walking away empty handed from your dreams does not a pleasant dpchicken make...
I mean, ideally if people who wanted and were able to take care of kids were the ones to have them, and unintentional 'oops' PGs and whatnot would never happen, and IF/MC never existed... the world would probably be a lot beetter off.
That statement right there? If that statement were true, then my son would not be alive. He is my entire universe, and I simply can't fathom someone even just insinuating that he shouldn't be here. I realize that I'm lucky that I have him when others struggling with IF and/or MCs don't have a LC, but that does NOT minimize the pain of my losses. The very thought of me not having him here today because someone thinks I didn't deserve to keep my first baby because I hadn't yet struggled with IF and MCs brought me to tears yesterday. I am not telling you this to make you feel like a horrible person, but I am telling you this in hopes that it helps you think about how much your words can affect a person you've never even met. I hope it makes you think twice next time, before you post something insinuating that people should have to struggle in order to deserve having a living child. That goes way beyond just being snarky to a Peggy. I'm a firm believer in putting out positive energy in order to receive positive energy, and I hope you can somehow find a way to focus your energy more positively in the future. I wish you all the best.
**TW**
Me: 35 | H: 40 Married Sept. 2013 DS1: Nov 11, 2016 MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d) CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d) BFP! 8/24/19 DS2: May 10, 2020
shamrocandroll I'm sorry that you were so negatively affected and upset yesterday by what I said. It was not meant to be a personal attack at all, and I did not mean to cause you personal harm.
I was not trying to personalize or target what I said with my 'fake world view wish' towards you specifically. I realize that your son is probably your entire world, but I have no basis for what that's like. At all. I live in a very marginalized area of pain that the majority of people cannot even begin to fathom, and the resources available to me are extremely limited. That coupled with a society that just does not care about my babies, and demotes me as a person because of my lacking mother title, makes me extremely bitter. People's words, and the way they revere children, cause me serious pain on a daily basis. I also apparently have a differing opinion on the sanctity (or lack thereof) of life than most people nowadays it seems. I've been extremely open in these forums, and felt like I could voice how I felt no matter what I felt, but apparently that does not seem to be the case here. So I will not press the issue.
I also did try the positive energy thing. After my first 2-3 losses I was all "we're going to get help and figure it out" and "be kind to some peggies and people because you don't know what TTC troubles they've had" and it all got me nowhere but walking away with empty arms and a shitload of physical and emotional issues.
I am however, sincerely and very deeply sorry that my words caused you so much pain. Truly.
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Re: I’m 8 weeks pregnant and I have a UTI
Please TRUST your doctor.
The risks of NOT medicating the UTI to fight it is far greater than the risks of taking the antibiotics.
- BFP: 3/10/16 — Baby Girl born 11/20/16
TTC#2 April 2019But, I’m not sure you will be back to read this, so I’m really just leaving it here for posterity.
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Me 34 DH 34
PCOS
Baby number 2 due 4/11/20
*Formerly LuND*
Me: 35 | DH: 37
TTC: 7/2016
Low AMH, mild MFI
BFP 7/29/17
EDD: 4/5/18
DS born 4/4/18
BFP #2 7/2/19
EDD 3/13/20
ETA wonder what week 9 will bring.
OP, I believe this is what you're looking for:
https://lmgtfy.com/?q=anxiety+about+all+the+things+during+pregnancy
TTC History:
Me: 36 MH: 39, TTC since Dec 2017
Aug '18: PCOS dx
Nov '18: MH SA - 19mil
Dec '18-Mar '19: Letrozole + TI - all BFN
Apr '19: Letrozole + TI, - BFN. Repeat SA (27mil) & DNA fragmentation test (17%)
Aug '19: Letrozole + HCG trigger + IUI + prog supp - BFN (MH: 16mil)
Sep '19: 2nd IUI, same protocol - BFN (MH: 16mil)
Dec '19: IVF #1 w/ICSI, PGT. 5 retrieved, 4 fertilized, 3 blasts, 3 PGT-A normal.
Mar '20: FET #1, perfect 5AA blast transferred. BFN.
Sept '20: FET #2, 5BB tsf. 9/18/20 BFP!! EDD: 5/27/21. MMC 11w
Feb ‘21: FET #3, last 6BB blast transferred. BFP, EDD 11/2/21. MC 5w3d.
May '21: IVF #2 w/ICSI, PGT. 8R, 7M, 6F, 6 blasts - 3AB, 3AB, 3BB, 4BB, 5BB, 6BA. Fresh tsf 5/13/21 - BFN.
June '21: PGT-A results = 3 abnormal, 1 low level mosaic. Referred to new REI, had consult with 2nd RE in between.
Sept '21: RPL, immune testing normal
Oct '21: IVF #3 w/IMSI, PGT. 33R, 26M, 23F, 9 blasts (7 day 6, 2 day 7). PGT-A = 5 normal, 1 mosaic
Dec '21: Positive for endometritis, RX Flagyl & Keflex
Jan '22: FET #5 - Kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol incl. PRP, intralipids, prednisone, medrol, nivestym, fragmin - CP
Feb '22: FET #6 - Kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol w/higher doses of pred & fragmin - BFN
Mar '22: Mock cycle for ERA - cancelled, repeat endometrial biopsy instead. Still positive for endometritis. RX ciprofloxacin & amoxicillin.
Apr '22: IVF #4 w/IMSI, PGT. 28R, 23M, 16F, 11 blasts. PGT-A = 6 normal.
June '22: FET #7 - Microdose lupron downreg w/kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol - double embryo transfer. BFN.
July '22: FET #8 - Mini stim w/Puregon + trigger, kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol. BFN.
Sep '22: Taking a break
Dec '22: Attempted abdominal myomectomy, fibroid too close to cervix and major blood vessels. Wasn't removed.
Feb '23: FET #9 - Modified natural w/baby asp, HCG trigger, PIO, PRP, Medrol, HCG wash, embryo glue - BFP!! EDD 11/11/23
TTC History:
Me: 36 MH: 39, TTC since Dec 2017
Aug '18: PCOS dx
Nov '18: MH SA - 19mil
Dec '18-Mar '19: Letrozole + TI - all BFN
Apr '19: Letrozole + TI, - BFN. Repeat SA (27mil) & DNA fragmentation test (17%)
Aug '19: Letrozole + HCG trigger + IUI + prog supp - BFN (MH: 16mil)
Sep '19: 2nd IUI, same protocol - BFN (MH: 16mil)
Dec '19: IVF #1 w/ICSI, PGT. 5 retrieved, 4 fertilized, 3 blasts, 3 PGT-A normal.
Mar '20: FET #1, perfect 5AA blast transferred. BFN.
Sept '20: FET #2, 5BB tsf. 9/18/20 BFP!! EDD: 5/27/21. MMC 11w
Feb ‘21: FET #3, last 6BB blast transferred. BFP, EDD 11/2/21. MC 5w3d.
May '21: IVF #2 w/ICSI, PGT. 8R, 7M, 6F, 6 blasts - 3AB, 3AB, 3BB, 4BB, 5BB, 6BA. Fresh tsf 5/13/21 - BFN.
June '21: PGT-A results = 3 abnormal, 1 low level mosaic. Referred to new REI, had consult with 2nd RE in between.
Sept '21: RPL, immune testing normal
Oct '21: IVF #3 w/IMSI, PGT. 33R, 26M, 23F, 9 blasts (7 day 6, 2 day 7). PGT-A = 5 normal, 1 mosaic
Dec '21: Positive for endometritis, RX Flagyl & Keflex
Jan '22: FET #5 - Kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol incl. PRP, intralipids, prednisone, medrol, nivestym, fragmin - CP
Feb '22: FET #6 - Kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol w/higher doses of pred & fragmin - BFN
Mar '22: Mock cycle for ERA - cancelled, repeat endometrial biopsy instead. Still positive for endometritis. RX ciprofloxacin & amoxicillin.
Apr '22: IVF #4 w/IMSI, PGT. 28R, 23M, 16F, 11 blasts. PGT-A = 6 normal.
June '22: FET #7 - Microdose lupron downreg w/kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol - double embryo transfer. BFN.
July '22: FET #8 - Mini stim w/Puregon + trigger, kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol. BFN.
Sep '22: Taking a break
Dec '22: Attempted abdominal myomectomy, fibroid too close to cervix and major blood vessels. Wasn't removed.
Feb '23: FET #9 - Modified natural w/baby asp, HCG trigger, PIO, PRP, Medrol, HCG wash, embryo glue - BFP!! EDD 11/11/23
Sorry for the abysmally shyte explanation...
Unfortunately, even with all the education in the world, this is just going to keep being a thing. I hate the idea of "normalizing" MC because I hate that it happens at all, but in changing the culture of pregnancy and the way we, as women, talk about it and support each other through the highs and lows of pregnancy (and thereafter), I hope someday this won't have to be so much of a "thing", y'know?
TTC History:
Me: 36 MH: 39, TTC since Dec 2017
Aug '18: PCOS dx
Nov '18: MH SA - 19mil
Dec '18-Mar '19: Letrozole + TI - all BFN
Apr '19: Letrozole + TI, - BFN. Repeat SA (27mil) & DNA fragmentation test (17%)
Aug '19: Letrozole + HCG trigger + IUI + prog supp - BFN (MH: 16mil)
Sep '19: 2nd IUI, same protocol - BFN (MH: 16mil)
Dec '19: IVF #1 w/ICSI, PGT. 5 retrieved, 4 fertilized, 3 blasts, 3 PGT-A normal.
Mar '20: FET #1, perfect 5AA blast transferred. BFN.
Sept '20: FET #2, 5BB tsf. 9/18/20 BFP!! EDD: 5/27/21. MMC 11w
Feb ‘21: FET #3, last 6BB blast transferred. BFP, EDD 11/2/21. MC 5w3d.
May '21: IVF #2 w/ICSI, PGT. 8R, 7M, 6F, 6 blasts - 3AB, 3AB, 3BB, 4BB, 5BB, 6BA. Fresh tsf 5/13/21 - BFN.
June '21: PGT-A results = 3 abnormal, 1 low level mosaic. Referred to new REI, had consult with 2nd RE in between.
Sept '21: RPL, immune testing normal
Oct '21: IVF #3 w/IMSI, PGT. 33R, 26M, 23F, 9 blasts (7 day 6, 2 day 7). PGT-A = 5 normal, 1 mosaic
Dec '21: Positive for endometritis, RX Flagyl & Keflex
Jan '22: FET #5 - Kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol incl. PRP, intralipids, prednisone, medrol, nivestym, fragmin - CP
Feb '22: FET #6 - Kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol w/higher doses of pred & fragmin - BFN
Mar '22: Mock cycle for ERA - cancelled, repeat endometrial biopsy instead. Still positive for endometritis. RX ciprofloxacin & amoxicillin.
Apr '22: IVF #4 w/IMSI, PGT. 28R, 23M, 16F, 11 blasts. PGT-A = 6 normal.
June '22: FET #7 - Microdose lupron downreg w/kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol - double embryo transfer. BFN.
July '22: FET #8 - Mini stim w/Puregon + trigger, kitchen sink immune/RIF protocol. BFN.
Sep '22: Taking a break
Dec '22: Attempted abdominal myomectomy, fibroid too close to cervix and major blood vessels. Wasn't removed.
Feb '23: FET #9 - Modified natural w/baby asp, HCG trigger, PIO, PRP, Medrol, HCG wash, embryo glue - BFP!! EDD 11/11/23
I'm super glad more people are talking about MC, and I'm a huge advocate for that. But like you said, I also fear it's becoming too 'normalized' sometimes as well. I wish the message would be more like "This happens and sometimes it's for these (X, Y, Z) reasons and sometimes it's unexplained." and would lay off of the "she went running 5 miles in early PG" or "she was too stressed at her job" as reasons for MC. Just like I wish they'd stop having shows where people DTD one or a precious few times and end up SURPRISE PG and never have any complications... or if they do it's later in PG and it's because "she was trying to exercise too much" or some baloney.
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
That's how I feel. And I'm VERY well aware that makes me an unpopular/hatred type of person. I'm working on that. But it's not going to come overnight. I've got a very bitter pill I'm still trying to swallow and I can't help how I feel. Being on the very short end of statistics, abandoned by society, and walking away empty handed from your dreams does not a pleasant dpchicken make...
I mean, ideally if people who wanted and were able to take care of kids were the ones to have them, and unintentional 'oops' PGs and whatnot would never happen, and IF/MC never existed... the world would probably be a lot beetter off.
That statement right there? If that statement were true, then my son would not be alive. He is my entire universe, and I simply can't fathom someone even just insinuating that he shouldn't be here. I realize that I'm lucky that I have him when others struggling with IF and/or MCs don't have a LC, but that does NOT minimize the pain of my losses. The very thought of me not having him here today because someone thinks I didn't deserve to keep my first baby because I hadn't yet struggled with IF and MCs brought me to tears yesterday. I am not telling you this to make you feel like a horrible person, but I am telling you this in hopes that it helps you think about how much your words can affect a person you've never even met. I hope it makes you think twice next time, before you post something insinuating that people should have to struggle in order to deserve having a living child. That goes way beyond just being snarky to a Peggy. I'm a firm believer in putting out positive energy in order to receive positive energy, and I hope you can somehow find a way to focus your energy more positively in the future. I wish you all the best.
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
I was not trying to personalize or target what I said with my 'fake world view wish' towards you specifically. I realize that your son is probably your entire world, but I have no basis for what that's like. At all. I live in a very marginalized area of pain that the majority of people cannot even begin to fathom, and the resources available to me are extremely limited. That coupled with a society that just does not care about my babies, and demotes me as a person because of my lacking mother title, makes me extremely bitter. People's words, and the way they revere children, cause me serious pain on a daily basis. I also apparently have a differing opinion on the sanctity (or lack thereof) of life than most people nowadays it seems. I've been extremely open in these forums, and felt like I could voice how I felt no matter what I felt, but apparently that does not seem to be the case here. So I will not press the issue.
I also did try the positive energy thing. After my first 2-3 losses I was all "we're going to get help and figure it out" and "be kind to some peggies and people because you don't know what TTC troubles they've had" and it all got me nowhere but walking away with empty arms and a shitload of physical and emotional issues.
I am however, sincerely and very deeply sorry that my words caused you so much pain. Truly.
Married Sept. 2013
DS1: Nov 11, 2016
MMC: 11/16/18 (9w6d)
CP: 2/3/19 (5w3d)
BFP! 8/24/19
DS2: May 10, 2020
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